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  1. I think that telling your kids that the adults at AWANA don't take their commitment to it as seriously as they should is a mistake. It's disrespectful to the adults, as you don't know what sent into the decision-making process or why they decided what they did, and it's making them out to be the villains in a situation where no villains are required.

     

    :iagree:

     

    I think this is probably one of the key reasons this thread is irritating me. I'm a volunteer myself as a Girl Guide leader. It's something I take seriously but there are times when life gets in the way. If I had to deal with parents who viewed my volunteer work as an entitlement of theirs then I think I would have burned out pretty fast. Luckily I've generally had understanding parents who stepped up when I needed help, understood when things didn't work out and didn't judge me simply on my failures (because there are ALWAYS failures).

     

    It's easy to criticize from the sidelines but very hard to be the one that has to pull these groups and events together.

    :iagree::iagree::iagree:

     

    :grouphug: No one wants to see children upset and disappointed. But presentation is everything. How we present situations to our dc has a huge impact on how they react, especially as young as 3. My 3 year old would NEVER realize it was X day and we always do Y on X day. It wouldn't occur to her unless and until I said, "We don't have Y tonight." So I wouldn't tell her if I thought she was going to have a meltdown. She is my 6th 3 y/o and honestly, all of them have been the same way. :grouphug: I am not criticzing you or belittling you. I am trying to be gentle. But I think if your dc are so young, you influence how upset they are. And being demeaning and disprespectful toward the volunteers who make this possible for your dc isn't a good example. Explaining that the people who make it possible have children of their own and they are taking some time for their own dc, just like you take time for them, is a better, calmer, kinder way to explain the situation.

     

    (The above applies also to my 6 year old. She doesn't have a clue - yet - about what occurs on what days.)

    :iagree::iagree: Your presentation is EVERYTHING, and at your kids age will strongly influence how they react. If your kids are miserable, you can thank yourself not the volunteers who graciously give their time to teach your kids. And good luck with next week when your kids explain to the volunteers that lead Awanas how their commitment is lacking. Seriously, are YOU volunteering?

  2. Some of the things that we eat that may fit the bill:

    Risotto (chicken and mushroom; pumpkin, spinach and feta are two examples)

    Thai curries made with coconut milk. They could be very mild.

    Ground beef in various sauces (lots of veg in the sauces) and served with rice or pasta or potatoes.

    Chicken and apricot casserole with rice and veg

    Grilled chicken with salad and potatoes

    Spaghetti bolognese

    Ratitoulle (eggplant stew)

  3. More broadly, what level of iPad do iPad owners recommend? Does one need more than 16GB for smooth performance? (Does it make a difference if one is never going to play games on it?)

     

    ETA: And really, not that I'll ever buy one. I still don't understand the no keyboard thing.

    I think you'd need a 32G for comfortable space for textbooks and educational apps.

     

    I have a bluetooth keyboard with mine, I only use the onscreen keyboard when I'm using the ipad on my knee.

     

    Grrrrr.....it's the same thing in our local school district. This year they required a special graphing calculator (they only allowed ONE make and model) that never went on sale for less than $108.00. If your parents couldn't afford it, you couldn't take tig/pre-calc or calc1.

     

    At J's school the required graphing calculator is $300. I do see the need for the same one though as the textbooks are geared to one or the other.

     

    If the iPad is cheaper than textbooks, then why aren't the schools providing them just as they did textbooks? My son's cyber school requires a laptop and they provide it...they also lock it down. They provide iPads for those that need it (not sure which groups those are). btw, they also provide brand new texts to the students. Gee, as a highschooler in the 90's, we were using texts from the 70's.

    In Australia, kids have to buy their own textbooks, the schools do not provide them.

     

    Are the ebooks cheaper compared to used books? I saved an enormous amount of money for classes by scrounging together used books when I was studying theology.

    They are probably a similar price to used, I buy a lot used as well. But they are lighter, so I think it would be worthwhile.

  4. Yup! However, I grew up in a non-drinking family and I am not comfortable drinking in front of my parents at all (although they know I have a drink occasionally). I still struggle with how to handle the drinking-thing with my kids. I want them to see alcohol as something that adults drink on occasion and nothing more. When I was growing up it was sort of the "forbidden fruit" and I was one of those high schoolers/college kids who did binge drink. Looking back...I wish I hadn't and I hope I can find a way to prevent my kids from making the same mistakes..

    :iagree: I have a drink most evenings. Often it's my DHs homebrewed hard lemonade which is more semi firm than hard :lol:

  5. No one is getting their kicks, they are disagreeing and stating why.

     

    I consider your position illogical, but I have an equally illogical position on motorbikes after my Mum was killed when riding pillion and my brother broke his back 6 months later in a motorbike accident. You do not get on a motorbike while you live under my roof, no kind of motorbike in no circumstance is acceptable, my children will NEVER ride a motorbike while I have a say in it.

    So while I disagree with you, I do understand how one comes to such a position.

  6. While looking for info to back that up, I read on a car insurance site that eating/drinking while driving increases your chance of an accident by 80%. Assuming that is true, what would you do if you found out that a person ate a Big Mac and fries (with ketchup!!! ;) ) while driving your kid home?

    What about talking on a mobile phone? Or changing tunes on the car stereo, they also feature highly in accidents.

  7. Soooo...if I'm the kind of person who would have a glass of wine with dinner and then drive a child home, am I NOT the kind of person who should be trusted with other people's children?

    Well, it seems there are a whole bunch of us who apparantly can not be trusted with other peoples children.

     

    I don't get how not having A glass of wine with a meal is holding oneself to a higher standard. It honestly would not even occur to me that people would have a problem with it. One glass of wine would in no way make me anywhere near tipsy or boozed up. How ridiculous.

    :iagree: I'm just perplexed at the term "higher standard" in this context.

  8. I especially liked this part:

     

    Our mission is to ensure that JesusWeen becomes a global phenomenon.

    :lol: That tickled me as well, I love it when folks from the US assume their traditions are just as big in other places, bless them.

     

    Am I the only one who read it, "Jesus...Win!" but with a hispanic accent? I thought they were making fun of Mexicans. So confused.

    Or Aussies, they talk like that too. Don't think it's going to be a hit downunder, but then halloween is not that big either.

  9. You may not only have celiac or a gluten sensitivity, but other food allergies as well. You mention eating corn flakes. Corn is one of the top allergens. My girls and I have many food allergies. My first was diagnosed with GER when she was a baby and all they wanted to do was medicate her. I did an elimination diet, and she was fine.

     

    Your diet is already pretty restrictive. I'd pull out the corn and see how you do. Oats can be problematic as well. Because you're eating such a small variety of foods, finding your triggers will be fairly easy. Have you done any reading on elimination diets?

     

    Potatoes are also a nightshade and can cause problems for people. Rice would be a better choice if you can tolerate it.

    I was going to say that a lot of what you are noting as your diet has gluten in it, cornflakes, broth, oatmeal all probably have gluten and too much potato gives me HORRIBLE heartburn and general digestive misery.

    I don't know what to suggest as alternatives, but I'm not sure the foods you are currently eating are necessarily digestive system friendly. My inclination would be to stick to gentle vegetables and rice, but I'm not you and I don't know your digestive and dietary history and how you have got to that particular diet.

     

    I'm sorry you are so miserable, it sounds utterly awful!

  10. I shall pretend the movie doesn't exist. How dare they remake Footloose! :blink:

     

    ~(stands up as a child of the 80s) How Dare they try to recast the Kevin Bacon role! How dare they take over our prom! John Lithgow is OUR grieving moral center. Lori Singer is OUR girl who wears red boots and causes mischief. Those were OUR tractor races.

     

    Next they'll be wanting to remake something like 21 Jump Street. Wait....they're doing that too. :svengo: Come on, Twilight's not good enough for youth of today? :tongue_smilie::lol:

    :iagree:

     

    I read Ebert's review. He didn't like it at all.

     

    Apparently it even uses the same script and music. Well, what's the point of remaking it if you don't update it to make it more relevant to kids today?

     

    I'm sort of meh on the original but I won't be seeing the remake at all.

    The same script, music and costume??? What on earth is the point?? I figured they'd make it all new music and clothes etc, what are they thinking? Ug, the lack of creativity is astounding.

     

    Did you say they are remaking DIRTY DANCING???????

     

    Oh PULEAAAAZZZEEEEEEEE!!!!

     

    Just tell me that Justin Bieber nor Zac Effron will be in any of these "remakes"

    :iagree: I'm in shock. They can't do it, they just can't. Talk about tromping on my youth!

  11. Yes, they are spelt traditionally although all 3 have acceptable alternative spellings, but we tried to choose the most common for the boys. DH and I argued over the spelling of DDs name and while it is an accepted spelling for her name, it's more commonly pronounced differently and so people get it wrong all the time. I would have prefered a different spelling that was more specific. But hey, I got my way on the middle name and she can always change it by deed poll :D One of my absolutes for my kids was that there was no Y in their name. People stick random y's all over the place these days, so I wasn't having one even in the proper place.

     

    Yes I did spell my kids names the traditional way and it really, really bugs me that because of this crazy trend towards "kreative" spelling people still ask me how I spell them. C'mon people -you really can't make a guess at how to spell Anna and James.

     

    In Australia spelling your kids names wierdly generally means you will be associated with being a bogan - not something many people aspire to ;)

    :iagree:

    Well I agree except that some bogans do actually aspire to be bogans. It's perplexing but there you are.:confused:

     

    Made-up names or foreign names are one thing, but super standard names with odd phonetics just seem...unprofessional, or childish.

    :iagree:

     

     

    uneducated and trashy

     

    no, I'm not judgmental ;)

    :iagree: I'm not judgemental either :lol:

  12. So, I got K12 HO at the beginning of the year. I looked at the TM and decided I'd get it if I needed it. The year has been dreadful in many ways and we are just now onto Part two which is all about ideas. I had no trouble digging up stuff to go with Part one, but part two is a little tougher to wrap my brain around.

     

    So I'll get the TM I thought. So I find it on abe books and it turns out they want to charge me so much postage to get it here expedited that it will cost me $60, gaaaaah. So I look to Amazon, but the single seller who will post it international won't post it expedited. Standard shipping is 3-6 weeks, if it actually takes 6 weeks then my need for it will have almost entirely gone.

     

    I have to be honest and say I've had a kid in hospital, and a sick dog and a dying cat, as well assorted other stuff to deal with in life. So history has not been a priority and I have not planned forward or even started to look for ideas for part two. I'm taking a spell while the dog is in her comatose rather than drunk and beligerant stage to say heeeeeelp!

     

    Can anyone suggest where I can look online for things to supplement part two so I don't have to spend $60 on a TM I might use for 8 weeks at the max? Please? Or even tell me what kind of things I need to look for, it seems like a section with some fantastic content and I really don't want to miss the extra we can gain by digging deeper.

  13. One of the last things to push me back away from Christianity was realizing that it didn't make any sense to have a God who would help *this* person find her missing car keys and let *that* person's baby die.

     

    [right around the time I was asking some big questions of my own, a family lost their 14 month old to some kind of asthma type thing..]

     

    It just.. doesn't make sense. (and neither do all of the explanations that involve "well, God works in mysterious ways" and stuff.)

    :iagree: So in summary, no I don't believe that there is a being that answers prayer. There is no logic at all to the losses that some people face, it's just life.

  14. I view it as elective body modification and when/if DD asks for them done and can give us logical reasons to have it done (not "but everyone has it done mom") and prove she's got the maturity to handle the care of it. I also am against the piercing guns so we have to find a place that doesn't use them.

    :iagree:

    I voted at an age determined by us, but also we would not do it until she actually asks for it and understands what is involved. I would use a piercer because I believe that the guns are unhygenic and can damage the ear.

  15. I don't know, I can't help but keep thinking "So what if they were?" If they were your kids, you wouldn't deserve the rude comments and dirty looks either, you know? Who knows the situation? For all the person knows, you could have been assaulted at 13 and had a child from that; would you really need nasty comments if that was the case? Would there be any case in which rude, judgmental comments would be appropriate? I honestly can't think of any, and it really, really bothers me that people treat teen moms that way. (And I say this as somebody who had my first at 26.)

     

    I've got to imagine that it's hard enough to be a teen mom without people heaping scorn on you for something that 1) is done (I mean, it's not like you can send them back) and 2) was handled as well as it could have been. I try, given that, to be as nice and friendly to pregnant teens and teen moms as I can, and I'll go out of my way, if I see somebody who appears to be a teen mom at the playground or park, to go up and say hello and ask about her kids and basically treat her with the same friendliness and respect I'd treat any other mom (or person, for that matter) with. I don't think I've ever mistaken somebody's siblings for their kids, but if I did, it would be a totally innocent mistake and I wouldn't mean any harm or judgment by it.

    :iagree:

     

    :grouphug:

    I think your response was entirely appropriate. The lady was being rude (that's putting it mildly), and should mind her own business.

    :iagree:

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