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  1. Kathy,

     

    Thanks for your thoughts. They actually do parallel my initial reaction. The biggest plus for staying right where she is would be that she would be in a better position to continue her own personal growth without being overshadowed by a guy who has already passed through the college years. OTOH, I do hear her that the location where she is at is less than ideal for some of the things she wants to accomplish. In that respect, the area where she is thinking to go may be a better fit for her music & for meeting the kind of people she wants to meet. I'm beginning to feel that if she doesn't go just to go be with him, but rather she plans how she can continue developing personally & musically, then I think I'll be OK with it.

     

    Why don't you have her look at a couple of additional schools/locations to see if they also are a better fit than her current school? Then she would have several options, rather than feeling that following this guy is a acceptable "out" from an apparent bad educational fit. If she still feels this new school is the best bet, she'll probably feel more commited to finishing her degree.

     

    Another question for her to consider re: her relationship with bf. If he is as committed to the relationship as she is, why did't he find a position closer to her? It's possible that this was by far the best, or even only, opportunity. But I've known other guys to take jobs within a few hours of the gf. I've also known a couple that decided together which offers would allow both to continue/start their careers, only to have something come up so the couple commuted for a while. From what you've posted, the bf didn't do any of this.

  2. I'm taking my 11yo son with mild mr and autism to D.C. next weekend to stay with my twin. She's a law professor who is taking another position in NYC in Jan! So, we have to get our visits in! I haven't been there since I was 5yo!. I'll be taking my typical children during the fall - and we'll spend more time then in each museum. This trip will be more of a whirlwind - he never stops walking through museums! Just looks and walks quickly bc he can't read and gets bored! I can't walk lots bc of MS, and use a cane - so we are trying to make it as easy on both of us as we can.

     

    We will drive 6 hours on Friday morning and get to her place near the National Cathedral in the afternoon. Sat. morning we'll buy Trolley tour tickets. You can hop on and off all day.

    http://www.trolleytours.com/washington-dc/

    I was planning on these stops:

    Air and Space

    American History

    American Indian

    Capitol

    Jefferson Memorial

    Lincoln Memorial

    Natural History Museum

    Washington Monument

    White House Visitors Center

     

    She suggested the National Zoo bc he loves Zoos, but there is no time. I'm not sure where the documents are - like the Declaration? We'll leave after lunch on Sunday and drive home for 6 hours. Am I crazy? I mostly want photo ops so my sweet and special boy doesn't feel left out when I take his homeschooled sibs in November!!!

     

    Air and Space on the mall often has a line to get to get in, so I'd be there 1st thing or wait till late in the day. Since it's Aug, I don't have a feel for how crowded it will be or the timing of the crowds. During the school year, except during school holidays, the museums "empty" out after noon, when most of the school groups return to school. There is also an Air and Space annex by Dulles Airport. Parking with a fee is available or there is a shuttle from the mall (I believe it's free)

     

    In Natural History, there's an insect zoo your dc should enjoy. There's also (or used to be) a discovery room where kids can handle furs, shells, etc. It's designed for ages toddlers and up and is staffed so you don't need to worry about things. It's hours are shorter than the museum as a whole. And for photo ops, the dinosaur hall has lots of oportunities.

     

    Touring the monuments in the evening and at night should be cooler.

  3. Check with the nature centers, parks, birding groups, and zoos in your area. They frequently have classes for children and/or their parents.

     

    At home, I'd start with a bird feeder and a bird bath outside a big window. (ours is about 4' from our sliding glass windows) Keep a bird ID book and binoculars nearby. Then just watch and enjoy. If you get a bird bath heater, you'll be a major attraction in winter, if you live in the right climate area.

  4. In the near term, I think that it would hurt her employability. Per my dh, one major employer would prefer a high school graduate to a college dropout. Being a drop out shows a past history if being a quitter. If I were interviewing her, I would also question the reliability of someone who quit school to follow a guy without any commitment. How long would it be before she quit to go back home because she broke up with bf?

     

    If I met her on a social level, I would question her self-confidence or maturity. She has given up on her hopes and education to follow a guy who apparently hasn't had to sacrifice anything, not even an engagement ring, much less a wedding ring. It indicates to me that she doesn't respect herself. These are not characteristics of the women I've made friends with.

     

    Finally I'd question how much faith she has in the guy or in the relationship. There are many long distance relationships that last. There are also those that drift apart. It's much better to check the strength of the relationship prior to marrage. That I feel would be better done by the girl finishing college and the two staying in touch by phone, e-mail and commuting than by her quitting college.

     

    There are good reasons to quit college or transfer. But to follow a guy across the country without a commitment isn't one of them.

  5. I'm trying to figure out why he's not a child, then. What are the benefits or reasons behind him not being considered a child.

     

    DD is 12 and, imo, she's very much a child. She's a child that's getting ready to enter the whirl wind of change from child to adult. I think of this kid, in the middle of this whirl-wind of change and I wonder, IS he really an adult? Does he grasp the full signifigance of what he has done and is he emotionally and mentally mature enough for us to place an adult yard stick next to him?

     

    Someone convince me, please, because all I see here is a kid that's looking at a future of rape in jail, followed by a couple of steps into public just to wind back up in jail, the only world he would've known his whole adult life.

     

    IOW, I just want to understand. :(

     

    I need convicing too. I can see sometimes it may be called for, but not always.

     

    But I can make a guess. And that's that DA is wanting to send a big time message to the relatives that raised the boys and the parents of the the girl. Unfortunately he can't charge them, so the oldest boy gets the book thrown at him.

  6. Rotary Dial telephones

     

    My mother still had one until she moved from the house I grew up in. Ds may or may not remember.

    C rations

     

    pressure cookers

     

    We still have one!

     

    wax paper

     

    We use it frequently, as in weekly.

    aspergum

     

    cod liver oil

     

    Does fish oil count?

    sweet oil

     

    Ok, I give. What's this? :001_huh:

    fire crackers

     

    manual hand drill

     

    I think dh still has one

    returnable glass beverage bottles

     

    But the bottles we get still list the refunds a few states give for returns

     

    Hmm...

     

    I think dh and I are OLD that we still have and use so much of this. :D

  7. We couldn't get back for my IL's 50th, so SIL was sent down to "spy" on MIL's address book. SIL took photos of it and I used the names and adresses inn it to ask everyone to write down their favorite memory of the celebrating couple and return the memories and anniversary cards to me. I then UPSed the memories with a scrapbook and the money for an anniversary trip. They really enjoyed the memories.

     

    I believe the church also put on a anniversery party for them.

  8. When I read that you wanted to go rim to rim, I thought you wanted to hike it! It's possible, I've done it twice, but not with little kids. :w00t:

     

    I've stayed in the campground on the South Rim. It was nice and not close to the rim for the cowards among us. I liked it.:001_smile: In the built up area and shuttle bus stops along the South Rim there are barriers and generally there is land not too far below.

     

    But not all of the South Rim has barriers. I took my ds,10 at the time, on the geological Jr. Ranger Tour Program. It was good, but it's not for 2 yo's with nervous mothers. There were a few times that I took a slightly higher path than the group did. In your shoes, I'd put a harness on the 2 year old. Either that or blinders on me. But then someone has a picture of me hanging onto a short rock as I creep around a hairpin turn on the trail down to the bottom -- and the path is 6' wide! :lol:

  9. Dh and I couldn't believe it when we moved here and saw midgets (OK, little kids) in pads playing football. Their skeletons and joints just aren't ready for it.

     

    The past two years, ds has played flagfootball in the spring. Ds considered playing tackle last fall, but decided he didn't want to play in full gear in the heat. This summer, one of the teens in our church died from an apparent heat stroke while doing conditioning for HS football (under the coaches supervision). I don't think ds will ever seriously consider tackle football again.

  10. Where are you going at here in Germany? We are near Ramstein.

     

    Now off to Little League baseball practice!! Go KMC All Stars!!:lol:

     

     

    OP, please excuse this brief highjack :auto:

     

    Which village do you live in? We lived in Ramstein 9 years ago close to the British school and ds went to an American preschool in Landstuhl.

     

    I loved living there!

     

    ETA. What's the KMCC? Is it a community college?

  11. We are just in the very early stages of considering international adoption and we were thinking about South America, but I don't know of any agencies that adopt from those countries. Does anyone have some leads for me to check out?

     

    We adopted from Costa Rica. We checked into a few other countries, but all of our contacts were private adoption lawyers. ETA We did attend adoption classes which gave us a lot of info on different types of adoptions and how to find attoreys and agencies.

     

    Columbia, as I recall, had a national adoption agency that all international adoptions had to go through. I don't kow if you could access it without having a US agency or lawyer. On the other hand, you might not want to.

  12. I have several sturdy salads that I like to keep on hand, a broccoli - cauliflower salad, a coleslaw and a carrot medalion salad (I saw a similar one on the boards within the past week or so). 3-bean salad also keeps well or can be quickly prepared using canned beans and bottled salad dressing. But for some reason dh feels it's his resonsibility to eat the entire broccoli salad in one sitting so it doesn't last. :glare:

     

    I also like to keep raw vegetables cut up and ready to go. They can be served with a dip.

     

    In the cooler months, I love to roast vegetables. Sometimes I see cold roast vegetables served as a salad.

     

    But my best bet is to include them as part of the main course.

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