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3 hours ago, TexasProud said:
Both of us hate conflict and avoid it at all costs.
2 hours ago, TexasProud said:We always spent them at his family rather than mine because you never knew who would be angry or in a tizzy at mine.
These are the pieces of your posts that stood out to me. I grew up in home with an alcoholic mother who also was bipolar and my parents fought all the time. I have a really really really hard time dealing with conflict because as a kid, one tiny thing could throw off the whole day. Or even then the whole week, vacation, etc. One small "mistake" could end up having my Mom spiral for months. And it has taken me my whole life to realize how messed up that way of living was and how much it has affected me as an adult.
I think the thing about growing up "never knowing who would be angry or in a tizzy" is that you internalize that somehow you can keep people from getting angry if you only ___________. Fill in the blank. Act perfectly. Do the right things. Work hard enough. Don't complain. Don't argue. Etc. And then when someone does get angry you feel you have failed to keep things the way they should have been.
Normal people fight and get annoyed and frustrated with each other. Not all the time. But two individual people living in a house together will sometimes rub each other the wrong way. Even two Christians. What then happens is normal people move on. If one of them realizes they snapped at the other, they apologize. The other one forgives them. They get over it.
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4 hours ago, sheryl said:
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Need advice on best season/month.
1. My passport is current. DH's is not so we're working on that now.
2. Best place to for currency exchange?
3. What is climate like?
4. Must do's? Events, attractions? Avoid anything?
5. Every place we visited in the past had window a/c. If it's muggy or so, I'd like to have a/c and preferably central air as it works more efficiently but I don't think that will happen. Keep that in mind when suggestion best season/month for low humidity/dewpoint/high temps. Please refer using American measurements.
6. Lodging?
7. What might catch us off guard if we're not used to and prepared for it?
I agree with Lori D. that Four Corners is not a destination. It's a fun thing to say you have done during another trip. The other things around it (Grand Canyon, Utah National Parks) are fabulous. We did a trip a few years ago where we went to the Utah National Parks, Northside of Grand Canyon, Mesa Verde and Four Corners. It was a great trip if you don't mind lots of driving (we like road trips).
We just got back from a Vancouver/Victoria trip over spring break. If you are interested, DM me and I can send you my husband's planning- he's a bit of an overplanner so it's a TON of information but it you want it, it's yours.
My personal opinion is don't worry too much about "best" time of year. We've traveled a lot and often if it's off season you do miss something or the weather is a little off but it's also less crowded. And weather is so unpredictable that it's hard to know. We went in late March-early April which is probably not the recommended time but it was my kids spring break. We anticipated cool rainy days. The weather was fabulous, sunny every day with occasional rain and highs in the 60's. On the flip side we've gone places thinking it was the perfect time to see or do x and then been disappointed by an unusual cold spell or snowstorm or whatever.
You don't need currency exchange, credit cards work everywhere pretty much. There are international fees (at least with our bank) but currently the exchange rate is very favorable so everything ended up being cheaper even with the fees. We had some places that took American cash and we got a little cash at an ATM that was good for the few non credit card places.
We usually stay in Air BnBs or VRBOs as it is much cheaper with a family and it gives us more space. That also helps with the laundry situation. We pack for 4-5 days and plan on doing laundry.
Top things we did...
In Vancouver:
Granville Island Market
Stanley Park
walking around Steamtown
the Sea to Sky Highway (there is a gondola you can ride that takes you up to the top of a mountain right on the coast...apparently there are activities like snowshoeing and other things...we got stuck in a horrific traffic jam due to an accident so didn't get to do the gondola but the drive itself was worth it)
Lynn Canyon Suspension Bridge (there is a more famous and expensive one Capilano but we went with this free version that was spectacular)
we stayed near Kitsalano Beach and my son swam in the ocean every day
My Dad went with us and he did a seaplane flight around the city and loved it.
Riefel Migratory Bird Sanctuary
Bill Reid Art Gallery- Indiginous Art
We enjoyed the Museum of Biodiversity at UBC, the Anthropology Museum was closed for renovations which was disappointing.Victoria/Vancouver Island:
The Ferry Ride itself was great
My husband contacted the Victoria Lawn Bowling Club and a guy met us there and gave us a lawn bowling lesson and let us bowl for free for an hour, very fun experience.
Chinatown- I think it's the oldest in the province, but I could be wrong.
Up the coast about 2 hours from Victoria Botanical Beach- tide pools with lots of animals, best at low tide.
We were very under impressed with the Royal BC museum which we had heard was a great destination. We found it overpriced and kind of outdated. That said, we live near DC and go to the Natural History Museum for free frequently so we might be spoiled.Things you might not thing about
There was a thread here right before we left about how terrible Vancouver was because of the drugs and homelessness. I looked it up and was worried when I saw a lot articles online about it (not just homelessness but people doing drugs openly on the street, defecating, etc) But it's fairly contained to one area....more so than when we've visited other cities. We kind of knew where to avoid..basically Chinatown/Japantown in Vancouver. In the end, I was glad I'd read about it as I would have been not happy to wander into an area with people doing drugs openly with my kids and 76 year old Dad. But I also thought that most of the articles and things online made it sound much worse than it was.
We found it MUCH cheaper to fly into Seattle and rent a car and drive. It's about a 2-3 hour drive. I was surprised by that but even with the added cost of having a rental car the entire time it was cheaper to do it that way. And that allowed us to do a little bit of sightseeing on the drive (Mt. Baker, Deception Point). We had been to Seattle not that long ago so didn't spend much time there except on the way back we were able to do a tour of the University of Washington boathouse (from Boys on the Boat fame). But if we hadn't been to Seattle it would have been a nice combo trip to spend some time there on either end of the trip to Vancouver.
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Can you graduate him and have him do a gap year? That opens up the possibilities somewhat. Travel...volunteer...there are gap year programs, etc.
For French have you thought about a tutor? They could perhaps read and discuss French literature together or movies or just discuss other things in French. You could probably find tutors at the colleges nearby or online. We had my oldest use a Math tutor senior year, he didnt' really need one but he'd gotten way beyond me in Math. I did it because it made me feel more comfortable about him self-studying for AP Calculus but in the end I realized the real advantage was that he had someone to talk about Math with every week, which wasn't something the rest of us could do with him.
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3 hours ago, SKL said:
I admitted it up thread - there are lots of things I am not good at because I don't want to make the effort. 😛
But my 3 biggest ones, I really have tried for many years. How could anyone not want to remember names and faces? I've tried so many things. Similar with recalling the word I am trying to say. How does one fix that? I really want to know! And left / right ... I finally learned a trick that works, but it takes a few seconds to apply it, and sometimes those seconds matter.
And I think your friend is wrong about tone deafness. I have a friend who cannot learn. It was honestly cruel to encourage her to take singing lessons. By contrast, most people in my family can hit the notes effortlessly, without any real effort or training.
Yes, I think those things are probably truly just the way your brain is wired, especially the names/faces. My husband is one of the directionally challenged people and I know it's not something he hasn't tried to learn better or that he doesn't cared about. He genuinely just gets lost. Walking in our neighborhood we've lived in for 14 years. Or if you pull off the highway an into a gas station, he cannot figure out which way to go to get back to the highway even if it's been only one turn into the parking lot.
And I agree about the tone deafness, it's very real....I've just had so many musical people (maybe well meaning) try and convince me otherwise that I've just learned to state upfront that maybe I'm wrong so as to not have to argue about it.
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I'm sure people are going to argue but I wonder how many of these are "don't want to" instead of "can't". Reading the things listed it strikes me that a lot of us seem to have reached an age where we are just find saying "I don't do that" because we really don't have the interest...or at least we don't have enough interest to spend the time figuring it out. I don't mean that in a mean way and I think it's totally fine to have there be somethings in life that I just don't care enough to learn or get better at. And there are definitely always going to be things that are just naturally harder for some people.
I'm sure some are true "can't" and I know it's annoying to be told that you just aren't trying hard enough to do something. Like I cannot carry a tune. At all. I'm pretty sure I'm tone deaf, or close to it. Our piano is apparently very out of tune and it bugs everyone else and they are amazed I cannot tell. I cannot identify a song until I hear the words. But I have been told by so many musical people that there is no such thing as being tone deaf and that I could learn to sing. Possibly they are right...but I do not have the energy or time that would require as I think it would be a huge amount of time and energy to overcome my natural deficit.
Other things that I would say I can't do...I'm pretty sure I could if I wanted to. Gardening. Doing my hair. I just really don't care about them and so I say I'm not good at them.
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I don't have strong opinions. I know quite a few people who own more than one home, usually the second one is a vacation home that is at a destination farther away than what you are describing. Or something that has a specific attraction...like there is a lake here about 45 min away that people have houses at or there is a ski area/lake I know people have houses at. But those are usually in vacation communities where many of the people are doing the same thing as opposed to a neighborhood. My SIL owns several properties for the real estate investment, she rents two of them out (they are condos).
I think though that if I was at the party you describe and had the interaction with you I might have acted taken aback. Mostly just as it's an unusual out of the mainstream thing. Your whole living situation is out of the mainstream....not bad, just different. I think whenever someone is out of the mainstream people tend to react with surprise. Sometimes that also comes with judgment but sometimes it's just surprise. I'm sure many of us have experienced that as homeschoolers.
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My father's family did. I'm not sure about my mother's. I wouldn't be surprised if they did, it was a tobacco farm in southern Virginia. They were fairly poor but there are buildings on the property that were called slaves' quarters. It was never clear to me if that was when our family owned the land or if it was earlier, my grandfather eventually bought a lot of the land himself from other farmers.
My father's cousin wrote a book about trying to come to terms with the descendants of the slaves his ancestors owned. The cousin is a journalist. https://www.amazon.com/Uncle-George-Me-Southern-Families/dp/1947860100.
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You know your daughter best, but I'd maybe ask her what she thinks and say that you know it's kind of awkward. Otherwise, I think it's going to be really awkward and potentially hurtful to your daughter if you leave him out of photos that are including your son's girlfriends. I understand why you would if they are long-term girlfriends but there really isn't a nice way of saying "Everyone but Bob...because we don't know how long you are going to be around."
I'd do what Katy said but mix it up more where you have some photos with him and some without but I think for the ones without it has to be just immediate family or bride and groom and just sibs or something. Then you can do the same ones with everyone, including significant others.
Or just always position him on the end where he could be Photoshopped out one day. Just kidding. 🙂
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On 4/18/2024 at 2:01 PM, kbutton said:
It’s interesting to me how many of you are or have instructors with draconian policies who make exceptions.
Our first piano teacher it was a hard no exceptions policy. We paid by the month, regardless of how many lessons we made. If we told her in advance about something that we had she would try and schedule a make up but no promises. Reality for us was that it was usually easy as we were her only homeschooled students so we could come early.
Ds has also taken drum and trumpet lessons. The drum lessons were similar in policy and difficult to reschedule a makeup. The trumpet lessons were pay each week, although the expectation was that you would go each week. We rarely missed except for illness so she didn't charge us when we did, I don't know if she had a different policy for people who missed more or for other reasons.
Our current piano teacher is by Zoom, we've been with him a long time, pre-pandemic. When we started he came to our house and his policy was similar to the first one, pay by the month and if you miss he would try and schedule a makeup but no promises. He moved right at the same time as Covid. We first went virtual due to Covid and then it continued as he is now out of the area. Most of his students stayed with him. He tells me at the end of the month what I owe him and it's only for the lessons we made. We do attend most weeks and when we can't, I tell him well in advance (vacation or something like that). I have told him I'm fine with paying if we cancel late, which has happened one or two times, as I understand he has reserved that time for us. But he doesn't charge us. I think it's somewhat easier for him because he is at home and can transition to doing other work at that time fairly easily. Also, I think he knows it's rare for us and we've been with him for so long now that he is willing to be more flexible.
23 hours ago, Dmmetler said:A majority of my students are under 10, have special needs, or both. Zoom lessons require a parent actively participating on the other side, and a LOT of set up on both sides so I we can see and hear each other. And, the reason they come to me is that I can give their kids what they need-which requires me to be able to go on and off the piano, jump, dance, sing, pull additional resources, use props, etc. And because I do have a lot of young families and families with special needs kids, well, things come up.
Here's what I'm thinking. Does this sound reasonable?
Your lesson day/time is reserved for you, and incorporates a significant amount of teacher preparation before class. In order to allow flexibility for student illness and other concerns, the following makeup policy is in place for ALL Singleton music classes.
1) Each private or small group student may do two makeup lessons per semester. Lessons missed due to illness or emergency must be requested as soon as possible and may not be approved if not requested before your scheduled lesson time. Non-emergency rescheduling must be requested at least 72 hours before the scheduled lesson. Once a lesson is approved, you may sign up online for your desired time. No make up will be approved for a missed make up lessson, regardless of cause. Additional makeups may be approved on a case by case basis in situations such as severe illness. If your schedule no longer allows your regular lesson time, please contact the instructor to reschedule for the remainder of the semester.
2) All makeups must be completed by the end of the semester. No credits will be carried over for missed sessions to the following semester without written approval from instructor and the center director. The semester end date will be extended if the center is closed or if the instructor has to cancel class for any reason.
3) No student is to attend when ill. The instructor has chronic medical issues and minor conditions such as colds can become very serious. Students with respiratory symptoms, regardless of cause, must wear a mask while in the lesson room (masks will be provided), and may not participate in woodwind components of music exploration classes. Students who attend who are symptomatic and do not mask when requested will be removed from the lesson room and be unable to attend, and no make up is permitted. If this occurs more than once, the student will be removed from the roll and a credit issued for remaining classes on your Singleton account. The student will not be able to register for music lessons or classes in subsequent semesters.
I think that sounds very reasonable.
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I have a lot of patients that have run into similar situations as they transition to adult medicine. Around here a lot of family docs and internal medicine docs will not prescribe ADHD meds and require people to see psychiatry. So like others have said, I don't think they are necessarily targeting your son in particular.
I don't know of any laws that require testing for Vyvanse or other ADHD meds. I do think some practices require it and if the doc is part of a large practice (especially a very large group like Privia or Kaiser) they may have a protocol he has to follow. I can't imagine what they are looking for with the lipid and CMP unless they are just looking for very general signs of liver damage from drug/alcohol use but Vyvanse shouldn't directly cause any effects on liver/kidneys. The drug screen is probably to look for signs of other drug use or I think some practices use it to test to see if the person is taking the med as opposed to selling it. Which is kind of stupid, IMO as Vyvanse is metabolized very quickly and you would only have to take it for a day or two for it to show up in your urine. So a scheduled drug test really does not prove you are taking it regularly.
The EKG is more standard. About 10 years-15 years ago or maybe more there was a lot of concern about possibly arrhythmia with amphetamines due to a paper that came out. For awhile we screened everyone but that quickly was not recommended by most medical associations as more data came out. It is now thought to "unmask" arrhythmia so we only screen people with a family history and no longer screen everyone. But I know some doctors who are very worried about litigation and so screen everyone as a protection.
I would ask if they can use the diagnosis from the neuropsychiatrist if you have that letter. Sometimes I do have people come to me saying they have the diagnosis. I usually do ask them to provide the information from the previous doctor rather than just prescribing. But if they have that data, I don't require retesting.
If the practice at large requires these tests for everyone, it's not surprising that they just make it a blanket policy. I do think the requirements seem on the harsh side and possibly designed on some level to have people seek care for this diagnosis elsewhere.However, in some ways, it's better to not have the doctor judging who needs extra monitoring/information and who doesn't. Similarly, we require a pregnancy test on every teen girl we start birth control on even if they are not sexually active. Some get upset but I just tell them it's our policy. I know for some patients it seems we aren't trusting them but the sad fact is that people lie all the time to doctors. So instead of making the judgment that "this girl seems like she might be lying" and "this one seems like she's telling the truth" they all get a pregnancy test. And having it be practice policy does make it easier for me as an individual physician.
And Vyvanse is definitely abused. It's not as easy to get a quick high as Adderall which is the most diverted (sold to someone who it isn't prescribed for) medication in the country but you can get high on it and people do abuse it. Doctors are very wary of being used as a way of getting drugs.
And if it makes you feel less targeted...my 76 year old father has to go through similar hoops for Gabapentin which is also a controlled substance. He has been on it for 20+ years for neuropathy and he still has to go in and get the prescriptions and can't get it filled at all early, etc. And it drives him crazy.
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This article recently was in The Washington Post. You can set up any iPhone to have assistive access which I think was more designed for people with cognitive disabilities but would work for kids to make it a bare bones phone. The article suggested it for this reason (kid) or for people who want to really have a less distracting phone. The only apps that will show up are camera, calls, messages, and maps. I think you can add others if you want. There will be a password needed to access. I'm not the most techy person but per the article it is more difficult to get around (I think more steps) than if you just set up a parental password or parental controls.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/technology/2024/04/03/iphone-assistive-access-kids-seniors/
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On 4/11/2024 at 1:03 PM, Pawz4me said:
If you're not bothered by motion sickness --
Maybe spend a lot of time reading (book, ebook, mindless phone scrolling), or listening to audiobooks, music or podcasts with headphones/earbuds while keeping your eyes closed? In other words, concentrate on something else and tune out his driving.
I kind of feel like it's impossible to change another person's driving style. It's kind of like changing someone's diet--they have to want to do it, it can't come from someone else.
I was going to ask this also. Having two teenage drivers who I've driven with on lots of highways (and on the Beltway/highways around our home in NoVA) this is what I do. (Just to clarify...I don't do this when they are learning to drive but my oldest is now almost 21 and my second is almost 18. I would comment if I thought they were being dangerous or aggressive but I've realized it isn't their driving as much as my anxiety so I'm found it better to address the actual problem which is me rather than them.)
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On 4/4/2024 at 8:44 PM, EKS said:
Homeschooling was way more expensive for us than public (high) school.
Yes, same here.
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12 is a HARD age. And it sounds like you also have had other hard things going on. I would sit down with your son and talk about goals and what he wants and likes and dislikes. When I was homeschooling (my second two kids are in public school now for high school) I did that from time to time, especially when things weren't going well. The rules were that they couldn't just say "I hate everything". When he wakes up and doesn't want to "do" school what does that mean? Is it he wants to sit and play video games all day? Is it that he doesn't like formal things like workbooks? Is it that the work is too easy or too hard? Does he need more social outlets? At 12 he should be able to at least give you some ideas of what he likes and what he doesn't even if it might be like pulling teeth or interrogating a secret agent to get the information.
I agree with Farrar that middle school is kind of an educational time to reset or just do what you want. I'd think of it in terms of goals. What do you want him to go into high school with? Can he read and discuss a book? Is he where he needs to be in math? Is he developing his own interests? And what do you want your relationship to be? And then think about ways to get to those goals rather than thinking in terms of subjects or what you have to do to mimic brick and mortar school. Pick the very very basics and talk about those being non-negotiable and then let him have a lot of leeway to do what he wants with the rest of his time. (Obviously within parameters...not all day on the computer or video games, not doing destructive things, etc).
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2 hours ago, SKL said:
If you inherit 1/5 of a house you don't want, that's a lot of red tape. It's not as simple as saying "oh that's OK, you guys can have it."
This is true. My husband's father left their house to all four siblings. Sister strongly wanted to keep it and didn't want to sell. Others did. Luckily, the one who wanted to keep it was the one who had the best ability to pay for it (she's a single ER doctor). She ended up buying it from all three siblings but even though they had known this would be the plan well in advance and had it all written up and done carefully it was complicated and there were some hurt feelings for various reasons. She paid the siblings off at different speeds, which they agreed to as they had different needs and financial circumstances. With us we essentially treated it like she had a mortgage with us. We had a payment schedule drawn up, that included interest and she paid us each month for a few years. She paid off one brother fairly quickly as he had the largest need. And she paid off their sister second...she had kids in college and didn't want a influx of money coming that would affect their financial aid packages (she was also a newly divorced single parent who needed the financial aid even if she did get the money), then when the kids were out of college the money was useful to her. We were the most stable financially so got paid off the slowest, which was fine, it was kind of nice having the extra payment each month. But even though it was all fairly smooth as these things go...there were still issues. It think it's just always tough combining families and finances. There are feelings that make things messy.
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5 hours ago, homeschoolin'mygirls said:
Once i determined that my father’s choice to give entire inheritance to her was intentional, discussion was over. It feels like a slap in the face, a devaluing of my worth to them Don’t I matter is what my heart is crying out?
Help me out, my friends How can I make peace with this and move on?
Without knowing more about relationships...I'd try and not assume that your worth to your parents is related to the inheritance. My Mom had a smilarish situation with her parents. At the time of their death, her sister was given a house at the beach that their parents had bought but she lived in. My Mom was given the family home/land but with the contingency that it was only hers in her lifetime and would pass on to me (I'm an only child). My Mom was deeply hurt as she felt her parents didn't value her as a person and gave her "nothing". And I understood how she felt but I also could see why they did it. Her sister had been and alcoholic and drug addict and didn't really work and only really had this house, no kids and no family and not much else in life. She had been living in it and they left it to her to stay in. And my grandparents lived in a house that had been in the family for many years and had a lot of surrounding farmland. No part of the family had stayed in the area and I think leaving it in the will so it had to be passed down was his way of hoping that someone would come back. I thought it was shortsighted and hurtful but I also didn't think in anyway that it meant he valued her or loved her less. But she spend the rest of her life bitter over it.
It sounds to me like your Dad appreciates the idea that the house and property are together and appreciates that your sister seems to value it as well. The will is still hurtful and sucks but may be more about the property staying together than the value is placing on individuals.
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I think one reason for all the hype is that there are less and less big shared experiences, especially non-virtual ones. I think a lot of people just appreciate being able to get excited about something that other people are excited about and that isn't really controversial. I mean even the "controversy" of some people not getting the hype isn't the same as the amount of discord and venom over so much else in society. There really wasn't any harm in getting excited about it or harm in not being excited about it. So much else right now just feels heavy and like you have to pick a side and it matters.
We are in an area that was at about 88%. I thought it was really cool. Our office blocked out a time when it was right before and at peak and we all went outside to see. There were lots of other people and just an atmosphere of people being excited. There were several people walking by that didn't have glasses and I offered them mind to see and they were really happy, including one elderly man who was just absolutely thrilled to have seen it. That was just a fun human experience. And it was fun to know that my kids were looking at it after school and my husband at his work and my son who was in totality and also all the other humans who were excited.
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I feel for her and haven't personally really engaged in posting anything anywhere about her. But whenever this kind of thing comes up I do have the thought that the royals basically get paid to be public figures. That is their job, or at least a large part of it. I'm not British so if I'm wrong, I stand corrected. But I think it is somewhat difficult to ask people to respect the privacy of someone who is basically living a life of extreme privilege with the understanding that her job is to perform public "duties". I think the system is really messed up and I don't have a great answer for it...and I when I say I think it's difficult to ask people to respect the privacy, I don't mean that it's okay for someone medical to leak information. I mean that I've just seen so many ordinary people get shamed for having posted and wondered about this....but in reality that is what keeps the royals relevant- people are interested in their lives.
I kind of feel the same about other celebrities. There are celebrities that have made very obvious choices to keep their kids away from the public, even though they themselves are very very famous. They seem to really live a professional life and a personal one. So it can be done, even at a high level of fame, but it probably takes sacrifices that some aren't willing to make. Bono comes to mind as one person who seems to have mostly kept his family very private until they were basically of age to choose for themselves. And then there are other celebrities that seem to post about their kids and their marriages and such but then get upset when people speculate about them or don't honor their privacy when they ask for it. Examples of those to me are more people who are social media celebrities and profit over their marriage/family.
I don't know. There aren't easy answers. But it just feels like to me now that all the people jumping on the "shame bandwagon" for those who have speculated at Kate are kind of doing the same thing to those people that they are upset was done to Kate. It's a bigger issue that one individual woman.
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On 3/20/2024 at 5:40 AM, DawnM said:
These questions are for your everyday use.....not special trips to the zoo where you need specific items, I am just curious because I tend to err on the minimalist side for a purse but then sometimes I think, "I should really carry X or Y in my purse on the regular." But I don't do it!
1. What is in your purse that might be unusual but is very useful?
2. What is in your purse that you would have a hard time without? (not really looking for the obvious, like car keys......)
3. What items do you (or have you in the past) had in your purse that are a waste of space because you never use them? (or what do you use least that is regularly in your purse?)
4. What items have you thought, "I should start carrying......."
5. Anything else you would like to tell me about your purse, or lack thereof. I know some don't carry them.
1. A stethoscope. 🙂
2. A book, pretty much always. Also a notebook I use as my sort of peripheral brain.
3. Lipstick.
4. I often wish I had mints, but I always forget to buy them.
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I like my Birkenstocks for the summer.
I have had On shoes for walking and LOVE them. I recently got a pair of the On Cloud5 which have "speed laces" so you don't have to tie them. They aren't quite as slip on and go as something like clogs but it's pretty close and they are incredibly comfortable.
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We have a lot of stuff on our walls, although I would have said I tend more towards minimalism.
Our living room. It's been collected overtime. Frames don't match but we went with the black/white for cohesion.
Our dining room has photos we've taken, in cheap black frames. We've had different themes but the current one has been up there a long time. It's mostly food related signs. Sorry, the photo isn't great.
In one bathroom we have photos of the kids that are all water themed (swimming/beach/etc). We used cheap Ikea frames and switch out the photos every few years. In another bathroom we have photos taken from vacations, also loosely water themed. We have lots more art and pictures. One current thing I'm loving is just having these postcards from various places on a shelf in our foyer.
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I don't know if it's seen as much in adults, but in kids we often see post-viral diarrhea. It's often a post-viral lactose intolerance. So when a kid has diarrhea that is persistent after a virus, I'll usually recommend them trying completely going off all dairy. If it is that, it should improve fairly quickly, within a week. And then we usually recommend them continuing for something like 4-6 weeks and gradually reintroducing dairy.
I would also say that stool cultures/C diff testing seem warranted, plus a stool guac. All those are pretty easy to do.
That all said with the knowledge that 75 years old are way different than kids. So take it with a grain of salt. 🙂
Also I can't think of any virus that would cause symptoms for months and then come back. And I don't know of any antivirals to take for diarrheal illnesses....but again, I don't see adults and adult medicine is very different.
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My middle son was like this. What finally worked for us (at the recommendation of a LC) was to feed him sitting on the person's lap facing outwards, so not at all in the usual "feeding position". He would take enough that way to get him through. I worked about 8 hours at time twice a week and dh was home with him. Dh could get him to take just enough that way so that he was satisfied but he would eat a ton as soon as I walked in the door. He would never take the bottle from me or if I was in the house.
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Just now, wathe said:
This happens all the time.
You quickly learn to ask about medical conditions in at least 3 different ways when taking a history, and even then will miss some. People often say "no" when asked if they have any medical conditions, even when they clearly do. Then, when asked about medications, will produce a list of medications as long as my arm, with meds for at least 5 different chronic medical conditions. Which I will then guess at based on the meds, and the patient will then endorse. Or worse, when asked about meds, will say "Oh, yes, quite few," but not have brought them or be able to name them. Or will name medical conditions that they actually don't have (often occurs when pt uses medical vocabulary that means something different than the patient thinks it does - not blaming patients here, medical terminology can be complicated). All.the.time.
Always believe the patient. But also, patients (and families) sometimes say things that are objectively wrong. It's not always easy to find the balance.
Yes, 100% agree. People forget in an emergency. People sometimes say things wrong. People don't define things the same ways medical people would. "I don't have asthma but I just always use an inhaler when I exercise or have a cold." That IS asthma.
With the meds..the best is being told the colors. "A pink pill and a yellow one." Okay, well that narrows it down.
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Is there a song with your name in it?
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Yeah, there's a lot. Mostly inspired by Alice in Wonderland somehow.
The one people used to sing at me was "Go ask Alice/White Rabbit" by Jefferson Airplane. I also used to get Alice the Camel which is a super annoying camp song.