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When my older 4 dc got all 4 teeth removed at once, it took easily 5-7 days.
My next dc opted for only getting either upper or lower done, then going back. Recovery was a day if that. So much easier!-
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Our #6 told me she wanted to learn to play the cello in 2019. So I bought her a cheap, used cello, a book, and told her, "Good luck." No lessons save for YouTube. She let me know when she worked through one book so I could buy her the next one. 2020 hit and she had even more time to dedicate to teaching herself. There were attempts to find an instructor to no avail, month after month. Finally we found a gal who lives 1.5 hours away who has her own album and is involved with the local Pops and CC orchestras. She also plays for the incredible musical productions at the CC (last one was "Hello, Dolly!" starring Toni Tennille). So my dd began taking lessons with this gal which led to......
2nd Chair with the Pops orchestra - youngest participant to ever have that seat
Audition for Phoenix Youth Orchestra - got in and got Principal Chair
Winner of 3 local scholarships/competitions for music
Acceptance into University of AZ music program
I wish she was staying local - the CC created a scholarship for her and we were hoping she'd continue for at least one more year. Oh well.
Oh, and she plays hockey wicked good - totally doesn't let the boys push her around. So her Senior photos will be in front of the goal in her recital dress (gorgeous), with cello in one hand, hockey stick in another, and skates. 🙂
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Breakfast - something high protein. Don't care if it's a hamburger or grilled cheese, just no cereal, bagels, waffles, etc. (unless paired with protein foods). Often we have scrambled eggs with cheese/ham. If we're in a hurry, yogurt with Grape Nuts is always on hand. Also, fruit with breakfast.
Snacks - one morning, one afternoon; must include either fruit or veggie along with "fun"
Lunch - fruit, veggie, main (usually chicken, peanut butter/Nutella, cheese quesadillas)
Dinner - same as lunch, just a main that takes a bit more time (as in a pot of water boiling for spaghetti and a jar of spaghetti sauce)We don't have chips, soda, fried foods, or things like Ramen/Cup-of-Noodles.
We do eat a lot of rice because it's cheap and easy, and we all like it. Lots of milk consumed (sometimes we go through 2 gallons/day).
The big treat is dry cereal as a snack - it's not the best, but I'd rather see that than Oreos and other crunchy comfort foods consumed.
We eat very, very simply. I don't cook beyond boiling water for pasta if I can help it. 😉
Thankfully, no food allergies or other issues to consider; hats off to those who have to factor such things into your shopping/food prep!
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OK, don't laugh, but when I am stressed to the point that I actually need to shop (I do not like spending money), I buy socks and underwear for my dc. A lot of socks and underwear. Or, if it's cold weather, mittens and gloves. A lot of mittens and gloves. I won't buy anything for myself because that makes me feel guilty which then makes me angry and even more stressed. But if I buy stuff for my dc - stuff that is useful and I can justify - that is my stress-shopping.
Ask me how many pairs of socks I've bought in one sitting (I shop eBay or sales on sites like Gap).....oy.-
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Sorry for disappearing - we had travel tournaments and are gearing up for State.
My dd has addressed the situation with the boy himself (no texts - she doesn't even have a phone so I'm not sure how that all went down with the instigator). She kept it casual, he shrugged and said it was fine. But it was awkward and he's a decent kid, so I am still really angry. But mostly I'm angry with their coach. This is a young man whom we hold in the highest of regard - he not just their coach, he is a good friend of the family. I approached him and expressed how I was feeling, and he said that he views it as "kids will be kids." I was very silent and just looked at him, and then informed him (nicely) of how I feel about that idiotic view (I withheld the word 'idiotic'). He's also a dad to 2 very young dds, so he's not yet in the world of raising teen girls.
I'm deeply disappointed in him and that he did nothing.
His view is that stuff like this happens and kids, including ours, need to learn to be assertive and not be afraid to say something. OK...but these are still kids. And our dd had never encountered anything like that before.
I am very much realizing that I am not part of the on-line, connected society and culture these kids are. I grew up with passing notes in class or leaving messages on machines (or hanging up real quick before the guy I liked actually answered the phone). I grew up with gossip and not-funny jokes/pranks, but this messaging thing - the ability to impersonate someone so easily - is shocking to me.
I feel old.
The good thing about this is that it happened in a situation where our entire family is involved and present. So all of the kids have heard our talk about respecting other's privacy, not embarrassing others in a way we think is funny, not gossiping, not lying, etc. And they've heard how very, very easy it is to use social media/technology to do harm to others.-
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3 minutes ago, fraidycat said:
@BakersDozen if this is something the coach was aware of and they didn't put a stop to it, I would be expressing my bitter disappointment to them in that regard. This is absolutely something that the coach should have addressed the moment they became aware of it.
Yeah...it is weighing heavily on me.
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1 minute ago, fraidycat said:
I feel bad for your DD and for the other kid.
You are not wrong, it is not in any way funny.
Is there any way that your DD would feel comfortable enough to reach out to the other boy and let him know that any messages he receives from "her" are really not from her. If not her to him, could you speak to his parent on behalf of both the kids before this goes any further.
I think that this needs to be stopped quickly and is probably something that the coach should know about, too. This is intentional teasing, bordering on bullying toward that poor boy who has an innocent crush on your daughter. The coach needs to put their foot down on all of the ones who are in on the (not a) "joke".
We kicked around the idea for dd to contact a parent, but then realized that perhaps this was a crush he had not voiced to them? And would that make things even more awkward for him? He is our main concern - he's a sweet kid and new to hockey, and he's also not part of the travel team group which is even more unfair as they are the ones doing this.
Dd got the instigator's phone # and contacted him this evening, expressed her concern and wish for this to not just stop but for the other kid to know it was not her. The response was immediate and affirmative that it was only meant as a joke and would stop.
The coach knew. Some of the parents knew. That is really, really bothering me a lot. 😞
Had a talk w/my dc about what is expected as far as behavior when with the hockey team. They also see how fast things spread - it went from one kid to a few to most of the team involved. That is not OK.
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Hive input, please! Found out tonight that a boy on my dd's hockey team found out his best friend likes dd. Boy sent his friend a text message, supposedly from my dd. Dd did not know this was happening until Sunday at a tournament when the boy, along with a few other players, were laughing and she heard her name mentioned a few times. Her response was for them to be careful - she honestly did not know what to do. I only found out because apparently many of the other players and even parents now know what is going on. But the boy who likes my dd doesn't have a clue - he sat in the locker room smiling at my dd tonight and it was...awkward.
Once I found out (by accident) tonight, most of the players/families had gone home. Personally, I'm really ticked because my girls conduct themselves with a lot of maturity and poise, they don't flirt, etc. They have worked hard to be part of a team and they are there for hockey and nothing else. I also despise having "fun" with someone else's feelings. So here are these players snickering and giggling tonight, we don't know what is being said "by my daughter" to this kid, and I am just not OK with this.
I do not like embarrassing others and I fear that is what could happen here.
WWYD?
Dd has reached out to the original "best friend" and asked him and the others to please stop the texts because she doesn't know what is being said "by her" and she is worried about possible humiliation for the other kid.
Am I wrong in not finding any of this in any way funny? Am I making a big deal out of nothing?-
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On 4/11/2023 at 3:05 AM, Scarlett said:
How often is she going over to your dd26 house?
Once/week for a few hours. Dd is sticking to her own boundaries as my mom would literally be there all day if she could.
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The last Episode was the one when my mom read through old letters from me, had an emotional moment, and wanted to talk to me about how to win my love back and all that. She said she'd do anything - whatever it took - to make things work, yet declined when I asked for a third party to be present. And that was that. No such talk happened.
She sees my oldest dd (26) once/week and is pushing the limits there now. Dd requested the visiting time be after naps (which are sacred for both munchkins and mamas right??). My mom was not happy because she wants to go over and visit while the littles are napping and have my dd all to herself. It's not about my dd or helping her or respecting dd's need to rest or just have quiet time; it's all about my mom and what SHE wants. Dd finally had enough of that and drew the line - good girl. The ironic thing is that my mom gets very upset if plans are changed/canceled, and when dd had to reschedule last week (for a very good reason), my mom sent her a message saying that dd needed to pray about the importance of getting together - this after my mom scheduled someone to come to her house and give an estimate at the exact time she would have been at dd's house. My mom wanted to move the visit earlier to accommodate her own schedule, and yet she told dd to pray about this....oy.
Dd also got this message: "I have already prayed and my answer to how important it is is that YOU and your little family are the ONLY reason I am still living in this town."
Dd does not feel exactly thrilled about this. I am not surprised - it's just further confirmation of how my mom feels about me and the other 12 grandchildren (oldest dd is The Darling Grandchild).
So here comes Resurrection Sunday - my most favorite day of the year. Every year for the last 20+ years we head to our "home church" about 1.5 hours away. We make a day of it and it is literally the one and only day all year that I go anywhere besides a co-op class or the hockey rink. I love this day - I love that we have traditions such as ordering way too many boxes of Dunkin' Donuts and trying to hit every local park. We stay until it's dark and it is just...perfect. My mom has been invited previously (she never took us up on it). Last year she was invited but refused to go because my brother, who'd been in town visiting her for about a week, was leaving that Sunday and she didn't want to give up the last 2 hours or so of his visit (he is The Darling Child).
This year my mom sent a message asking if someone could drive her to church and pick her up because she didn't think she'd get a parking spot. It didn't occur to her to leave early or to utilize the service the church offers its senior citizens (or ask one of her many "friends" whom she uses for other things). I told her sorry, we wouldn't be home, and that was that.
Sent her a message on Sunday just saying 'hi' and happy Resurrection Sunday. Silence.
Today...silence. But maybe that's because she was with the one and only reason why she continues to live in this town (it was her visiting time w/my dd).
Feelings of mild guilt creep in from not staying home to shuttle her to/from her church service (which is all of 1.5 miles away - even an Uber or whatever could have been used). And knowing she's seething doesn't sit well with me, either.
But then I think back to last year...there were 9 of the 13 grandkids, me and dh. And she chose to stay home so as to not give up 2 hours with my brother.
I think I mostly feel anger. I don't want to feel anger - it's not healthy. But then the Dunkin' Donuts weren't exactly healthy, either......but those are only once a year.
ETA: Oh gosh, I forgot to put this in - y'all are going to laugh! My mom invited us to go to an Easter concert at her church. It happened on the one day that kids were going 4 different directions, but I told her sure, I can confirm that 2 will attend. Mom gave options of 3 different shows - Th/F evening or Sa afternoon. I chose the latter and she said GREAT, see you then! Friday night (I wasn't home) - she shows up at our door w/3 tickets and says they are for the concert tomorrow. Dh takes them and says thanks...and that's it. Sat. comes and I arranged the afternoon to get 2 kids to the church - it was not convenient, but whatever. So the dc are waiting...and waiting...and waiting for a grandmother who doesn't show up! Being the well adjusted, confident kids they are, they went in and sat through the concert. When dh picked them up he then called to tell me what happened, and I contacted my mom to see if she was OK. Oh, yes, she's fine. She decided to go the night before instead but didn't tell us that when she dropped off the tickets. Then she said that she was actually upset when I chose the afternoon show instead of one of the evening shows because she can find anything and everything to occupy her time and keep herself busy during the day, but she gets lonely in the evening/night. So this wasn't about her spending quality time w/us or wanting to share this experience, it was all.about.her. Dd11 was really ticked off, especially as the concert was "the most BORING and STUPID thing I've ever been to!!!" (She's not one to mince words, obviously.)
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I think a lot of people have gone to FB, which is such a shame.
I saw this happen with pregnancy/parenting boards back in...2011-2014, maybe? Once active boards went quiet, then gone because the younger/newer moms wanted to start FB groups instead. I never got into that as I much prefer chat boards. Now I suggest WTM and the younger/newer folks don't even know what it is. 😞
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6 hours ago, Hannah said:
This was the same for us. I joined the old boards around 2004, shortly after the first edition of WTM was published. Our homeschool journey would have been so much poorer without the book and the recommendations and advise on the education boards.
High school we needed to follow a more standardised approach with exams written through a recognised exam board to get into university.
I think I joined the board around that time or just before...my #4 was still a wee one and he's almost 23 now. I cannot imagine getting through the last 2 decades w/o WTM/the Hive.
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Have you been to the Acoma Sky City? I don't know how many times I drove past (I grew up in Los Alamos, NM and then lived in Flagstaff/Prescott) before finally taking the time to take the tour, and it was amazing!
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Ugh, that would be hard because I could NOT spend it. I just couldn't. It would go into a separate savings account for a new vehicle or something. 10K on something "fun" is beyond my comprehension (or budget, lol!). If I absolutely had to spend some just to be in compliance with the person's wishes, I would save 8K or so and use the rest for a small vacation - something low-key.
10K...I was born into/married into the wrong family! lol-
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I'm choosing one author each month so just finished up a marvelous read through Jane Austen's books (again). Those get better every time.
March is Tony Hillerman. Given that I have lived in the very locations where many of the novels take place these last 40 years, I find them super enjoyable.-
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12 minutes ago, Mona said:
@BakersDozenI found the textbook and a homeschool review on Amazon by ISBN. I also can see inside the text. Here’s a link.
To look inside text on RR https://www.rainbowresource.com/product.jhtm?id=1144376
One review of curriculum on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Principles-Food-Science-Janet-Ward/dp/1619604361/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1FJZMVNZUYCDJ&keywords=9781619604360&qid=1677698811&sprefix=%2Caps%2C118&sr=8-1&ufe=app_do%3Aamzn1.fos.304cacc1-b508-45fb-a37f-a2c47c48c32f#customerReviews
Oh my...OK, I need to NOT be looking at/for books so late at night. Oy...I feel...stupid.
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Thanks, everyone! The price on RR is nothing even close to what I would pay, but I can't find reviews or even the option to "Look Inside" to preview the text. I'll check out the suggestions you all provided, though - you are amazing (as always)!
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40 minutes ago, Miss Tick said:
Soon, though, as everything shifts to the subscription model and nobody owns a physical item any more that won't be an option, will it.
I am trying to have hard copies of everything because of the subscription thing. A beloved art program that cost me $50 or so for the hard copy is now offered for the low, low price of 2K for a "school" subscription. sigh
10 minutes ago, Sebastian (a lady) said:Is this the curriculum you're asking about?
Yes, although I would never pay that price! There are older editions for cheap on Amazon, but I was hoping to find more reviews beyond what I see on Amazon. 🙂
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The Search feature is not showing any results when I put this in, so I am hopeful that someone here has experience with this program! I have a very science/math-minded kiddo who could use a solid course on Food/Nutrition. We've covered A&P (body systems, etc.) so don't really want to get into too much of that again, which knocks out most Health books/programs. I'm eyeing this on RR but have found very few reviews for it.
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Reading this brings back too many memories...it is a rollercoaster and not a fun ride at all. 😞
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18 hours ago, Rosie_0801 said:
You've got to be careful with this kind of thinking. It's very easy to miss the line between processing and self abuse.
Very true. One thing I know about my mom is that she wants to win, and by win I mean she wants to see the other person angry/hurt. When I am calm, it enrages her. When I won't respond to something, it makes her crazy. I don't want to be one who makes her eyes gleam with satisfaction. There is something that feels good to me about knowing that I have not given in to my anger or that she has not seen an angry reaction. I just don't want to be anything like her or feed her sick need to fight - ugly fight, too.
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On 2/1/2023 at 11:13 PM, Grace Hopper said:
Have you heard anything more from her? Wondering if she has followed up with any sort of didn’t-you-get-my-message sort of communication.
She's sent a few messages regarding other things (nothing dramatic) but no follow-up to her message. I did get a few pictures sent my way today of her cleaned up office. Given that I have not been back in there since finding the paper, seeing the room again gave me a kind of icky, sad, angry feeling.
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June 2023: What are you reading?
in The Chat Board
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My author for May/June/July is Tony Hillerman. I'm about halfway through the title list and loving every one (save for Finding Moon).