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I can see how this relates to not necessarily the patriarchy, but misogyny. I can't see someone leaving bad reviews because a MALE waiter looked too serious about his job and wasn't smiling prettily at them, can you? A man taking his job seriously is expected: a woman (especially a young one) is expected to do her job well while also distracting patrons from their problems by being happy, flirty eye candy.
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Celebrity cookbooks are, in general, full of nothing but disappointment.
Possible exception for those of you with young adults: I've Chrissy Teigen's is actually quite good, and that the recipes are relatively fool-proof. In another online community where I'm the virutal mom, of sorts, they say it's a great starter cookbook for people who are just starting. It's simple and straightforward, thorough with instructions, uses mostly easily accessible ingredients, and has just enough style that they feel like they're doing something interesting and worthwhile. Plus, it's Chrissy Teigen, who apparently is next to impossible for that age group to dislike.
Just thought I'd toss that out there in case it's useful to anyone who's about to launch a kid out to college, etc!
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Before I vote: do you want international posters to vote in this thread? Gun culture is non-existent here, and though I'm sure there are gun safety lessons/classes SOMEWHERE around here, I've never heard of them nor do I know anyone who has made use of them. But I'm thinking you're probably looking for US-based answers on this one, not a larger internation pool given the vastly different cultures, right?
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The viewpoint in question is that racism persists because everyone "others" themselves. She doesn't understand how we can ever move toward unity when minority groups continue to have civic leaders that highlight them as "other." So, Gay Pride, NAACP, Black Lives Matter, etc. My explanation usually says something to the effect of when members of marginalized groups are no longer marginalized in society (insert any number of examples here) they will no longer feel the need to raise awareness (simplified, but that's it in general). Her response usually is a "yes, but if they would stop going on about it and just live their lives, and we could all just be people, they separation would just naturally dissolve."
The argument is flawed because it starts out with a flawed premise in two ways (probably more than two, but two that stick out right away). First, that celebrations of uniqueness = "othering" = marginalizing. A group can have it's own unique culture, and take joy in that, without being marginalized. That's how we celebrate our difference. I am not African American, but I can appreciate a festival that celebrates their culture. They are not (generally) German, but there's a HUGE black presence at our city's Octoberfest every year, particularly in the tents that learn traditional dances. Being "other" in the sense of celebrating what makes each group's culture unique is not a bad thing. Being marginalized, as in not receiving equal treatment or opportunities, is an entirely different beast.
The second flawed premise is that people can marginalize themselves. BLM, LGBTQ, etc, aren't choosing to be marginalized. They are being "othered" by a majority which is not used to them and has instinctively separated them because they ARE different. They would not, by being silent about their differences, cease to be "othered". They've been silent for... well, all of history up until the recent past. The fact that they weren't loud about being marginalized then does NOT mean it wasn't happening. It was worse then! They tried silence (or rather, they were oppressed into silence) and it failed. The idea that they are only othered because they are TALKING about being othered is seeing it backward. (I feel like I'm saying the word "othered" so often that it's losing all meaning, lol.)
Does that help?
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I feel like this question is a good example of a paradox for my next logic lesson.
"Do women say the opposite of what they mean?"
Women: "Yes.";)
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I'm sorry, I have to agree with the others. It may be possible for the dog to be rehabilitated, if everyone around the dog knows its triggers and can treat it appropriately. Unfortunately, there's no way to guarantee that everyone will follow that sort of protocol with kids around, especially when the kids have friends over who aren't familiar with the dog.
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Dogs are usually protective over those they accept into their "fold", so I can't imagine it was intentional. If it was, there would be some sign of it on the kitten. It may have been natural or accidental (perhaps trying to play with the kitten along with the puppies, who are probably ready for more rambunctious play at this point?), but I agree with the PPs that it probably wasn't intentional on mama dog's part.
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I'm doing one for the first time ina few weeks... does anyone have any helpful general tips?
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I'm so happy for you that he's come to the conclusion on his own that meds could be beneficial! That's excellent progress for him. Here's hoping that you find a good med quickly.
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My dh found a Ratatta on the toilet at work. I was so proud. :001_rolleyes:
Welp, of all the places to find a rat pokemon I guess that almost makes sense. :lol:
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It's not in Canada yet, but when it does go live here I fully expect that I will get a good week or two vacation from my children. :lol:
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Yeah they can suck it because I didn't cancel partway during a term. They didn't send me the new documents. I had no proof I had insurance.
In that case I think you definitely have a case to tell them to stuff it. (But nicely. ;) ) Tell them "I didn't cancel because I didn't receive any documents, so I wasn't aware that it had automatically renewed. I had found new insurance by the time you issued me these charges." They should be especially willing to comply if you can show them your new policy, dated back to the same date when you thought your old policy was over. You'll have to stick up for yourself about it, but I get the impression that wouldn't be a problem for you right now, lol.
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If you cancel insurance partway through the term, there's usually a cancellation fee. It's a certain percentage of your premium; the earlier in to your term you cancel, the higher the fee.
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If it makes you feel any better... it doesn't matter if the light was green, or anything she says to try to make herself less responsible. I'm not sure what state you're in, my in my area and in most States, in a rear-end accident the person who did the hitting from behind is automatically 100% at fault.
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She has it set to not download without permission, but her spouse told the unsuspecting children to click yes while she was conversing. The spouse never touches her computer, so he doesn't understand the nature of the Very. bad. Thing. he inadvertently gave permission for the computer to do.
Unsuspecting spouse owes her a dinner out. Or a massage. Or something chocolate.
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The Minnesota video I tried to watch only shows after the shooting. It doesn't show what led up to it. It's a video of her saying what happened.
And the officer stating that the reason he shot the man 4 times was that "He MOVED! I told him not to move!" after he'd told him to both get his licence and put his hands up. (And then putting her in cuffs in front of her 4 year old daughter who just witnessed the death of her father.) He did not at any time reach for his gun; not even the officers involved are claiming that. She said what happened and right there in the video he didn't deny it; just tried to justify it. Because, you know, he moved. After being instructed to move.
Honestly, your continual defense of the cops in the deaths of these men sickens me, so I'm out of this thread til I can cool down. I'm so angry and disgusted right now.
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But isn't that what the guy in Minnesota did? And he still got shot!
Yes, that's exactly what he did. The police officer asked him for his licence and registration. He said (basically) "okay, but I want to let you know that I have a licenced gun by my wallet." The police officer then shouted at him to put his hands in the air, which he did. He was shot as he was raising his hands.
His 4 year old daughter was also directly behind them in the backseat. As in, right in the line of fire.
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BBQ to me is just... an adjective for some general kind of meat, nothing more specific than that. BBQ as a noun make me think of the actual appliance, not a specific food. BBQ as an adjective describes a method of preparing food. BBQ as a verb is actually cooking the food. It's a very versatile word, now that I think about it! :lol:
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Total aside, but I would love a link to those pinterest boards you mentioned. We have a pop-up camper and I'm always looking for ideas. :)
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You have not met MY son!
"You NEED? No you don't, you are perfectly capable of taking out the trash, you WANT me to do it, why don't you just SAY that instead of saying you NEED it?"
Yup, that would be my son. He is VERY into semantics. He will argue them.
My kids are younger, so take this for what it's worth, but my son does this. I changed my language from "I want this" ["I want a trip to DisneyWorld, it's nice to want things." ...and they think autistic kids don't understand sarcasm] to "I need this" ["oh, so you'll DIE if I don't do it?"] to "One of your chores today is to do this, starting within the next 5 minutes." It seems to broker less arguments. He still doesn't want to do it, and he doesn't always follow through, but it least it's reduced the quibbling over verbiage as a distraction from what actually needs to get done.
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I have no helpful advice; my son is younger than yours, but I can complete see him being in this position in a few years. Puberty is hitting hard right now and holy heck, I'd heard how bad it can be with kids on the spectrum (or NT kids even) but I was SO NOT PREPARED. Anyway, I'm just posting because some of these book suggestion are perfect for my son so I want to follow the thread. :)
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I don't have favourites. I do have kids whose personalities are more suited to what I might need at that moment. One loves to have deep conversations about serious issues. One is very responsible and loves to help. One is silly and ridiculous. etc, etc. They all have different qualities that I appreciate at different times, which may to them feel like favoritism, I suppose. I hope not, but goodness knows people can feel a LOT of things with less provocation than that!
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I think my advice for new homeschooling moms would be the same as my advice to new moms in general, which is:
There is no formula and no "right" way to do things. We're all just making things up as we go. Do what works, and when it doesn't work anymore, do something else that works. You'll make mistakes and get dirty, and so will your kids, and all you can do is the best thing at that moment (sometimes you can't even do that and have to make peace with doing the next best thing). Don't be tied to one concept or ideal or any person's ideas of what you should be doing. Take what you see others doing, learn from it, use what works for you, and file the rest of the ideas away in case it comes in handy later. Do what works for your family, at that time, for your current needs, and don't feel beaten down if it's totally different from what everyone around you is doing.
In other words, as PeacefulChaos said.... you do you.-
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Oh dear Lord, I have a Turkish friend who had a mission team from some local churches staying with him... they were working with church in Turkey to establish some help for incoming refugees. I think they were supposed to fly home today or tomorrow. Please let it have been tomorrow.
Edit: one of them just postedon facebook; they left this afternoon (Turkist time, so early morning out time) from the airport in Antalya. They're fine, albeit extremely rattled. I'm relieved... but grieved that for so many others this will be a reality, not a temporary blip of fear. I can't imagine. :(
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If you have 5 or more kids, how many bedrooms do you have?
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5 kids here. We have a lot of rooms that COULD be bedrooms but aren't (a playroom, an office/spare bedroom) so we COULD spread out if we wanted to, but at the moment we use 3 bedrooms. Master bedroom for DH and I (and currently the baby), 1 bedroom for the toddler (and soon the baby, once he starts sleeping through the night), and 1 for the older boys. In a few years I'm assuming we'll spread out to using 4 bedrooms; regional by-laws in our area preclude letting our daughter share a room with any of our sons once they're both over the age of 6. When we reach that point, I can't imagine us putting all 4 boys in the same room unless we decide to TRY to turn our house into a permanent frat party.