Being alone does help her to calm down, but what do I do when she refuses to go be alone? She was literally clinging desperately to me, refusing to let me stand up until I said I'd go look at the ingredients in her breakfast toast.
I have a five year old who has very big feelings about things. I think she works herself into a tizzy & doesn't have the maturity to pull herself out yet. I try to work with her on taking deep breaths, standing with her feet firmly on the floor, scrunching her shoulders up and letting them go, etc. It really helps short-circuit the crying/flailing/clinging.
I don't want to minimize her feelings but I love having a way to help her move past them more quickly.
-K