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  1. :grouphug: I'm sorry.

    Our cat had to be put down on Halloween, so we're still going through some of this. I think that for one dd the thing that might have helped the most was I gave her the next day off from school (I gave the younger 3 all the day off, but it was older dd's cat). This gave her time to process and to mourn. She drew pictures of him, etc.

    Then we've been working on building routines that don't include the cat. They used to get up every morning and play with him, play with him on breaks in the school day, etc. ... so in the morning, we've encouraged them to play with their dolls or Legos. On breaks, I've put out the math manipulatives for free play. My older dd still has a habit of looking for him sometimes, but it has gotten easier.

  2. My fifth grader asked to put it aside for now, but he was definitely absorbing a good bit of the information. I had been using it primarily with him, so it's not a great fit just yet, but if it were something that I was including my older dc in, I wouldn't have any hesitation having him use it, too.

  3. Yes, I usually have them catch up on missed work on the weekend, especially if it's attitude-related (if it's due to conflicts in scheduling that come up, I'll just put it off). My six year old did schoolwork on Saturday morning because of her attitude issues during the week. It wasn't due to any schedule issues, purely because I wanted to make a point and also show her that she's not immune to the rules that her siblings must follow.

  4. In most cases, the fact that there's not a face to go with the diembodied name on the phone and in emails can be a liability, but I've also seen situations where companies have recognized the fact that not having to provide a work site can seriously cut down on overhead, and in some cases, allow for them to draw from a wider talent pool (larger geographic area). I think that it can go both ways.

  5. I do off and on research for a PR firm, basically doing web searches and compiling what has been written/posted on the internet about their clients. I'm amazed at the kind of scrutiny some people go through. Some have their houses staked out, have people going through their garbage and posting catalogs of it, it's amazing and at least a bit disgusting. Especially on a public forum like this that is easily searchable from Google, etc., I can really see why anonymity would be preferable.

  6. Read it and wept. Why oh why does everyone assume homeschoolers never socialize?

    This, and these are high school students in the replies, I assume?

    I think that I might be too hard on my fifth grader when it comes to things like grammar, spelling, punctuation by ps standards. ;)

    In the right sidebar, they have some views that dissent from the majority, mostly by homeschooled teens. The difference is amazing and definitely reinforces my homeschooling decision (though by the teen years, we've given our children the ability to make their own educational choices, and one is leaning toward ps.)

  7. Nope. No philosophical opposition to them whatsoever. Many of my friends have them, and some of them are quite elaborate and beautiful. But for myself, I just haven't come across any picture or words that I've had any compelling conviction that I want THAT right HERE on me forever. If that ever happened, I'd probably get one.

  8. I'd probably take a combination approach -- learning about hypnobirthing and/or Bradley and/or what else is out there to work on the mental end of coping with the pain, but I'd probably also schedule a consult with the anesthesia practice that serves my hospital to discuss other options, and investigate things like water pool/shower, birth balls, etc. that have been known to help some people.

     

    I had studied Bradley with my last, and got all the way into transition without any problem. That's when we noticed that a hand (with the cord in it) had worked its way around the head, and I did take some narcotics before they tried to push the hand and cord back.

  9. I'm registered, but haven't been asked to donate.

     

    There are two ways to donate stem cells, and they seem to be using both a lot now. One donating the actual marrow, they stick a needle into your bone, and you're sore for several days. The other is they collect stem cells from your blood. Apparently the meds they use to make you make more stem cells make you flu-ish for a few days, and then you spend 1/2 day to a full day hooked up to a machine that harvests the stem cells. So, either way, there is some discomfort involved, but I've seen what the recipient side is like, and it's nothing like that.

    Be the match has lots of good blogs about donation that tell the good, the bad, and the ugly of both processes step by step from a number of people's perspectives.

  10. I'd check with the organizers. In this day and age, I don't know what goes, when I was around cotillion sort of things (I was a poor Navy kid and didn't actually do them, but most of my best friends from the prep schools I attended did), there was a pretty narrow range of colors, for the 12-14 year olds, the dresses were tea length (mid-calf), and the matrons running the show were very particular.

  11. I watched the first few episodes and I couldn't take it. He is really arrogant and I too find the entire thing odd.

     

    They didn't seem all that religious to me either. Do the kids attend regular school? I thought they said something about formerly homeschooling and then finding a school where their values were taught?

     

    Dawn

    Yes, they hs'ed up until a couple of years ago. One of the older girls (Meri's dd) was still kind of hybrid homeschooling at least, but then they all went to ps (I'm a season or two behind, we don't have cable and they stopped webcasting).

     

    I would guess that other than the polygamy principle thing (of which mainstream LDS people I know have been some of the strongest opponents I've heard), the ps in Utah probably would fit with a lot of their religious beliefs. We found that when our dc were in ps there, they were coming home with a lot of material that reflected LDS views on history as opposed to the secular mainstream, for example. They would go on field trips to church-run museums, etc. It wasn't the main reason we pulled them out of ps, but it was a contributing factor. I don't think it's anything intentional, I don't think that a lot of them realize/think about it (which I think happens anywhere there is an overwhelming religious majority), but since we're not LDS, it wasn't something I was entirely comfortable with, either.

  12. We use secular curriculum. My older kids' book happens to be the same book that the honors Biology classes in our local school districts usually use.

     

    But their syllabus is put out by a company affiliated with our church, so it often includes information on how what the book says fits in with our beliefs.

     

    The little ones are completely secular, we don't see the need to cross-reference until they're late logic/early rhetoric -- our religious beliefs are usually easily compatible with most current mainstream scientific thought.

  13. I just think the Browns are better parents. Their kids seem like normal kids, and don't have to act like little adults and raise the littles. The parents make it clear to them that they can choose the parents' value system, or not, and that they'll love them either way. There are a few more moms than you'd expect, but in the end, they do seem like a normal family in most ways.

     

    The Duggar kids seem... brainwashed. No other way to put it. It creeps me out.

    I generally agree, but I also wonder how much of it has to do with the control in the editing room the parents keep. I know that in both cases, we're not seeing the whole story.

     

    I like both families, wouldn't choose either of their lifestyles, but find them interesting. I relate a lot more to the Browns, because outside of the whole polygamy thing, we're pretty similar. I could be friends with the Brown ladies, though I'm not sure I'd want to be around their dh for long. Sometimes Christine reminds me of one of my best friends -- their attitudes toward a lot of things, etc. ... there's even a slight physical resemblance and they were raised pretty much the same way, minus the polygamy thing.

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    don't move to seattle. people wear "grunge" to the ballet. yuck.
    That was the other year. The kids were newborn, 1 1/2 and 2 1/2 when we moved there, so we didn't get out much. When I did and went to the mall, I kept getting attacked by the overpopulation crowd or scolded for putting my dd on a leash -- one of my boys wasn't walking and the other is special needs (clubfoot and other birth defects) and couldn't walk far, a triple stroller was out of the budget, and she was a wanderer.
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