Chuas book on Tiger Moms is a prescription for crushing your childs will. This is seen the world over, and is fairly popular in Asian countries. In America, they are colloquially referred to as "ball busters"
The problem with this approach is that you only have to crush, or break their will one time. Once done, your child will NEVER get it back. Therapy may help, but won't bring their will back. Unfortunately, children of tiger moms tend to marry tiger wives, who become tiger moms. So the cycle continues.
This leaves your child unprepared to face the harsh realities of todays world. They need their will, and without it, they are adrift on the sea without a rudder. Will gives them the ability to 'push back' when neecessary. Yes, the will is a messy and difficult thing for parents to deal with, and crushing it makes for a docile child and a peaceful, orderly home. But the tiger mom doesn't have to pay the price. The child does, every day of their adult life.
If you think about it, you probably know an adult this has happened to. They are indecisive people who, when push comes to shove, always back down. They avoid confrontation at all costs, and fold when pressed. They are people pleasers, accomodaters and "yes men". Definitely not the end product you are lworking towards.
A superior approach, as claimed by Chua? No, it is child abuse of the most insideous variety. I do reccomend readig her book, so you will know what not to do. bk