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Between weekly and monthly ... every 2-3 weeks.
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I don't know -- I'd have similar views to you (especially having dealt with long stints of infertility myself) ... I'll take who they send me.
Do you want to stick with what you know, or try something different?
Flip a coin?
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If both parties buy into it completely, it can be a great thing. If one party or the other has any kind of reservations, maybe not so much. I watched a movie called Arranged on Netflix (yes, a movie, but it did seem to be pretty much based in reality) about two young ladies who were teachers in New York ... one Orthodox Jewish and one Muslim, who bonded over the fact that they were committed to this, and their fellow teachers thought that they were crazy. They were strong women, and didn't go for the first guy that their families suggested -- they definitely did have a large say in the matter, but in the end, it was the parents who presented the guys to them (well, in the Jewish girl's case, the Muslim girl found the guy and managed to get his info to the matchmaker, which was funny).
I was introduced to my dh by my mom and his dad -- wasn't really an arranged thing, but there was a certain security in knowing that this guy was the kind of guy my family wanted me with, and vice versa.
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I'd look more at the ADHD diagnosis and whether treating (whether by diet changes, meds or counseling/coping techniques) might help now. My dad and my brother have both had ADHD their whole lives, but they were always up at the top of their classes until their teen years. My brother almost failed out of high school, and my dad DID fail out of his first year of college, because the effects of the ADHD got worse during/after adolescence and the level of work began to require a level of concentration that their overactive brains couldn't handle.
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Ugh! That's why I want to do my part to change things. I'm sorry for the way people treated your family. :grouphug:
Dh and I talk a lot about moving to another state, but the reality is that his career is doing extremely well here due to his contacts and Utah's strong economy. Moving would be a financial mistake for us, but I am determined that my kids NOT become "Utah Mormons" despite having to live here!
You CAN raise nonUtah-Mormon, LDS kids IN Utah. My best friend there has never lived outside the Salt Lake Valley, and she's one of the most down-to-earth, non-judgemental people I've met. Of course, this sometimes has made her feel like an oddball in her ward, but that's probably not the only reason. ;) Her dc have picked up on her attitude, and are pretty open-minded as well. My kids' piano teacher (who was a work friend of my dh) was similar. She'd rarely been out of Utah, but you wouldn't have known it.
It seems like you do a good job of exposing your children to people from other backgrounds, to the fact that everyone doesn't believe what you believe and that that's ok, etc. The fact that you even noticed the thing at the school tells me that your children aren't going to grow up that way, as my experience is that the majority of the people there have never even thought about things like that. While the dance studio stuff was malicious, more often we were faced with block party situations where it honestly never even occurred to people that anyone ever did anything different to them because nobody had ever bothered to expose them to the idea.
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You think this way because you don't live in Utah ;).
Most LDS outside of highly LDS populated areas are just as you describe. Dh and I have always said we would never live in Utah because of all the Mormons :tongue_smilie: (we are LDS).
This. There were a lot of things we liked about Utah, and we had a good number of friends there, a majority of whom are LDS. But there came a point where it was uncomfortable at best raising non-LDS kids there, as they were excluded from a lot. The LDS perspective on certain historical issues is different from the mainstream views, and it was the LDS, not the mainstream views, that were presented to my children in ps there.
For the most part, I don't think that most people meant to be exclusive and insular as they were, but most of them didn't know any other way. When we came home from an activity at our church one Saturday to find the street blocked off for a block party, the neighbors were genuinely surprised that we didn't know anything about it ... it was, after all, discussed ad infinitum in various ward committees and groups, and it was announced after Sacrament meeting for many weeks, as well as in the ward emails.
Prayer before public school functions in LDS style was common in our public school experience there (Granite district west side, so not as heavily LDS as some other areas of the state, or even the Salt Lake Valley). We chose to go with the flow, as there was never anything really contrary to our beliefs stated in the prayers.
Eventually, it got to the point where we realized that our children were going to be so limited (we already were in a homeschool dance group where none of the girls were allowed to talk to dd outside of class because we weren't LDS -- these were 6-8 year-olds) that we chose to leave. I miss my friends still, but it was the right thing for my dc.
My cousin is LDS (my uncle converted when he met my aunt), and he talks about living in UT off and on, but always left, because after being raised in NC, HI, and CA, the Utah culture was just too overwhelming for him.
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With my first, I had the floor nurse from he**, and was glad to get out of there.
With my middle two, I enjoyed my stay. I had the same floor nurse both times (17 mo apart), and she was mainly on the private floor with the rich people and left me alone, which suited me fine. Both times I had a toddler (or two) at home, so having the time with just the new baby was nice.
My youngest was a c-section. The nurse was routinely 2-3 hours late with my meds (serious understaffing). My midwife had decided to keep me another day, but midday, her partner (MD) came by, saw how much pain I was in, and sent me home where I could manage my own meds and take them on time (my other dc were older and my mom, who is a postpartum doula/hospital nursery nurse was there to help).
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Agreeing with martial arts. My daughter got tired of the cattiness of dance and moved to martial arts and hasn't looked back. We chose a style (Jhoon Rhee Tae Kwon Do) that even bills itself as martial arts ballet. She's on the demonstration team, which allows her to perform at a variety of venues, and she definitely gets lots of exercise. She'll be testing for her black belt in the fall.
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I'm Seersparks28254, and I'm in Gryffindor, miserably failing potions.
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It could be perimenopause ... I'm the same age, and my cycles have gone from 27-29 days to 20-40 days over the last year or so. My family doc (GYN until insurance for that specialty got too high) says it's totally normal for this life stage. Pregnancy chances are slim to none for me ... in your case, I'd definitely get a serum Hcg (blood test) before chalking it up to that.
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I think that you have a good plan, doing Denver now and Cheyenne Mountain later. We were members at Denver when the dc were little, and they loved it. We saved Cheyenne Mountain for when they were older and able to appreciate/walk more.
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If she's having poop problems on regular formula, that points to a probable problem with milk products, and giving her regular milk is bad for that, along with the other problems mentioned here. Wal-Mart sells soy formula for the same price as regular formula, much less cost than name-brand, but still totally fine nutritionally (certainly 1000% better than what they're doing now, as far as that goes).
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Here, the cutoff is either Aug 31 or Sept 1 (I don't have anyone that close to the line, so I haven't paid close attention). It is very common around here for people to wait to start their June, July, August birthday children until they're 6 (a year later than the cutoff).
My older children are very small for their age, about average maturity, but they're also pretty academically advanced for their age. For us, it didn't make sense at all to hold them back because of size, because quite frankly, my 13 year old is the same size as the average fourth or fifth grader. Academically, he's about halfway through high school, but for things that we're forced to put a grade on (non-academic), he uses the eighth grade label, the appropriate level for his age according to the state guideline.
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Somewhere along the Blue Ridge in NC or VA -- moderate climate with four seasons, friendly, laid back atmosphere, and reasonably close to my family without being TOO clost to my parents (which puts the TN side mostly out, as my parents are in the Tri-Cities, though I might do Knoxville and be close to my brother and his family).
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I like ereaderiq.com -- they have a pretty good of the newer free books in the Kindle store, and I get email updates every day with what they added. For older, classic, public domain books, there's a category in the Kindle store.
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At my church, at the service we frequent, we have two SN teens who serve as acolytes -- one with autism and one with Down Syndrome. For the first few years, they both had a buddy who they would always serve with -- an older, very experienced child who they could look up to and over to to model their behavior. This was the same technique that was used with my brother who had ADHD -- for the first year, an older boy who was a great acolyte took him under his wing, and my brother's behavior was 1000% better when he was up serving than it was when he was in the pew.
Things like the hugging are things she will need to work on, but again, if SHE is the one motivated, and it's explained that it's not appropriate while pastor is working during the service, she can probably be convinced to keep it to one hug before things get started.
It might just be something that everyone is going to have to take a leap of faith and try at some point, even if her behavior outside of the service and at children's church isn't up to what you want to see in the service. Though children may be SN, they still often recognize that there's a difference, and you may not be able to get them to see the point of changing behavior in other situations (thinking back to my brother, who would go whooping and running into the church (all the way to the vestry), but whose behavior would change from then, until he was back out after the service).
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Project Manager in the IT department in the corporate office of a prosthetics/orthotics company (they did the tail in Winter's Tale).
He has an MA in Mathematics
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My father-in-law lost both of his kidneys to untreated strep. Any risks that would have come with the antibiotics probably wouldn't have come close to the fallout that came from not treating. Thankfully, the transplant from his sister was more successful than they even hoped, and he'll have had it for 30 years this fall.
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Depends on the child's sensitivity. Definitely WITH parental guidance at that age. My 11 year old is sensitive, and won't be reading them for a while, but my (not so sensitive) 12 year old and sensitive 13 year old read them recently and loved them. Dh read the books after them (the dc would fight over the book when he brought it from the library, and then in 2 days, when they were both done, he would read).
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My 12 year old still breaks out when we use certain brands of free and clear detergent, it was worse when she was a baby, and TJ's was one of the first I noticed. Arm and Hammer, Kirkland and All seem to be better than Tide, most others for my dd.
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I really liked Guest Hollow's plans ... I'm about to pull them out to use again with my almost 6th and 2nd/3rd graders. I believe that I've seen Jenn post around here sometimes -- her plans are somewhat literature-based, using books that are usually easy to find in homeschooling circles.
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You should be good in a week or two for schoolwork, as long as you take it easy physically -- park at the table or on the couch, let the dc come to you.
The housework and more physical stuff will likely take several more weeks -- and be sure to take the time. Most of the complications my friends have had were from trying to do too much too soon around the house.
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I had all 4, which is somewhat unusual in my family. I might have been the only one of my siblings to have them all. The Army wanted my bottom ones out before they'd clear my ROTC scholarship ... well, that was one of their excuses/roadblocks that they threw up, one my parents paid out for, since the Navy, who was in charge of my medical and dental care at the time wouldn't. I had the two dug out under general anesthesia.
I cut one of my top wisdom teeth when I was in my late 20's. By my early 30's, it was disintegrating, and I had it pulled (they wanted to dig for the other one, but I was pg, didn't want to risk general anesthesia, though the trauma of it all may have contributed to the miscarriage anyway).
I might be starting to finally cut the last one now. I'll be 40 in a couple of months. Our insurance stinks right now, so I'll leave it until it causes trouble.
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The book theme is very intriguing. Definitely original (if you wanted to bow to tradition, I guess that you can have him come up with a design that somehow weaves some vines or flowers in). I always have loved old libraries like Trinity College, Dublin's ... it would make stunning artwork, and be personal and unique, with a backdrop of books and then symbols here and there of specific books.
would laughing gas at the dentist cause a child to throw up?
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I'd keep him on clear liquids -- broth, ginger ale, etc. until tomorrow just to be sure. It could be the gas, it could be the blood, it could be the milkshake ... no way to be sure.