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  1. I am still introverted and require lots of energy to be sociable. However over the years I have gained skills in sociability so that I don't get as exhausted and can endure longer in social situations. I have also figured out how to take mini-breaks to recharge. My daughter-in-law says she loves holidays at our house because we all socialize for a time and then go to our respective corners to be alone for awhile.

  2. Vision therapy helped me! I got therapized when my husband was in optometry school. I never know that everyone didn't see double, get sick taking notes from text, and had blurry vision until well into the morning! I was always an excellent student, so nobody paid any attention to my visual issues. My latent hyperopia, convergence insufficiency and oculomotor issues are no more!

     

    Of course, now I am presbyopic and working on my therapy activities again.

     

    Oh, and I retired from education and am now a vision therapist myself. It works. It's real. It's life altering.

  3. W used the magazine holders on a nearby bookcase as mentioned above.

     

    I have found that multiple metronome/tuners attached to stands and/or the piano with velcro really helped keep that impending fuss at bay.

     

    Each instrument case had its own home base, too. The cello lived on its stand in the corner with a cloth over it and the case in front as protection.

     

    Practice charts, current music, theory books, etc. lived on the bookshelves with easy access. Each child had a shelf.

     

    Older music lived in labeled magazine holders.

     

    It is quiet in this empty nest now. I do so miss the all-day practice-a-thon!

  4. I drive a 1988 Volvo 240DL wagon that I bought in 1995. It now has over 600,000 miles on it. Nothing is electrical--windows, etc. The AC died a while back and is too expensive to fix in light of the relative value of the car.

     

    My son drives 1992 version of the same model. It has @300,000 miles on it.

     

    We have a spare car waiting for my missionary son to get home. It is a 1991 740 wagon with @250,000 miles. It seems to thrive on electrical problems, though.

     

    We have been through a few other cars along the way, including a van, a Subaru, and others. the Volvos just never die.

     

    Sons are musicians-we ahve fit a string quartet and their instruments, but never a double bass.

  5. We host Thanksgiving every year and invite everyone who wants to come. Because our families live far away, the group varies each year. It has happened that no relatives were coming, so we branched out into our church community. I cook the whole meal unless somebody offers to bring or make something. We go to the beach/ tide pools, hike, eat and play games.

     

    Every Christmas we go caroling and bring home made ornaments or candles to our friends. We also participate in our local Messiah sing-along and our church choral/instrumental presentation together. We have done this as a family for 21 years; for a few years, we created our own Messiah sing-along. When our parents were alive we traded years for visiting, but not over Christmas day after a few difficult years of trying to make that work. Instead, we plan a trip for the week after and enjoy a belated gift exchange and New Year's fun. This has been wonderful, especially for the side of our family with lots of cousins. Everyone gets their own day at home AND a fun party and family time.

     

     

  6. I really needed to hear Elder Dube's comments about looking to the past as far as it informs our decisions for the future. I am a former homeschooler and recent empty nester who is struggling with letting it go and moving to the next phase.

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  7. It gives me a sense of connecting with history and being part of the big picture. My family came here on the Mayflower and the Anne. I enjoy reading their stories and the stories of other progenitors. At Thanksgiving, we read these family history stories. My husband's family is Swedish and English and came as Mormon pioneers. We tell their stories on Pioneer Day (July). We used their stories to help our children understand e/immigration, acting on one's beliefs, etc. I have really enjoyed doing my genealogy.

     

    Because I and my father and his family are all gingers with very pale skin, I was surprised to learn that his grandmother was native to Mexico, from a long line of indigenous people. She met my great-grandfather when he was in Mexico City working as an engineer for the elictrification of Mexico. My dad always had a great love for Mexico and its people and language, but did not explain the realtionship to me until I was an adult teaching in Spanish in a school in southern California with a student population that was 97% brand new from Mexico.

     

    So, historically, I am English, Scottish, and Mexican. Cool.

  8. My children are grown now, but we have been debt free for many years. I am grateful we had the means to achieve this early and the foresight to recognize that issues involved in balancing financial decisions. We ended up owning a much smaller house, much older cars, and many fewer items than friends of comparable incomes, However, our children had music lessons, scouts, sports. We focused on the things which needed to be timely--childhood is fleeting and the experiences last a lifetime. That is not to say that we indulged in stuff, toys, etc., or that we denied ourselves in favor of spoiling the children. However, we never decided not to visit grandparents because of the expense, or denied instrument lessons (we did find ways to economize with these). We saved for travel as our children grew older. Most of the things and events which create family unity, traditions, and strength do not cost much money. It is important to be careful to find a balance between the constant evaluation of cost and the delight of family life. Our children learn their attitudes about money from us.

  9. Camp Food:  Dutch oven chicken stew with Dutch oven biscuits.

    Floors: Wood in the common areas, tile in the bathrooms, and carpet in the bedrooms.

    Bags: Our county has an ordinance forbidding bags to be given in stores. We all bring our own. I have some favorite canvas ones from a conference.

  10. Thank you for posting this.

     

    Race is not the only trigger for injustice. My mother used a wheelchair (polio) all of my life and we encountered the same thing. Clerks would speak to me, a child, looking right past my mom. She was always asked for ID, told she couldn't possibly have a driver's licanse, and generally treated like a child. 

     

    Looking out for those around us, recognizing when we have the power to help--great messages!

     

     

    White Privilege does exist, and studies have shown that looking attractive has its privileges, too. Attractive people of all races find doors opening around them while others work hard to wedge a foot in the crack. If we are lucky/blessed enough to find ourselves in any position of power, then raising those around us is one of the privileges to enjoy. The message of kindness and awareness does not need to carry incrimination or name-calling.

  11. I agree with G5052-leadership is everything. In the current situation, if the leaders aren't bothered enough by the behavior to come up with a new strategy, then it is time to leave. Drawing the situation to their/the church leadership's attention, my help in the future, but your daughter's time is now. Nurturing her is your aim, not fixing the organization. I love the idea of having Bible study at home with some friends. If she wants to be at church enough to put up with the behavior, then that becomes the lesson in itself.

     

    Best wishes.

  12. I have blown discs at all lumber and cervical levels with severe stenosis and foraminal stenosis as well as arthritis and large bone spurs. I have had 2 surgeries which successfully reduced the severest radiculopathies. For best relief I have experienced:

    1. Ice

    2. Keep the curve in the lower back. Lie on the stomach and elevate just a bit without compressing the spine. Do not flatten or roll the lower back.

    3. Physical Therapy--do the homework--find a therapist who will work on alignment and strengthening.

    4. Rehab Pilates--this has been incredible! The private instructor began where the PT left off in strengthening my core, back, legs, everything in a very controlled, safe way, as was originally prescribed by Pilates.

    5. Walking

    6. low inflammation diet

     

    For me the steroid injection worsened my pain. Also, be careful with anti-inflammatories--they have ruined my digestive system. I do not take anything for pain relief.

     

    Your physical therapist will have recommendations for you. These are simply the things which I have found to be helpful.

     

    Best wishes.

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