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How can you be a good, healthy friend, to a person who is a good friend but an unhealthy person?How do you keep listening, in that situation? How do you remain supportive? Do you keep encouraging change? What if bringing up change results in hostility?
Mama Lynx, you and I must-must-must have a friend in common.
I tell you that I have a friend who fits that description in so many ways.
I have very gingerly offered a couple of suggestions, but mostly I listen to her. There are many circumstances in her life that are a sad reality, with no end in sight. She turned 40 last year, and it added to her depression because her life is not at all what she'd hoped it would be at this age. And quite honestly, she has had a very hard life.
So I just listen, support, and offer encouragement as much as I can.
OH, and one other thing.
I have boundaries. Because I am empathetic to a fault and there have been times when I've found myself spiraling downward because I get so caught up in her problems. I had to learn to put a little bit of space between us sometimes. I love her, she knows that, but my family has to be my first priority.
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YUM! Grade B has a stronger flavor but it's harder to find. Almost sugaring time here in New England!
I don't think I"ve ever bought anything else. Try it--- you'll like it!
(also great on vanilla ice cream!)
Agreed! That's my favorite too! :D
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Hmmmm....I'll try.
Dairy:
milk (from farm)
cheddar cheese
butter
mozzarella cheese (occasionally)
eggs
yogurt (not every week)
Meat:
whole chickens
ground beef
pork chops
chuck roast
fish (not weekly)
bacon/sausage
ground pork
Produce:
apples
bananas
oranges
lemons/limes
other seasonal fruits
onions
garlic
broccoli
cilantro and/or parsley
cabbage, regular and napa
bok choy (occasionally)
salad greens (most often in warmer weather)
potatoes
sweet potatoes
green beans
carrots
celery
kale/collard greens
Other:
pretzels
salsa
orange juice (if there's a kind I like on sale)
spices, as needed
masa harina (to make tortillas)
extra virgin olive oil
canned tomato products if I've run out of the ones I froze over the summer
I bake my own bread with flour that I make from grain purchased annually through a co-op.
I seldom buy cereal, opting instead to make granola.
I make my own peanut butter with peanuts purchased in bulk at a health food store.
I make my own jams and jellies in the summer when the berries are ripe.
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Yup, another vote for maple syrup!
We buy a half gallon at a time, and it lasts us about six months, depending on how often we have pancakes and such. I don't let my kids pour their own, and I dole it out like gold. It's much better for you and tastier too.
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I think that you should call her and thank her for forcing you outside of your comfort zone! :)
Seriously, she probably already knew that you wouldn't l-o-v-e the idea, but she (and your son) probably thought it would be a good little nudge for you. Come on, if you're posting on this board you can't be that old. Like Ellie said, it's too sad that "the women in your family don't like their pictures taken." Why is that? Honestly?
Once you've stated to her that you stepped out of the box for her, she probably won't foist it on you repeatedly. But it is a gift that the other women in your family will cherish long after you're gone. I'm glad that you went. :)
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Same here. I find that happens when they have too much screen time of any kind.
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You've already gotten a lot of good advice. I would just add that it's good to speak with your pastor personally.
I recently left a church that I loved. I didn't leave for any reasons specific to the church, but for another really good reason. I called the pastor, my closest friends, and the people who are in charge of ministries that I was involved in. I presented everything in positive terms, and told them that I even hoped to return eventually. It went really well. Over the years I have seen people leave the church, sometimes gracefully, sometimes not. I think it's best to be upfront about the positives (the right thing for our family, we feel led by the Lord, we will always love this church) and keep the rest to yourselves (I don't like the direction this church is heading in, the pastor is a dictator, this place is a dying vine.)
**Oh, I'm not saying those are your reasons, and they weren't mine either. I just used those as examples.**
I've known people who sent out a letter to the people just outside their immediate circle, but whom they still thought needed information. That is helpful if you have quite a few people you want to tell, but don't feel like saying it over and over again. Also, they're less likely to ask you questions. :)
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Although, while I would consider our senior pastor to be very authoritative (to me, meaning he is *very* knowledgeable about the Bible), I don't know about his being charismatic. What does that mean??:confused:
Nancy
It refers to a person who has a magnetic personality, a person to whom others are attracted and who easily gains influence over others based on his or her persona.
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Hmmmm...can you put some of that liquid bandage stuff on it? It's hard when you cut a finger like that because you keep using it and it doesn't get a chance to heal. I gave my pointer finger a good slice last night when I was hurriedly chopping cabbage for dinner. Still hurts, and I'm heading to the shower, where the bandaid will likely fall off and then my finger will start bleeding again too.
The liquid stuff can help. I'm going to put some on.
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My 11yo son and I have been really encouraged and challenged by this book. Can't recommend it highly enough.
Thanks for mentioning this book. I wasn't familiar with the title, so I Googled it and found that the same man wrote Created for Work which I already have on my bookshelf, but hadn't given to ds. I just handed it to him. I'll look for a copy of Boyhood and Beyond when he finishes this one! :)
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This is one of our favorites...combine all of following in crockpot and cook 6-8 hours on low (or 4 hours on high):
This looks fabulous. Thanks!!!
To the OP: I have a great cookbook that has tons of yummy crockpot recipes, and I think that only one calls for a can of soup.
http://www.amazon.com/150-Best-Slow-Cooker-Recipes/dp/0778800385
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Yes, sometimes I do feel that way.
But the nice thing about this setup is that you can actually see how many people have read the thread. And the number of readers always far outweighs the number of posters. So it's quite possible that people read your post and kind of nodded and thought "Yup, she said it all. Nothing more to add." So instead of seeing yourself as a "thread killer" why not say "I am a thread fulfiller"? Your post is so good that you've spoken the Final Word!
Oh, and no one is ignored here, truly. There are countless times that I read a thread or a post and then just keep going depending on time constraints, etc.
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A few months ago dh and I read a really interesting study on this subject. The research was done by The Hartford Institute for Religion Research. They defined megachurch as follows:
The term megachurch generally refers to any Protestant congregation with a sustained average weekly attendance of 2000 persons or more in its worship services.They purposely left Catholic churches out of the equation for various reasons, which they state here on their website:
http://hirr.hartsem.edu/megachurch/definition.html
We found it to be really very interesting.
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My every day dishes are Waechtersbach http://waechtersbachusa.com/SolidDinner.aspx. They are similar to Fiestaware, but German. I have them in three different colors ~ cherry, kiwi, and buttercup.
Colleen, I'm loving those dishes! Do you have the rimmed or unrimmed?
I am fine using my other set, Villeroy & Boch Botanika (http://www.villeroy-boch.com/en/us/home/products/tischkultur/dinnerware.html?kollektion=2334&page=0) with my children, too. I have had them for 13 years and have yet to break a dish. I own ten place settings of this but would like to add two more. I bought most of this at shops in Switzerland and Canada, but again, I imagine you can buy it from many sources including online.I just read that they're stopping production in July, so you might want to get your place settings soon. You'll pay through the nose once they're discontinued. I love those too.
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I think that this issue is a societal one, re: family size.
But I also think that it is easy to draw erroneous conclusions when you're kind of on the outside looking in. There could be myriad reasons for the babysitting, gifts, invitations, etc. You just don't know the whole story.
And I agree that people get really intimidated about inviting larger families to their homes. I have four children, and I have been told by a couple of people that they "just can't have that many people in their house." And I understand that if you have four people in your family, inviting six more to dinner seems like a huge crowd. I get that, honestly I do. But we do have friends who are willing to have us over, mostly families whose size is similar to ours.
And anyway, some people just have the gift of hospitality and they'd invite you over no matter what.
I don't think this is an issue of church size, but of the culture of that church, and the OP's feeling of being an outsider. Jump in. Invite some people to your house. I have found that getting involved in the life of the church is the only way to make it your home.
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Here's an article about bacteria, viruses and laundry:
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How've you been Elaine??? Your boys looks so BIG already!
Hey! How'd you find this thread?
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I have gotten used to the new set up.
I have gotten used to scouting around to find threads.
I love it that we can insert emoticons and pictures, etc.
But do you want to know what I miss?
I never got to be first.
Ever.
And now I never willllllllllll!!!
That is all.
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I will only wash dish towels with cloth napkins or tablecloths, nothing else.
I wash mine on hot too, but I just have a thing about washing kitchen items with anything else.
There was once a very long and very funny thread about this on The Old Boards.
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But things like this always stick in the back of my mind. This, yes, could be considered little thing. But are there bigger things there, too?
Excellent point!
You get rep for that! :)
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...everytime I see how many posts I have compared to some of you forager bees!
I feel like a slacker.:rolleyes:
Yabbut, Elaine...
If you want to feel really good about yourself, look Michele up. She has like, I don't know, 7 posts or something. Seeeeee? Feelin' better already, aren't ya?
I was at her house last night and I told her that I wanted her to give me rep, but she hasn't even posted enough for her rep to count. Bummer, huh?:D
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Nope, that is stealing and I wouldn't allow it.
There is really no good reason for a child to just take an unloaded gift card and walk around with it. It isn't a toy, it is a piece of merchandise. I understand that it has no monetary value until it gets loaded, but it was put in the store to be sold.
I wouldn't continue to argue with my friend about it, either, because it doesn't sound like you're going to change her mind. And I agree with what others said regarding "ever family has its own rules." And I don't think I'd let my kids go shopping with that woman.
Sometimes I just don't understand people. What if every kid in the store who felt like playing with a gift card took one home? How many would be left? What happens when paying customers can't get the card they want because kids are playing with them? Doesn't that kid have enough toys already at home? I mean, really. Doesn't that mom ever get credit card offers in the mail that come with the fake card? Why can't her kids play with those?Yeeeeeeeesh!
(I feel like that "Aunt Linda" character from SNL)
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I was thinking the same thing. We need some sort of "board mommy exchange program".
Hope they are feeling better soon.
I was thinking the same thing: There must be some nice Board Mommy who could go and personally check in on those poor things....
I'd go if I could.... :(
Kids acting as if parents should be "available" 24/7........
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Attachment Parenting:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_parenting