"they" is her pediatrician, she wants me to drive 2 hours one way 2 or 3 days a week to take C to a gifted children's program, I refuse to do it, she has learned what she has at home and I am sure she will continue develop just fine without the program. They said she is "gifted" because she has reached her milestones sooner than most other 8 and 1/2 month olds, I thinks it's because we let her play on the floor a lot, let her play with things that are not toys like the newspaper when we are done reading it, and don't pick her up and hold her all the time. Besides I don't want to push her too much, I read to her a lot, play with her on the floor, sing to her, the only "educational" things she has is her shape sorters and a set of alphabet and numbers magnets for the fridge. I figure that's enough for now.