Crissy
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I've been curious about this for awhile, and there have been a couple of threads today that reminded me I wanted to ask.
On average, how many days a week would you say you are in physical pain? I've always thought everyone hurt, but I'm thinking I might be wrong :001_huh:.
If you are in pain, do you know the cause?
ETA: I'm in pain everyday (autoimmune hepatitis, and I'm being monitored for lupus and Sjogren's). Dh isn't a good reference, either, because he has arthritis in his back.
It does become your normal doesn't it?
I am sorry you are in so much pain. When you are dealing with the sort of chronic issues you have or possibly have, how do you manage? Has anyone referred you to a pain specialist, or do you take medication?
I have pain most days of the week. Mine is caused by a significant leg length discrepancy that in turn causes inflammation in my SI joints.
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This is a good opportunity for you to start letting go. I'm becoming an expert in that arena and I know how hard it is, believe me! I would definitely not speak to the other young man's mom. I would recommend that she, too, stay out of it, but that's not what you're asking. You might give your son permission to not have to room with this young man by saying, "Don't feel you have to room with XX just because his mom thinks it's a good idea or because you already know him. This is a great opportunity to make new friends and lots of kids don't room with people they already know." Yeah, there's a risk that a different roommate won't work out, but this is an opportunity for your son to grow if it doesn't. If he decides to go ahead and room with him, so be it. It's his decision and he has to live with the consequences, good or bad. It's not the end of the world either way. Really. ;)
All the best,
Yolanda
I agree with Yolanda on all counts.
I would be inclined to stay completely out of his housing issues unless he asked for advice or help.
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My boys never loved their legos. They were much happier to sit and read a book draw a picture or play a card/board/dice game.
I was never concerned about their lack of interest, so I didn't try anything to change it. I just figured building wasn't what they cared to do.
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My older son, who has been through AP Calc, does help his little brother with his algebra homework. He doesn't do the teaching, though. They both take math classes at the public school.
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I wake up at 7.
The 17yo is usually already up, and I wake the 12yo by 7:30.
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Happy birthday to your sweet girl.
Will be praying for your good health and for a wonderful day for you all.
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Oh, Crissy :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:.
Thank you, C.
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One day at a time. With prayer and faith. We believe families are forever and we will be with our loved ones again. So while I was sad at the loss of my brother it was more like he was on an extended trip and I would see him again someday.
Sometimes I go talk to him at the cemetery. You could perhaps write a message to your mom and sail a balloon to heaven. Make a memory jar of things you remember doing with your mom and share it with your son. Remember the good she brought to your life. Make a book of the dead ala Enders game.
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I hope I don't offend you I have no way of knowing your beliefs or faith.
Thank you, Jenn. You certainly haven't cause any offense.
I do like the idea of a memory jar. If not for now, to share memories of her with them when they are older.
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Are you talking to anyone or getting some treatment? i completely understand. I am a really vocal person and it is so hard for not to share with my kids.
I haven't talked with anyone. I have some issues with frustration over the choices she made, and it hurts my sisters and my dad when I've expressed those feelings. So we just don't talk about it.
I know my husband hates to see me cry, so I avoid the topic with him as well.
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I read something wise long ago about ACTING like the person you want to be as a way to becoming it. Want to be brave? Act brave.
Anyway, I'm never averse to extra cuddles from my kiddo, and I do try to put on a happy face. When I'm alone, usually as I'm falling asleep, I talk to my parents, and I also write my mother a long chatty letter every month (I know it is monthly because I do it in the back of the monthly staff meeting, so it is a 90 minute letter.)
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You know, Kay, I hadn't even thought about writing to her. I will do that.
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You know, I think it's no bad thing for our children to see us going through, and dealing with, difficult stuff in life. I'm not saying that you should talk his ear off about everything, but seeing you working through your problems will surely be a good example to him. It may help him to learn to be empathetic towards people who are going through tough times, in the future.
This is really what I wonder about.
I haven't been confiding in him in any way, but when he says, "I sure miss Nana," and I begin to cry when I say, "Me too," he just knows.
Thank you.
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Awwwww. Hugs all around.
The only advice I have is to not "should" on yourself.
I have great confidence in your wisdom and think you will slowly find your way. I know you will apologize to your son. I know you will figure out how to be kind to yourself, including grieving in your own way and your own time.
Blessings to you this evening.
Thank you, my friend.
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I feel so bad for my son.
He's 12 and a very sensitive kid.
Yesterday I was frustrated that he didn't get his schoolwork done before sitting down to watch TV. I raised my voice with him and told him to go to his room and get his work done.
He was crying at bedtime. He said, "I hate being bad. I just want to do things that make you happy. Because you've been so sad lately."
It is true that I've been sad. I haven't been dealing well these past months since my mom's death, and I don't really feel as if I can talk to anyone about it.
I'm not looking forward to my older son going away to college next fall, but I know I need to let go.
There are a few other things that I don't even know how to articulate.
BUT! I can't be putting all of this on my kids. I should be dealing with my own stuff better than this, shouldn't I?
How do you deal with difficult things and not allow your children to be affected?
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What a year, indeed!
Happy birthday to your little Possum!
I hope you find a quick resolution to this latest issue!
(((Amber)))
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How on earth do you know to absolutely trust the doctor? She just moved to the state, and has never met this person before. How on earth can she trust them? That makes no sense to me.
And I don't trust ANYONE fully. People make mistakes.
I wasn't commenting on what the OP should or should not feel about this particular doctor. I was explaining why I would feel comfortable allowing MY doctor to speak to my children alone. Because I trust him absolutely.
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So the way I read it: your son does have an anger problem and the doctor suggested that you see a counselor for it. She didn't report you or suggest that you medicate him. She just suggested that a counselor would be a good thing while your child is still young.
The second thing I read is that you seemed very passive through out. You didn't handle your son's anger but let the nurse handle it. You didn't ask to remain with your children but let them be taken into another room. I can't totally understand all the anger from you when you had been so passive. Also - what the doctor did was to try to uphold you as a mother, when she told your children to be more polite to you and to not malign you. I don't see anything anywhere in what you wrote about her suspecting you of abuse of any kind.
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If I had a problem with anyone's behavior it would be my child, not the doctor.
I also wouldn't have an issue with my doctor speaking to my children without me. If I didn't absolutely trust my doctor, he wouldn't be my doctor.
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I was telling my husband all about it (and the other new Kindles) last night and when he asked, "So, are you telling me you'd like a Kindle Fire?" I was stupid enough to tell him no, that I'd just like to get a Kindle Touch for each of the boys for Christmas.
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Anyone remember Colleen's thread about serving soup to a young guest (from a few years ago)?
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It got kinda crockpotish.
I recall her concern being the guest's attitude much more than his disapproval of the food, but I also recall finding it incredibly strange that a boy in his early teens didn't recognize a plate of salad. :lol:
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You were smart to wait! I was going to wait until later this fall for one since I heard they would be bringing out new ones, but then it was my birthday last week. So I got one at Target on FRIDAY. Now it's WEDNESDAY, and they just released the new Kindles!
I didn't buy it from amazon so I can't return it now that I've opened it. (Target)
I'm considering one of the new Kindles. I'll just pass my current version on to one of my boys.
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Both of my boys would have had soup and bread.
I find it difficult, though, to feed many of their friends. It seems they are still accustom to what I think if as Kid Food: pizza, chicken strips, fries and soda.
We have never eaten that way, so was quite an adjustment.
I have a few dishes that I make that are versions of 'acceptable foods'. I try to make those for sleepovers and dinner time visits.
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Would you please share what blogs have these?
How do you find them?
Thanks!
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I am overly sensitive to the smell of sour laundry, so I can't leave it overnight. It has to be dried the same day it's washed.
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I like to browse/purchase books on my computer.
I do the same thing. Browsing on the Kindle is so clunky and awkward.
Would you want a handmade gift at your baby shower?
in General Education Discussion Board
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I love handmade baby gifts.
Of the items I received at my older son's shower nearly 18 years ago, it is the two which were handmade that I still have.