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Holy Guacamole! I can't understand half of these posts. A man buys you expensive earrings on Mother's Day, and you seem totally ungrateful. How old are the kids? Why do they feel so bad, are they old enough to draw you a card or say 'I love you' without their dad's help? Is Mother's Day really that important? It's one silly day marketers set aside to make more money off of those who think spending money on someone will make them happier, imo. ...Take the darn things back and buy something that makes you happy, or give them away to someone who can enjoy them! Venting, to me, makes you seem awfully petty minded. If you love your family, go give them a hug ....)
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My motto is: avoid disappointment by giving explicit written instructions, along with periodic reminders, of what you want, if anything, and how you want to celebrate (or not celebrate) the holiday.
For the most part we ignore holidays. For those that coincide with time off work, we tweak them into our own celebration, i.e., Christmas becomes a Solstice celebration, Easter a spring celebration, etc.
P.S. I received the same pair of grey tailored slacks on two different occasions from my husband - same brand, same store. I laughed it off and exchanged 2nd pair for a different color. Actually I wore the grey slacks at least once a week for months before he bought the 2nd identical pair.
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I have not encountered reliably consistent objective evidence that there is a consciousness that survives the death of the body.
However, I too have had odd unexplainable experiences which I chalk up to wishful thinking, coincidence, or lack of knowledge to explain experiences at this time. I just enjoy the weirdness of these experiences now and then. By the way, "seeing" a deceased loved one is a very common experience as are dreams of loved ones that occur right around their time of death.
I strongly believe that people interpret these experiences with a built in positive confirmation bias.
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We have a relatively large 8 person jacuzzi although those 8 people would need to be skinny to fit comfortably. It sat on large covered patio at both old and new house.
We had the pool and spa company move the jacuzzi from old house to new house. They disassembled it, moved it, and reassembled it for only $300.
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Public transportation seating, with some exceptions, is on a first-come first-served basis.
Our family's take on it is to not expect anyone to offer their seat to them; it is not inherently rude to keep your seat.
However, the kiddos have been taught by example, not words, to offer their seats to others if they feel inclined (they often do).
Even in my 4th through 9th months of pregnancy, I would routinely offer my seat to frail people, sweating out-of-breath fat people, pregnant women that looked tired, and those who just looked like they could use a break.
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I buy roll of chocolate chip cookie dough fully intending to eat it raw. I've been known to slap a "do not bake" post it note on the dough roll.
At our firm, we occasionally bake the Otis Spunkmeyer frozen cookies. I prefer the raw frozen unbaked cookies over the baked ones.
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I am not a smoker. However, if I were a smoker who was in a public place alone with her child, I would want the child right there beside me, especially tots and preschoolers. They can dart away in a flash.
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I just get very uncomfortable as we spent years around people who made us feel very uncomfortable with not having more children. Even their children would come up and ask why we didn't have more children. I was even asked why I didn't like babies ......Additionally, we are philosophically opposed to creating a lifestyle for ourselves at the expense of others. We have only met one family our of about 15 that does not depend on the tax payers to support their families financially. Barring the unexpected and tragic, we refuse to live beyond our means -- both in terms of what we are able to provide financially and emotionally....
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I would not want to be a part of a group where members felt free to ask nosy invasive questions about my family planning.
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Hair removal has been a custom in various cultures for various reasons over the centuries. The *current* American tradition of hair removal is rooted in pornography but has gone mainstream. Other body modification practices, such as tattooing, have moved from counterculture to mainstream. I suspect that those who support body mod practices overestimate benefits while underestimating risks while those who oppose them do opposite. My position is that each person should do what they want with their body as long as they are of age of reason as long as it is legal. That includes refusing medical treatment that is popularly (and scientifically) accepted as appropriate.
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My mother is a life-long liberal Catholic. She cheered Vatican II and has taken the Church's teaching on social justice to heart. She is very devout and prayerful. She has given much to the church and gained much. It and our family are at the center of her life. The priest-abuse cover up hurt her very deeply (our family priest, a man who was her spiritual guide through the loss of her child, was convicted of chid molestation and died in prison a few years ago. We still don't know if this priest harmed my brother in the last months of his illness befor he died.) She worked hard for many years to see the church become more open and accepting of homosexuality and more respectful of women, and has been heart-broken to see it move in the other direction.
She considers herself a true Catholic, and thinks her church has been hijacked. She'd like to see married priest, women priests, and a church more concerned with social justice and truth. Whenever (now jokingly because I have learned) I suggest she join a liberal Episcopalian denomination she says the Catholic Church is her church an no one will convince her to leave. The pope would leave before she would.
You go, Mom!
I too miss that Catholic church you described even though I am not a person who finds the basic paradigm of Christianity believable.
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Finding hairless female pubic mounds arousing and attractive is a fairly recent phenomenon (1990s) popularized primarily by pornography.
Neither my parnter nor I find anything unattractive in what you refer to as jungle look in either males or females, but people have sovereignity over their own bodies. Thus, they should do what pleases them.
With a creative mind at work, there are numerous solutions to any practical problems presented by alternative sexual practices with a natural partner.
I do not follow most fashion trends, pornographic ones included.
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My sociology major college student did an experiment where he posed as a wheelchair-bound person to gain a clearer understanding of what life was like for a mobilely (word?) disabled person.
I truly doubt that the boyfriends' parents were in the dark despite what was reported.
Both experiments remind me of less elaborate version of Griffin's "Black Like Me." We can read and observe others' experiences but there is no substitute for first hand experience.
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Au naturel here too. Although I hold no opinion either way on pubic hair removal for other men or women, I am uncomfortable with the resulting pre-pubescent look for myself. I do not want my 40+ year old pubic mound to look like that of a ten year old.
However, I have scissor-trimmed, shaved, bleached, and waxed pubic hair that spread to upper thighs around swimsuit line. Waxing stings like a hard slap, but it really is not all that uncomfortable; pull the skin taut when ripping off the hardened wax. The bleach can be irritating to skin. I itched a day or so after the bleaching.
ETA: Was in late teens/early 20s when I experiment with removal of pubic hairs from upper thighs. Reverted to completely natural thereafter.
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When pondering death rituals, I have often wondered why this practice is not already in place for those who desire it.
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This will sound harsh, but I hate that poor-little-me crap unless someone has a real problem. If they're just feeling sorry for themselves and looking for sympathy, I'm not the one to come to. My fil pulls that all the time. I've started saying, "It's sad that you feel that way," and changing the subject. He's only looking for pity, and I refuse to play that game. :glare:
Fist pumping in agreement here! I have a relative who will suck out your life force if you do not shield yourself with tough love.
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for a year after graduation would you encourage it? My ds is graduating next summer with a degree in English and a concentration in business. He works in the outdoor education department at school and is working at a summer camp as a rock climbing instructor this summer. He wants to rock climb for 3 months in Europe and then try to attend L'Abri Fellowship Switzerland and hopefully get a job there while he attends. Would you encourage your son to do that or would you encourage him to get a "real" and "serious" job when he graduates?
I would be cheering him on and encouraging him to live adventurously while young. There is no better time to do so.
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We have decided DS (5) needs to start answering us with "yes ma'am" and "yes sir". Anyone else teach their kids to respond to them this way? I don't mean just to a random stranger, but actually to you and dh? How do you teach it? Just by prompting? We know *no one* who teaches their kids this (even though we live in the South!) but we think it will be a good change.
Any thoughts or insights on how to make this change happen would be much appreciated...
What made you decide that your children should address you as "ma'am" or "sir?" Were they exhibiting a pattern of disrespectful behavior that you believe use of titles will resolve or lessen? My guess would be that modeling the behavior would be sufficient. However, personally I would consider it a complement to a strong foundation in etiquette, not an essential core element.
For what it is worth: our firm has to "unteach" young adult (usually Southern) employees who consistently address clients and partners with "ma'am" or "sir" because it is viewed as subservient and unprofessional.
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I have never attended a homeschool convention. However, we own a couple of his dvd sets: the one about teaching writing and the student writing intensive. His approach revolutionized writing for us.
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would you take that to mean that are athesist/agnostic/without faith/non-believer?
No, I would take it literally.
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What do atheists believe happen when you die? Body putrefies and decomposes.
Is this life the be-all, end-all? Cannot say with certainty, but lack of evidence otherwise leads me to tentative conclusion that it is the be-all end-all.
If so, if there is no promise of 'reward' in an after-life, why conduct yourself morally? or do you? I mean obviously you don't want to spend this life in jail, etc... but hopefully you understand what I mean. I assume you would behave as ethically as you do now if you suddenly lost your religious faith. If you did not believe that there is a future system of rewards and punishments, how would YOU behave differently? People who conduct themselves in a compassionate and socially acceptable manner do so because it feels right to them. Those who believe in gods may offer a different explanation for their conduct than those who do not. Religion probably has little to do with morality.
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How would you manage to outrun the cannibalistic mobs if you had fat stores?
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... I do want to mention, though that I would NEVER let police into my home without a warrant.
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Simply because they would not allow a law enforcement officer into their home does not mean that they are breaking the law -- unless being a dumb jerk counts.
When I had to call the police about a matter, I waited out front and spoke with them on my porch.
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... Would you do it to please your dh or would you tell him forget it and put them in public school?
No, I would not do it to please my husband. He could afterschool the children.
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You can't learn NFP by someone just giving you tips. It is based on observing the presence and consistency of cervical mucous (and possibly basal body temperature) to determine fertility. Check with the nearest catholic diocese to see if they offer a class. Check Amazon or your library for books on the topic.
As a longterm NFP user, it is my personal opinion that NFP is not the best method to use if you cannot handle the possibility of another pregnancy.
Anybody else NOT doing Mother's Day?
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The kids tell me that they love me. Sometimes I get a homemade card (the best kind), a letter or a poem. One daughter and her partner invited me to church but I declined. Focusing on doing my own backed up laundry. My husband brought home roses last night and Hagen Daas coffee ice cream, but not because of Mother's Day.