Momof3littles
-
Posts
3,578 -
Joined
-
Last visited
-
Days Won
1
Content Type
Profiles
Forums
Events
Blogs
Classifieds
Store
Posts posted by Momof3littles
-
-
What a lovely boy. You and your family and Marek are still in my thoughts.
-
I also wanted to come back to add that I am of the mindset that it is okay to only put in the *necessary* effort into *some* projects. I think kids should strive for excellence in many things, but I also think that it is important to find a balance. I was a type A student overall, but in my college major I was surrounded by the extreme of the extreme of type A personalities. I think there is some value in knowing when it is okay to do enough, kwim? Most of us can't and maybe shouldn't give 100% to every aspect of our lives. Is that terrible to say? I was kind of thankful that I sometimes knew where to cut back on the effort to preserve myself so I could put forth the effort where it mattered. For a kid who is a perfectionist, I think maybe it is a valuable skill to learn when it is okay to put in enough effort to get by. For my son, that sometimes means explaining to him what the purpose of a project is. While you were painting, were you thinking about the artist's technique? Great. That was the goal, kwim?
Believe me, I want excellence from my kids in many things. I talk to them a lot about effort, etc. But I do think there is value for some kids in teaching them when to dial back and recognize what is *enough.* Honestly, in college, the workforce, etc. I think there are times it is actually quite advantageous to do *enough* vs. striving for perfection and absolute excellence. It is an important skill IMO to know when excellence is necessary vs. when it is okay to put in enough effort to get by.
-
I have a perfectionist. We try to focus on effort vs. outcome. When he struggles with our co-op art assignments, I try to get him to focus on the fact that the teacher is looking for him to demonstrate some understanding of the technique, movement, artist, etc. via the project, vs. expecting a masterpiece. I try to get him to understand *that* is the focus, not the end product in and of itself. I am probably not articulating that well :/
Have you read the book Mindset? I found some of the language in there helpful for talking to him at a neutral time. I have not read it yet, but there has also been some research in the last year or so about fostering "grit" in kids. They had a few researchers on talking about how we can encourage grit in our kids.
I totally understand where you are coming from. My son is doing much better at age 10 than he was 2-3 years ago, if that helps any. But it is definitely something we work on.
-
Yes, I just mail RRR and they have to sign for it. I do that because I don't want to go in person, as I've heard they frequently decide to make "requests" when you show up in person (extra forms, asking for info beyond the law, etc.). I just mail and they sign and then I don't converse with them. I do pick up in person though.
-
A local HS friend does. The SD we are in is rather large, and they lost her port one year. She had them sign for it, but they still expected her to recreate the content and come up with more samples all over again when they lost hers. She did a more bare bones one and submitted that. In an effort to not make herself crazy and streamline attempt #2, it included things like a writing sample that was also related to history. In typical SD fashion they couldn't get out of PS mindset and wanted a "writing" sample, not just a history sample :huh: The next year she submitted on a thumb drive, and they didn't say a word.
The same SD lost my affidavit last year. I send it in with my port, they signed for it, but didn't end up with it in their files. I didn't get in trouble, I just called because they typically send out a "we received your affidavit" letter, and I didn't get one. Not necessary, but since I was the only person I knew in my local SD who didn't receive one, I called. They didn't have it, but sent me my letter. eta: I have also heard of other people in our district having their port lost by staff :/
I may start digitally submitting as well. A few years ago the SD started trying to dictate the format (must be in a 3 inch binder, labeled this way, tabbed dividers, etc.). Part of the confusion was that our HS liaison in the state DPE updated the home education part of the state's website, and put in her interpretation of the law, which wasn't necessarily factually accurate ;) Once that change was made to the website, some SD started demanding ports follow the X inch format, etc. Crazy. I think they now understand they can't dictate the format, but that doesn't stop them from trying. My SD asks me to include a rubric they mail to me, but I refuse to because it has inaccurate info on it (like saying I have to provide my diploma. It has been repeatedly settled by the state liaisons over the years that attesting in the affidavit is sufficient). I do not supply my diploma, I just attest to it in the affidavit, and they don't say anything. But I refuse to use their district generated rubric that asks for things not required by law. We have enough regulations to deal with in my state without allowing districts to create made up requirements.
-
How did you know you had this? Did you check yourself? I'm not sure if I'm checking it right. I think there might be a bit of separation, but I'm not sure. I do suffer from a lot of back pain, so it would kind of make sense.
ErinE, would an abdominal belt be suitable for me since I'm so many months post-partum? Would it help strengthen my weak muscles?
Well, I'm a PT so I knew I had it after my first pregnancy. I am petite with a proportionately short torso, so when I am pg, my belly goes waaaaay out in front of me. That certainly didn't help. My midwife also checked me at my post partum appts, but I already knew I had it. And...I didn't do anything about it until after my third pregnancy (stupid, stupid, stupid of me, especially as a PT, but alas, healthcare people are sometimes terrible patients).
Yes, you can check yourself. There are videos on youtube with suggestions on how to self check.
The splint was helpful for me but I don't have prolapse. I like the tupler style one with three "arms" as it makes it easier to bring the two halves of the rectus together vs. a compression style splint that tends to just smoosh and flatten.
-
I was thinking minor concussion too, because of the spaceyness. It could happen even if your head didn't hit anything, just from jerking back and forth with enough force. I am sorry you have to deal with this, and hope you feel better soon!
Yep, the mass of your brain can hit the inside of your skull and cause a brain injury. I'm not trying to scare you, but brain injury is very serious, even "just" a concussion. http://www.biausa.org/about-brain-injury.htm#coup%20contre%20coup
This is why I'd head to an ER or your PCP ASAP.
-
Have you been checked or checked yourself for diastasis recti? About 1/3 of women have it after pregnancy. The two halves of your rectus abdominus are split if you have diastasis recti. Traditional ab work like regular crunches can make a diastasis worse, so it is important to know if you are dealing with it.
I have a diastasis, but closed it up a LOT using the Tupler Technique. A total pain, but I'm glad I did it.
She has videos on self checking.
http://www.diastasisrehab.com/check-belly.php
http://www.diastasisrehab.com/signs-symptoms
I would start there.
-
Glad you caught it early! :grouphug: I'd maybe add probiotics to your life for the next few months to head off any problems. Maybe watch your sugar intake as well. The doctors who prescribe for ANY and EVERY tick bite freak me out a bit.
I always felt that way until we went through it with DH. We have had ticks on all of us too many times to count (sadly), grew up in a lyme endemic area, live in a lyme endemic area now. Never had an issue, until we did. Only then did we realize how difficult it can be to get + confirmation via bloodwork, the limitations of testing, and the fact that if you do abx early, you may never get a +. Add in that only about half of people ever see a bull's eye. We never had any issues at all until Dh had rapid onset of lyme like symptoms that were rather debilitating and scary. He never technically tested +, but did test + for two common coinfections.
When we lived in NC we had neighbors who did abx for every tick bite after having a friend's child die from Rocky Mtn. Spotted Fever. I thought they were crazy. Now, I'm not so sure. I am kind of scared this year, because we find ticks every single year on each child in the family.
I get where you are coming from and thought the same way until a year ago or so. I detest the overuse of antibiotics, but testing early is really unreliable (not enough chance for the body to mount an immune response), the testing has plenty of limitations besides that, and you can't rely on the bull's eye at all. So that leaves you with few options other than treat early after a bite, or waiting it out when it might be much more difficult to treat. I don't know what the answer is.
-
I am so sorry. I know our time is coming with our dog, and having to go through that would be extra heart wrenching.
-
I am not anti chiropractic but would see a regular g.p. or e.r. or whatever to get it documented. I would not delay.
-
You need it documented. Seriously. Sometimes immediate effects aren't too bad, but you could end up with an issue that becomes more obvious over time, and then insurance will pretend it might not be related to the accident. You need to report it to your insurance and his and see medical staff to get it documented. At this point you can't know how long it will persist or be sure that it is not something possibly serious.
-
Gah. Hate typing on phones. Not Lil genius lol. Ligamentous.
-
Sorry, not trying to be vague. There are times it can be managed without surgery. Googling will pull up some info on conservative management. It really just depends on the extent of her injury, any li genius involvement, location, etc. I had locking for weeks afterward that could be relieved via joint distraction (phys. Therapy friends and faculty pulling down on my leg to create more joint space, temporarily freeing up the loose body of cartilage). I didn't mean to brush you off...it is sometimes possible to do PT and manage it conservatively, but most people end up having surgical repair.
-
Dh did have sun sensitivity from the antibiotics. He was on two simultaneously though. We used florastor and five lac for probiotics.
-
That article relates more to the effect on the meniscus if the acl is not repaired, so somewhat different than op's scenario.Here is an article about it from the American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgery
-
Sorry for phone typos. Meniscal.
-
I had a small tear in college and managed it conservatively. I was majoring in physical therapy at the time and did have some help from a professor and my PT major roommates. There are too many variables to give you any advice. You can read up by googling conservative management of menisal tears. Hope she is on the road to recovery soon.
-
We very rarely use abx. DH had Lyme like symptoms with no visible bite, buy sudden onset, and we live in an area that is notoriously bad for lyme. We did the abx and would not hesitate to do it again. Iv had Dh take a lot of probiotics. I can count on one hand with fingers left the number of times our family of five has taken abx in the last decade. Lyme can be so devastating. What I saw with Dh scared me.
-
Yes, I would want a diagnosis. I have worked in healthcare with a few people with Marfan's. One was a patient being seen for routine orthopedic issues (joint replacement, he was 60ish). His sisters were only diagnosed once they came to visit him. I think he received his diagnosis later in life or maybe while hospitalized, but the sisters were not diagnosed until they attracted some attention at the hospital.
One okay from the cardiologist would not make me 100% confident that there will be no ongoing issues. It is certainly a positive, and I'm sure reassuring . Ongoing monitoring and viewing concerns through the lens of Marfan's may result in the physicians doing different screenings, looking more carefully for Marfan-specific issues, etc.
So yes, while I understand the temptation to avoid, I would not avoid it in this case.
-
Have you considered the rfwp vocab? My son has retained the vocab from Caesar's English well so far.
-
One thing that helps me is that we have been in a small, academic co-op with long time friends for a few years now. The kids end up "front loaded" on instruction, and then often have things to do as followup projects during the week. I don't have to necessarily *instruct* for all of those subjects. We do math on our own, but they have a lot of little things to do that don't require as much instruction from me as we'd typically do.
My son is 10, and it has been a great joy this year to set him free with a history reading assignment, then ask him to write a paragraph about some aspect of it (sometimes he chooses, sometimes I choose or narrow the scope for him). I've also tried this year to make sure everyone has a book nearby during school time that they can pick up if I am tied up with another child. We keep a lot of history books out on our bookshelves, but I do rotate out some of the books from the history cycles we aren't currently in. When I need something for them to do, I will often direct them to pick something off the history shelf. I did a better job with that this year, and I hope to do more of it next year.
As part of our co-op they usually have copywork to do, so they can work on things like that in their binder. When my 10 yo had downtime this year while waiting on me to finish with his siblings, I'd have him review his vocab cards from Caesar's English. This year I'm going to experiment with index cards in a hinged top recipe box for each kid as a memory work system. My 7 yo loves memory work, and DS1 has a few things that he could stand to memorize at this point. They can do that while waiting on me. We also use a mix of things like analogy books, logic books, daily geography or editing, etc. (not all of those every day!). This year I may cut the spine off of a bunch and put them directly into binders with copywork and other things they can do independently. That is a little more busywork type of stuff than I prefer, but I do think they get some benefit from those activities when we do them.
.
-
It is hard to feel like you have all the boxes checked off sometimes, even if you do. You'll do great! :)
-
Is this your first time? I think first time jitters are normal. My DS1 is a more anxious type of personality and he actually enjoyed the testing and evaluation process. Best of luck, but I am certain you don't need it at all :)
Has anyone addressed school board about extracurriculars?
in General Education Discussion Board
Posted
SDs must allow HSers to participate in our state, but even then it can be a headache to get them to comply. For example, they use lots of loopholes, like if an extra curric. group ever meets during school time for a rehearsal (think certain musical and choral groups), they use that as a way to say no. Or if an activity is deemed "co curricular" HSers cannot participate. I tried to find out about Odyssey of the Mind from our local SD, and we went round and round, and I finally gave up :/ No one could tell me if it was "extracurricular" or not. They just kept passing me from person to person and avoided committing.