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    Another car WWYD

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    Before choosing diesel, be sure that the gas mileage is good enough to truly outrank buying a car that runs on regular gasoline. I know in this area diesel is a lot more expensive than regular gas so that's something to think about.

     

    I just recently purchased a Honda CRV after looking at the Hyundai Santa Fe, Mazda 5, Jetta Wagon and even a couple of minivans. In the end it was a toss up between the CRV and the Mazda 5 because of price and gas mileage. I liked the Mazda 5, but I have trouble with my sciatic nerve and the seat cut directly into the back of my thigh.

     

    We were upgrading from a Hyundai Elantra and a VW Rabbit because my oldest is already 6' 3" and he just turned 16. I had to drag that poor kid everywhere to check leg and headroom! :lol:

    What do you do when you are at the point of locking the kids in a closet

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    It depends on where we are.

     

    If we're at home and they're nitpicking, I'll make them do each others chores. If they're arguing, they have to wash the sliding glass doors. You'd be surprised how quickly an argument turns into laughing when they're trying to yell at each other through a door. There was also a single time when they were fighting and I threw them out in the back yard. I told them to have at it outside because I didn't want any blood on my carpet. The last two have only been done once or twice.

     

    Now, if we're out somewhere, I will tell them once to cut it out and then if it continues they have to hold hands the rest of the time we're out and about. With two teen boys I've only had to do this once within the last five years.

     

    They're generally well behaved when we go out. They do tend to be more heathenish at home. Can't have everything! :D

    s/o Why is your universal healthcare a love?

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    As a recipient of taxpayer funded, government run and controlled healthcare in the US, I'll take my medical coverage over that in the civilian world any day.

     

    We're military and our healthcare system is the epitome of "social medicine." Does it have its quirks? You bet. Downsides? Most definitely.

     

    The biggest downside is that it's a minor system within this country. So our choice in doctors who accept the insurance is limited. Although, if this coverage were universal, that problem probably wouldn't be there. There are also co-pays and out of pocket expenses for medicine if purchased at a civilian pharmacy.

     

    My husband has continuously re-enlisted over the last 18 years just because of the insurance. He's been offered jobs where he could make six figures, but we still stayed with the military because of the insurance. Why? The insurances offered by husband's prospective employers would not cover me because I have multiple health issues. They also wanted to increase the premiums for my oldest son because he was sick when he was born and there's a possibility it could cause issues in the future (this is despite the fact that it's been 15 years and hasn't had one issue resulting from that illness). When we checked on private insurance, they wanted over $3000/month and that was one of the cheaper options. Definitely NOT something affordable because of the area of the country the jobs were located.

     

    I have options within the Military system. I get referrals, which are required to be in the system within 48 hours. Oh, those referrals are for if you're seeing civilian doctors.

     

    When we lived near a smaller base it took longer to get appointments but that was due to the area. Example: I called for a Pap and was given an appointment nine months later. However, now that we're in a larger area, I just called and made an appointment for two weeks from now.

     

    Personally, I do believe that healthcare is a right not a privilege. Driving is a privilege, owning a car is a privilege, owning a home is a privilege. But being healthy physically, mentally and emotionally? To me that's a basic right of life. I don't see how anyone can say that owning a gun or voting are rights but having the ability to care for your person isn't.

     

    Again, JMO. :)

    Friends and rebound friendships Advice needed (long)

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    I'm posting this here because I don't really "know" y'all and y'all don't really know me. Great for an outside looking in type opinion, KWIM?

     

    I have a friend that I'll call "A" for this post and a friend that I will call "M". I have known A for about 3 or 4 years. We would email each other about twice a year or just chat on a message board that we were both a part of. A was extremely good friends with M for many years before M passed away last January. A called me the day that M died because she was a mutual friend, although M and myself weren't close by any means.

     

    After that, A started calling me practically every day. She talked to me about everything. Because she's military, stationed overseas, away from her family and had just lost her best friend, even though it seemed a little weird, I assumed she just needed someone to talk to that also knew M and could understand the situation she was in.

     

    After a few weeks of talking, as her and I became more acquainted, I started opening up to her and actually considering her a good friend. For months we talked every day about practically everything - kids, the military, homeschooling. She was who I called when life went to pieces during my husband's last deployment. Our relationship went on like this for well over a year.

     

    About a month ago, she stopped calling. She wouldn't respond on Facebook, didn't call, wouldn't even reply to my emails. I asked her over and over if she was upset with me and what I did to make her upset. She finally replied that she wasn't ready to discuss it with me because she was still processing and didn't want to say something she'd regret. I replied with a thank you for letting me know that she was upset with me and I told her that I was sorry for whatever I did to upset her. I also told her that I thought we had the type of relationship where if we were miffed with the other, we could talk about it. She told me that she does want to talk about it, just not yet.

     

    When I was on vacation with the family, she called me like 12 times in a row because she was ready to talk about it. I honestly did not want to have that conversation in the car with the DH and kids listening. I told her that I would email her when I was able to discuss it more privately so she could call me back. (She calls me because I don't have a landline and I can't call internationally on my cell phone. It's also free for her to call me because of the phone set up she has overseas.)

     

    While we were on vacation, I spent a lot of time thinking about the situation and I'm feeling like if M were still alive, A and I would not even be having these problems because she and I would never be friends. In that regard I feel like a rebound friendship and looking back at the relationship all the signs are there. I also feel that I'm 36 years old and I want people in my life that are going to be honest with me when I screw up and give me the opportunity to apologize and hopefully rectify the situation. To me, it seems rather immature to just stop talking to someone for weeks because they've done something to make you mad. A few days to calm down I get. A few weeks, unless it's extremely hurtful, I just don't get. Especially since I still do not know what made her upset to start with.

     

    How would you handle a situation like this? My heart is really hurting over this and I truly need help figuring this whole thing out. I care about her and her family a lot, but I don't think I'll be able to view our relationship the same after this. :001_unsure:

    What is your secret weirdness?

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    Oooh...I HAVE to mix my peas and mashed potatoes together to eat them. I also do not like to put any form of roll or biscuit or bread on my plate because I don't want the bottom of it to absorb anything from the other food. Which, is kind of odd because I even do that if there's gravy or sauce, but then I dip the bread in the gravy or sauce to eat it anyway! :D

    What is your secret weirdness?

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    My husband reminded me of something else I do that's really weird. I have to have the seam of the pillowcase at the top of the pillow. I can't sleep if the seam is under my neck. I also have to have the opening of the pillowcase to my left. Ever since I was a child, I rub my finger on the edge of the pillowcase. If I can't access the edge of the pillowcase, I'll use the hem of the top sheet. For some reason this helps me sleep.:001_smile:

    Are all 14yr old boys this way?

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    My boys are 14 and 16 and this seems to be more of a problem with my youngest. We have a rule in our family about participating in things with the family.

     

    "You will go, you will smile, and you will enjoy yourself whether you like it or not. We don't know what tomorrow brings so make the most of the time you have with those you love."

     

    Being military for 17 years I've seen too many kids not get that tomorrow with their Mom or Dad and heard the guilt they carry from choosing to not participate when they could. As long as I have the ability to make sure that doesn't happen to my kids I will.

    What is the story behind your username?

    in The Chat Board

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    When we first started homeschooling we attempted to join a couple of co-ops in our area. We refused to sign their statements of faith because we're not religious and were told that we were heathens.:lol: It made me laugh and I've called my guys my "heathen childs" ever since.

     

    So, I'm Mama to 2 heathens! :D

    any others here whose spouses are deployed right now?

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    My DH isn't currently deployed, but he did come back from an 18 month deployment in February. During that deployment I had two unexpected surgeries, my Dad had a surgery that I had to be there for, the dog was hospitalized for a week, we were unexpectedly told we had to move and we had to put our house on the rental market all while he was deployed. I would love to say that my boys did at least Math and Science during that time. Nope. They read and watched History documentaries because I made the mistake of assuming they would be able to work a little more independently than they were able to do. :glare:

     

    We're currently trying to catch up by working through the Summer. I've discussed it with both the boys and we've all reached the same conclusion - even if it takes them extra time to finish high school, so what. The whole point to us homeschooling was for the boys to actually learn not just memorize and regurgitate. And, it's better than being over stressed or getting burned out trying to catch up and do a million things because at one point life sucked.

     

    DH has been in for almost 18 years and hopefully this upcoming deployment will be his last. But, that's hard to say because that's a few months from now and based on experience, the Navy will change their mind. The boys and I will be better prepared for this one though and they will be older and a little more mature and hopefully more independent. Hah! :lol:

     

    Take a deep breath, smile, and go at the pace you need to for your children. Also, feel free to shoot me a PM if you ever need to vent. The job of the military spouse is not an easy one and sometimes it's helpful to scream and holler to release the frustration. :grouphug:

    Help! Need 9th Grade Science Curriculum

    in High School and Self-Education Board

    Hurricane/other disaster prep

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    Campfire coffee pot, coffee, babywipes or bathing wipes, dog food, a weeks worth of meds and our "Holy Cr*p" binder in case of evacuation, large first aid kit and a stash of iodine tablets. We used to live just a few miles from a nuclear power plant and they would issue the tablets yearly.

     

     

    The HC binder has our passports, social security cards, birth certs, marriage certificate, copies of drivers licenses and military ID's, emergency credit card, insurance papers and any other important paperwork we'd need in case of emergency evacuation. It also has up to date pics of the boys and everyone in the family and their fingerprints as well as the dogs vaccination records and emergency contacts.

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