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I am firmly in the "it depends" camp.
You need:
a good library system
a teacher willing to learn with/ahead of the student whenever necessary
access to consumable and manipulative items for exploration/experimentation
I have access to a decent library system, that includes SOTW and a very wide selection of non-fiction, but nothing for Latin. I am comfortable teaching lots of things and, with the exception of phonics, math and Latin, the curriculum is for my convenience. However, most moms I have ask me about homeschooling are not comfortable teaching. Many end the conversation the moment they realize the state does not provide them with the plan and materials to use. So I think the temperament of the parent doing the teaching is probably the greatest determining factor for if schooling this way could work, and is probably why the early homeschool field was narrow. It is a lot easier to take off on a path that, while not well travelled, has clearly marked trails and a rough map than take off down a path that may or may not even be a path.
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(((MedicMom)))
Thinking of you and your sweet family this evening.
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First, sex is not a taboo topic in our house. Each of the kids has their age range of this series: http://www.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763668729/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
When Punk ran across some porn online he was very disturbed. So we talked about that the images he saw weren't what sex is really like. Then we talked about the problem with porn isn't just that it isn't real, because there are lots of great things that are purely in the realm of fantasy, but that it treats people as things. And there is no situation where people are stripped of their humanity, of the fact that they are individually of value and worth, that is a good thing.
We also discuss it as an issue of addiction, with all the other things that fall in that category.
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That is a great list!
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Abraham should have been smart enough to dump Rosita after the battle. He would have known better than to unsettle a fellow soldier on the eve of battle like that.
And he was a terrible jerk about it. I guess he wanted to push her away once and for all, without her trying to convince him to come back. Maybe the writers were making him be a jerk so we're not too upset if he gets killed in the next couple of episodes.
YES!! He was a total jerk.
If he lives he is so in trouble with the group's women.
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I get the attack.
They played nice with the Governor and paid dearly. So here they come across a group that has already proven vicious, (The attack Darryl witnessed, the ambush of the small group, the killing of the Hilltop child, and the demand for the killing of the Hilltop leader), and decide to strike first.
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I miss sitting in my Mamaw's kitchen sipping a coke float from her tin cups. (She had 6, all from a late 40's gas station promotion.)
I miss being able to hide in the corner and read during family events.
I miss watching VHS tapes of musicals with my Grandma.
I miss not being in charge of laundry.
I miss being sick meaning all I had to do was lay in bed and sleep.
I miss sitting in my Great Grandfather's basement listening to the rock polisher.
Mostly I miss the older family members who were a part of my childhood. (I won't lie, the sick and laundry things sound super good today!)
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We really have a very nosy society. I think that's the worst thing. People just feel free to comment on things that 50 years ago no one would consider voicing an opinion about. I think we are too "familiar" or casual as a culture now which emboldens the public to make comments it should not be making.
I run into a lot of people with the attitude "my privacy is important but yours isn't ".
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Of course it is a valid choice.
But I don't think it is much more unusual now than 30 years ago; growing up almost everybody I knew had both parents working
The women I know who are SAHMs now (not homeschooling) have the same reasons as when I was a kid- military husband with frequent moves, caring for elderly family members, etc.
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Shut up. Samuel L Jackson reading it was hilarious!
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Wanted to resurrect this thread to update:
We are finishing up a 6 month therapeutic push of Speech, OT, PT, and play therapy and have seen MASSIVE improvements in self-regulation!!
We will be able to go down to play therapy only, with OT methods we have learned being implemented at home.
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(((Stacey)))
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I agree. Having someone trained who brings in a body of experience with others in similar situations can make a huge difference. They know the areas to focus on and have a plan in mind.
And they have a better chance of recognizing the signs that it is time to call in someone with more specialization, consider in patient treatment, or try medication.
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Yep, not a fan either.
I just need a good friend to listen sometimes, but sometimes even that is illusive. Or my mom - and she is gone. So hey...God gets to listen to my babble. It always works out. ;)
But there is a big difference between just needing to chat and the sort of professional treatment needed to deal with trauma, depression, anxiety, personality disorders, etc. There is so much more than just talking that goes into managing those and having someone with the right qualifications is more than just someone who shares similar theological positions with the client.
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I answered from my own pov, but I also know about another pov. Some Christians are taught that modern psychology holds to a worldview contrary to their faith. There is no understanding that one could learn from the observations and discernment of patterns of people of any religious pov. Sometimes it is true that interpretations of these observations and patterns or the strategies for change might be at odds with faith, but it would be there ---in specific instances---that a conflict might be. (The same types of conflicts that are in competing schools of thought in psychology by the way.)
They believe the Bible contains absolutely everything we need to know for "life and godliness" so why would you look elsewhere? What is often called "Biblical counseling" revolves around showing someone their sin in a situation, and giving them applicable Bible verses. It's called "nouthetic counseling."
Though I am a Christian who is conservative theologically, have been a therapist, and think that faith can be helpful to people in the healing process, I've seen incredible harm come through this type of counseling. Of course, some people also experience help. It's like that with any form of counseling--some people will be helped. It's the severity of harm that can be done, though, that makes this form of counseling dangerous, imo. Because the focus is on sin, with a very shallow understanding of the huge biblical category of "affliction" (woundedness, sorrow, etc.) it can be devastating for someone who has experienced trauma. Though their trauma may be acknowledged as real on the surface, they would typically be told that their ongoing pain is from their sin. They might be encouraged to look for the ways they sinned in the situation (did you disobey your father before he beat you with the belt? Well, you need to confess that. Your husband is emotionally abusive? Do you always meet his needs the way you should? ) and in the present as they react to the situation. (Typically urging premature forgiveness; any emotion still associated with the trauma is indicative of a lack of forgiveness, etc.) So for a married couple who go in with basically unhealthy communication patterns or with the "two tics and no dog" phenomena (In other words, two people are contributing more or less equally to the problem and their contributions are within their volitional control) then this approach may work fine. For a couple where there is abuse, the model will damage the recipient of the abuse.
For instance, Doug Wilson insinuated that the 14 year old victim of a 20-something year old seminary student who was boarding in their house was partially to blame for the statutory sexual abuse that took place and her father sinned by failing to protect her. (That's the nouthetic approach) http://www.theamericanconservative.com/dreher/doug-wilson-reluctant-response/ (This link goes to Wilson's response, and to Natalie's response to Wilson. YOu can also go back and read the original critique of Wilson. Natalie has her own blog now.)
Thank you.
As someone who was harmed severely by biblical counseling, and helped immensely by a qualified, licensed therapist there is a BIG difference. My therapist is a Christian, with a divinity degree and a much more conservative theological view point than mine and yet, helpful.
Professionalism. It is a game changer.
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You do have to wonder how people come up with these things, doncha?
Isn't it obvious they received a superior education since they weren't homeschooled?
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The one that really gets my goat is the implication that my intellectually disabled son would be FINE if I weren't homeschooling him.
Uh-huh. Whatev.
Ugh. (((Kinsa)))
I had a family member, who is an educator, tell me with a straight face that my oldest son with ASD would not have ASD if he were in public school.
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I tried it. It was awful.
I figured hey worth a try.
i thought that about this awesome cure for insomnia.
Three kids later I realized that woman in the WalMart parking lot was full of it.
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Those are what I want to avoid. I have seen cases where heroics are used to "save" someone but then they live for weeks, months or more suffering even more. People whose hearts have stopped and are resuscitated over and over again and then put on a vent with more tubes and meds with the same outcome just delayed.
I am all for keeping the individual as comfortable as possible.
I agree. Our knowledge and ability to prolong life has changed so much, so fast, that we focused on if we could rather than if we should.
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Did you tell her that she could cure her stupidity by putting her head in a bucket of ACV for ten minutes?
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It is his body and his choice.
Caveats:
Taking care of our bodies includes the hair and scalp. So if you pick a hair length that requires multiple washings daily to keep cared for- you chose the cut you deal with the consequences
I am still in charge of the big picture of your health so if I research the glow in the dark purple hair dye and discover health risks I will veto that particular bit of self expression.
You are part of a larger body, a society, a family. We will not be conforming just to pacify other people's expectations but we will also not be turning Nana's fall family photo into an uproar for shock value.
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I had the privilege of growing up knowing 4 grandparents, 6 great grandparents, and 10 great aunts and uncles. The flip side to having lots of family who are your elders is having lots of elderly family and experiencing more than the average amount of death rituals at a young age.
I have watched death come easily and death be a torturous process. I've seen family find comfort and closure in the time given for goodbyes and people ripped apart at the pain or indignity of a loved one's final days.
It is not a black and white issue. And it is not an issue of violating the sixth commandment since we are not discussing murder.
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Yay! that you are feeling/doing better. That's happy, happy news.
What did you miss ? Various kerfuffles :)
But were they serious, like cupcake serious, or silly, like t-rex and the watermelon?
And most importantly, did Bill end up in a lampshade?
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