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Bill is not a troll. He’s been here for a long time.
I know. I was lurking for many years on the old boards before he showed up. He was more respectful during those days.
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Is this Bill person a troll?
:lol: :lol: The HIVE troll hunters vetted him many years ago. Why or how, I'm not sure but you are not alone in that thought :laugh:
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I've had "flu like illness" twice that I can remember and one case of RSV. I'll take the flu over RSV any day. But, there are 6 of us total, and we've only had the flu confirmed twice among all of us and only had flu like symptoms about 4 times over the years.
Hubby and I did the flu shot before kids and nearly died. We did our duty, got vaccinated, came had home, and that afternoon were in bed. I believe we both had Gillian Barre syndrome but were too sick to get help and too sick to think about calling 911. We just laid in bed and periodically nudged the other and said breathe, I don't hear you breathing. My hubby did call the doctor around day 4 when he "woke " up and that guy said just get rest and fluids, I'm sure it hadn't been that bad. I remember I had trouble walking for awhile and kept dropping things for a long time. Hubby has had nerve issues in his feet (tingling and random pain) ever since too. So we do not do the flu shot. I was forced to do it one year for a job and again had flu like symptoms by the afternoon. I've said no ever since and just take the punishment from work for not getting it. Hubby can't remember what he had for lunch much less what happened yesterday and 25 years later he vividly recalls being horribly deathly ill after getting a flu vaccine.
My second son caught rsv as a baby and that landed him in the hospital. So I stayed at the hospital as sick as the baby and the nurses/dr took pity on me and gave me medicine too and hubby stayed home with the other kid and did nothing but stay in bed for 4 days. Oldest son had flu confirmed in highschool and second son had flu confirmed as a toddler.
Now this year, pretty much the entire staff of my floor at the hosptial has been sick with confirmed flu and most of them received the flu vaccine and were sick within three days of it. Several of them are on round two of flu. We have at any given time (we are a surgery floor so they try not to put flu pts there) 5-6 flu pts with flu each shift.. I mask and gown up and wash hands every single time and have lucked up so far. From my experience, best way to avoid the flu is wear a mask, wash hands frequently, wipe down doorknobs and faucets everyday, and take high amounts of Vit d and Vit c. I think it works better than the flu vaccine.
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At least Oprah came from nothing and climbed her way to the top. And used her power to try to do better and used it show and discuss others thought processes. And tried to enlighten people thru somewhat self awareness. She has more in common with me background wise than most politicians. I feel she would understand my position better than those in national politics currently. If she didn't, I don't get the impression she would belittle me or mock me or be unkind.
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Start organizing. Put out a facebook page and offer a free consultation. You may be surprised at who recommends you. Because if you are an organized person, your family/friends/acquaintances know it and will pass your name around. People who need to declutter or downsize are other possibilities as well. Heck, one friend I know hired someone to organize her move by overseeing the movers packing it up and then directing where all the boxes should go in the new place. Said it was the least stressful move ever. Make a page, see what happens.
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Well, I fell in love with Google home last year, added a kid - google mini this year for Christmas and am going to buy a couple more of them next time I go out because he is so dang useful and ........brought in another woman called BIXBY as well.......OMG.....Bixby voice on samsung is the BOMB. That woman gets stuff done. She isn't as global as Google but she gets down into the nitty gritty like looks up my app and turns the volume on the TV. Takes pictures for me by VOICE COMMAND....I love BIxby. Makes voice notes in my notes. She is the best second wife ever into this assistant marriage.
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I have a type b husband. Im type a to the max.... and after a few times of waiting and waiting and waiting for unplanned things.....ya know can't eat because the event might include food, can't do our schedule thing because they might arrive....i finally just started telling him....I must know now. Make the phone call, send the text, find out a time, an arrival, and plans..... I have 4 kids with schedules. Find out now or you will be fully responsible for everything related to your event and we will follow our schedule as we will not interrupt our plans for iffy plans.
He finally gets it now. We have to have plans. I started a Google calendar and everyone's schedule is color coded on it. That helped him realize I'm not just anal type a stressing over a time. I really do have two kids over here and one over there and work in dinner as well. It does require coordination.
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I grew up being dragged pillar to post every Christmas. And staying at one Grandma's with all the cousins on Christmas eve and opening gifts on Christmas morning. It was absolutely horrible. Everyone had to see what you got and you had to behave and let everyone touch your presents and pass it around and by the time it got back to you... the shiny penny was a little dull and a little less shiny if still intact. There was no room , no fun and just a bunch of people I saw once a year.
And divorce screws things over royally for grown ups. When you have 4 adults who expect to spend Christmas morning watching grandkids open gifts and add your parents to bring that up to 6 adults and none of them like the other enough to be more than barely acceptable polite to each other, one can't have them over to your house at the same time and one can't go to anyone's house without the others being upset. So, we stay home and have a good time by ourselves.
And now that only one is left alive, she has decided that she will not visit us on Christmas because the kids are too interested in playing with Santa toys and doing their thing and don't pay attention to her. And the house is messy, and the dinner isn't special enough and we are still trying to get out of PJs and get showered when she comes over and that is a grave sin. She didn't even allow her children to open Santa until they were showered and dressed in Sunday best with the perfect Christmas breakfast on the table. They sat down with her parents and had a proper breakfast and then took turns opening presents and oohing and ahhing over each thing. Seriously, first Christmas I was invited to I was told to be there about 5am. I told him he was absolutely nuts. Then our first married Christmas, we stayed Christmas eve and Christmas morning and he had me up in the shower getting ready at like 430. I told him he was nuts in much firmer language. :lol:
Nearly 30 years later, he isn't even out of pjs until noon, breakfast isn't until 8 or 9 and I'm not sure the kids even get out of jammies. The only thing my kids wait on is me finding the camera and my cup of coffee.
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I know someone who carries around a bunch of colored pens because she likes color-coding notes and such. But once she lost one of her pens. She went nuts trying to find that pen, questioning people about her pen, sending email around asking if anyone saw her [whatever color] pen. Her whole system was messed up because she lost a pen!
(I'm not equating anyone who likes color-coding with someone who is neurotic about their pens.)
Yep this is me.... i either cant mark in it because its not perfect or not color coded. So I put it together on my phone. I can make all my coloring pages, add in photos, notes, etc, make perfectly aligned lists and grids and not have messy eraser marks. Works pretty well for me on my phablet.
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Mine are spread across a span with 12 years between the oldest and youngest. I used to keep it equal to money and number but as more kids came along...well how many toys/clothes can a toddler get to equal a phone or a car and what toy do we not own at this point? So now I go for impact. We make sure each kid gets a thing or two that is a gift they wanted and dreamed of and never expected (as we can). Sometimes, the gift is shared. Sometimes, the gift is something one kid needed that the others will need at that point in their life when it comes around. the money is all over the place because a gift for a 17 year old is vastly different than a 8 year old or a toddler. i do try to keep the mound of presents the same but we don't open them one at a time though I have noticed the olders will wait and watch the littles open their's so we kinda do watch each other open gifts. (just not in turn) In the end,I think my kids feel it is fair and no one kid favored over the other , no favored child syndrome or golden child. Now if they were all in close age range, I would try to keep things pretty similar but their interests/desires would probably be closer to each other.
What I will not do is what my hubby's in laws did after the second child was born. They gave my oldest a gazillion things at Christmas. They gave the baby 2 items, like a paci and an outfit. " He's a baby, he's the second, you should have stuff for him from what the first grew out of". Umm, no, it's Christmas. You can make it a little more equal than that.
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At the hospital, most engrave it so when it sprouts legs and walks away it can be found again.
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Just read this.
My reaction is run. Do not consider this job. Just run.
Worth repeating.
I have seen the room and board offered. It covered all needs. Food, utilities, medical, phone, car provided, gas provided, and college. Basically, everything you would provide for a college kid. The girl also had agreed upon "on" times and "off" times and worked around the school schedule. They took care of her and she provided after school care, date nights and a couple of evenings a week along with light housekeeping (they had a maid service that came in). She even worked out an arrangement with another family and babysat their children on some of her "off time" for spending money.
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While my home isn't as simplified as eternal summer, I will say that if I fully clean, homeschool ALL the things, and cook, I'm still looking at less than 5 hours max. We have 2 baths and they get spritzed and wiped down everyday, mopped once a week, beds are made daily, laundry done daily, vacuum everything but the bedrooms daily, and dust once a week. And due to food allergies, I do have to cook most of our stuff from scratch which is where the majority of my time is spent with homeschooling 3 kids next. I followed flylady for a long time and the house is a breeze to clean cause I decided what was worth dusting (which amounts to a handful of items) and figured out everything must have a place or things get tossed. Hubby is dying to get a griddle and I'm like find a place for it because the counter is not acceptable and there isn't any cabinet space. When you find a spot, get one.
Now there were times when I was overwhelmed and had way too much to due and said SCREW THAT! Then we focused on the important stuff. To my hubby, he likes the house picked up and perfect when he comes home and to smell good. Okay.... I get that. So we do a pick up before he comes home. and we do one around lunch. Everything has a place and everything in its place and if you don't want to take care of your stuff, then pick it up and put in the trash....I don't care what you do with it but pick it up is your only option. Sometimes, the kids say SCREW THAT and decide the toy/game/thing is not worth the time it takes to pick it up and they haul it to the trash. Most times, they put it away. But, everything has a place so it makes it really easy and no one kid has enough stuff to make it hard for even a 4 year old to put everything back. (they may choose not to but that is a different story).
It is important to me that the bathrooms be clean and good food on the table.
The rest of it, I agree with Eternal summer.....whatever they come out dressed in is good enough unless it involves a societal expectation that requires special dress arrangements (black tie, weddings, special events etc) They get their own food for breakfast and lunch unless I'm feeling super pumped at cooking another meal. The makings of those meals are prepped though when I buy groceries. I no longer give a rat's pootie about well dressed, perfect, matching, ironed etc. They are clean, hygiene completed and done. IF they want to look better, I show them how. I make sure I look good and they tend to follow. If they could care less, well for the most part, I let the natural consequences of weird looks and comments from others clue them into maybe they should have tried a little more this morning. (side eye at the teen son who likes the "I rolled out my cardboard box bed under a bridge" including scruffy beard face look. He even uses a soap called dirty hippie :svengo: )
And I don't take care of my husband. He's a grown ass man and I am doing the majority of the parenting trying to raise some people to become grown ass adults. Thus, he can figure out how to make his own lunch, his own dinner even if he doesn't like the meal. Over the years of multiple bed rests during my pregnancies, he discovered he would rather clean the tub and do the laundry ( our clothing, he only in the last couple of years figured out towels and sheets are washed too LOL!). So he does those two chores, each kid does their own laundry and bedding, and I make sure everyone knows how to take care of all their stuff and keep it running. He's grateful the house is typically clean and food in the pantry and a meal on the table, the bills paid and that the kids can and will help with household chores. I'm delighted I don't have to clean the freaking tub or put our laundry away. Win-Win!!!!
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Associates in nursing is not a stepping stone to BSN. BSN and ADN both graduate with the skills needed to sit for the Nclex. Both are hired and both start as baby nurses. And in my area, the ADN is considered the student better prepared for bedside nursing as the tech school concentrates on skills and not management. It actually takes longer to precept/orient a direct entry BSN than direct entry ADN because of the lack of hands on skills. When I went back for my BSN, I learned not one thing to supplement my nursing career. It was fluff -histories, science, math...thanks to my two associate degrees, I had many of the general ed requirements and finished it in under a year part time.
any accomplishment counts for some type of celebration around here. A gift, dinner, party......something to show good job let's be happy for ya.
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About that homeschooling....if you are stressed and exhausted teaching a 6 year old, you are doing too much or there is some major learning issues at play. Look at what skills your child needs to have to be a contributing member of society and get into college if needed. Then step back from that and see when what needs to be taught and when it matters. even 8 years olds don't need to write a report . At age 6, really nothing at all beyond their interests. Do not go along with the public school do this and hat by this age unless you intend to put them in school. It does not really go along with when a child is ready to learn. Otherwise, teach what strikes their fancy.
I did this with a kid who still managed to get a full ride scholarship and another that will get at least a half scholarship. Two more to go and guess what, by middle school, they are past their public school counterparts. IN elementary school, they were way behind. Don't sweat it.
For 6 year olds, I taught reading and math. Sometimes did a craft. Everything else was a pick a book about history and science and read. All subjects were as wrapped up into each other as possible. All into dinos, we read about them, copied sentences from the books about them, narrated sentences about them, retold stories, classified them, organized them, figured out their height and weight and compared it to everyday objects . I rarely spent more than an hour on school until maybe 3rd and we began to step it up. I forced mandatory quite time, clean up time, and had reading out loud time.
Co-ops once a week gave them some extra but wasn't necessary.
Your oldest is 6. Focus on reading and basic math. Read, read, read. Teach them to take care of their stuff, their room, give them simple chores. honestly those skills are as important as school. They will use "running a vacuum, dishwasher, washing machine" nearly every day of their life. If you teach them now how to do those things and point out when it needs to be done, you will actually make your life easier. When they are late elementary, you will be way more involved in their lives and schooling. I have never regretted the time I spent teaching how to pick up and clean. we can now zip through the house all together and have it tidy in no time and clean in less than an hour because every kid knows how. Even the two year old can take clothes from the dryer to the couch for you. It might take a long time but you would be amazed at what you get done while they are hauling a piece of clothing from dryer to couch.
You are pregnant, your oldest is 6 and by choice or necessity it sounds like you have to operate as a single mom. Cut yourself some slack, focus on the important stuff and remember you have a solid decade of teaching to get all the skills in. Don't burn your self out the first year trying to overteach or impress with how advance the child is. Focus on the long term goal - an adult who can read, communicate well (written and spoken), and has the ability to learn what they need as life gives it to them and take care of themselves as fits their abilities.
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I just rounded up all the various oils I have around the house and didn't realize I had such a collection. How do people organize them as obviously I have rather failed at the put them in a cabinet and use them method. I ,at least now, know what I have and have it in one location. Any great ideas for storage of these little oily bottles?
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PLEASE do your research on the safety of ingesting essential oils. For the most part, there is absolutely NO reason to ingest an essential oil. Keep in mind essential oils and herbs, while both from plants, react VERY differently internally. Also, essential oils are HIGHLY concentrated plant constituents. It takes 150 pounds of the lavender plant to make one pound of the essential oil. Most can drink one cup of lavender tea (made from the herb) without adverse side effects. The same is not true for drinking the essential oil. If there IS ever a reason to ingest an essential oil, it should ONLY be under the educated guidance of a certified herbalist or aromatherapist. Most MLMers are not properly educated on this.
Completely agree......I just gave my co-worker the side eye...... My doctor prescribes Doterra oils and has never prescribed any to ingest. But they are always adding a drop of this and drop of that to their drinks.
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Are any of these companies selling oils that are for internal use ? I have a coworker who touts YL as the absolute best because you can drink it LOL! But I just want some to diffuse and maybe clean and didn't know if that really makes a difference? And any vanilla? That's all my hubby wants to smell!
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Hmm well .......here's a question in FE does the dome actually touch the edge? Could there be a space on the edge and then perhaps the bottom? What's to stop me from going over the edge, down the side, across the bottom, and up the other and back to the top? What keeps everything stuck to the flat earth. Is it a flat circle, flat oval or flat rectangle?? Does the sun rise from the "top"side or the "side" side ? Do we still have 24 hour days? 4 seasons (well I'm in the south I only experience Hot and Hotter with a touch of cool)
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In all of humanity, not one single person has ever found the edge? People predicted where they thought land masses would be and went out and found them. Not in all of history has one smart behind said "here Hold my beer" and reached his hand over the edge? Tons did so when the earth was thought to be round but in flat earth universe no human has? I call BS :laugh: :lol: . Human nature would simply not allow such a claim to stand without being the first to see it.
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I would split it between us. The reward was a perk and I'd share it among us all if I could.
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Normal speech , yes a 5 year old should be able to participate. But kids in speech therapy aren't quite on the normal speech spectrum. Speech works on sounds. Words are later depending on skill and ability as the sounds are mastered. Asking a speech kid to perform a word outside of that plan on the fly is not acceptable unless that word and the sounds have already been covered and is now being used in context. Putting pressure on a child to produce that word before it's properly mastered and prepared to be used can backfire drastically. But again, it depends on where your child is on the speech spectrum. Different places on that spectrum require different strategies. A child that won't speak has a different method than one who stutters or mispronounces his p's or has a lisp. A therapist must differentiate treatment. And social niceness isn't always on the list. Especially a child that won't speak. If he freezes while speaking, forcing him to say it on demand isn't really the way. Saying that word and its sounds during therapy in games and practice until it is comfortable for the child is first and foremost. Then breaking the habit of not using it is next.
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My son was selective mute. Forcing a child to speak is a load of crap. We were fired from our last speech program because they couldn't get him to speak and I wouldn't discipline him into speaking. I was told if I couldn't manage him at 5 how would I control him as he got older? I needed to find his currency and discipline him were it hurt him the most. I was like really? I asked them repeatedly to only focus on the sounds and forget the social niceties and manners. My husband even spoke with them. We didn't need them to focus on his scissors ability, demand performance, ability to sit in a chair for 45 minutes or to obey when she demanded. He only became more stubborn and completely shut down what little speech he had been doing.
He's 7 now, nearly 8, and spoke to the librarian he has seen pretty much every 2 weeks since birth? for the first time a couple of weeks ago. I wish I had dropped speech therapy instead of sticking it out for that year because I truly believe it set him back by years. He's only in the last year started speaking to anyone outside the family or outside the house. We went to this special program because they were good with the preschool group, well respected among the multitude of speech therapist we had had over the years, and seemed great. They were not a good fit for selectively mute children. It isn't shyness or social anxiety. I can't explain what it is but forcing them to speak...disaster.
Hindsight, I would have left after that session where the teacher took back his candy because he didn't say Thank you despite the fact that he uttered his first word ever outside of my house and the first word in that building. When asked if he wanted candy he said Yes. He was told had to speak to get it. He said yes, she said now you have to say thank you and he froze. She took it back and told him next time he would remember to listen to her. I'm pretty sure for the next year of work, he probably never said more than 50 words ( for the entire time and I'm being generous with that number) in therapy. And those words were usually because i got involved in and worked with him. She could not get him to do squat.
So yes, one should work on social niceness but it depends on why your child isn't talking as to whether speech should work on it.
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Because I am a kid who grew up in a house where both parents were primary responsible for elders who wouldn't move to accommodate their caregivers.
I swore then I wouldn't do the same to my children.
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We will rejoin scouts. My girl is already planning on how she can earn her eagle and what camping places we are going to go. She will have to wait till 2019 for the Older scout program but she's pumped.
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Larry Nassar
in The Chat Board
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Some info on stats...... I participated recently in a 40 hour assault class, domestic violence and elder abuse class (child issues are a separate class outside of this particular certification though it did cover from puberty - age 9ish -10ish) The stats are for my particular state which I don't care to disclose as the above is enough is enough to out me IRL if coupled with some other posts.
These are rough numbers as I wrote down ish numbers and not the actual down to the decimal point
From my state (around 5 million)
One woman a week dies from domestic violence.
Sexual assault exams/ protocol medications and follow up visits are paid through victim services. They report paying out over 5152 claims in the last reported year.
The police in the same state in the same year reported 1100ish cases reported,filed, paperwork done.
The State attorney stated the same year less than 1% of all cases are taken to trial but a little over 10% are plea bargained out to lesser charges and don't go through court. Stated the rates were on par with the rest of the nation.
Don't know whether the following was national level or still just my state
19.3% of women raped in their life
43.9% have experienced sexual violence
8.8% been raped by partner
40% raped before 18
We have entire counties that have 0 rape from the law side and hundreds and hundreds of rape kits from the medical side.
Staggering.