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A bounce house would be fun! So would a zombie versus humans nerf tag game! Designate some as humans and some as zombies and they have to try to shoot each other and maybe capture the other team's flag or whatever. Carnival games would be fun with candy prizes like someone else said. They could take turns wrapping a teammate in toilet paper like a mummy and then having relay race type things.
I like the punch in a cauldron and they sell plastic eyeballs you can float in there!
Instead of cake you could do cupcakes and decorate them in halloween colors and themes.
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Thanks for all of the input (and positive feedback on how my daughter handled things!) It's been like five hours since the last text from my husband, and he still hasn't contacted either my husband or daughter again. I hope it stays that way!
I just got a text from the girl scouts leader saying "I have left a message for the scout master with that pack but he hasn't returned my call yet. As soon as I hear from him I will update you. If he doesn't return my call by tomorrow I will call him again until I get a response."
I thanked her and then offered to email her a transcript of all the text messages so she could see and share exactly what was said. She said that would be great actually, and so I just went through all the texts and typed them up and emailed them to her so she can see them, show them to the scout master, and they can decide what steps they need to take next on their end. As far as I'm concerned, I'm done with it personally unless he starts texting again!
I will have to talk further with my daughter about who she should and shouldn't give out contact info to in the future but I think enough has been talked about for today!
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I like Nathan's and Hebrew National!
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Thanks, all. He still has not tried to contact any of us again, so hopefully this is the end of it. I told my daughter that when she gets her phone, she should not text him, she should not delete any of his texts in case we need to refer to them, and should let us know immediately if he texts her. She agreed and I think I can trust her on this. Hopefully the scout master will be able to convey to him whatever message and lesson is appropriate for the situation.
Boy, you really wish your kids would never have to be exposed to tough issues, and it's like flying by the seat of your pants trying to figure out how to be honest and real with them and do damage control as necessary and protect their innocence as best you can all at the same time- I'm just glad she has a good relationship with us and that we keep open lines of communication and that she always tends to come to us with questions, things she hears, stuff like this...
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Can't you block him manually through your online account? Verizon allows one to block up to 5 numbers with no extra fee, though there is a parental controls thing for a fee also. You could mention it to the girl scout leader and then block his number so he cannot text/call.
Your daughter is awesome for coming to you. So many girls would feel "mature and important" because he was confiding in her, and have kept it secret. I would have myself at that age, probably.
Unfortunately, no. We had an issue with someone in the past whose number we wanted to block, and when we called AT&T they said the only way to do it was to pay for Smart Limits.
So far no further contact.
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Well my husband texted him from his phone and said who he was and that our daughter is only 11 years old and we do monitor her text messages. He said the things you were saying to her were not appropriate or something a girl that age should have to deal with and because of that and your age, she is not allowed to stay in contact with you. Please do not text her again, we will be monitoring her phone closely.
In the meanwhile, her leader called back and I explained what had happened and that we were texting him back to ask him to cease contact and wanted to let her know as well in case there is anything she had to do on her end. She plans to contact his scout master and will keep me informed.
Then the kid texted my husband back and said sir, I am a good kid, what did I say that was inappropriate?
My husband replied, she is only 11. She does not need a 14 year old kid she met 24 hours ago talking to her about suicide and personal problems. You do not need to contact me or my daughter again.
He wrote back, sir that was a long time ago. I am not like that anymore, I am a Catholic, and Boy Scouts changed me a lot.
Dh replied I understand that, but you talked to her about it today and it is not a topic appropriate for her age, or for someone you just met yesterday. And you are too old to have a relationship with her. I hope I have made myself clear to you that I do not want you to contact me or my daughter. I will not be responding to any further texts from you.
Going to leave it in the scout masters hands now and hold onto dd's phone for a couple of days to make sure he doesn't start texting her again. I did praise her a lot for coming to us and that I was proud of her for not trying to keep an inappropriate secret etc.
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Yep. Annoying. In fact, I might have to respond with, "Seriously? Why don't YOU take a turn cleaning the da*n kitchen for once?"
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My daughter, who will be 12 in a week and a half, spent the day at a camporee type thing with girl scouts yesterday from 9 AM to 10 PM.
When my husband picked her up, he told me, "She gave her number to a 14 year old boy and he's texting her already."
I asked what a boy was doing at a girl scouts event to begin with, and was told he was there helping show them how to tie knots or some such.
So when they got home, my daughter said that he had asked her if she wanted to exchange numbers so they could stay in touch, she did so, and when he texted her, we said she could respond (it was just stuff like "hey," "did so and so take my phone number, too," "what town do you live in") but that we were going to monitor these texts and if anything inappropriate was said, there would be no more contact.
Then he asked her what she was doing tomorrow and if she wanted to hang out, "just a friendly thing." She said upon our instruction that she is not allowed to "hang out" with teenaged boys. He asked "why not?" and said, "It's not like I'm going to hurt you or do anything to you." We had her say, "Sorry, my parents won't let me," he said "OK," and we sent her to bed, keeping her phone with us.
Today she came to me and told me he'd texted her again today, and showed me the texts. He asked her if she could keep a secret and started saying all this stuff to her about when he was in school from K through 6th grade he was bullied badly and even considered suicide and she couldn't tell anyone because he couldn't go through that again and would have to kill himself if she told, and how he also has ADHD and OCD and a bunch of stuff like that.
She had answered with things like, "I'm sorry," a sad face, whatever. He asked if that was "too much" for her and she said no, and he said, "then you can be my new best friend."
I told her she had done the right thing by showing it to me, that he had issues that were not at all appropriate to discuss with a girl who is still just 11 years old, that I did not want her communicating with him any further as she did not need any of this stuff on her shoulders, etc. She was mildly upset/felt a little bad and wanted to know what was she supposed to do, just ignore him, and I said I would discuss it with her father and I was keeping her phone with me for now.
I mentioned it to my husband, and I called dd's girl scouts leader, but just got a voicemail and am awaiting a return call. I have her phone in my pocket and he's periodically texting her "What's up" and "hello."
Again, I'm going to discuss it with the leader so she can do anything she feels necessary on her end, and I doubt he's going to be at any further girl scout events for quite some time, if ever, but I really don't want him texting her anymore. Who knows what else he might say.
Should I text him and say that I am her mother (or father) and that the things he has been telling her are not appropriate and too intense for a girl who isn't even 12 years old yet and that we have told her she is not allowed to text with him anymore, and then hold on to her phone for a couple of days to see if he abides by that?
I suppose I could block his number but I'd have to call AT&T, sign up for "smart limits" which has an extra fee each month, and then block him through there once it went through. I guess I may not have much choice, though.
What would you do?
Please don't quote, I may delete this later.
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We are using OM6 and I still do a lot of it with my daughter, but it's fun! The social studies and science lessons are pretty brief so it doesn't take long to read them with her. Then we will look over the assignments and some she just does on her own with me checking in or looking it over afterward, and some I hang out with her for and help, watch, or offer guidance. It depends what it is. If the literature is something I'm interested in, I might read it with her, other times I have her do it on her own. It all depends on the kid, and on you, but we really enjoy it, and she does get more independent every year!
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I've used OMK and currently OM1 with my son, and OM4, OM5, and more than half of OM6 so far with my daughter.
So far it's all been broken down into 36 weekly lesson plans, although in my OM6 (I have an older version) social studies is broken down into days.
There is a lot of writing but I like that there are almost always creative choices of things to write about, hands on projects and activities, living books, lots of integration. And sometimes instead of writing they can choose to draw or make a model of something instead, and you can always modify if you feel there's too much writing- shorten it, do some of it orally, skip some of it, whatever.
I blog a lot about Oak Meadow if you want to check it out.
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Don't feel bad! We are just teasing, not in a mean way! Hope everything's ok!
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Frankly, it doesn't annoy me in the slightest, and people who find it annoying are just petty.
Except on Mondays, of course. (I agree that the Wednesday and Thursday people are petty)!
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That only annoys me on Mondays.
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I like jury duty lol. I would try to arrange childcare and go for it! We'd eventually catch up on school. Of course, if I couldn't get suitable child care for the kids, I'd have to try to back out based on that. I was on a jury once in my early 20's in NY. I thought it was a pretty cool experience. Haven't been called since.
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If this were the case in my house, I wouldn't be pursuing communication with my fil on the topic. I would just leave it alone. I would just communicate to the dc just as you have done. I wouldn't send back presents to dh or myself, but I wouldn't tell the dc that we got presents either. I would just leave it as is.
:iagree:, unless my husband wanted to bring it up to his father. In that case, I'd leave it between him and his father!
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Letting kids play @ neighbor's homes is very common. It is fine, of course, that you have a different standard, but I fail to see the real issue here.
I have to disagree on this one. Letting older kids play at neighbor's homes is common maybe, but sending a three year old off to play at someone else's house without parental permission when you don't even know that person and you're being paid to watch said three year old? Oh, heck no!
OP, I would have a friendly conversation with the dad (it's not your place to reprimand his babysitter).
If I were you, I would say something to the dad like, "Hi, I just wanted to let you know that I went over to your house the other day to see if your daughter could come play with my son, and your babysitter let her come over to play. I didn't keep her too long as I was a little worried that you might not want her going over someone else's house without your knowledge or permission, but a bit after that, she came back over with her little brother and said the babysitter had sent them both back over to play. This is how I handled it (insert). I just wanted to let you know in case this is something you want to discuss with your sitter in the future."
At the time that had happened, I would have said to the little girl, "I'm sorry, but we cannot let your little brother play over here without your dad saying it's okay. He is too young to leave the babysitter and come to someone else's house without his dad's permission. In fact, I want to make sure it's okay with your dad before you come over again, too." And I'd have watched them walk home, then talked to the dad afterward.
If I were babysitting and someone came over to ask if the 6 and/or 3 year olds I was watching could play, I would have said, "I'm sorry, I am babysitting them today and I can't let them go over to someone else's house unless their dad tells me it's okay. Do you want to leave your name and I'll mention it to him when he comes home to see if it's okay for next time?"
If I were the dad and I found out that my babysitter allowed my YOUNG children, and ESPECIALLY my three year old (but even my six year old!) to go over to someone else's house without my permission, especially someone I'd only met once and barely knew, I would flip out, and that babysitter would be fired. And yes, I realize the babysitter would have no way of knowing if it was a near stranger or a best friend who was doing the inviting, but it wouldn't matter. She should have said, "I'm sorry, not now, I'd have to check with the dad."
ETA: I know I said to just say something to the dad and that it's not your place to reprimand your babysitter, but upon thinking of it, I think it also would have been acceptable to walk the kids back over to the babysitter's house myself and said to the babysitter matter-of-factly, "Little girl just came over with her brother and said you told them both they could come play, but I walked them back because I am not comfortable having a child this young over at my house without their father telling me it's okay."
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I consider myself a fairly relaxed homeschooler. With my son, who is in 1st grade, I use Oak Meadow because it's Waldorfy, doesn't push early academics, is gentle and hands on and creative. We are using Reading Eggs, too, which he enjoys, but no stress or pressure. He's progressing with learning to read and we will continue with it over the year. I did not find pushing learning to read to be necessary in kindergarten.
I try to read to him as much as he will let me, sign him up for a variety of activities, take him on lots of outings and field trips, and try to encourage his interests, and I give him plenty of free time to do his own thing.
My daughter, 6th grade, uses Oak Meadow, too, because it's still not dry and text bookish but creative, fun, lots of literature and creative writing and integration and hands on projects. I read aloud a lot with her still. I let her sign up for multiple activities, I take her on lots of outings and field trips, and if she is interested in something, I try to find opportunities for her.
We follow rabbit trails and talk a lot.
I tend to revolve school around life, not revolve life around school. We get done what we can each day, but if there are interesting activities and opportunities and field trips and homeschool day programs, we don't hesitate to drop everything and go do it, because those things are educational, too, and great family bonding time, and provide rich experiences and fond childhood memories and so on.
The curriculum stuff, we finish it later, consolidate it into the rest of the week, occasionally skip it, but usually we get it done in the end.
I don't really do tests or grading or much busywork, I want them to enjoy most of what they are doing, and I figure if they do, they'll retain more of it anyway.
But I didn't pull my daughter out of public school and refrain from sending my son for academic reasons, really, I just hated a lot of things about our schools and the system and wanted my kids to have a better childhood.
We are accomplishing that, and learning a lot in a variety of ways at the same time, and I'm happy with the way things have been going.
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There is still a heartbeat which went from 82 to 96, so still low.
What's worse- there wasn't really any fetal growth at all from last week to this week. Last week I was 7w3d and measuring 5w6d. She said she should have seen some significant growth, but it's still just measuring right around 5w6d. It hasn't changed much at all.
She said she's "not as encouraged as she was last week" and that she can't throw in the towel or do anything since there's still a heartbeat, but it doesn't look good. She wants me to go back in another week. I feel like I'm just waiting out another dead baby. I'm heartbroken. She said if it doesn't continue they can do some chromosomal testing on it to try to find out why and determine whether I need more testing. And meanwhile all I can do is wait. It really, really sucks.
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You have the same list I do! :D Have you read Kim Harrison's Hollow Series? I also enjoy Lori Handeland's Phoenix series.
Thanks! :D I will look into those!
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:iagree::smilielol5::smilielol5::smilielol5:
Let's see, ummm.... Vampires, witches, lycan (of multiple forms), fae... Yeah, you could say I have a bit of a fantasy fiction problem. Well, bit might be a tiny understatement... :D
Me, too lol. So if I liked Laurel K. Hamilton's Anita Blake series and her Merry Gentry series, and J.R. Ward's Black Dagger Brotherhood series and her Fallen Angels series, and Karen M. Moning's Fever series, and the True Blood series, and the Dark Jewels series by Anne Bishop, and, yes, even the Twilight series...
What would you recommend I read next? :D
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Nance I'll bet it was the tea that caused the spotting! I've had that before, also you haven't had anymore or cramping. It's going to be okay, I made it to 9 weeks today!
Jen, that's awesome, congrats on another milestone! And every week is definitely a milestone! :)
Well, within about three hours I should find out where things stand with me! Still no further spotting or anything. I hope I get definitive great news today!
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Recently finished:
The Road, by Cormac McCarthy: The searing, postapocalyptic novel destined to become Cormac McCarthy's masterpiece.A father and his son walk alone through burned America. Nothing moves in the ravaged landscape save the ash on the wind. It is cold enough to crack stones, and when the snow falls it is gray. The sky is dark. Their destination is the coast, although they don't know what, if anything, awaits them there. They have nothing; just a pistol to defend themselves against the lawless bands that stalk the road, the clothes they are wearing, a cart of scavenged food-—and each other.The Road is the profoundly moving story of a journey. It boldly imagines a future in which no hope remains, but in which the father and his son, "each the other's world entire," are sustained by love. Awesome in the totality of its vision, it is an unflinching meditation on the worst and the best that we are capable of: ultimate destructiveness, desperate tenacity, and the tenderness that keeps two people alive in the face of total devastation.
Currently reading:
Impact, by Douglas Preston: Wyman Ford is tapped for a secret expedition to Cambodia... to locate the source of strangely beautiful gemstones that do not appear to be of this world. A brilliant meteor lights up the Maine coast... and two young women borrow a boat and set out for a distant island to find the impact crater. A scientist at the National Propulsion Facility discovers an inexplicable source of gamma rays in the outer Solar System. He is found decapitated, the data missing. High resolution NASA images reveal an unnatural feature hidden in the depths of a crater on Mars... and it appears to have been activated. Sixty hours and counting.
COMPLETE
1. Envy, by J.R. Ward (Fallen Angels series)
2. Kiss of the Highlander, by Karen Marie Moning (Highlander series)
3. The Ramayana, A Shortened Modern Prose Version of the Indian Epic, by R.K. Narayan (with my daughter for school reading)
4. Dark Highlander, by Karen Marie Moning (Highlander series)
5. The Immortal Highlander, by Karen Marie Moning (Highlander series)
6. Spell of the Highlander, by Karen Marie Moning (Highlander series)
7. 11/22/63, by Stephen King
8. The Traveler, by John Twelve Hawks (Fourth Realm Trilogy, Book 1)
9. Into the Dreaming, by Karen Marie Moning (Highlander series)
10. A Judgement In Stone, by Ruth Rendel
11. The Dark River, by John Twelve Hawks (Fourth Realm Trilogy, Book 2)
12. The Golden City, by John Twelve Hawks (Fourth Realm Trilogy, Book 3)
13. Forbidden Pleasure, by Lora Leigh
14. Relic, by Douglas Preston and Lincoln Child
15. House Rules, by Jodi Picoult
16. Midwives, by Chris Bohjalian
17. Wind Through the Keyhole, by Stephen King
18. The High Flyer, by Susan Howatch.
19. Daughter of the Blood, by Anne Bishop (The Black Jewels Trilogy, Book 1)
20. Heir to the Shadows, by Anne Bishop (The Black Jewels Trilogy, Book 2)
21. The Host, by Stephenie Meyer
22. Queen of the Darkness, by Anne Bishop (The Black Jewels Trilogy, Book 3)
23. The Invisible Ring, by Anne Bishop (The Black Jewels series)
24. Fifty Shades of Grey, by E.L. James
25. Fifty Shades Darker, by E.L. James
26. Fifty Shades Freed, by E.L. James
27. Dreams Made Flesh, by Anne Bishop (The Black Jewels series)
28. Tangled Webs, by Anne Bishop (The Black Jewels series)
29. Goodnight Nobody, by Jennifer Weiner
30. Kiss the Dead, by Laurell K. Hamilton (Anita Blake, Vampire Hunter series)
31. The Shadow Queen, by Anne Bishop (The Black Jewels series)
32. The Read-Aloud Handbook, by Jim Trelease
33. Ahab's Wife, by Sena Jeter Naslund
34. Shalador's Queen, by Anne Bishop (The Black Jewels series)
35. Sebastian, by Anne Bishop (Ephemera, Book 1)
36. The Devil Wears Prada, by Lauren Weisberger
37. The Good Sister, by Drusilla Campbell
38. The Lost Boy, by David Pelzer
39. Little Children, by Tom Perotta
40. Her Fearful Symmetry, by Audrey Niffenegger
41. The Road, by Cormac McCarthy
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42. The Neverending Story, by Michael Ende, translated by Ralph Manheim, aloud to my son.
43. Smiles to Go, by Jerry Spinelli, aloud with my daughter.
44. Impact, by Douglas Preston, to myself
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We both like it and so do the kids.
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When is the next appointment? Tomorrow, right?
Yes, tomorrow at 11 AM!
In which strider's dh pulls off the Best Boys' Birthday Party. EVER.
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Definitely awesome!! Happy birthday to your son!