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  1. I also think Special Olympics would be a great idea.  Many schools here also have Unified Sports and Best Buddies programs that perhaps would also be a great fit.  Unified sports here is a daily gym class plus afterschool games, meets and sometimes dances.  Best Buddies is similar but is more social.  Because it is a more narrow age range perhaps that would be a better fit. I know Special Olympics can include adults and kids but Unified would just be peers.  Another option would be to see if there is a branch of the TOPS soccer program nearby that also has a mentor type program for special needs kids. 

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  2. I do about 90% of my weekly shopping at Aldi and I probably save about $100 a trip versus other area grocery stores.  We have Stop and Shop, ShopRite, Price Chopper and local IGAs that I sometimes shop at as well.  We also have Trader Joe's and Whole Foods but I wouldn't ever consider doing an actual weekly  grocery shopping at those stores  - They are far too expensive.  I use them for specialty items.  Aldi's version of Fig Newtons are the best - Much better to me than the name brand and they are only .89 a package as opposed to around $3.00 a package for the name brand in other stores.  They also have seasonal  things that I would never treat myself to at other stores because they would be too expensive to just throw in the cart.  Things like Meyer Lemons, Snapdragon apples, etc.  I especially love the German treats around Octoberfest and Christmas.  

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  3. That is completely unacceptable.  If an elementary level teacher did that here there would be severe consequences.  I have seen teachers use positive examples in classrooms but it is never the work of a current student.  Usually it is a student from prior years and names are never apparent.

    They also do use peer review here in middle and high school but if a student wasn't taking it seriously and wrote "fail" or something similar on another students work they would get a zero on their own assignment.  I've actually seen that happen.

    I am however referring to experiences with public and private prep schools.  Other private schools like parochial schools are a whole different story in my area.  I've heard some crazy stories as they do not require teaching certifications of any kind.  Not that it is necessarily a problem but it can be more difficult to hold teachers accountable.  

     

     

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  4. Is she in public school?  Many students in ps with ADHD are able to meet with counselors (or paras) to assist with EF issues.  I know some that do this daily, going through their notebooks and  folders to clean them out and work on organizing and planning.  Others meet weekly and/or monthly.  Sometimes they plan out and prioritize upcoming assignments, other times the counselors help them to clean out their lockers.  Often a disaster of a locker can dampen the best intentions of staying on track.  Are any of these services available to your dd?  

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  5. At our schools you cannot volunteer in the classroom other than as a chaperone or to help with a holiday party.  There are paras and tutors (and sometimes student teachers) to help with any instruction.  I did however volunteer for years at the library in the upper elementary school.  I helped with shelving books/book check out, so the librarian had more time to focus on the lesson of the day.

  6. There may be other factors or laws at play.  In my town you need a minimum of 2 acres to build a new home.  A large 55+ community was built a few years ago and they were given special permission for higher density housing based on the 55+ mandate.  If younger people or families moved it in would violate the zoning laws and I assume lead to fines.

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  7. 1 hour ago, Æthelthryth the Texan said:

    Oh I have a whole Did Not Finish (DNF) shelf full of them on GoodReads- many of them favorites of other boardies here, and I just couldn't get into them. Different strokes for sure! 

    Stephen King ruins every ending imo so I don't get him either, LOL. Gave up in the 90's. 

    If it's a NYT Bestseller, or other super popular book, I often read the 1 star reviews on Amazon/Goodreads, because the more hyped a book is, generally the less I seem to like it. Most of the super popular books fall flat with me. Even dh and I have different tastes- it's funny to discuss. One of my most hated series- The We Are Bob/Bobiverse books that I shredded on reviews, is one of his favorites! 

     

    I absolutely agree!  

  8. 2 hours ago, Calming Tea said:

    Everywhere I have lived there is one vocational school per entire county, so where there might be 200,000 students in high school, there are a maybe about  1000 at a vo-tech. Those are not the numbers we should be seeing.  

    If that's truly the case, where you live should be a nationwide model, for breaking up long standing myths and prejudices against technical training. 

    Ah, I see - you are in Connecticut. Interesting.  But regardless of whether CT has broken those old prejudices and myths and invested in getting kids to vo-tech colleges, the kids still aren't forced and tracked out the way they are in Finland or even in the UK, which is still an issue here in the US.  We need to get the kids out of "high school" altogether- not into a "vo-tech high school" but out- done by age 14 or 15, and then to an actual real technical training vocational situation.  The problem even with the VoTechs high schools here in the US is that many of them only provide an introduction to your degree, so you graduate at 18 with only a few credits toward something vocational.  It's weird.  Why not just get them straight into a real fully accredited program so by the time they are 18 or 19 they actually are done with their license and apprenticeships. 

     

    The VoTech high schools here are actual hands on training.  The students are working towards licencing and apprenticeships.  By senior year many are spending part of the day working and when they graduate most are ready for apprenticeship and/or full time employment.  It is the primary path most tradesmen here have towards a career in a trade.  I've never met anyone who went to a Vo-Tec college.    My point was if you weren't 100% committed and wanted to leave college as an option those paths exist as well at these schools. 

    We do not have county school systems.  Almost every town or city has their own school system and the trade schools are regional.  For example my town has about 5,000 students in K-12.  If my kids wanted to go to a Vocational school they could pick any vocational school in the state, but only those more regional would have busing available.  To include busing they could pick from 5 "regular" VoTec schools which provide the usual (electrical, plumbing, HVAC, cosmetogoly , hair, culinary etc).  There is also a maritime school, an agricultural  school (actually I think two), an aeronautics school and others I'm not as familiar with.  

    I'm not sure what you mean by forced and tracked out.  When I was younger kids that weren't good students (and sometimes had behavior issues)were assumed to be going to a vocational high school.  I don't know how much of a choice they were given.  Now, the option isn't really as much of a stigma.  there are high school fairs where students chose their options and programs like they would college.

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  9. 11 hours ago, Calming Tea said:

    What is the option other than “stay in school til 12th grade?” 
     

    I like the finish system where they track kids for either academic or trades and professions so no one who is not serious stays in academic school past 9th grade. And those serious about learning a trade or profession can do that too. And those just wasting everyone time can go waste their time at home. 
     

    Here all the offspring are kept in big babysitting jails until nearly 19years old and they have pretty much no other choice.
     

    some of the offspring care, work hard, want to be there and make their best effort to take what they need out of the big babysitting jail. 

    The rest are quite literally in jail. A place they have to go to 40 hours per week and show up whether they learn or not, which feeds them and tests them like cattle and shuffled them from place to place whether they want to learn or thrive or grow or not. Well technically They can drop out at 16-17 IF they pass a test and get their parents signatures. But most parents would rather have them be babysat at the jail school than bother figuring out what to do with them. 

    and sadly a LOT of those kids actually would have been thrilled to learn a valuable profitable hands on trade and be ready to earn a living by 18.5 but no, the socialists of America know better. 
     

     

     

    Wow - That's not the case here at all.   Kids who have no interest in continuing to college usually go to one of a multitude of vocational high school options.  There is everything from maritime vocations, to automotive, electrical, hvac, plumbing. culinary, cosmetology, agriculture, etc.  They then continue through a variety of programs that include hands on training, apprenticeships and licensing.  Some students do choose college after vocational high schools if they can find a program that makes that work for them.  

    I do think that when I was younger (70s and 80s) many students were really not given a choice.  Now there are so many options that students aren't forced towards the trade route or a specific trade.

    I think this is one of the reasons schools here do so well.  Those students not interested in academics  really aren't as well represented in the non vocational public schools to pull down test scores and graduation rates.  But it is also the reason that community colleges here are so poor.  I've never met a tradesman who didn't attend a vocation high school and get their training there.  Why pay for something when the superior option is free.  

     

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  10. I've never been to a potluck or anything called a potluck.  I've participated in a number events where I needed to bring a food items to feed a large number of people, but there has always been a specific sign up where you can see what's needed and what everyone chooses.  I've also been to less specific events where everyone brings an app to share for example.  Relying on luck sounds like a bad idea.

  11. We have a cute blond jogger who is probably in her late twenties.  She is usually wearing bright pink or tie dye running gear, and she smiles and waves to every car that passes.  One of my male friends thought for about a year that she was only waving to him, until he overheard other people discussing her one day.  I think he was a bit heartbroken.

  12. Most of the kids I know with birthdays Sept through December are going away to college at 17 so it really isn't that unusual.  I was 17 as well and my son will be 17 when he starts.  I don't think it's as uncommon as you think it is.  The not driving is probably not an issue either as many college freshmen don't have cars on campus (depending on the school).

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  13. My religion is Reform Judaism and I have no issue with attending events in churches.  I've been to numerous weddings, baptisms and funerals, and I've even been a bridesmaid a number of times in church weddings.  I've never met another Jewish person who would have had any issues either, excluding Orthodox Jews.  To be honest though, I've had very limited exposure to Orthodox Jews.

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  14. OK  - I finally got mine today from Amazon.  I do like them - They actually look like jeans if you hide the wide waist band.  I'm 5'10" and I ordered the 14 long.  The length is great and they are comfortable.  Thanks for the recommendation!

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  15. 5 hours ago, FuzzyCatz said:

    American Eagle works well for my 29x34 18 year old son?  They have odd sizes.  

    But dang, I"m pretty sure I'm ordering some jeggings for me too.  I have weird proportions and have no tolerance for the lack of comfort I was willing to put up with when I was younger.  

     

    I actually usually order them for him at American Eagle.  He doesn't like rips though and the options without them are more limited.  

  16. 14 hours ago, Æthelthryth the Texan said:

    I love these. I don’t know how fashionable I am these days. But these are my favorite- the longs are perfect for me and they haven’t shrunk on length which is rare. 

    https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01H3EEJZ2?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title

     

    Ok, Well I just ordered a pair for myself.  I've actually been shopping on-line for jeans for my son who is a 32 x 36 and can't easily find jeans in stores, but he can wait.

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  17. 12 hours ago, TABmom said:

    I have a degree and my dh has an advanced degree. My dh was the first generation in his family to go to college, but on my side, everyone has gone. (My great grandmother, grandmother, mom, and sister all graduated from the same college with education degrees!) I literally did not know that college was optional until 8th grade. I just assumed it was the next step after high school. Just like high school is the next step after middle school. I do assume/expect them to go to college. However, I will not be disappointed if they choose a trade or another path.  I am trying to raise them in a way that values life long learning. My kids are still pretty young, the oldest is 11. So who knows what could happen!!

    My Experience is similar and I have parents and grandparents with college degrees.  It wasn't until I was older that I realized that People chose not to go to college.  I thought it was just the track you were placed in.  After middle school kids who weren't serious academically always went to one of the vocational high schools.  Every person who works in a trade that I know graduated from a vocational high school program of some sort.  Those that remained in the public high school or went off to an expensive prep school went to college.  I've never met someone who went to any sort of a trade school school after high school. 

    I expect my kids to go to college because I know that they need a degree to get a job that will adequately support them.  I would have been fine with them going the trade route but they are in public high school now, not vocational high school, so they are past that decision in my eyes.

  18. 3 hours ago, Where's Toto? said:

    My name is Dorothy and it's a phrase I probably heard about 20 million times in my life.

    My avatar worked better before the avatar blocks changed from square to round.  I'll fix it one of these days.  I made it myself using powerpoint.

     

    Every time I see your name I think "right here," because I have a Cairn Terrier that looks just like the Toto in the movie.

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