KeriJ
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I don't know if this answers your question, but here's our experience. We live in a small town and are fortunate to have a golf/country club with reasonable prices for a family membership. It was worth it for us because it comes with access to the pool, tennis courts, and weight room. So we kind of looked at it like a YMCA membership.
When ds was 14, we started dropping him off at the driving range and weight room for something to do. Fast forward, he learned to love golf and now drives himself to play almost every afternoon. It works for us, because we were lacking activities for him. He also has ADHD, and the wide open space, nature, lots of walking, and hyper focus made the whole thing really beneficial to him all around! It's also something he plays with dad and brother often, which I love!
A local private school allows homeschoolers to participate in athletics, so he joined the golf team last year. It was a short fall season. He did pretty well in tournaments, but not enough to travel to the state championship. Dh attended most of the tournaments. Not very many other parents attended. I don't know why.
Ds would like to play in college if possible, depending on how he does the next 2 years.
He also just got hired by the golf club for his first part time job handling the golf carts since he developed a good relationship and reputation with the management.
All that to say, I was hesitant at first because of the "rich man" connotation, but it has turned out well for us!
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Breakfast was cold cereal with milk, frozen orange juice, generic Flintstone vitamins.
Lunch was half of a cold cut sandwich with Miracle Whip or pb&j, chips, cookies, sugar free kool-aid.
Snack: Ritz crackers and cheese
Dinner: some type of casserole, canned green beans, Jiffy muffin, canned pears, pudding with Cool Whip, and milk.
My dad died of heart disease when he was 56. I vowed to eat differently and we really have.
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Following, as ours keeps having terrible skin issues that I think are caused by allergies. It seems like he bites, scratches, and licks which ends up causing bacterial and yeast issues (he has both currently). It clears up with meds, but comes right back.
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Stove top with evaporated milk and sharp cheddar.
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We found a Pandora station named "Autumn Jazz" and keep it playing in the background during homeschool. I'm not even a jazz person, but it really does make the atmosphere more peaceful and doesn't seem to slow productivity .
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2 hours ago, KidsHappen said:
Sorry, slightly political but the electoral college.
Yes! My 11 year old learned about it this week and has been very indignant!🤣
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17 minutes ago, Hyacinth said:
TV screens and/or blaring audio ads EVERYWHERE.
Doctor’s office waiting rooms.
Restaurants.
Gas stations.
Elevators!Give me some quiet to be alone with my thoughts for a minute!
Ooo, yes! And especially when people blast music at the beach!! Or the family farm event we went to! I was there for the nature, not the loud pop music!!
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Decorative towels you aren't supposed to use!
Bathrooms with no towel hooks
Decorative bathroom rugs everywhere except in front of the shower and then no bath mat
(all things that frustrate me at a relative's house)
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Not exactly. We usually get up and cook breakfast together. But if he is up before me, he gets it started.
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12 hours ago, regentrude said:
Sure it's super easy - but you need to buy a mill, and you need to remember to order the wheat since you can't buy it in the grocery store, at least not in my town.
Baking bread from scratch is already hard to fit in around a regular workday (and most people don't do it). Grinding my own ain't gonna happen. I don't find that surprising at all 🙂
Well, full disclosure. I grind wheat but make everything except yeast bread. We use it for muffins, pumpkin bread, waffles, pizza crust...
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Morning walk
Then cleaned out a junk drawer! I keep thinking about it afterwards 🤣 because it feels good to have it done!
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3 hours ago, Catwoman said:
I was right there with you until you got to the part about grinding my own wheat. 😉
Super easy if you have an electric mill. Just dump the wheat berries in, and out comes freshly ground truly whole wheat flour. The only work involved is the dumping in.
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We are using Write With the Best this year. It's going well for my 8th grader!
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It does sound like shingles. I'm so sorry! I had it 2 years ago when I was 48
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I searched "growing up with an autistic parent". There were quite a few articles. I don't mind linking some.
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2 hours ago, KrissiK said:
This is so interesting, because DH and I wake up at 4:00, too and can’t figure out why. Most of the time we fall back asleep, but why 4:00am? That is so strange. We’re going to try the magnesium supplement to see if it works.
One of the things that I read that made sense to me was that it was related to cortisol from the day before. 4:00 is when you're affected by unresolved stress.
Magnesium did help me with that. Also, morning walks. There's science behind it.
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2 hours ago, catz said:
I couldn't find it in any other recent thread when I dug around in the search engine.
Anyway - as always, everyone has the freedom to use the language they want. And someone might interpret in context of an experience they have with that language. That's just life. If you write a book on the wonders of your style of "blanket training" and how it makes kids better humans, maybe that will change broad perception.
Pulling that directly out of current discussion where it was mentioned in a certain context without mentioning the context just seemed like pot stirring to me. If there's been a ton of random hate and assumptions on the term "blanket training" recently, I missed it.
No. Not pot stirring. I didn't search the forum. When I said I saw it in other places, I meant other places on the internet. I posted it because it was on my mind. That's all.
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18 minutes ago, catz said:
I assume this thread originally was started in response to this quote from ME in this thread in discussing Jill Duggar's new book
It was mentioned specifically IN CONTEXT of the Duggar family usage and IBLP. Again, if you google "blanket training" the first many number of posts come up refer to the Pearls and that usage.
I certainly laid out blankets at times. I certainly sung to my kids at times. I certainly redirected my kids at times. That is not ever what was referred to. So I don't even understand why the OP was started. If you enjoy calling typical parenting of littles "blanket training", don't be surprised if it has certain connotions for some people. Everyone who ever laid down a blanket doesn't need to pop out of the woodwork to defend it. No one was ever talking about you.
I always thought of my newly mobile kids as scientists. And everything was an experiment. Dropping things was experimentation. Seeing mom's reaction was experimentation. And that means maybe we say "nope, we aren't going to pull kitty's tail, that makes kitty sad. Let's go do x now". I can't imagine thinking a super young infant/todder was maliciously plotting. Anyway, I had kids that were never going to be well served with the "my way or the highway" style of parenting. They had receptive (and spoken) language very early and I explained things constantly. I've never assumed what works for one kid is going to work for another.
To me the Pearl and likely Duggar style of blanket training on very young kids seems specifically crafted to create submissive kids. Later in Jill's book she talks about how JB used the phrase "don't sow discourse among the brethern". Which became code for discussing things, expressing your feelings or emotions is unacceptable here. Which seems like step 2 for creating submissive emotionally unhealthy children. I am maybe a little more sensitive to this because I was not raised in a particularly emotionally healthy household. So learning to DEAL and not bury big emotions is important to me.
ETA - this was the thread that had the above quote
I didn't remember who said it here, but it definitely wasn't the only place I had heard it lately.
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9 minutes ago, wisdomandtreasures said:
I didn't say that...
My first sentence was in response to your "reading between the lines" comment.
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7 minutes ago, Corraleno said:
Anyone who uses the term "blanket training" got that from some person or organization that was connected to the Pearls. That's where that term comes from. To me, saying "But I do a nice version of an abusive technique developed by these abhorrent people, so my version isn't abusive" is like saying "I only manipulate and gaslight people in a very nice polite way for their own good, so the way I do it is not abusive."
Call it what you like, but don't be surprised if other people aren't buying what you're selling.
Ok, the term, maybe. But my point was that not everyone who teaches their baby to stay on a blanket does so by hitting!!! If someone walked into a doctor's office and saw @wendyroo's children on a blanket, they don't get to assume that she read the Pearls and beats her kids with glue sticks. It's total fallacy.
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18 minutes ago, Corraleno said:
Pretending that "blanket training" is a common term that has nothing to do with the Pearls, and that people claiming the abusive Pearls/Duggars version is the most common association are really reaching because hardly anyone has heard of the Pearls, is really disingenuous. That specific term is absolutely associated with the Pearls and the Duggars and with extremely abusive parenting techniques. If you google that term, the first thing that comes up is the Wikipedia entry, and nearly all the other hits on the first page are references to the Duggars and to abuse. The Wikipedia entry which is the top hit:
"Blanket training, also known as 'blanket time,' is a method adapted from the methods encouraged in To Train Up a Child, published in 1994 and written by Christian fundamentalists Michael and Debi Pearl. To Train Up a Child promotes several harsh parenting techniques, with a focus on child obedience, which have been linked to multiple child deaths.[1][2]
Blanket training is an allocated amount of time during the day where an infant or toddler is required to remain on a blanket or play mat for a limited period of time, with a few selected toys. When the child moves to leave the blanket, parents are instructed to hit the child with a flexible ruler, glue stick, or another similar object.[3] Many of those doing it have voiced online that they start by doing five minutes a day and build up the intervals over time, with some extending it to 30 minutes or more.
Proponents of the technique claim that blanket training helps very young children to learn self-control, however, no empirical evidence currently exists to back these claims."
Still. None of this refutes my original post. Not everyone who teaches their baby to stay on a blanket does so by hitting them.
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1 hour ago, wisdomandtreasures said:
They never came out and bluntly said "We spank the crap out of our babies to keep them on blankets" but with their involvement with IBLP, Michael and Debi Pearl, Ft. Rock Family Camp (they've hosted the Pearls several times), Titus 2 (the Maxwells, who also support the Pearls), and SM Davis (leader of Solve Family Problems), they don't have to. We can read between the lines.
You are free to read between the lines. And again, I am not defending the Duggars! But reading between the lines and saying something as truth are two different things.
I just think it's a twisting path from "the Pearls teach blanket training through spanking...the Duggars promote the Pearls....the Duggars use blanket training....so obviously the Duggars must follow every Pearl teaching to the letter....therefore, everyone who teaches their baby to stay on a blanket must be hitting the baby!"
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People have the right to use blanket training or not use blanket training. I was not trying to debate whether or not someone should practice it. I was only pointing out that blanket training does not automatically equal hitting. I don't care if someone blanket trains or not.😊
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JAWM: when you answer a question, start with the basics
in The Chat Board
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Yes!! I am sending emails out now for a group at church. I have had my family members check for me to make sure they are clear. Yet I consistently have people ask me questions that are clearly explained in the email. I only send them once a week too. It's not like they get too many from me. One member admitted to me that she doesn't really read emails. I have no idea how else to get this necessary, weekly information to her.
Sorry. Little rant.