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I reckon they are creepy. That link confirms it.
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Yes, but it remains on people's feeds. Anyway, I've had issues with FB in the past. This is just the final straw.
No, if you hide it then it stays on peoples feeds. But if you delete it, it goes from their feeds entirely.
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I can't wear any earrings, they all react on me. I've tried everything incl solid gold and it makes no difference. Nor does coating in nail polish. I sometimes wear them for a special occasion, but I wait until I'm walking in the door to put them in and I know I've got 1-2 hours before they must come out. I used to wear them all the time, no idea why it changed. But I can wear any other jewellery fine, so I wear necklaces, bracelets, rings, watches of varying materials without any reaction at all.
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PSE would be the most user friendly of them all. Photoshop really isn't necessary if you're not a professional. Lightroom is helpful if you are planning on shooting RAW (uncompressed files), which offer a better quality image but they eat up hard drive space FAST. It is also nice for organizing and batch editing.
Actually, there are free Photoshop actions for photo editing all over the place, as well as paid ones. Photoshop is virtually limitless for editing photos--it is (I think) the industry standard for professionals.
So if you're not planning on going pro any time soon, I would start with PSE, get used to it, then get the 30-day trial of Lightroom and see if you like/need it.
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Check out http://www.studentdiscouts.com.au for cheap prices, you can use your homeschool reg to get the student price :)
The job would be in Canberra..my biggest problem is we have horses and they would have to come with us..finding land there may be tough!! We have 8 acres here but could get by with 5....it's an inside joke b/c Australia 'hints' keep popping up, I bought some TimTams at a store and realized they were Australian cookies, the kids favorite show was H20...we just watched "The Reef" tonight and of course set in Australia...it's hilarious and my kids refuse to go to Outback Steakhouse b/c they hate to leave the states! :)
Masses of land around Canberra for horses, but holy smokes. I dread to imagine the cost of bringing horses with you!!!
Tell the kids that there are no Outback Steakhouses in Aussie, you can eat there in total reassurance that it's a fully American experience ;)
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I don't like the boyfriend talk either. I've never had to deal with it with either of my boys, perhaps because they went to boys schools before homeschooling?? But DD has been in school just a few months and has a new boyfriend each week. The child is 8!!! I had no interest in boys at that age, zero, zip, nada!!! When I was 8, boys were smelly. I think I'd prefer that.
I asked her what it means, what makes a boy a boyfriend, not a boy who is a friend. Apparantly it's if they are "cute." Heaven help me!
I'm no help am I :rofl:
All I can say is that we have never set any policies, my 17yo has had a couple of girlfriends now and I've been quite happy with how it has gone. He never showed any inclination to date before about 16 and when he has dated these girls, they have just done movies etc. I just kind of take it as it comes really. But we are not Christian, and I don't care if they shack up with someone at some point, and I certainly don't expect dating to be about finding a spouse, to me, at this age, it's about finding what you DON'T want in a spouse!! We have talked a lot about how sex complicates relationships, and adds layers of emotion that were not there before and how it's not something to be taken lightly. But that's a conversation for a teen not a young child.
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There is something called an IP address that you have when going online. It can be traced to your location and apparently it's pretty easy to track too.
Logging into a FB account means you've already given them your identity and correlating IP address.
You give every site you go to your IP address. As admin of a forum I have access to everyone's IPs and yes, I can track them through that. But many IPs are dynamic rather than static, ie they change every time you log on your computer.
The plug ins mentioned by another poster make more sense and its a good reminder not to link too much of your online life to any one provider, and IMHO that includes google. Again, regular clearing of your computer of extraneous content can help with this.
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Facebook is purely entertainment. I have other forms of entertainment.
Actually, these days it's about much more than entertainment. It's about knowing what is happening.
I have teen dance students and I find that contacting them through Facebook is more effective than email.I have seen field trips fill up on FB. If you have X spots to fill, and FB is the easiest way for the organizer to gather a group, it's going to get filled on FB. So, for limited-numbers events, my kids are glad I'm plugged in. If I wasn't, I'd have no right to complain about missing out. (I am surrounded by the technically gifted and live in a very tech-savvy town, so I'm guessing things are organized differently elsewhere.)
Yep, it's the way I find out about HS excursions, it's the way we communicate with our Scouts. It's the way I find out what courses places are offering.
I don't remember where, but Dh and I read somewhere that FB tracks your online activity for 2 years after you open an account, even if you delete your account.How? I mean seriously, how?
If they install a cookie and you don't clear your cookies regularly, well yeah, I can see that. But it should be standard practice for you to regularly clear your cookies. If you don't, more fool you, it's not just FB that is tracking your every move.
I can't imagine that they install tracking software on your computer!
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OP, I actually think this is decently common among people who have experienced tragedy or serious things in their lives. Life just doesn't seem as rosy when you've seen how scary it can be. That said, I do think seeking safety someplace where you can work out those feelings (like with a counselor or a pastor or trusted family member) would be healthy.
I am atheist and I still feel like this. Actually my early experience was pretty much what nailed the non existence of god for me. My parents died when I was relatively young, 19 and 23. My Dad had cancer for the previous 10 years. Then my best friend and maid of honor died, then DHs best friend and best man died.
I have 3 healthy children and a DH who has outlived my Dad with barely a glitch in his health. How blessed am I! And how terrified the ball is going to drop any minute!!
My 17yo was recently diagnosed with a heart condition. I held my breath that day, wondering if this was IT. But it wasn't, 2 months later and he has just come home from hospital having had it fixed. How blessed am I!!
So I'm still holding my breath, wondering when the big bad thing is going to happen to us. But meantime I try to enjoy the life I have with the family I have. Because I understand life is fleeting, I try to make the most of it.
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:hurray: Congratulations!!!
Thank you :) I'm very excited! Lots going on to try and sort out the kids, but that is all falling nicely into place.
The thing I found particularly interesting about this course was that they give priority to mature aged applicants. So they interview and offer places to the mature aged people first and then the young uns get the left over slots. This year there are 2 slots (from 30) left over after all us oldies have places. It's nice to know that we older folk ;) are still wanted in the educational world.
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I voted under 18. Unfortunately I had no one encouraging me to pursue my two choices. So I saw them as silly teenage wishes and never tried.:glare: I am now 44 and one is no longer a viable option, the other I am pursuing, just with a 25 year gap in the learning curve.
I actually am dealing with the bitterness of not being taken seriously as a child. My parents and I talked about this recently. For those reasons I do take ds's interests seriously. We discuss what they might look like as a career, how he could pursue a degree in that field, etc. Nothing set in stone, I know he may likely change his mind. However, I want him to know his interests have value, and that there are people earning a living pursuing them.
I feel exactly the same. I wanted to be an architect. My parents were firmly of the opinion that a womans place was in the home. They did not actively discourage me, but they gave me zero encouragement and didn't help when a bump in my path seemed to spell the end to that. As it turns out, I still could have done it. So my sort of other option, probably encouraged by my parents was nursing. I applied for nursing and got accepted, but in the meantime I had done serious back damage working as a nurse aide.
When I was 25 I went to Uni part time to study education, found that boring beyond belief so decided to have a crack at Architecture. As it turns out, I'm quite good at that stuff. But it needed me to give 4 years full time which was not feasible with a young family.
During that time I had done a photography paper and really loved it. At 27 I decided that that was what I wanted to do I spoke to the design school and arranged a credit transfer so I was 1 year on my way to a 4 year Bachelor of Design majoring in Photography. Then we had to move and I couldn't do it part time in my new city. So I have had my photography desires on the back burner for the last 12 years.
I voted 27 because that's when I discovered photography. I've always had my face upto the viewfinder and seen life that way, but that was when I decided I wanted to study and make a career from it.
Well the waiting is over, I've been accepted to a very prestigous course here and I start to study next year :) It's only a diploma, and I did always want a degree, but the degree course is 1/ 3x as expensive and 2/ is aimed at art photography rather than commercial. This course has strong industry links and there is no question I will come out the other end working as a photographer.
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This would honestly strike me as a very strange wedding gift. If it's something you have sent to other cousins to mark the occasion, then by all means continue the tradition. But if it's "special" to this one couple, then I'd skip a gift altogether.
:iagree: Also, if they have been living together, the bible may not be something that means much to them.
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10 to 15 minutes IS cry it out -- do you wabnt to cry for 20 minutes while yur DH sits on the other side of the door to see if you'll "stop it"
Yeah, I would. I prefer to cry alone. Perhaps some babies are like that too. I know one of mine definitely is.
One thing I noticed - anti-CIO folks often seem to forget the fact that babies actually benefit from sleep, and the more the better. A baby who has been allowed to be up most of the night is not learning/growing at an appropriate pace and is generally not as happy, day or night, as he could otherwise be. Many kids whose parents refuse CIO on the principal that it's "for the parents" have kids who go for years crying instead of sleeping. How that is better than a few nights of sleep training is beyond me.
I understand that CIO is not needed by many, and not appropriate for some babies. But I think it's great that millions of parents have found this opportunity to trade maybe an hour of crying over a few days for years of sleep problems that affect the whole family.
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Okay, here it is plain and simple.In MY situation, my dc were not in pain, hungry, scared, too hot, too cold or any of the other excuses some of you are coming up with for why they were crying. Waking and crying had become HABIT because for weeks prior to this they would wake, cry and momma would come running and hold them and sing to them and cuddle and comfort them. (Yes, I do love my dc and I'm not some uncaring, unfeeling ogre who ignores her children because of my selfish desire to sleep) Of coarse they learned really quickly that this was much more enjoyable than just laying in their bed and having to go back to sleep. IT WAS HABIT AND IT WAS THEIR WAY OF GETTING SOMETHING THEY FOUND ENJOYABLE.
My dc could not co-sleep. They would stay awake and want to play, sing, talk and move around. My husband was gone at the time and I had no one to help. It got to the point that I was leaving the stove on during the day, leaving the front door open, falling asleep while reading a book to my dc...it wasn't safe. I did what I felt was in the best interest of my dc at the time and I do not regret it.
If it was such a horrendous experience for my dc how do you explain that within days they had learned to go back to sleep on their own. They aren't traumatized, don't have separation issues, don't have abandonment issues.
I am really amazed that some can't accept the fact that the method I described using, used wisely and compassionately is effective for some dc. What works for some won't work for others. Co-sleeping was a complete fail for us but you haven't seen me bad-mouthing and preaching the dangers and pitfalls of doing so...I'm sure I could come up with oodles of books and articles saying how co-sleeping is harmful or bad. How many times have I heard of dc being suffocated because parents roll over on them!
I am horribly offended that some of you think you are a better parent or that you must love your dc much more than those who have chosen to deal with these sleep issues differently. EVERYONE IN THIS THREAD LOVES THEIR CHILDREN AND ARE GOOD PARENTS. Why can't some of you accept that variations of CIO are effective for some dc when used wisely and in love just as you accept that sometimes co-sleeping is the best solution?
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I just want to clarify too, that when my dc wake during the night now and cry I do go in to see what the problem is (just as I did up to the point that it had become habit with them). Sometimes there is a problem and I deal with it...I've spend many sleepless nights in my 14 years of parenting with cold rags on foreheads and holding buckets for them to vomit in...but sometimes there isn't a problem and a quick hug, kiss and tucking in finds them going right back to sleep. The conditions upon which I decided to use the technique I used were extreme. I would not have taken that route, nor would I ever recommend anyone doing so, if my dc were only waking and crying occasionally.
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We have one for the same reason as you and no, I don't think it's dangerous.
I use first names, but I'm careful not to include identifying information or too detailed location information.
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I am extremely liberal, I cuss around my kids, they watch the unedited Christmas Vacation, and many parents would consider me a terrible influence. And I am shocked and outraged.
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I don't know what "the CIO teaching" is, but to my knowledge, it does not include ignoring your baby's distress cry (which parents should be able to recognize).
Sometimes I think that one of the reasons people do "controversial" things like CIO wrong is because we're often afraid to talk about it openly, as a valid option in the first place. Maybe it does need to be stated that you don't ignore a distress cry ever - so let's talk about it. I have been glad to see that many moms here are open to the discussion.
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:iagree: I can tell the difference between a distress cry, an "I'm bored" cry, and a "I just really need you" cry. If parents can't tell the difference, then they aren't ready to CIO.My babies at that age don't sleep with objects in their cribs either.
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This strikes me as shocking and absurd. Must be because I'm Canadian.
Ayup.
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The idea that co-sleeping will fix the problem always grates on me. The reason we became desperate enough to even try CIO was that the babies cried in the family bed all night off and on, sometimes for hours at a time. We saw doctors, I fed and fed and fed, but that didn't solve the problem. It wasn't any better in cribs, as we learned, so I don't really advocate it, but it always gets me when people say "just co-sleep." In the end, they were fine, they learned how to sleep around 3 yo, they stayed in the family bed until they were six, and we all lived through it. But co-sleeping was no magic bullet.
:iagree: the child that I CIOed absolutely hated sleeping with us, even when sick he preferred his own bed. He also did not respond to intermittent reassurance, it just built him up to go longer.
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Would and did. For the same reason at the same age, two hourly waking alllll night long was killing me. He cried for 45 mins the first night, about 10 the following and squeeked the night after.
To me it came down to the kind of mother I was becoming for both my children, I don't do well on no sleep.
I understand that people are vehemently anti CIO, but my take is that a couple of nights of crying does not undo a lifetime of love and caring.
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Jenny, I missed your initial post so I don't know what exactly went on.
I just wanted to let you know that we were having major violence issues 2 years ago with our 12 yo and I was very concerned that it was going to be a bad situation by the time he got to be a teen and bigger than me. DH did the whole "you will not lay hands on my wife" but it didn't really help.
We took him to a private psychologist and it turns out that consequences were exactly what he needed. In 4 weeks I had a different boy. It was actually amazing the effect of someone else telling him that the behaviour was not acceptable. I'm not suggesting that may be right for your son, but I really encourage you to take him to a psych, they can talk with you and him and help you both come up with a plan for dealing with the anger.
Massive hugs! I've been there.
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Seems to me that as far as my kids and my Scouts are concerned, the best wood is the stuff that is nearest when they have their knife in their hand.
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I voted other.
My experience with my kids in schools is that there are two kinds of schools.
One type pays lip service to having an antibullying policy, but doesn't effectively enforce it. They are the ones that blame the victims, and say crap like "boys will be boys." Bullying will always be a problem in schools like this and the behaviour will worsen because it is not dealt with well. This is not fair on the bully or the victim.
The other type deals with bullying immediately and effectively. They do it in such a way that the kids buy into the concept and pretty much police it themselves. Prolonged or repeated bullying does not happen in these schools.
I've had my kids in both types of schools, and the only way you can tell which kind the school is, is when something happens and you get to see the reaction. The second type of school may not be common, but it does exist. Out of the 6 schools my kids have attended, we have been lucky enough that 3 of them have been the 2nd kind.
I don't actually think that anything major need be done with the bully if the school deals with it effectively, the behaviour never escalates to a point that it is serious enough to warrant expultion because it's dealt with and stopped when it's still minor.
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I think that if we had windows, the xbox and comptuer would be able to talk and share content over wifi, so i could use the xbox to stream movies etc. But not sure if that is possible with an xbox mac combo.
To be honest, it's all fairly confusing to me, which is why I'm asking here in the hope that more enlightened people may be able to explain it.
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We are looking at the xbox kinect for the kids for Christmas. But I don't know how it will work with our not yet purchased Mac. I know our mac friends have playstations. I was thinking about things like iTunes and, well, I don't know to be honest but I was wondering if one of the two worked with all things Apple better than the other?
Any thoughts?
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My son's first sewing project was a bag out of his old trousers, it's really cool!
http://jumpedtheditch.blogspot.com/2010/01/todays-sewing-efforts.html
I need help lying to DH
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A few ideas here:
http://www.theage.com.au/entertainment/tis-the-season-for-krap-kringle-20111220-1p3fa.html