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Overall we thoroughly enjoyed having husband work out of home. However, there were some stressful times, especially at the beginning, but they had nothing to do with homeschooling.
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During a conversation with a friend in which I brought up the fact that I'm just not sure exactly what I believe, she used the phrase "choosing to reject God"…to which I replied something along the lines of "it's not a choice - I can't CHOOSE whether I believe something exists!" … can I? Can you? If you believe in God*, would you say that you made a conscious choice to do so?...
No, belief in a deity is not a choice. Some people are born unable to give themselves over to magical thinking even if they wished to do so because of some sort of perceived peace or joy.
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... proselytizing to you.
Inductive reasoning concludes that there is a direct mathematical relationship between submission threads and likelihood of proselytizing, which increases as thread length increases.
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Inflamed hair follicles.
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...While I do say this sometimes, I and the receiver of the comment never actually think this will occur. I guess it's a euphemism for, "I feel sorry for you, but I'm not going to help."
I always appreciate a good euphemism-bustin'. :lol:
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What does it mean to *you* if you are saying it, I mean. I'm sure people have plenty of opinions, but I'm looking at those who actually say that. LOL
Is it basically, "I'll be thinking of you?" or more than that?
Thank you for answering, I'm genuinely curious! I'm not looking for discussion myself, but I assume you should be prepared for some. :lol:
For me, it means that I am either sympathizing or empathizing with the personal in question. Further, it means that I am hoping they can mount a positive constructive strategy for dealing with whatever challenge they are facing and that they ultimately find resolution and peace.
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Both of us were middles. Both of us played role of eldest.
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I don't want to start a fight, I am just interested in what the breakdown is in homeschooling families! I would love to hear your religion also, if you want to share.
No religion here.
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Usually my soupmaker kid prepares homemade tomato soup. However, when we use canned condensed tomato soup, we add water.
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While I agree that parents should know a church's doctrine before allowing their children to attend VBS there, it's not always so simple. Churches around here (mostly Southern Baptist) encourage kids to go to VBS, and they talk about how much fun they'll have. The kids then beg their parents to go, and their parents, though not overly religious, believe in God and imagine their kids singing a few "Jesus Loves Me"–type songs and then playing games and doing arts and crafts. I truly see some churches as being deceitful in the way they encourage kids to attend VBS.
:iagree::iagree::iagree: The Southern Baptist megachurch in my area engages in just such practices as you described.
Many years ago, in a different part of country, my family had moved to a new town. Eager to fit in, I accepted a schoolmate's invitation to their church. She assured me it was all fun and games. Monday through Thursday consisted of goofy crafts (piggy bank made from bleach bottle), benign music, and games. Friday was a Southern Baptist pulpit-pounding emotional sermon calling for sinners to be saved. I sat stiffly in the pew and steadfastly ignored my VBS teacher's persistent admonitions to me only to accept Jesus into my heart or face eternal flames. Her other charges had went to altar or were already "saved." Some of the kids were crying; one girl was literally shaking. Although I was not frightened because I did not find the eternal ****ation threat credible, I did feel bad for the kids if they were crying from fear instead of joy.
I do not fault the church or the SBC; I was the uninformed child who made poor decision.
When I told this story to co-workers a few years ago, one of them, a Southern Baptist, insisted that the Southern Baptists no longer did "altar calls" in VBS. This statement perplexed me because that co-worker is a member of the SB megachurch here that DOES engage in altar calls during VBS.
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so would it be easier to drive 6 hrs to VA or fly which would be 4 w/connectors not including wait time pre.
Somewhere over twelve hours driving time would be my cutoff for choosing air travel over driving.
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My dd19 has decided to enter the workforce instead of attending college. She has gotten many negative remarks about this choice. She has been called a loser. She has been told she will never have anything or be anyone important. One friend asked her how would she get married, have a home, cars, and children. Even her dad and stepmom have berated her, and when that didn't work, they adopted an air of indifference as if they have written her off. They have not congratulated her on her success in her current line of employment. Even her aunt, who ran away from home at 16 and managed to do quite well for herself told her she was being stupid. Now that I can sort of understand because maybe this aunt regrets that choice. But I still don't understand how that compares because my dd19 hasn't quit high school. She has just chosen to not attend college!
I've heard that college admissions is easier than past years, and that a bachelor's degree is the new high school diploma. Would you say this is true? If it is true, then are people who choose to not attend college really seen as losers? That hurts my feelings considering my side of the family has only 1 college graduate, my father. Well, my great-grandfather was a physician and he was likely born in the very late 1800s or very early 1900s. Did a doctor go through as many years of education as doctors must do today? But still, at least it was a higher education I suppose.
I just feel like all the people who are calling my dd a loser are also insulting my family. It hurts. We may not have mansions or 6-figure salaries but we have had enough things to make our lives fairly decent. My mom says her childhood financial situation could be considered poor but she doesn't recall anything bad about it. I cannot recall anyone in my family history that has not been considered a good worker, as in refusing to work when they did have a job opportunity.
Why does it seem like success is mostly defined as having a college education and a professional job that requires a college degree?
My hat is off to your daughter for having the chutzpah to cut a new frontier along a well-worn path.
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Came home last night to find this taped to my front door.
I Can Mow Your Lawn!
I see that your lawn needs to be cut and I would
be happy to mow it. I only charge $20-$25 for
both front and back. I can do your lawn this
summer anytime during the week (Monday Thru
Friday). I do have certain times during the week
because of football though. I have football from
7:30-9:00. Anytime after this during the day is
fine though. Another thing is that I can use
either my dad's lawnmower or yours whichever
you prefer. Lastly, I do live in this community and
if you have and questions or want to schedule
a time for me to cut your lawn just call me @ xxx-
xxx-xxxx.
Everything has been copied exactly as it is written down to the spacing.
I desperately want to mark this with a red pen and put it back on his front door. This child is in HIGH SCHOOL. :glare:
Posters here who teach high school have made more egregious grammatical and usage errors than anything in your example.
PS - his price is a steal.
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Money & security vs. The chance to change life to be more enjoyable for all?
You've heard me talk about our plan to move to the country. Buy the farm from my folks and life more simply. We've talked about it, dreamt of doing it for years. Then DH got laid off and it just seemed that the timing for us and for them was finally right and we made the decision to move ahead. We've talked about our decision with a financial planner, dh's folks, my folks, and prayed like crazy. Our life would be a lesser financial burden to dh and despite the unemployment extremely doable.
The financial planner we met with was extremely impressed with dh and it looks like dh has a future with his company in our new location. DH's severance would continue to float us until he get's his through his apprenticeship. DH's excited about that potential.
Yesterday DH got the job call. He told them we'd already decided to move. They've called three times. Their HR guy called. Evidently dh was their first pick from some 120 other applicants. Oh they're courting him. High salary, high bonus, stock options to name a few. DH knows he could do the job. It'd be like similar to what he'd been doing before.
What would you choose? Money & Security? A chance to re-write your life?
Folks are going to think we're crazy.
I would take the high powered job for a predetermined number of years yet continue to live as though husband laid off. Sock away at least half the salary so you can have a hefty down payment when you buy farm from your folks. Perhaps you could go ahead and purchase the farm but rent it to your folks.
ETA: You could begin work on a life simplifying plan while still in city, especially if you choose to continue to live as though husband is laid off.
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If I am serving someone in need it is both appropriate and right for me tell them why I am serving them. If I am serving them because I am a follower of Jesus and He asked his followers to love others through our actions I am entirely justified in telling this to the one I am serving. Furthermore, as a follower of Jesus I am called to share the good news of salvation with others. He/she doesn't have to agree with me to receive my service but why should they not know? Your statement reminds me of someone who was complaining about Christian music being played in a store. Just because you don't like it doesn't mean it shouldn't be playing. If you don't like it or agree, don't listen.
My post stated that *we* do not advocate evangelization. I was explaining why we would provide financial support to an organization that we would not normally support. I never stated that you or any other proselytizer did not have a right to proselytize. But then that was clear from my post.
I would never presume to attempt to influence a business to play music that was tailored to my personal tastes just as I do not contact businesses to complain (or boycott) if they offer goods or services, or advertising, that I would personally find offensive. I do not roll that way.
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No, I do not recall user names of anyone who posted in the thread in question.
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Mostly I'm a nice person. Really. But...
I'm having trouble figuring out how to rearrange my thinking about short-term mission trips, and I'm sure someone here can help.
I've received many requests from friends/family for donations towards their mission trips. The trips are all about 2 weeks long, and they're always non-specific about *why* they are going, and *what they plan to do while they're there*. The not-so-nice part of me is critical about this, and whispers in my ear that $8000 for a two week trip to Africa sounds like a vacation rather than a true ministry to others. :confused: I'm not proud of my thoughts on this. At the same time, I think of what $8000 could do in the hands of a missionary who's already "on the ground" and has made a greater commitment to a cause and/or ministry. In most areas of life, I'm a cheerful giver, and I love to give when I can to real missionaries, with a goal and a purpose. Is there a reason I should look more kindly on the requests from short-term'ers?
In my opinion, no, you should not look more kindly upon the requests. Why should you be called upon to help finance someone's personal or spiritual journey?
Frankly I would not have the audacity to make such a request of anyone.
When my kids have been asked or required to raise funds for a project, we have simply donated cash and/or bought the overpriced products ourselves. We do not consider it appropriate FOR OUR FAMILY to ask friends and relatives to help finance our children's activities.
As an aside, we give a significantly higher percentage of our income to charity than the average for our income range. Much of it is in the form of direct cash assistance to needy individuals, and, as such, is not even deductible on our tax return.
As a cost of doing business, my husband once made a small donation to an associate's missionary family acquaintances. I say cost of doing business because we do not advocate evangelizing in any religion, particularly when it is in tandem with carrying out charitable activities. For the last ten years or so, we have received 3-4 requests per year for donations to the family.
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http://blogs.dallasobserver.com/unfairpark/2011/06/plano_isd_teacher_says_not_all.php
I don't know how to feel about this...but I think I side with the teacher on this.
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My first thought was that she will dispatch her thuggy male minions to do him harm again.
In addition to all the other great advice you have received, I would invest in a personal taser if they are legal in Texas. I assume they probably are. A discreet camera in his vehicle would be good idea too. Change the cell phone number and remove as much identifying information as possible from social networking sites and the internet in general.
Pressure the detectives. Oh, and get affidavit from the people who rescued him.
Could he possibly move beyond her geographical reach?
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How do you know this? How do you know he doesn't go around blaming himself everyday for not realising what his wife would do that day?
If he is as guilty as she is -then should he be charged? With what?
I think it is perfectly fine that he has remarried and had more children. Why shouldn't he. His ex-wife killed all his other children -not him.
He may have made a bad decision in mangaing her illness and an equally bad one by going against the doctors advice for more children but people make bad choices everyday. Maybe he thought he had direct revelation from God that he should have more children -maybe he thought to trust God over the doctor. Who knows.
I don't think he got off scott free - he has to live with what happened the same way that Andrea does.
Would it make everyone feel better to see him single and throwing himself on his kids grave every day in total ruination. That would be another life destroyed and wasted. I hope he learned from his mistakes and is a much more thoughtful and wise husband with his second wife and kids.
:iagree: However, when posters stated that the husband was just as guilty or more guilty than the homicidal mother, I assumed that they were swept up in emotion and did not literally believe that the husband should have been charged and tried as an accessory to murder.
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Sometime in last year or so, a poster started a thread asking for advice for handling her son's reaction of irrational disgust at the sight of her daughter's elbows. She mentioned this happening when they sat down to a family dinner.
I have tried without success to locate this thread using the search function. Any suggestions on how to track down the thread?
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Honestly, part of me wonders if the reason we're so suspicious of this research is because it proves our biases wrong. Today's teens are having less, not more, sex than teens a generation or two ago. Maybe we just don't want to hear that, and would rather rely on news reports about "rainbow parties" and Lifetime TV movies to get our information about what the sex lives of teens are like, so we can make sure we don't have to question our assumption that today's teens are the most immoral, hedonistic generation yet.
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I don't think it is preferential treatment. I think they are looking for a playmate for their child, and that's it.
The other issues (safety, medical care, etc) are important, of course. If you truly don't feel comfortable with them supervising your child, then, of course, don't do it. But, that has nothing to do with preferential treatment. (And, know that you're going to have to stick to this kid-not-safe argument over the long haul, as the inlaws will likely not forgive/forget such an insult quickly. . . so, if you don't mean it, don't say it!)
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Is belief a choice?
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Sounds like an eternal middle school gym class. :lol: