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  1. I am so going to look for that book! My son will be two next month and he has maybe slept one or two eight-hour stretches the entire past year. Most nights, he's up at least twice. I am SO tired! LOL

     

    He also wants to nurse when he wakes...I'm trying the "don't offer, don't refuse" method for weaning and so far it's not cut down on his "bee" time at all (that's what he calls it, loudly sometimes! LOL) BEE! BEE! :lol:

  2. I only cloth diapered my youngest, and I really wish I had done it with my older two.

     

    It really is a matter of figuring out what works for you. When he was smaller, I loved prefolds, snappis and covers. Now that he's a wiggly toddler, I find that I prefer pocket diapers that snap-on easily (and aren't easy for him to get off!).

     

    We have saved so much money, even though we use a disposable for overnight (he's a terrible sleeper and it keeps him feeling dry longer) and when we go out and about, except for very short errands, when I'll just keep him in cloth.

     

    Disposable liners help a lot with the gross older-baby poops. DS loves fruit so his BMs are often a little loose. I have never had him leak out of the leg openings when wearing cloth--but it happens all the time with a disposable on!

     

    I just use regular Tide liquid, dry anything with PUL on my folding clothes rack and toss everything else into the dryer.

     

    It really is easy once you establish a routine. Even if you only used cloth while your husband was at work, you'd save money over time...if he really is that adamant about not changing them. Mine was reluctant until he understood the savings and now he's a big proponent of cloth diapering.

     

    Good luck!

  3. My son is 17 and just about perfect. He's got a wicked sense of humor that leaves his dad and me worn out at times from laughing. For some reason, older adults are drawn to him, so he calls himself an 'elder-whisperer'.

     

     

    :lol: Elder-whisperer? I Love it! LOL

     

    Well, as someone who grew up with a mother who made it obvious how much she hated our teenage years, and who constantly told me how horrible it would be to parent a teenager--even before I had children--I must say I've been pleasantly surprised by how much I'm enjoying my 13-year-old. :D

     

    Granted, he is ONLY 13, but still...he's turning into a pretty cool teenager, and that gives me hope that he'll be an equally great adult.

     

    And yes, when I tell my mom that, she just scowls and says, "Yeah, well...just wait...it gets worse!" :glare:

     

    I've known enough great teens to know that it doesn't HAVE to get worse. Sure, there are challenges. But isn't that true of every stage of parenting?

  4. Planes are usually so jam-packed these days, it's no longer fun to fly.

     

    But seriously...at the end of the day, it's just a few hours out of your life that you won't have to repeat in exactly the same way again. When I'm in the middle of a miserable flight, that's what I keep telling myself...it has an end. Some people are horribly rude, others are doing the best they can.

     

    I think a LOT of grace is needed to make flying a positive experience these days.

  5. My sister is a flight attendant and she says they ALWAYS work to keep parents and kids together--even with people who fly on buddy passes and therefore have no "rights" to seat choice or anything. So if you've bought tickets, I would be very surprised to hear that you'd have any trouble getting your son seated next to you. Just let them know at the gate; if that doesn't get you anywhere, talk to the flight attendants at the door as you're boarding and I'm sure they'll sort it out before the plane takes off.

     

    Good luck!

  6. I've always been various degrees of "heavy" and have noticed fat bias, but...in social situations like the OP mentioned, I've found that continuing to try to reach out usually works. I don't know why people are so closed these days, but it seems to be more and more common. At the end of the day, you usually find that most people just want someone to listen to them--and if you're a good listener, you'll end up having loads of friends--but some shells are very tough to crack! And some people won't open up no matter what. But I see that as a reflection of them, not me. :)

     

    I recently wrote a newspaper column about some of these issues. Read it here: http://www.kariapted.com/column-the-beauty-of-aging/

     

    :)

  7. Another Duggar fan here, too. I think they're amazing and I love the example they set.

     

    I thought it was a very sweet episode and Anna seems like such an awesome young mommy. I got all teary when she was holding her daughter in that one scene, when Makynzie (sp?) had just woken up and there was a pause in Anna's contractions. I so remembered that feeling of just wanting to snuggle my firstborn and savor every last second that it was just him and me.

     

    Sniff-sniff!

     

    Though I must admit that seeing her visceral pain during contractions brought back memories of my own labors and made my toes curl a bit. It hurts! But she did great!

  8. I think it's fine for people to vent in that thread. If you have a great MIL, then that's great. In no way do I assume that there are no great MILs.

     

    I think the thread is helpful because:

     

    1) we do need to vent, and it is helpful to us personally. Like I said in that thread, I can't say much to my dh about it. It's his mom. He knows some of her issues, but I don't want to bring up every single thing she does that drives me crazy.

     

    2) that thread can be a very effective warning (not sure if that's the right word) for all future MILs here (myself included), on how not to drive your DIL or SIL crazy.

     

    3) to those who say, just be glad you have one, or, she died x-years ago, or, etc... I'm not living just in the moment...I do think ahead, to what may happen in the future, what will things look like then, will she still be alive x-years from now, how will she behave, what if things go downhill with her health, how will we feel when she's gone, what regrets we may have, etc... I do temper the situation in my mind with what the future may hold for our relationship.

     

    :iagree:...especially with #2. As a mom of 3 boys, I am fully aware that one day I'll be the MIL dependent upon my DILs' acceptance of me to be involved in my sons' and grandchildren's lives. And I really hope I don't screw it up!

     

    My in-laws and my own relatives have taught me quite a lot about the things NOT to do. I've vented about them in the past...there's really no need to rehash it as I've come to my own acceptance about things. As so many said on the other thread, at some point you have to accept the fact that some people aren't going to love you no matter what you do.

     

    Hey, nobody's perfect. I am sure that no matter how considerate I try to be, my daughters-in-law are going to have something to complain about behind my back. So the fact that someone needs to vent about her MIL isn't any reason to feel offended.

     

    I, too, am envious of those who have great in-law relationships. I hope to enjoy that, too, one day.

     

    And it'll be just fine as long as my boys marry the girls I've already chosen for them. :lol: (Hey, I can hope...right? LOL)

  9. Well, my opinion might be skewed because of the awful memories I have of doing flash cards with my first when he was in private school kindergarten. Or, maybe it's the memory of trying to start him on a structured curriculum at home at age 4. Whatever the case, he was totally not ready for any of it, and one of my biggest regrets will always be pushing him too hard.

     

    He recovered, mind you (after a couple of years of homeschooling, beginning when he was 9). But I never did! LOL My second boy went to pre-K because I was working at the time, but his K-5 time at home was pretty unstructured.

     

    Just wait til fall, and try it again. My little guy isn't quite 2 and he loves sitting and coloring while the olders do schoolwork. So he might be more interested then. I think it's perfectly normal for little boys in particular to not be ready for anything formal until age 5 or 6. I plan to wait that long with my third child.

  10. There is also the fact that outside a few private schools I do not think that the education I received is available in a PS.

     

    My sister and I talk about that all the time. We live in the same community we grew up in, and it's sad to compare the good education we got back then to what kids are receiving now in the same schools.

     

    As I was going through the book, I turned pages and made a quick comment that "We can skip that part since you already know it. Good thing we homeschool, because we can do that." He responded with an incredulous, "You mean in school you can't skip what you already know?"

     

     

    :lol: In first grade, I read at a fifth grade level. So my teacher had me help tutor the other kids in reading. It was fun--I wonder if schools can even do that now?

     

    Even math teachers grade "for completion." Do you know what that means? They scan the page and if it looks like you did the problems - right or wrong - they give you 100 (or some percentage based on how much effort they think you put forth)! Can you believe it? This was typical for all my son's math and science classes. And I'm told it's standard practice in all the public high schools here, too....

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    Truly speechless. :confused:

  11. When my sister was diagnosed with seizures last year, we found out that smelling phantom odors like that can be an aura-type of thing related to seizure disorders.

     

    Like someone else said, if it continues, see a doctor. My sister had that (plus other weird symptoms) for years and had no clue she was having seizures in her sleep until she woke up one day blind in one eye and with her tongue mangled from biting it during the seizure.

     

    Thankfully, her eyesight recovered and she's been fine since getting on medication.

     

    Anyway--it can be something serious.

  12. Yes, I love it, too! And the Supernanny/Nanny 911 shows...even though most of those two boil down to creating a "naughty spot" and using it. LOL I guess I enjoy seeing that other people's kids really are a lot worse than my own...does that make me mean?

     

    I was disappointed to hear that Supernanny had been cancelled. I really like Jo.

  13. I never leaked while pregnant, and didn't feel let-down with my first baby. With the second one I felt it, but it was never painful. It was just a very faint "shifting of pressure" feeling...like I'd feel slight pressure up close to my ribcage that would drop down closer to my nipples. But it wasn't at all uncomfortable. I still feel it every once in a while, especially if it's been a while since he nursed. But it's definitely not a regular occurance.

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