Luanne Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 in relationships. There is this really nice (cool, sweet) guy at work who is a bit younger than I am. I can't act on it right now anyway since he is one of my supervisors, but ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nestof3 Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 What's your question? My husband is 13 years older than I am. We've had no problems! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luanne Posted March 12, 2008 Author Share Posted March 12, 2008 I guess I pretty much have always been involved with guys who were older than I am (the most was by 7 years) ... obviously I've never been in a successful relationship or I wouldn't be single right now. I guess my question would be how much is too much age difference and does it matter if the female is the one who is older? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kay in Cal Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 My step-dad (who is a wonderful, stellar guy!) is 4 years younger than my mother. They've been married for over 25 years... so I know it can indeed work when the people are right and the commitment is there--same criteria for any marriage! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luanne Posted March 12, 2008 Author Share Posted March 12, 2008 That this guy is 18 years younger than I am. Does that change things? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kay in Cal Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 Well... I still think it takes the right people, and commitment on both sides. A good marriage takes love, commitment and good timing as well. I have a friend who has been in a relationship with a much younger man for a while now, and while he has proposed to her, she keeps turning him down. Why? Because she is past her child-raising stage (she has 11 children, all grown, and no interest in raising more) and he is in is mid-30s. She knows he enjoys kids, and just thinks that even if it works out in the short term, in the long term he really needs to be with a woman who wants to have children. They may have the love and commitment, but the timing just isn't there for them. I think you need to decide what you want from a permanent relationship, what he wants, and then go from there. Of course, in this case you don't even know yet! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luanne Posted March 12, 2008 Author Share Posted March 12, 2008 Well... I still think it takes the right people, and commitment on both sides. A good marriage takes love, commitment and good timing as well. I think you need to decide what you want from a permanent relationship, what he wants, and then go from there. Of course, in this case you don't even know yet! I don't even know if he is interested or not and I don't even know how to approach him. I mean we talk at work and such and we seem to get along the best I can tell. I really don't know where to go from here. :banghead: I would really like to find out if he is interested. I know I have thought maybe I should just forget it and let it go, but then he walks by and my heart ... well, you know how it is. :001_rolleyes: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mx5 Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 I don't even know if he is interested or not and I don't even know how to approach him. I mean we talk at work and such and we seem to get along the best I can tell. I really don't know where to go from here. :banghead:I would really like to find out if he is interested. I know I have thought maybe I should just forget it and let it go, but then he walks by and my heart ... well, you know how it is. :001_rolleyes: My son is 18. If I were single, and thought a guy 18yrs younger than me was interested in me, I know how I think... I'd be thinking he's sweet but I could be his mom. Not saying you should feel this way - and I am in my mid 40's, so maybe that has something to do with it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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