Jump to content

Menu

jhschool

Members
  • Posts

    1,329
  • Joined

  • Last visited

Posts posted by jhschool

  1. OK, so I am a cheesy person.  You may find something cooler to do, but this is what I 

    would do (Re:  your question on what day trips to take).

     

    1.  Monet's garden at Giverny.  It's a little bit away from Paris by bus.  It is beautiful!

     

    2.  Rodin museum (in Paris)

     

    3.  Eiffel Tower at night.  On the way home (walk), buy sausage subs from a street cart.

     

    4.  Louvre (in Paris)

     

    5.  Notre Dame (short).  I walked from where I was.

     

    6.  Just walk around Paris, up and down, drinking coffee at whatever little coffeeshop

    you feel like, looking at the beautiful food shops.

     

    7.  Go eat tartes (quiche).  I think it was called La Maison des Tartes.

     

    8.  Montmartre and then hang out in a coffeeshop after.  This is a little bit away on the subway thing.

     

    Edited to add:  I am jealous!  Enjoy your trip!

  2. I think it is a violation of our privacy, absolutely.

     

    Unfortunately, in this crazy age, everything is public.

     

    I turn away when I see people are taking photos.  I slip away, or turn 

    away.  I don't want my photo public.  

     

    It would bother me.  It would bother me even more if DS's pic was on FB.

     

    We don't do FB or look at it unless it's a business and I need info.

  3. I have left DS alone for years (definitely since before middle school).  Only for

    about 10 minutes.  (Popping in a store or coffeeshop to grab something.)

    Car is on, with either A/C if it's summer or heat if it's winter, with all the windows

    closed, with the keys in his hand so he can lock all the doors.  Also the recirculate

    button is on so he doesn't get the car exhaust.

     

  4. Church

    Lunch at home

    Go to a grad party for 1 h

     

    Do laundry (there are 3 loads to do upstairs and about 3 downstairs).

    Declutter boxes in basement
    Declutter shelves in schoolroom
    Declutter outgrown clothes and make a big bag of them
    Find a way to make the basement stop smelling gross!!!
     
    Jean, I wish you a restful day.
    Lizze, I am praying that things get better for you.
     
    Love to all.
  5. I don't know how I feel about this.

     

    On the one hand, I wouldn't want to keep thinking I was anonymous

    if I wasn't any more.

     

    On the other hand, I really speak my mind on this forum and I don't

    speak this frankly or seriously to most of my IRL friends.  I would feel

    really vulnerable if my family's problems were now more public...no

    longer an anonymous poster who you don't really know.  And now you

    would know all the problems I have with my kid -- not many, and no serious ones,

    thank goodness (more "is late to everything" kinds of things),

    but still, he would be so embarrassed to have been publicly displayed

    as a problem to solve.

     

    i am torn and confused...

    :(

  6. DS is like that.

     

    It drives me bonkers.

     

    Now, he is an amazing singer, musician, and composer.

     

    So there are perks to this.

     

    I feel guilty making him shush, but I like a PP's comment

    that I am teaching him not to alienate those around him.

    Good.

    :)

  7. I loved PP's post about we need to be the brains for our teens.

     

    Although I really like the 'girls need to be their own boundary keepers,'

    (I actually love that statement!)

    I think the other PP's comment about the fathers being tough shouldn't be jumped

    on like that.  That PP was just trying to share her own dh's experiences

    as a teen.  There is no need to be mean about it about his ethics.

    If ethics were all that was going on here, the OP wouldn't be finding 

    people's bottoms on her son's phone.  There is a certain level of brainless

    impulses that unfortunately have a big role here.

     

    Back to the issue:  I wasn't sure if OP is OK with her DS having sex.  If she

    is OK with it, and if he is OK with it and the girl is OK with it, (maybe her

    parents too--I think they should know as well), then they all

    need to have a conversation about birth control (pill + condoms should be

    supplied by parents or at local clinic); if one of the parties is not OK with it,

    it's time to start a big conversation with the kids.  It sounds like the young

    people are OK with it.  But I think OP has to be very clear about it:  if it's

    yes, then OP has to help guide this (I know it sounds weird, but someone

    has to provide the cash for the birth control and make sure they get decent

    sex education).  If it's no, you shouldn't be having sex, OP should be very,

    very clear about it, and possibly provide the birth control regardless of

    her approval/disapproval.  They definitely shouldn't be ignored and left

    to their own decision making without any birth control.  

     

    I personally think 15-year-olds shouldn't be having sex, but I don't think

    my personal opinion should be imposed on OP's kid and girlfriend.

     

    I think the sexting is ridiculous and unnecessary.  It could also be harmful

    to both of them in the future, because some of those images could end up

    in the wrong place and pop up later when you don't want them showing up.

    Job interviews, her future husband if these two don't end up together, her

    future children, etc.  Who wants that photo to come back?

  8. I would fire her,

    BUUUUUUUTTTT....

     

    the reason she is bringing the granddaughter is because they

    can't afford the money to put her in any kind of childcare.  Either

    the mother is unfit or works or something because they

    can't afford anything else.  It is not your business,

    and frankly, I would let her go but I would feel really terrible 

    about it.

     

    Sorry to complicate the thought process.

     

    Now, if she isn't cleaning properly, you need to fire her anyway, regardless

    of the granddaughter issue.  If someone is not cleaning, what is the point

    of paying them?  You might as well do it yourself or leave it messy and

    save the money.

     

     

     

     

  9. Call the police's non-emergency number and report this.

    This young man should be spoken to and his father should be

    told of the liability and fines, since obviously the thought of

    hitting small children either hasn't deterred them or they just

    don't think it's possible.

  10. I think the kid will be fine with no video games until Sunday.

     

    I suggest you read books, watch movies or play board games as a family. He doesn't

    need video games to survive.

     

    It really is not a big deal to remove video games for a few days.  If it is, then

    you have bigger problems.

     

     

  11. OK--your neighbors are NUTS!

     

    Don't even begin to think that what they are doing is in ANY way reasonable.

     

    This is a free country.  If your lawn is mowed and your trees off their property, they

    should KEEP THEIR MOUTHS SHUT.

     

    Stand up for yourself and tell them they do not get to dictate your life for you!

    (I don't do well with people, so it's easy for me to give advice -- in your situation

    I would be stressed beyond belief.)

     

    What these people are doing is wrong.  Just plain old wrong.  Harassing a young family

    for no good reason, because they have nothing else to do!!!

  12. I would take away computer games for 24 hours every time he used it without

    permission.  (I guess that's punitive, but I don't see how it will hurt him

    to go without video games for 24 hours.)

     

    I wouldn't change the rules.  You set yourself up to bending the rules in 

    the future, and it's a very reasonable rule for a 10 year old.  Even teenagers

    have a hard time self-regulating the video games (I know a friend of DS

    who plays all day and half the night).  Your rule will help him have a better

    quality of life.

     

    Don't scold too much.  That's my downfall--the nagging.  Just--no computer games

    for 24 hours if he uses it without permission.  The end.  During his 24 hours,

    you and he can do fun things together--it doesn't have to be a miserable 24 hours.

×
×
  • Create New...