*Lulu*
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We school 6 days a week, year round.
Pros:
*kids have no huge gaps of time that allow them to forget lessons
*lots of flexibility in when we take time off
*learning becomes a lifestyle
*stability of structured time (I have a DS that really needs this)
Cons:
*occasionally the kids balk at doing school during the summer while all the other kids are out
*it can be hard to plan (I secretly fantasize about spending a month doing nothing but planning out an entire year. I find planning the next quarter while I am still implementing the last planned quarter to be one of the most difficult things I do in the name of homeschooling.)
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Sounds like my youngest daughter (who is now 14 and still shows some traits like that. It is just part of their personality.)
When she was young though' date=' boy oh boy could she pitch a fit. And stubborn as the day was long. She would take me on in a heartbeat.
The thing that finally had us turning a corner with all of that was this: one time, after a particularly defiant stand against me was finally squashed (she was about 4 at the time) I said to her "You need to understand something. [b']I will go toe to toe with you anytime, anywhere[/b], and for as long as you want. I WILL outlast you. And I will win every single time."
I could actually see this concept dawn on her. The defiance did not go away overnight to be sure, but she was better. And we worked from there.
I am sure a lot of child experts would tell me that was a terrible thing to say. Something about her self esteem and independence blah blah blah. All I knew was that she was turning into a unpleasant child to be around. How was that going to help her self esteem?
Just be consistent. And make it count. When they see that they will not win no matter how tired or how public of a place or how long they go, they will alter their behavior
The bold is almost word for word what I said to DS#1 when he was about 4 or 5. :lol:
He is almost 9, and is still *complicated*, but does not feel the need to take it to the wall as frequently. Part of it is he is older and more clearly understands the whys of some of the rules, part of it is because he has a little more autonomy now, (this is important to him), and part of it is because he knows that some lines, once crossed, will result in a battle he CANNOT win.
According to DH, DS didn't get his stubborn nature from a cracker-jack box. :glare: (DH thinks he's a funny man.) Once I learned to tap into my own reservoir of resolve I found it much easier to hold my ground with DS.
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This is more what I am talking about. I am not talking about sociopaths, pedophiles etc. People with addictions can go in to recovery, but I am not talking about that either.
I am more talking about holding a grudge against someone for a belief they used to hold. Do you believe people that change their mind about things (or seem to) should be given the benefit of doubt or do you just always think of them as the way your first impression of them was?
People change their views all the time. My MIL firmly believed that women who wore pants were not *good* christians. She had held that belief for over 40 years, but shared with me that after DH and I started dating that God began to work in her on this issue. Before we'd even celebrated our first anniversary she had done a 180 on this topic. (And her original opinion of me! :D )
If I had not been willing to accept the possibility of MIL changing her mind I would have missed out on this wonderful relationship I now have with my second *mom*.
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:hurray:
I have a house in the north Dallas suburbs that will most definitely be open for this. I suspect a house probably won't be big enough, but I've got a line on a couple of options we could use - a community center and a church where a friend's husband is pastor.
You can definitely count me in for setting up Dallas if you want to do a house conference here.
Yes, yes, please pick Dallas! It is central for several mid-sized cities, and I can already think of at least a dozen families locally that would drive the 4 hours for what you've described!
BTW- Before now I have never attended any homeschool convention, or even wanted to for that matter. Once again, SWB has changed my mind on a subject! :D
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DH and I have worked for many churches over the years in music and technology ministries, and have seen Children's Church and Sunday School handled a variety of ways.
Where we currently attend they do it differently from all other places we have attended. There is no Children's Church per se, instead the children start out in worship with the rest of the congregation. After most of the corporate worship has been completed the children go down front for a special time with one of the pastors. From this time they are dismissed to their classes. On special days, (Palm Sunday, Easter, ect.), or if there is something special going on they usually sit together near the front for the rest of the service. (Although no one would bat an eye if they chose to return to sit with their family.)
After they finish conformation classes they no longer participate with the children's ministries, but move into the youth group and participate in the services as an adult would.
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If by careful you mean censoring my thoughts and feelings so he doesn't get upset, then no.
If by careful you mean being considerate of his feelings and his importance to me when I choose the tone and timing of my words, then yes.
We've been married almost 11 years and I can count on one hand the number of times I have let him have it both barrels. (This does not include the hormone-driven rantings of a pregnant woman; those should not be counted against anyone.) I probably get irritated him once every day or so, but he thinks that it is hilarious to wind me up and let me go. Only when I seriously hit the roof does it upset him.
(BTW, my mom is German/Italian with a personal philosophy of "get mad, throw tupperware, move on.")
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I know some kids--siblings, actually--whose parents exclusively called them by their middle name, because the first names were also the parents' names. I get wanting to name your kids after you or another family member, but why make that their first name and then deliberately use the middle name instead? Why not switch the names around when naming them?
I knew someone who had his dad's name, but he still used his first name. We knew how to tell who was who when we heard the name (Burt Jr., little Burt, etc).
We have that situation in our family. My husband and his father share a first name, but have different middle names. Our eldest son was also given this first name in honor of both men. FIL goes by first name, DH goes by middle name, (actually a shortened version of middle name), and DS goes by his middle name.
And should DS choose some day to go by a shortened version of his middle name, I will, (just as my MIL does for DH), steadfastly continue to call DS by the name I gave him at birth. :D
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From the time my youngest was 13 months until he was 34 months I kept a little girl just a few months younger than him. (She was here about 50 hours every week.) They were like the twin terrors, and between their antics and a slightly fussy preschooler, doing school with my oldest was a definite challenge!
I had several toys that only came out during school time, and I tried to do some of our school during the little's extended napping. The thing that was a life saver, however, was the structure I adopted. I broke all of the Mom-dependent lessons into 5-10 minute chunks. (I could count on a new toy keeping them happy that long.) So a mornings lessons might look like this:
independent assignment (IA)
10 minutes instruction
IA
ten minutes instruction
IA
IA
ten minutes instruction
and so on, and so forth, you've got the idea. :)
The small chunks worked so well that we still use that method. (Although now I never worry that I'll round the corner and find every book on the shelf piled on the floor, or a child helping himself to the dog food!)
The homeschool wars: I need a break!
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Wait, they changed the chart? :001_huh:
Um, maybe this is a sign I need to get out more.