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My kids both live about 2 hours drive away. They will tell me if they’re coming home a day or more in advance. They know I only buy snacks when I know they’re coming 😀. They usually turn up with laundry.
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Whatever photographs you donate, please add who is in the photograph or where it was taken onto the back! I am into genealogy as well and was given a bunch of old photographs for my own as well as Dh's sides of the family. I've spent hours pouring over them trying to work out who is who. My unknowns went to an art studio where they've been 'art'-cycled.
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I don't like cluttered surfaces, but I don't mind the curated box-framed sentimental items and black and white photographs that I've hung on our study wall.
These are things like small carved elephants that a dear friend made, my baby shoe that my grandfather had bronzed, needlepoint that my mom made, a small ornamental plate, etc. All of the frames are similar so it makes a cohesive whole within a rectangular shape. If you dh is handy, you could pick up old frames at a charity shop, add a box at the back and paint them the same colour.
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On 6/13/2024 at 10:34 PM, happypamama said:
Meal rotation, sort of. Monday, chicken. Tuesday, something taco-ish. And so on. I don't always stick to it, but it helped me not feel quite so overwhelmed by a totally empty slate. I know some people like a strict rotation where they always do specific meals on specific days, but I get bored easily, so having somewhat of an idea helps me a lot.
We have a list of 30 standard meals to rotate. I don’t always follow it exactly, or might try something new, but I have done so in the past when I’ve felt overwhelmed with decision fatigue.
The recipes are in a plastic sleave binder and I check off the ingredients that we don’t have available and pick that up for the week.I have yet to learn to cook for only two and we often eat the same thing twice in a row with just a small fresh salad, or we take leftovers to work for lunch.
I am a ‘functional’ cook. The meals and recipes are tasty, and reasonably balanced, but pretty much the same each time. Eldest Dd and Dh are the creative chefs.
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Cheddar
Gouda
Feta
(above are the supermarket staples)
Slice of wild mushroom brie
Small provolone
(From a quarterly market)
We have no deli within a 100km radius and haven’t been out of town recently.
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All the very best!
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Travel. The experience is priceless.
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15 hours ago, SHP said:
How do you all manage to have people there 24/7 when hospitals do not allow visitors after a certain time? 🤔
I was wondering that too.
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4 hours ago, Harriet Vane said:
There are studies that suggest it's a good layer of protection against long covid.
Avoid long COVID any way you can. I have adult onset epilepsy and my neurologist says she has suddenly seen a lot more neurological issues in younger people after Covid. Research is supporting this.
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All the best for your son’s recovery!
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If you are able to sleep on the plane and handle the jet lag (I’m not), it may be worth it to travel for a weekend with your daughter. But as you said, you are going to see very little of the city and it will be a stressful rush to pack as much as possible into a day and a half.
If it were me, I’d go for the trip to New York and have a relaxed time with Dd. July is around the corner.
Even if it seems unlikely now, you and Dd could plan to go to Madrid in the future for a more leisurely experience.
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6 minutes ago, Laura Corin said:
My mum rode her motorbike until we had a couple of particularly bad winters when she was around 85. I'm sure the bike and lots of functional walking kept her strong.
This part of her sounds very cool!
I can't link the site directly at the moment, but this article summarizes what you can put into a "a check list for checking out". I must admit that ours is not yet complete.
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32 minutes ago, Laura Corin said:
Just so that people are clear about the difference - my mother was not in hospice care. She did not have a terminal illness. She was just very old and tired, and did not want her life prolonged.
My father, at 82, still rides his motorcycle and is in excellent health, both mentally and physically. He has all his affairs in order, including having arranged for me to have a second card on his bank account, granted me power of attorney, and provided a copy of his living will. Additionally, he's shared his actual will with me, as I am his executor. I appreciate his openness in discussing and preparing all these matters, as it will significantly ease the process for everyone, including his wife, when the time comes.
The other day Dad sent me a receipt for their niches in the cremation wall at their church!! He has chosen exactly where they will be to overlook the sea and told me that it would save me the effort and cost of hiring a boat and spreading his ashes, as the view would be enough. He included the instruction that he wants his friend's harmonica, which was a gift to him, slipped into the box as friend's wife overlooked doing it when he passed and that his niche is just two away from his friend and that may give her some comfort!
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33 minutes ago, Elizabeth86 said:
Yea, definitely natural deaths. Idk it just bothers me. For instance, my parents just bought my bff’s childhood home and both her parents passed away there and honestly it’s just on my mind every time I’m there. I can’t not think about it. I just worry it will bother my kids. It might not though
They died in their own, familiar home and that is a gift. Death is part of the cycle of life and should be discussed, even with young children. I think it’s going to depend on how you frame it for them whether they’re bothered or not.
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12 minutes ago, gstharr said:
When this happened to me, i made the mistake of not clearing the house for several years. I mean not taking down pictures, rearranging anything, tossing personal effects. I felt so much better when I finally made it my home, and just left a few mementos in tribute.
I would clear the entire house as if they had moved out (without any guilt), do whatever maintenance and upgrades are required and then move in your own things. Keep the momentoes you would have wanted if you’d have stayed in your own home.
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8 hours ago, Faith-manor said:
Ting Tang, if I remember other things you have shared correctly, I would encourage you to work outside the home even if the job wages are low, and save that money.
I 100% agree. It will also be a big boost to your self esteem.
Even if you can’t find anything locally, look at the freelance sites.I have a friend who now makes good money ghostwriting. Mostly fiction. She started by taking literally any work she could find on Upwork and Guru and grew from there over the last 5 years. Now she has learned to be extremely efficient doing 8000 words per day. She built a reputation on turning in quality work within agreed deadlines.
Another friend gave up teaching and works in the season going from farm to farm to scan for pregnancy.
you could look at other skills you may have that you didn’t think could make money. Present a craft lesson at a local wool or art shop. Indoor plants? Gardening? The options are endless if you start looking.
You need to start working however small to get better paying work.
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I’d prefer a small item handcrafted locally than something with a state name as those are often made in China! You can add a short bio of the craftsperson or artist.
Something like a small artwork of a local flower, or nature scene. Small handcrafted bowl. It doesn’t need to be big or expensive to have meaning.
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6 hours ago, rzberrymom said:
Ok, it sounds like I definitely need to get her to a new stable. Thanks all! I really had no idea if I was being a nutty helicopter parent!
Without a doubt. The horses are poorly trained and with normalisation of being thrown, someone is going to get seriously hurt. The instructor is also not teaching the riders how to ‘sit through’ the buck.
My kids have had lessons since eldest was 6 and both have competed to the highest level in showing, dressage, cross-country eventing, saddle-seat and showjumping. They have ridden school ponies, trained novice horses and highly strung off the track horses. They have been bucked off, as have I (once), but it happens very very rarely. They ride less now, but at school it was four days a week. -
I’m not someone who can be still either, but I have found art classes to be very therapeutic to just be in the moment and getting into the flow. It is the closest I’ll get to being still apart from getting lost in a book. And I’m fine with that. I’ve got a very outcomes driven personality and I’m a fixer. I like to fill my time because I’m happier doing stuff.
In my art class I do criticise myself a lot, and the gap between my taste and skill is huge, but when I remind myself it’s about the process, and not the result, I enjoy it the most.
The other times I’ve really have to be in the moment and get out of fixing mode is when I do lay counselling. Just making space to hold someone’s pain or anxiety without trying to offer solutions right away. Acknowledging them and validating how they feel. It requires inner stillness.Our environment is probably similar to what you’ve experienced in Kenya where the need is obvious and huge, but I think there could still be part-time volunteering opportunities in your community that will make you feel satisfied that you’ve done your part.
Maybe you’re overlooking the really simple things like reading to someone in a care home, or leading devotions. You can tell them up front it will be short-term.
Hospitals have chaplains who can direct you to someone who just needs more time than the chaplain can give. Nobody is in hospital long enough to start relying on you to come back. There is a charity here called Hospivision that trains volunteers as lay counsellors to do this work, but I’m sure there would be other ways of going about it.
Writing is not my thing, but could getting into a state of flow give you that stillness?
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On 5/13/2024 at 6:44 PM, fairfarmhand said:
The remnants...it's still here. Still with me. Still sustaining me. And even though I will vanish in the wind someday, left memorialized by a tombstone, that love will live on in my great great great whatever grandchildren.
I love this. Thank you.
I was 18 when my Mom died (she was 14 years younger than I am now, so I’ve been on “borrowed time” for a while). know her love lives on in all who knew her.
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My name is a variation of my grandmother’s Johanna.
As students in the late eighties we played this Eddy Grant song, which was banned by the apartheid government at the time, handing dubbed cassette tape copies between friends.
https://youtu.be/R-ZplG81oZg?si=VBP60gmsoYFTkXbX
it refers to the city of Johannesburg though, but was the first that came to mind.
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So sorry for your loss Ottakee.
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2 hours ago, Rosie_0801 said:
I am mending the quilt the boardies made me 10 years ago. ❤️
Lots of love and comforting hugs to you Rosie.
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All the very best for her interview!!
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The kids are welcome to bring friends at any time and we’re the 2nd home for a few who live too far to go home regularly. I do usually want a heads-up to know how much dinner to prepare. I learnt my lesson when they brought male friends! We don’t keep a fully stocked freezer due to regular black-outs.