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  1. Are you in a place where you can do the military equivalent of vrbo? When we were stationed oversees we did that a lot. We got some great places to swap- we just had to be a bit flexible on times and locations e.g. suburbs of the capital rather than a hotel in central city. But we normally got the place for nominal charge so the extra travel costs were negligible

  2. For reference: my 91 year old mother lives with me in Scotland, so I have a lot of experience of getting in to see specialists. The longest wait has been a couple of months for something that was uncomfortable but not life-threatening. A GP appointment for an urgent matter is same-day. For a non-urgent matter with a named GP it could be a week or two. It's fine.

    My sister married a Brit and she and her family did not have that experience. They all lived in London. Earliest "emergency" appt to get treatment for a fast spreading cancer that has been the cause of death for several family members was over a year. We flew her back and got treatment here in the states in just weeks. Her MIL often had wait times of 9-12 months for specialists.
  3. I think if you broke the poll down by "what media outlet do you consult for news" then you'd probably find that Americans watching mainstream weren't particularly informed, but those that are NPR, BBC, and PBS people - oh and for me, we also regularly read the Copenhagen Post - were more aware, more informed. Now my version of "more informed" for myself in particular is still more ignorant than I'd like to be about the issue, but I'm learning at least.

    Several news outlets have had decent coverage of the Brexit. Wsj has had some very good pro and con articles. Heck even the USA Today had articles about it when I read it at a hotel I suspect media has covered it somewhat but that people aren't actually reading it.

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  4. My husband uses it and I have friends that use it that have had good results. I'm always really skeptical about things like this, but I think it's worth looking into. I've seen too many people being helped by it. And these are people that I know well and trust. There probiotic especially is one of the best. My sister was able to get over years of battling with yeast infections while using it and my husband was helped with a lot of digestive issues.

    Probiotics are great. Have your family members tried other probiotics? There are a lot of high quality ones out there that could help and save you money. My family takes this one that we get at WF. It has 5 billion active cultures as opposed to only 2 billion for plexus. http://www.wholefoodsmarket.com/products/jarrow-formulas-jarro-dophilus-eps

    My BIL has gird and all sorts of digestive issues. He swears by this one. It has 85 billion live cultures.

    http://www.supplementsgeeks.com/raw-probiotics-men-90-ct-p-4914.html?gclid=CNn3pt2mv80CFUI9gQodQOADVg

  5. Horrible customer service/ripoff. I tried it for a month. Didn't work so I cancelled. They billed my card and sent me stuff anyway. I tried to return the unopened package they sent and get them to stop charging my card. Took way too long, too many calls and way too much time on hold. A friend who now sells it said she had heard that happened to lots of customers but it's a really great product. What? No thank you.

    She also is pushing me to buy their expensive probiotic. Whole foods and trader joes have better ones than plexus for way less money.

    Run away from plexus. Bad bad news

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  6. One thing I think all of this makes clear. Drinking and making decisions is a bad combination. Drinking and driving is bad, drinking and having sex can be bad. I've told my older boys that to be on the safe side they should not hook up with anyone who has been drinking or while they have been drinking. They need to have their wits about them. And we've also discussed how by being sober they can possibly help others not get in risky situations.

     

    Eta: reread my post and need to make clear that I'm not talking about the initial post. Unconscious people can't give consent. No gray area there. No questions. No asking for it. Im talking about the gray area when two are drunk and making bad decisions.

  7. This is another interesting article on the topic- specifically it does a good job of looking at the 1 in 5 statistic.

     

     

    "That’s the number most often used to suggest there is overwhelming sexual violence on America’s college campuses. It comes from a 2007 study funded by the National Institute of Justice, called the Campus Sexual Assault Study, or CSA. (I cited it last year in a story on campus drinking and sexual assault.) The study asked 5,466 female college students at two public universities, one in the Midwest and one in the South, to answer an online survey about their experiences with sexual assault. The survey defined sexual assault as everything from nonconsensual sexual intercourse to such unwanted activities as “forced kissing,†“fondling,†and “rubbing up against you in a sexual way, even if it is over your clothes.†There are approximately 12 million female college students in the U.S. (There are about 9 million males.) I asked the lead author of the study, Christopher Krebs, whether the CSA represents the experience of those millions of female students. His answer was unequivocal: “We don’t think one in five is a nationally representative statistic.†It couldn’t be, he said, because his team sampled only two schools. “In no way does that make our results nationally representative,†Krebs said"

     

    "The Sexual Victimization of College Women, a 2000 study commissioned by the U.S. Department of Justice, is the basis for another widely cited statistic, even grimmer than the finding of CSA: that one in four college women will be raped. (An activist organization, One in Four, takes its name from the finding.) The study itself, however, found a completed rape rate among its respondents of 1.7 percent. How does a study that finds less than 2 percent of college women in a given year are raped become a 25 percent likelihood? In addition to the 1.7 percent of victims of completed rape, the survey found that another 1.1 percent experienced attempted rape. As the authors wrote, “[O]ne might conclude that the risk of rape victimization for college women is not high; ‘only’ about 1 in 36 college women (2.8 percent) experience a completed rape or attempted rape in an academic year.â€

     

    http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2014/12/college_rape_campus_sexual_assault_is_a_serious_problem_but_the_efforts.html

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  8. It is more than an anomoly. This article gives a decent overview.

     

    http://www.newsweek.com/2015/12/18/other-side-sexual-assault-crisis-403285.html

     

    ’â€The issues lawyers take with school proceedings include the vague notices schools send accused students; the single-investigator model, in which one person is responsible for the entire investigation; the lack of access the accused have to records; and the way some schools bar advocates or attorneys from aiding the accused."

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  9. LOL!

     

    I forgot how funny that sounded.

     

    The moles hate that sonic vibration and they just didn't dig within a certain radius of the vibrator.

     

    Believe me if you saw them you would not be thinking "her pleasure". :D

    😂😂😂

     

    We do save money gardening. I don't use wood for raised beds but instead use salvaged cinder block. I grow herbs in the little squares in the blocks and the grow veggies in the main bed. I grow what we like to eat a lot of or what is expensive: peppers...so many peppers, eggplants, tomatoes, zucchini, squash, berries.

     

    I also have turned my front and back flower borders into potager style gardens - mixing edibles in with ornamentals. Works great with herbs, peas, Cukes, some peppers, lettuces and kale.

     

    I have not made money on my fruit trees though- five Apple trees, one peach, one nectarine and a double pear all planted five years ago. Total yield to me- 2 pears. Sigh.

     

    We don't buy new dirt to put in and my compost pile never seems to yield compost. It is just a plant burial ground. Instead we use rabbit poop. A friend raises rabbits and was happy to let me hail away as much as I wanted. great for the garden and cheap.

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  10. One of the uber conservative pastors in our area has lamented that 'working mothers ruin VBS".

     

    Nice.

     

    Because you know it is perfectly reasonable to expect families make their economic and family well being decisions based upon the church wanting to have a day time VBS and demanding women run it! :banghead:

     

    I am going to be really judgey here. When we lived in "college towns", we never heard this kind of stuff. I have no idea if that is just a coincidence or not, but I suspect that the people who live in and around educational institutions maybe have a more live and let live mentality and due to the constant influx of new students, new faculty and staff, etc. experience more diversity of family culture so maybe have a wider perspective.

     

    Then again, maybe not. But I have to tell you, I am ready for a college town! :)

    My very liberal pastor laments the same thing. I don't think it's political. And as I told him, it's not working mothers. If there aren't enough volunteers who want to commit then it's not a program we need to do. And many SAHMs don't volunteer because they have other commitments for themselves or their kids. Frankly most churches don't have enough volunteers for numerous reasons. In my church's case I think it's because we do way too many things. sorry. Hot button issue

     

    Military bases, urban areas, and transient areas tend to deal very well with newcomers. Some college towns do too. Some, not so much. We recently moved from a college town. Small city/large town and a decent size college. But still very closed minded and up in your business. Sigh. So if you do end up bailing for a college town, message me so I can tell you at least one to avoid! 😂😂

  11. Most families I know are stressed all the time. Super busy, driving everywhere, rat race. This include couples with no kids and empty nesters. If this couple can make this arrangement work financially and it works for them, great. I think home making is valuable. A home maker can help create a space of peace and who doesn't need a bit more of that. I bet my husband would love it if I were less frazzled and running in all directions. (He is totally supportive. Not dogging him. Just saying that a little peace and a few more accomplished tasks off the to do list would be a huge gift to him and me)

    Just as the amount of a paycheck shouldn't determine someone's value, earning a paycheck also should not determine someone's value.

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  12. Be very careful who you go to. The place needs to be scrupulously clean. Seriously get lots of referrals and be careful. Also talk to them about how to care for your lashes. Plan on 2-4 week touch ups depending on what you get. Think of them as gel tips for your nails. They need to be maintained to look good. Some say 6 weeks but they just look weird after about 2-4 weeks. Also some require you to add oil or do other nightly maintenance and will restrict some of your makeup choices. Once you find a good lash person, follow their directions to a t.

    I love the look of them. I hate the maintenance and expense.

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  13. I honestly can't see doctors telling a woman "this baby will have downs syndrome, you should abort him".

    I can see offering it as an option. I can see laying out the challenges of having a child with downs syndrome. I can also see how someone, particularly someone waiting to be offended, and on edge due to a diagnosis, might hear that as being pushed to have an abortion. But I know a couple OBs. I just can't see "you should have an abortion" coming out of their mouths in that scenario. I really don't.

    I was told with two pregnancies that my babies would have Downs and I was strongly encouraged/pressured to have abortions. With my third I was told that his internal organs had gaping holes, that he would be malformed and in extreme pain for whatever amount of life he had. I was encouraged/pressured even more strongly to have an abortion. My older ones do NOT have Downs. They are perfectly healthy. My youngest has some issues but nothing at ALL like what I was scared into thinking he might have. Different drs and nurses, different states, all highly encouraging of aborting early lest one be saddled with a less than perfect baby.

     

    I'd also love to think that all drs and nurses don't suggest that women have abortions. I'd love to think that they simply supply information and resources in a nonpartial manner. Unfortunately my experiences and those of others- on this thread and IRL - prove that that isn't the case.

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  14. Um I teach yoga and someone lets one rip almost every class. Why do you think yoga instructors use essential oils and burn incense? 😂😂😂

    Don't think twice about it. Go back to class. No one else is thinking about it. Trust me. Much worse happens that a silent but deadly fart.

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  15. Meh. First of all, with everything going on in the world I agree that making a big deal of this is silly. That said here is my take. He came across to me as arrogant and rude and showboating. Did the guy who was stuck really need rescuing? I'm thinking the guy himself could have said excuse me and moved forward. Or there was an entire pathway empty on the other side. I was expecting a raucous mob. This was 7ish people standing and talking. Then the PM had to have felt it when he knocked into the woman. I don't think he meant to but still at that point he should have apologized.

     

    I am all about staying on schedule. Couldn't he have used a gavel or something else to get the people's attention and to get them to move or take their seats?

     

    And oh how I wish this was the biggest issue we had to deal with these days. I want all bad guys to have "anger issues" like the PM

  16. Here's another article that's online today (15 May 2016). The USA and Colombia will be blamed, even if they have *nothing* to do with what might happen in Venezuela.

    http://www.foxnews.com/world/2016/05/15/us-officials-concerned-about-possible-coup-in-venezuela.html?intcmp=hplnws

    Lanny, why will Columbia be blamed? I'm reading the article precoffee so if it was in there forgive me.

    Thank you for sharing these articles.

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  17. I've always wondered how pro-life people (collectively not uniamously) say life is so great for those not aborted yet when people die or a woman has a miscarriage, it is often said they are in a better place or God Knows Best or "everything happens for a reason". Maybe the woman decided to have an abortion for a reason? Why aren't these lives said to be "in a better place"?

     

    And those are just three of the crappy things people have said to my face post miscarriage. There are so, so many more.

    Hugs to you. People say terrible things when women miscarry.

    Sharing the crappy things people say - I had someone tell me that in order to be a good mom to my older child I absolutely had to abort my younger one because he was going to have developmental and medical issues. When I told her I wasn't going to abort she told me I was selfish and would be a neglectful mother. Helpful. This is the same person who told me it was a blessing in disguise when the drs thought I was miscarrying.

  18. I am nothing but glad that I have my 12 year old. He was born at a time when I could be a better mom. I do not 'miss' my hypothetical 14 year old.

     

    That was a hard time for me, but it isn't always. Plenty of women do not struggle with the choice.

     

    Women hurt each other on this issue all the time. Some woman cared so little about me, and so much about my foetus, that she thought spitting on me was an awesome way to express sisterhood and get me to keep my baby.

    WTH? That is terrible. What a rude, obnoxious, can't eventhink ofthe word person. I am sorry that happened to you.

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