Journey
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I don't let it slow me down either and I do believe that doing barn chores is a big part of that. Peri menopause is what's kicking my butt right now though oh and this heat!
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You might want to look into GP (golden paste) it's a mixture made with turmeric and coconut oil. My dog has been limping and I've started her on this paste and she is limping quite a bit less. I have also started giving it to our horses for joint care.
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Tampons...my 21 year old daughter wants to.use them but is having a very hard time inserting them. I never used them.so I don't have any advice. She is a Virgin and she says they don't go in very far. Anyone?
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she probably feels some sort of guilt for the way he turned out so she is doing what she is doing to make herself feel better.
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all horse shows are a little different. I think that it's up to your child's trainer to tell them what to expect. if your trainer knows who the judge is going to be that can help as the trainer can tell the kids what that particular judge will be looking for. Horse showing (around here anyway) is very VERY political so it might be a good idea to start teaching your kids that the judging might not be fair and to just do their best and be good sportsmen. it is a lesson they will need to learn early if the judging around you is anything like the judging around here.
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okay guys...I told my daughters if they want to talk to this person they can and I won't get mad...and I won't...but I will not talk to her. Thanks for the comments!...oh and zoobie...no I haven't lost my mind thank you very much, it is very much intact.
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this is why it's hard to post something online. I do appreciate all of your comments and suggestions but it's not that easy. someone suggested talking to her. I do not want to have anything to do with this toxic person. I will not tell her there was a misunderstanding because there wasn't. I stood up to her for something and she is not used to anyone doing that. she runs through friends like I run through Kleenex. she cannot keep friends because she is flat out mean. she talks about people behind their backs so on and so forth. I will tell my daughters that if they want to talk to her to keep the peace then they can, I get that but I will not. I cannot stand this woman and I don't need or want her as a friend. I was her friend, a very good friend to her, and she blew it, like she does with everyone. I could fill this entire forum with crap that she has done to people, trust me. she is not good people!
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you guys are awesome thank you so much! I know they are adults and they should be able to talk to who they want to. I guess what bothers me is that she even talks to them. She is very passive aggressive and I believe that she is talking to them to piss me off and the other thing, is that I wouldn't something like she is doing if the tables were turned. She doesn't care about my daughters one bit. We can't change the place where are currently because this sport is VERY expensive and the only way we can do it is because we work it off and get a very good "deal". As for Facebook, I have deleted her as a friend so I don't see or care what she posts anymore. Thankfully, I am not the only one at our common place that knows her deal and I'm not the only person there that doesn't like her and that really does make me feel better. I guess I just wish my daughters wouldn't WANT to talk to her, it makes me feel like they don't have my back and that hurts my feelings. :(
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because I don't think I am but maybe you would....here is the sitch....I'm going to try to be thorough but vague. I have two daughters who are in their 20's. We are involved in a sport where other people are involved. We keep our "equipment" at a place where other people keep theirs. I am good friends with the people who take care of our equipment. There is one woman that I became friends with, thus my girls also became friends with her but only because I was...this lady is closer to my age than theirs. This lady (and I use that term VERY lightly) is very wealthy...well I should say, her husband is very wealthy, she just gets to enjoy that wealth in that she gets whatever she wants. The sport that we are very involved with is very expensive and I am a single mom. My girls and I "afford" this sport by doing chores at the place where we keep our "equipment". So the people that run the place have very little money and their house is not in good shape. For Christmas a couple of years ago I arranged for everyone where we keep our equipment to chip in and we did a very, very nice thing for them. I tried to do it again last Christmas but the "lady" wanted do something else that would NOT have benefitted the owners. she wanted to do something "for them" but it ultimately would have been of huge benefit to her. I told her I would not participate because I knew the owners wouldn't really want the "gift" she wanted to get them. She got some of the others to chip in and they bought what the "lady" wanted...it sits unused to this day. So after I told her I wasn't going to participate she started posting very passive aggressive posts on facebook. I knew they were directed toward me and she said they were when I asked her. Then she started sending me very rude private messages on facebook. She went bat #(%* crazy and told me that I needed to see a counselor because I have a control issue...she gave me the name of her counselor and it went on and on she just kept sending them, so much so ( I was at work) that I started crying. I showed my boss all of them and her exact words were "is this person crazy?"....okay, so for awhile when I would see her at our common place she would say "hi" to me and I would ignore her. She finally got the message that I didnt' want to speak to her but she kept talking to my girls and they would talk to her, which really REALLY hurt my feelings. They don't like her but they would speak to her. I talked to my older daughter about it and she said she wouldn't talk to her anymore (I never showed her the private messages) but the "lady" still kept talking to my younger daughter. Finally I told my younger daughter it hurt my feelings that she would speak to the lady. she said she is only doing it because she has manners but I told her I didn't care it was still rude and hurtful. So last night younger daughter and the lady were at the common place and the lady said hi to my daughter who didn't respond. She said it 3 times and my daughter didn't say anything so the lady asks her what she ever did to my daughter and my daughter ignored her and the lady starts shaking her head and mumbling to herself. Okay, so here is my question finally....if you were me, would you be upset that your older children were speaking to someone who said some very hurtful things to you? I do think this woman is NQR and I am kind of concerned that she might do something to our "equipment" who by the way are living things but there would be no way I could prove it because I can't be at the common place 24/7 and neither can the owners. I've talked to them about this lady but they think I'm overreacting (about her doing something to our equipment) but she has them so up her butt that they are terrified of her. She only stays at our common place because she knows that no other common place around here would put up with her behavior. So, sorry for the long post, obviously there is more in depth information but I think you get the picture. thanks for reading this far if you have!.........................edited to add that I have told my daughters that if they want to speak with this person then they can but I won't...and I'm not going to be mad about it. I am concerned about what she might do to our property, so if they want to have conversation with her, they can.
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try Suave Daily Clarifying shampoo and conditioner...that is supposed to help
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I wouldn't let my daughter ride in muck boots ever. No, she doesn't need actual riding boots but don't let her ride in muck boots.
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I don't know anything about publix because they don't have them around where I live but if you think they are nice you should go into a Wegmans! They are from my area and are the top of the line from what I understand about other grocery stores! I'm used to them so they are no big deal but apparently they are a bid deal!
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literally just laughed out loud! What a ham
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there are a bunch of people in our barn who swear by Tumeric. take this with a grain of salt because I'm not sure if I buy into the hype and I'm not sure if it would be good for EPM but it's worth a shot. Oposums disgust me in every way, even when they are dead on the side of the road they're ugly
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I'm not sure why so many of you are joking about this. it isn't funny, especially for the people who live in the area.
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Just saw that she had another boy 5/13/15!
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What about Skaneateles?
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okay let me make this as simple as I possibly can and I will try to cover everything that has been asked or assumed. We (my two daughters and I) are not financially able to move out. When we moved out of our old house, the money I was spending on rent is now spent on two cars. I had to sell our old cars, one a 2002 and the other a 1999. I bought a 2011 and lease a 2013 (leasing was cheaper than buying so I leased the second car). Our insurance is high because I have a newer driver and my 27 year old learning disabled/developmentally disabled daughter didn't get her license until 3 years ago. (I sell insurance so I know how the rates work and $2000 is not a lot in this area. Both of my cars have full coverage on them because they have to. Even if I were to sell one or both of them and take a bus, that is still not going to cover a rent payment and utilities. Before we moved in my father, myself and my daughters sat down and made an agreement. No we did not get anything in writing because he is my father why would I think we would have needed one. The agreement was that I would NOT cook dinner every night of the week and that my youngest daughter's room was not going to be a spotless museum. She is a slob but her bedroom door is ALWAYS closed. He knew this from the start and he agreed to it. He now assumes that her room should be spotless and that I should cook a full course dinner 6 nights per week. That is NOT going to happen especially with the way he is treating us. I very rarely speak to him anymore, mostly for my sanity. My 27 year old DD/LD daughter holds a part time job because she can't work full time and my younger daughter goes to school full time and works part time. her last paycheck was $36. She can't work more than 15 hours a week with a full time school schedule and hold a high B average. Finals are upon her hence the reason for the $36 paycheck. Many of you have suggested we just pack up and move out as if it were that easy but as one posted said, I could never do that to my mother. I dont' even think I could do it to my father but if we had a place to go then I would very much consider and probably do it. I was told previously that I would be getting the house and my brothers said they want nothing from this man and that I SHOULD get everything but that was back when I was thePOA now my oldest brother and my father have changed all that around without filling me in so I have no idea what is going on. I do know that once my parents are gone I will have nothing to do with my brothers or their families again because of what they are (or aren't) doing to help out now. My dad isn't going to just sign something and hand over his house to me. I like reading all of the replies but I literally have to shake my head at some of them because people think it's so easy to up and sell the cars and move out like it's no big thing. Maybe where you come from it isn't but in my town, it isn't that simple, honestly if it was don't you think I would have by now? My good friend offered us an entire house for $650 a month which is unheard of around here but then there are things like utilities, and everything else. again, not so easy when you make $400 a week. So there you have it. again, thanks for the suggestions even though not one of them is one I haven't thought about. like I said in my post, I am just looking for someone who might have, by some chance been in my situation and found a way out.
Mothergoose.....the house has to be out of my father's name for 5 years in order to do what you suggest. he has planned very well....long term care insurance ect...he is a very smart man and we have had several meetings with several people to try to figure this out in the past,.
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to answer some of the questions asked...no we cannot move out...rents around here start at $1,000 a month. I make $400 a week. Car insurance is $2000 a year. Car payments are $600 a month along with my other bills....I cannot afford to move out. My father owns the house as I said...it's his house, not mine. I cannot put them into an assisted living because my mother cannot do anything for herself (they are both 90) and they cannot afford the $9,000 a month nursing home for her and $4000 a month assisted living for him, if he would even go which he won't. My siblings don't give a crap believe me when I tell you. My one brother is a millionaire but he says he can't help because it's his wife's money (she inherited it from her uncle) my other brother is the cheapest person I know and he probably still has the first dollar he made and my third brother has nothing to do with this family (notice I don't say MY family). There is an aide that comes in 4-5 times per week to help get my mom fed and in bed and they do light housekeeping so that does help some but we are required to be there to get her up every morning and the nights that the aid isn't there we are also required to get them dinner but I have backed off on that. I barely speak to my father and when I say barely I mean probably 3 times per week. If I could use the word hate I would when saying how I feel about him. Yes, hornblower, my daughters are 20 and 27 what does that matter? if I could move out I would whether they are 20 and 27 or 2 and 7 or 40 and 47. it takes money to move out and unfortunately I don't have enough to do that or otherwise, obviously I would. believe me when I say I am not making excuses. there is literally no way we can move out, we are stuck....I could probably go on welfare, well maybe I couldn't I probably make too much. I know there is no right answer here, maybe I'm just venting and hoping that someone might say something I haven't thought of. I have not a problem with taking an anti depressant except that I'm afraid of the side effects and besides the fact that I don't think they would help with the loneliness. This whole thing is such an ugly and unfortunate mess. People say...there are worse things that could happen and I know that but this is my "real" right now and I am struggling, I am grateful that it isn't worse but it's pretty bad.
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it feels like nothing in your life is going right or when you feel an overwhelming loneliness that you've been praying about for awhile? I am a point due to many circumstances in my life, most of which are out of my control...caring for elderly parents (living with them) when my other siblings do nothing except visit every now and then....my father is a son of a gun, mean, mean man. my mom has dementia so she is awesome. There is no way I can move out. when my father convinced me/us to move in he made promises that he isn't keeping. I had to buy a 2 new cars (used), my child support is ending in two months, I cannot afford to move or else we (my daughters and I) would be long gone. my youngest daughter is growing up and living her life as a 20 year old should, but as Taylor Swift's mom said the other day (being their constant companion for the last (20) years makes it very hard to let go even though that is the only thing we can do....I am the only single person amongst my friends. there are singles groups in my area but the members are people that I don't want to be friends with...not in a mean way but I have no interest in knitting, or hiking or poetry or chess or astrology or any such thing. I have been crying so hard lately that one of my customers says it looks like I've been smoking pot all weekend...thanks teddy! I have been on my knees and pretty much every other position crying out to the Lord and am hearing nothing. Please don't tell me He is still there (I guess I know that) or that things will get better...or any of the other "pat" excuses because I've heard them all and I don't want to hear them anymore (sorry)...I just want to know what, if any of you have felt so hopeless and alone, have done to get through this. I really just want to take my dog and run and never come back. I'm tired of being everyone's problem solver, slave, bitching board, door mat, bank and caregiver. I want to start taking care of myself but I don't even know how. I hate being in our house...well I should say my father's house...he has made it very clear in so many words, that it is his house and I have come to the conclusion that it IS his house and I am just an employee even though I don't get paid. Do I sound angry? I'm not angry, I'm just sad and frustrated and defeated. I wish I was angry. I can get over the anger, it's these other things that I can't get over and that is what scares me...and again....I CANNOT move out, it is impossible right now due to finances....it isn't even an option or else I would have done so long ago. I simply cannot do it right now.
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I took her to the vet yesterday and the blood tests said everything is fine. I have to try to video her having an episode. not sure if I can because they happen so fast but I'm going to try. if I hadn't seen it happen myself I would never have known anything was different. she acts fine.
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Compound W works too!
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First let me say that we have a vet appointment for tomorrow. We have a female JRT...she's a rescue so I'm not sure of her exact age but I'm thinking 9-10. if ever a dog was perfect, it is this one. she means the absolute world to me and I'm crying as I write this. I don't know what is going on with her but almost every night for the last several she has been having some sort of "episode". it isn't a full on seizure but here is what she does....she will start breathing really heavily (while she's sleeping) so I rush over and pick her up and she is limp and lethargic and then I notice that she has pee-ed. All of this lasts less than a minute or two. She doesn't cry out or struggle or paddle or poop. It only happens when she is sleeping. During the day she is bright eyed and her silly self....although and I'm not sure if I'm imagining it but she does seem NQR before I leave for work. when I get home though and for the rest of the night she is acting totally normal. We have a vet visit for tomorrow and they are going to start out by taking blood and then go from there but I would like to have some idea, if there is any, of what this might be beforehand, so I know what questions to ask. Anyone? TY!
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Okay, so I've been a Verizon customer in good standing since 1997. I called them back in February of this year to ask if there was any way to lower my bill without changing my plan....hey, it doesn't hurt to ask right?! The guy I talked to said yes, they could lower it $20-$30 a month. Uh...okay sure. I didn't believe him but hey he's the one working there not me. I can't remember why, but he said he would get back to me later that day or the next day...guess what...he never called back. so I called them and gave them his name and employee number...they were both fake. nice. so from February until yesterday there have been many calls made by me to the 800 and my local Verizon(s) with no luck. they don't stand by their word and they are nothing but liars. I think that they should do something to make it right but they won't. They keep thinking that my issue is that my bill can't be lowered without changing anything and that's not the issue at all. I know I have a great plan. my issue is them not calling me back the 75 times they said they would. I think they need to make their lack of customer service right. What do you guys think. if you were me, what, if anything, would you do next? I can't leave them because I'm locked into a contract btw.
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I happen to work in a kennel and never ever have I heard of this and if I did, I would have a fit. why on earth would anyone do that to a dog?