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3- I MUCH prefer sleeping in the kids' hammocks. Better said, my BACK much prefers for me to sleep in the kids' hammocks. :) I have a totally different body waking up from a hammock than the bed.
...DH's back also prefers the hammock. We are currently planning for the whole family to sleep in one room - each in separate hammocks...
This is so interesting. I am going to google sleeping hammocks - I have not heard of them. A family sleeping room with hanging hammocks? Wow, that is fascinating to me! I love out of the box thinking, though I rarely am one to think that way.
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So nice to know we are not the only ones!
Right?! I am SO relieved to know that other people with healthy marriages sleep apart! I still don't prefer it, but I know my dh needs to be able to function the next day. It is just nice to know that we're not alone being alone. :001_rolleyes:
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What helped me are Hearos Xtreme ear plugs (Rite Aid, Amazon) and using a 3" thick memory foam mattress topper. Snoring and moving are both taken care of.
So a memory foam mattress topper will absorb a big turnover? Interesting! Even on a queen - not king - sized bed?
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Yes, because HE snores like a freight train and also falls asleep at the drop of a hat, whereas I have chronic insomnia. It's either sleep separately or smother him with a pillow.
:smilielol5: I kind of feel like that's where dh is with lil' ole me! Since I would be the smotheree, I will keep this in mind when I am tempted to complain!
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Personally, I enjoy having the bed to myself. I think dh still has the mindset that it is somehow wrong, but our new bed hurts his back.
This is my mindset too, but I can't figure out why I am so upset about it. We are unconscious anyway!
Once ds graduates I'm hoping to turn the classroom (which is a bedroom) into my own ladies retreat with bed. Then dh can have his bedroom back.
I love this idea! I am not really excited about the idea of the kids being permanently out of the house, but I will say that I have done the math. :rolleyes: (1.5-2 years, depending on when ds #2 gets his first post-college job, then hopefully soon after for ds #1 to have his Ph.D. After that, ds#3 will be in college. It occurs to me that this will all happen very quickly, and I may be so sad that I don't care where I sleep!)
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Okay, I guess we're weird. Slept in the same bed for 34 years.
No, not weird. Just lucky not to have any sleep issues like a lot of us. :)
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Sometimes he'll sleep on the floor if we're in the same room - he thinks I can't hear his snoring if I'm up on the bed and he's down on the floor... yeah right. But, he also is a snuggle sleeper wanna-be and I am most definitely in the "let me have my space" sleeper. So through the night he faces me (breathing and/or snoring loudly) and inches closer and closer to me. ~~~Shutters~~~~
This sounds like an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond!! I'm sorry for laughing! The only available bed is my grad student's bed. The problem is that he shares a room with ds15. For now, I'm on an air mattress in the living room. It's not horrible but definitely not my idea of what adulthood is supposed to be about!
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During the first twelve or so years of my marriage, I always slept in the same bed as my husband. Now, I almost never sleep in the same room as him. It hasn't negatively impacted my marriage *at all*. There was no big adjustment and no resulting problems. Both of us sleep better. Honestly, I can't see myself ever wanting to switch back.
Don't worry about it; let your husband get a good sleep, and you do the same! :)
That is very encouraging! Thank you for sharing.
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Has your husband tried earplugs? They take a little getting used to, but they can work sometimes, too. I've been wearing them now for about five years, and they help a lot. I tried different brands and found one that's very comfortable. They won't always work, and if movement is a problem then obviously they don't work for that. But if it's just sound, and the earplugs can help block it enough so that your husband can sleep (they did for me), that might be a solution rather than separate rooms.
We bought some earplugs, but they are too big for his little ears and gave him a headache! He has tried cutting them, but it is hard to keep them rounded. It is the movement as well. The funny thing is that I tend to wake easily when the older boys are out at night (unconsciously waiting for the to get home, I guess). I tried the earplugs one of those nights, and I slept like a log! I also bought him a white noise maker, but he could hear a high pitched whine and couldn't get used to it. He is not a complainer and is easy going, so I know he's trying! Poor dh can't catch a break.
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I'd HIGHLY recommend a sleep study to determine if you have apnea. I so seriously didn't want to do it - but i did it for my DH. He was miserable. Apparently, I stop breathing a lot when I sleep. Some snoring isn't caused by apnea, and yes, losing weight can help - but even thin people have apnea. Untreated sleep apnea causes serious long term health damage. Please go get a survey. If you need a cpap they don't take long to adjust to and your BOTH sleep a million times better. (Untreated apena also makes losing weight much harder.) Snoring can be a symptom - fix the problem!
I should probably do that. Right now, I am having another health issue (having surgery on Thursday), so when that is cleared up I will definitely look into it. Dh says he has never heard me stop breathing, but with my weight and snoring, it would be a good idea. Wonder if my insurance will cover it?
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I wish! I'm the one that hasn't slept for years because of his snoring, tossing, turning, etc. He sleeps like a rock, and could sleep through a bomb going off. I, on the other hand, hear every. single. stinking. noise! I sleep much better when he's not here. I would be a lot less cranky if I had my own room.
This is my dh exactly. I sleep very well, but if I get up to use the bathroom or even turn over, he wakes and it takes him at least 15-30 minutes to go back to sleep. He says I move a lot (but I don't think I do - I think he's just sensitive. ;) He really is a different person this week. Much happier and less reactive.
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So apparently I snore like a buzzsaw. I am trying to lose weight and hoping that will help, but I also have chronic congestion and a deviated septum. My dh confided that he has been exhausted lately from being woken up so many times in the night. He said he is having a hard time getting back to sleep and has tried to sleep on the couch some nights but our couch is terribly uncomfortable.
I didn't want to believe that he wasn't sleeping well because of me (!) so I did a test one night. I slipped out, pillow in hand, one night and slept on the awful couch. In the morning, I asked how he slept. He answered, "I feel like a new man! You didn't snore at all last night!" :glare:
I went out and bought a good air mattress for downstairs, but I am so sad! We still hang out at night just like always, but then I have to say goodnight and be apart from him. I just feel so weird about sleeping apart, like it's going to impact our marriage or something. So far, it's okay, but I do miss him. I do not miss him being grumpy from interrupted sleep, however. He really is more energetic and pleasant.
Does anyone else sleep apart from their spouse? Has this been a problem in any way? Did you adjust quickly? Are you glad you did it? This is just such a bummer.
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We had three different bagless vacs break in two years. I finally went back to bagged, and we've had the same one for four years now. I realized that it was easier - no filters to constantly clean and much less clogging. We're sticking with bagged vacuums from now on (unless they stop making them!).
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I am laughing here...When I hovered over your subject, the last thing I could see was, "He was raised by..." so I clicked to see if you were going to say "...wolves!" Sorry, I am a little punchy today from lack of sleep.
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We have lived here for 9 years, and pretty much every room needs help. (We painted two rooms last year, so they're okay.) I guess in the 10th year, we'll need to re-paint and peel some of the gross wall paper off the kitchen wall, so I would say 10 years is the maximum we should wait in our house. It probably should have been done a couple years ago, though.
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I would think it was a lower level word, but I voted yes in the poll.
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I would say definitely go get a test because you are worrying about it. You can put your worry to rest in less than three minutes if it is negative! If it is positive, then you can get some early pre-natal care. Win-win.
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I would definitely cook it, and I am kind of weird about pork.
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I also like to roast them (as in my post above) with cut up cauliflower and cubed butternut squash. The veggies are so sweet - the kids love them, and that is saying something!
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I thought I hated Brussels sprouts until last year. We went to someone's house for supper, and she roasted them. DELICIOUS! Now I make them the same way - halve them, coat with olive oil (or basting oil with garlic), salt and roast. You'll love these vegetables with a bad rap! Our moms did them a disservice when they boiled the heck out of them. Little did we know...
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I would take it to mean that they were either sick of hearing me complain about minor health issues OR that they have a chronic or serious illness and are giving me advice from their point of view...or maybe both.
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Labor with #4 was definitely the easiest. She was born after a gradual day of labor, and I had an epidural, so I wasn't in a lot of pain. I pushed three times, and there she was. She only weighed 6 lbs 12 oz, so that probably helped. Maybe #4 is the lucky number. Hope your baby's birth goes smoothly! Let us know! :)
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Oh, that was so beautiful. Such a heartfelt glimpse of someone whom I've never met, yet from your tribute, I know I would have liked her. I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine... :grouphug:
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I was shocked to see dh's check today. Between the increase in health insurance and the 2%, we are down $139 per paycheck = $278/month. I guess I wasn't in tune enough to realize how much it was going to hurt. I think this will be the catalyst to get us to lower our cable and switch to pre-paid phones. That still won't equal the decrease in pay, but we have to start somewhere. It's going to be an interesting year.
Does anyone sleep separately from their spouse?
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Jean, now that you mention it, I think I am sleeping better because I am not worrying about waking dh up. I would turn over and have to stay awake until I heard him fall back asleep so I wouldn't start snoring and keep him awake for the rest of the night. Sometimes that was 15-30 minutes! I don't think I was as well rested as I should have been either. Tonight will be Night #5 of sleeping apart, and I really see a difference in dh's mood (for the better, that's for sure!) and he is more affectionate with me. For example, I got a hug for making dinner last night. Whaaat? ;)