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  1. Just want to add, I think the idea that there is a right to hunt down and identify posters based on a belief that their posts are invalid or untrue is ill-founded. If there is a factual misstatement, correct it with appropriate data and a link. Anything beyond that, including hoping to preserve a record of past posts, appears to be just the type of personal persecution the board rules seek to avoid. (And yes, I've been called out for assigning intent to posts based on the past behavior of the poster.)

     

    I really dislike when individuals make generalizations about groups with which they disagree. I don't think this is the venue for those types of comments. They invite push-back by members of the accused group.  Opinions are regularly stated as if they are fact: "Oh, X group wouldn't know that because they don't study Y;" "Everyone knows X group is against Z, so they'll say Y ever time."  Yet, they continue. 

     

    Let the post stand, counter it with facts rather than personal assessments of the poster and trust that readers can for their own opinions. Odds are, there is a person on the other side of the debate who is unhappy that your "truth" is being allowed to stand. 

     

     

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  2. Last-word-itis. If you've posted an opposing point of view, then leave it at that. If someone wants to counter, it is not necessary to continue insisting--more stridently each time-- that that person is wrong.

     

    I can't always avoid last-word-itis, but I try. As I'm sure everyone who reads my passioned posts knows, on some issues, I just can't help myself.

     

    I agree with previous posters that the ignore feature is a beautiful thing. There are some posters who cannot or choose not to distinguish between fact and opinion. Often, these same posters insist that their own opinions are indisputable facts. There is simply no value to me in trying to convince them otherwise and the illogic of the position frustrates me. So, I ignore.

     

    (Of course, we all have our "facts" that we find so true that anyone disagreeing with them is incomprehensible. I have noticed that some posters' list of such incontrovertible facts is longer than others.)

     

    Finally, I've noticed that people tend to assume everyone they are communicating with possesses the same level of reasoning or critical thinking skills. But we know that individuals each see things from their own perspective and are limited by their own abilities. You can try to enhance someone's thinking skills but you can't argue them into being able to perform beyond their personal limits. Some individuals are always going to see things from a more emotional perspective, others may not be able to understand multi-faceted concepts. For goodness sake, don't try to reason with me using mathematical models! And my EQ is not exactly the greatest, either.

     

    It serves no purpose to continue to communicate with someone using your language and knowledge strengths when they don't share those same strengths. 

     

    Perhaps, by examining why we can manage conflict with some posters and not others can help us all as teachers. We can use what we've learned to help our children have higher EQs and better conflict resolution skills.  :blush5:

     

     

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  3. From Psychology Today (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/reading-minds/201702/three-myths-about-reading-levels)

     

    "...reading levels can be a generally useful guide to whether a particular text is going to be far too difficult for a particular reader.  For example, the student who scored at 4.6 on a recent, valid reading test will probably have significant difficulty reading and understanding that text at an 8.1 reading level.  

    Unfortunately, though, the ubiquity and precision with which these reading levels are now being tested and reported has led to their increasingly inappropriate use, especially in schools." 

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  4. You're fine. People want to answer the 'but what about' questions, so they have slogans about all the social stuff. But really, it should be a personal choice. I don't have to put my kids in activities just to prove to someone else that I meet their standard for social activities. Meet the standard that works for your family. 

     

    ETA: My introvert enjoys interacting on Always Ice Cream. She's quite the social butterfly on the site. 

  5. Do you have an overarching value system that you follow? You will need to instruct on whatever character issues you value and make sure that your children know the importance of those values. My response to "I can beat you at that" would be "so what?" 

     

    If humility, grace, cooperation, etc. are fundamental to your value system then help your children understand. It may require focused lessons or other activities for them to fully understand. 

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  6. Some members have approached the conversation of SN with some presumptions that can be a bit abrasive. I don't believe these views are held by the majority, but by a very vocal minority.

     

    Choices for therapy and education are very personal. To assume that someone is not doing the right thing because they are not doing what someone else would do is inappropriate. It serves no one to attempt to justify insistence on following a single path by claiming that it is the only informed decision one could make. My life experience tells me that people who are certain they always know best, seldom do. 

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  7. My children all have very different levels of competence. When they compare, I remind them that A) Being a good person is what I value most; and B) We all have different strengths and weaknesses. We work together as a team, celebrate each person's contribution and keep striving to do our personal best. If a child is particularly sensitive, I do provide some shielding. (I don't have my weak math student using the same program at the same time as my math genius, for example.)

     

    Everyone in this household has had to face the reality that our youngest could trounce us all when it comes to academics anyway. That kid.  :001_rolleyes:

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  8. Help make the Museum’s website more accessible to more people.


    We’re looking for volunteers to help us create descriptions for over 30,000 images on the Museum’s website so that all visitors can have the same access to information about the Museum’s world-famous collections, exhibitions, educational programs, research initiatives, and more. http://projectdescribe.amnh.org/#/


    American Museum of Natural History


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  9. From the article: 

    "The doc's theme and message are so widely considered groundbreakingly important that the streaming service wants everyone to watch it. Like, everyone. So Netflix is opening up 13th for “public screening access.â€

    This means you don’t need a Netflix subscription to watch it, provided you’re watching it with or for a public audience. Settings like classrooms, library rooms, community groups or any educational-type venue qualifies.

    Read more at http://www.relevantmagazine.com/slices/netflix-now-allowing-13th-be-screened-public-even-without-subscription#J4KacjBJiXH3zSAt.99"

  10. I would never tell my son to get physical over words. That is setting him up to be hurt or kicked out of school. I think reminding the children to not speak poorly about one another is sufficient. If your ds were to take it further, he would then be targeted by the bully. 

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  11. Mentioning the tween thing reminded me, all of my olders went through a personality transition starting at 10 or 11. I was most shocked by my DD because she became very different. If you haven't already- it is probably time to start introducing those talks and buying those books for her. Try to keep in mind that her body is messing with her emotions and it is very possible that they are messing with you, too. My SIL has three daughters. She says it can get pretty scary at her house during some weeks. 

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