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5 hours ago, Laura Corin said:
I'm enjoying Fisk. It's an Australian comedy on UK Netflix.
Seconding this. It’s hilarious and hopeful at the same time.
All Creatures Great and Small. Like comforting hug.
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1 hour ago, TexasProud said:
Ok, someone else mentioned a straw. And yes, I have a container with a straw that holds 24 ounces of water. I would try to drink 3 of them throughout the day when I was doing well. But that is what I mean. I was in the habit of using it. I didn't think about it. But then we travel. I am in Africa or whatever. And I don't think about using it....
To make habits stick, they say you need to make them small and as easy as possible until they become automatic. But I change so much nothing is automatic. Sigh...
I have an Apple Watch : If I walk, I easily hit my 11,000 steps. Today I already have 8,000. But every other day since I got back from Kenya I have only done 2,000-3,000. In Africa I got 11,000 to 15,000 steps a day with the equivalent of climbing 30-45 flights of stairs. It is similar in Honduras. On the RV trips, we hike nearly every day and I normally have 12,000 to 18,000 steps. But home alone, 2,000.
The 10,000 number for steps was essentially made up. Figure out how many steps it takes for you to feel physically and mentally well. That’s your goal. Or set a different goal. Or figure out which ring is most important for you personally to close or set the three to what makes you feel best. You’re measuring yourself against something external.
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You have regular irregularities if that makes sense. You sort of know what your different modes of life will be like. Form habits for each of those modes. So, a set of habits for dh home. A set for dh gone. A set for Rving. A set for in another country on mission. I see some all or nothing thinking going on. For example, the water drinking interrupted by the trip. One day of not drinking as much water does not mean the end of the habit. You just pick it back up the next day in Indiana. Or thinking that since I can’t do this the exact same way as home, I can’t do it at all. Look at the habits you want to form and figure out how to do that in each mode. Or have different habits in each mode.
As far as making yourself walk, you just do it. You choose to put aside the distractions that keep you from doing it and you get off your butt and do it. It is hard, but you can choose differently.You're also still struggling with needing external approval to get anything done. You’re probably exhausted from trying to be who dh rewards you for being and then when he’s gone, your brain just wants to rest. It’s emotionally and physically exhausting trying to be what you think other people want you or expect you to be.
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18 hours ago, Dmmetler said:
My Endo says everyone who has PPD (or reactive depression after a pregnancy loss or miscarriage) needs to be screened for autoimmune antibodies, because often they have subclinical Hashimotos which the stress of pregnancy has brought out temporarily-and if you catch it and treat with a tiny dose of levothyroxine, it can prevent progression, not just for Hashi's, but other endocrine issues. Hypothyroid and depression symptoms overlap. This becomes even more a vicious circle because Hashi's also affects fertility and is implicated on pregnancy complications-which are known to have a higher risk of PPD.
This tracks for me.
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12 hours ago, Terabith said:
Happy Groundhog’s Day/ Candlemas (no, really, it’s time to take down Christmas decorations and also commemorate the Presentation in the Temple) day. It’s also feast day of St. Brigid and that one saint who saved people from choking on fish bones.
St Blaise is 2/3 on the Catholic calendar. Candlemas is 2/2.
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Praying.
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Praying.
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Totally right.
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We have both a China hutch and a side board.
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I gave it the peach…’cause he’s got hair.
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Yes they are so irritating! I also keep thinking that the product is probably interfering with some natural body processes, and the less we do of that, the better. Bodies are made to function a certain way for our health; interrupting that process is not a good idea.
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52 minutes ago, Teaching3bears said:
My son is finishing high school this year and he is 17 years old. He is interested in learning about the stock market, finance, investing. I thought it might be fun for him to do a learning program in this for a week or two. I have looked online but can’t find anything that’s right. It needs to include room and board, not be super expensive. We live in the east, so not all the way in California or Texas. He also might be busy the first couple of weeks of July.
Is he going to college in the fall?
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Buildup of food can catch fire, it can make the oven work harder to cook food, your cake could end up tasting like the fish you made last night. Those kinds of things.
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4 minutes ago, Drama Llama said:
To confuse things further, it appears that the source was neither SIL nor the priest.
I guess it’s good news about the priest but also creepy that I don’t know who it is.
It could be a friend who texted and said I saw the boys at church today! And then he followed up with what about llama? And they responded with the information not realizing the import of what they were doing. Some people are expert at sounding innocent when they are really pursuing something they shouldn’t. You have been so incredibly protective of your kids’ experience (that’s a good thing, it’s their story, too and nobody’s business) people may not be aware of the extent of your dh’s illness. They may not understand that he is not asking innocently. You are in an incredibly difficult situation and balancing so much with an amazing amount of grace. You have behaved admirably all through this.
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I use magnesium glycinate. It promotes muscle relaxation and sleep.
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2 minutes ago, WildflowerMom said:
I don’t have any real friends irl. I’m too weird, I think. I don’t fit with any group.
You’ve never struck me as weird, if it’s any consolation. I doubt anyone here thinks you’re weird!
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1 hour ago, Carrie12345 said:
Yes, what money to live on is, and what it takes to get hired for that.
My dh is aware of that. He and I do finances together, so he sees what things cost. He also is well aware of the fact that 26 years out of the workforce leaves me no options that would support me and/or kids. My degree is from 31 years ago in the humanities. Totally useless.
We do have life insurance in case the worst should happen. Hoping and praying never to need it.
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4 hours ago, Katy said:
Or if you buy gaming equipment, video games, and sneakers.
This is a pretty sexist meme.
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Are you asking are most working men clueless about what it takes to make enough money to live on? If they aren’t handling day to day finances and have been in the workforce for a while, they probably have less knowledge about that. I don’t think that’s a male problem necessarily, though. Plenty of women think they could just go back to work tomorrow at a good salary after being out of the workforce a while, and they can’t. I have a friend who has an MSW whose first job back into the workforce after 15 years at home was overnight aid at a women’s shelter. It took a while before she was in the caseworker position she was educated for. She could not have supported herself in the first, barely in the second. She has a dh in a lucrative career and doesn’t have to work. Her coworkers at the aid level were barely above the level of the women in the homeless shelter. She knew going back to work that she wouldn’t be making enough to support herself, but that wasn’t her reason for going back.
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Definitely take him to the doctor. There are various things that a person can be intolerant to that can cause this. One of the many is fructose intolerance. It causes diarrhea when one ingests too much fructose. It is easily dealt with by eliminating all sources of fructose and high fructose corn syrup. Most people can tolerate the fructose in whole fruits because it has the fiber intact to take it through the digestive system. There are many other possible intolerances and food allergies that could be the culprit.
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8 minutes ago, Drama Llama said:
Yes basically.
They already connect church with Dad. Because they attended with Dad for years, and many of the memories a wonderful memories. But, I don't want an association between going to church and feeling spied on, or going to church and feeling controlled, or going to church and feeling fear that it will lead to more abuse.
I don't care if they freely choose a different religious path, but free is the operative word there. If you choose something because you're running from something else, that's not a free choice.
Hugs to you. You are incredibly strong and clearheaded.
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With all that’s on your mom’s plate, the cleaning that was never a priority has slipped down the list. What you have described is unhealthy, bordering on unsanitary. I don’t know if you can get her to accept that fact and the fact that she needs hired help. They sound like they would both be considered of sound mind. You’ll either need to plan to go down at least quarterly to clean it, or let them live that way. It is very hard to get someone to accept the reality. My parents who were very good housekeepers before a certain age, let their home become unhealthy, unsafe, and unsanitary. It took years past the point they should have moved somewhere more manageable for them to actually do it, and it cost them years of life and caused them both a lot more pain than was necessary. You’re in a tough spot.
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Article in NYT about housing costs in NY.
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1 hour ago, Indigo Blue said:
I think in this case, my mom somehow thought that she had actually asked for my address, too, to pass along to niece. I explained that she hadn’t asked, which is why I gave her only my son’s addresses to pass along. Mom, not liking that I had told her she was wrong (even though I wasn’t at all angry…just stating facts plainly), whipped out her phone on my last visit (as soon as golden child brother left the house, as always) to “prove” by showing the string of texts between her and niece, that I was wrong. She lifted the phone up slowly toward my face without even saying a word. I knew immediately what was going on. She intended to be all “see, you were wrong!” When I read through the texts and pointed out where the confusion was, she then just said, “Oh.”
So I could then see why niece hadn’t sent an invitation. She really didn’t have my address. So, instead of texting me, niece just didn’t send one. So, I texted niece myself, and got no response. I am not very close to this niece, but I’m pretty sure she just forgot or for whatever reason didn’t bother to make sure that she had sent one to me.
She was being petty. “You didn’t fulfill my exact request, I’ll show you!” She needs a different hobby.
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An entire year
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Hugs.