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I started this thread in the K-8 area and a learned momma suggest i post here, this is the orginal post plus more:
yesterday my DS 7 was melting over everything. everything. not mad (that i find better able to handle than the heart breaking sad or the extream frustration . school is so hard. i think the one think the ONLY think keeping me from sending him to school is the very real fear he'd be behind. also -- really -- school would not help -- i'd just be getting called in to deal with the melts and fighting home work all night every night.
constant melts, constant fights -- he has to argue every word i say and cry about everything.
this is not how i envisioned home school.
​he can handle the work, he just doesn't want to. it is pulling teeth to get him to write anything ..
ADD medication has made it better, a lot better, but it is still not what i "saw" when i thought of when i think of homeschooling.
​I know i need to work on character and cheerfulness BUTTTTTTT when i try star charts or anything like that, it seems to make thing worse. he is so easy to frustrate (not with the work but with having to do the work -- he is not struggling with the academics, but he is struggling with the actual "do it" part -- he doesn't want to do anything though it is not too hard for him
the problem is i have done things like GREEN YELLOW, and RED -- but when he gets moved to YELLOW (warning) he melts down and get so frustrated that it makes the behavior worse -- not better. it seems like any time his behavior or 'tude start to fail -- any thing i do to comont on it, warn him about it, etc only make it worse rather than leading to a recovery. :( I am not sure where to go with him, or what to try.
he is medicated for ADD and Depression and in general the depression is getting better
we see a nueropsychitrist in Dec too.
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we only took Thur and Friday off .... but yes the 4 day weekend did not help. I DO need to be working on cheerfulness. I can handle him getting mad better than the tears and the melting like life is over if i say his handwritting is not neat
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thanks ladies. he is a tough cookie most of the time, but today maybe getting sick. he melted at the store. and rode in cart with head down the whole time too. so maybe today is jsut a really bad day?
I do need to work on "cheerful" with him -- hummmmm
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melting over everything. school is so hard. i think the one think the ONLY think keeping me from sending him to school is the very real fear he'd be behind. also -- really -- school would not help -- i'd just be getting called in to deal with the melts and fighting home work all night every night.
uh constant melts, constant fights -- he has to argue every word i say and cry about everything.
this is not how i envisioned home school
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thanks ladies, glad to know i am "fitting in"
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on the old board there was a way to go to "subscribed" threads -- i can't find that or anything like that now?
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just subbing :)
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my son is in 1st. Right now we are doing just math and reading, and we are done in less than 90 minutes a day. so by say 10 am we are done with school.
i know he is getting good coverage, i am pushing a bit more, but i do not feel we are lacking ...
we are in temp housing in a different states and while i brought more with us; we've not been diving into it.
i guess i am stuck on comparing ourselves to public school but i feel kinda weird having him play and listen to me read and watch PBS and so on the rest of the day -- *shrug*
anyone else?
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my son is in 1st. Right now we are doing just math and reading, and we are done in less than 90 minutes a day. so by say 10 am we are done with school.
i know he is getting good coverage, i am pushing a bit more, but i do not feel we are lacking ...
we are in temp housing in a different states and while i brought more with us; we've not been diving into it.
i guess i am stuck on comparing ourselves to public school but i feel kinda weird having him play and listen to me read and watch PBS and so on the rest of the day -- *shrug*
anyone else?
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my son is in 1st. Right now we are doing just math and reading, and we are done in less than 90 minutes a day. so by say 10 am we are done with school.
i know he is getting good coverage, i am pushing a bit more, but i do not feel we are lacking ...
we are in temp housing in a different states and while i brought more with us; we've not been diving into it.
i guess i am stuck on comparing ourselves to public school but i feel kinda weird having him play and listen to me read and watch PBS and so on the rest of the day -- *shrug*
anyone else?
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DH was talking to a coworker this morning. This coworker had wanted to get together last weekend but I was still coughing and feeling like general ick. Instead, we hung around the house and DH said that the most productive thing we did was to talk about where we wanted to rehang art in "the nursery". (We'd taken down anything on the walls when Sandy was blowing through and this is the last room we have to put stuff back up in.)
This guy then said, "Oh! Hey! I didn't realize you guys had another little one. Congratulations!" and DH was all :confused: until he realized that "the nursery" made this guy think we had a much younger child than we do. He cleared that up and his coworker kinda looked at him funny and said, "well that's weird that you'd call their bedroom that, then. Is that a minimalist thing?" :confused:
We've always referred to the little un's room as "the nursery". Ever since...it was a nursery. Is that really strange? It has nothing to do with us being minimalists. :confused: If someone said that in conversation, would you automatically think they were speaking about an infant's bedroom? For the record, DS7 and DS5 share that room and they don't object to having it termed "the nursery".
i think in the UK referring to a child's room as the nusery -- even when the kids are older -- would be common. but, yes, here in the US, if you told me you needed to paint the nursery -- actually if i knew your kids were older -- and you told me you were going to paint the nursery I'd assume you were expecting again.
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If he hasn't been seen by a Urologist already, I would have him tested for Kidney Reflux. Night time urination past the age of 5-6 can be a big indicator of it. DS was diagnosed at 8 yrs old.
As far as the stool goes, my vote is constipation. He can still be backed up and involuntarily going without a hard belly. Many kids that go on a regular basis can still get backed up if they aren't going enough at a time. I would get some Miralax and start him on it.
we battle this with our youngest -- could be that you son is finally relaxed enough in his sleep to go.
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Generally speaking, the levels correspond to grades like this:
Books 1-3 --> K-1
Books 4-6 --> 1-2
Books 7-8 --> 2-3 (even grade 4 is not unreasonable, if a child had a bit of a slow start with reading)
I would say you're right on track. But I also agree with others that it's all about providing an individual child with the right level of challenge (hard, but doable) regardless of "level".
that does make me feel better, i get that every child is different and <3 that is my we homeschool...but at the same time i line the personal accountability that we are not too far behind "peer average"
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:iagree:
My daughter also has speech/learning issues. She has repeated books 2 or 3 times and done the half books too. Just keep trucking. They are where they are. We do it 6-7 days a week. Using more than one program has really helped my daughter. With my different little tyke, hitting her from more than one angle is imperative. I totally understand your concern about keeping up, especially when your kiddo has some late blooming and learning issues. It's scary to have the responsibility of making sure they are okay and constantly questioning whether you are doing enough or too much or the wrong stuff, or... ARGGGGG! And I thought this homeschooling thing was going to be easy...:willy_nilly:Take Care, you are not alone:grouphug:
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if your first grader is useing ETC can you tell me what book you are in?
We are in Book 2 (after doing book on and 1.5 both) and I am just wanting to 'compare' to his peers -- and see where we stand. :001_smile: i know it doesn't matter but i have to fight this constant fear he is behind. :001_smile:
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Until 20 min ago I was ecstatic about a house we have the chance to purchase. That is until I found out the next door neighbor is a sex offender. I'm not even positive that he still lives there, it's just the last reported address.
His convictions were in 2003 for lewd conduct under 16 and two prior charges of molestation in the late 90's. He is in his late 40's.
I highly, highly doubt we will buy the house now (unless of course he has moved) but I was curious to know what others would do/thoughts.
NEVER
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thanks. he decoded well, just no reading:glare:
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For two of mine, there was the light bulb, during K. For one, no light bulb until her vision problem got fixed. For my current 6.5 y.o., no light bulb but steady progress. He has been reading Frog and Toad, and still asks me to help with a few words on each page (he attends school). With lots of 2e siblings, I remain on the lookout but not terribly worried.
With the various issues listed in your siggy, I would be on the lookout for reading issues too, though I'd hope that your earlier testing may have ruled out some things.
only LD suggested is "non-verbal LD" (but he can't be dx with that till 8 / 3rd grade so offically the dx is to re-evulate then)... he has been tested 2x now
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Is it because people are selling them after they receive a prescription? That's a big problem in my state. Prescription drug abuse is huge.
I don't take ADD medications. Just throwing that out there. The bad people wreck it for everyone. :(
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I was thinking the same thing. My two girls did progress beyond CVC words, learning long vowels, blends, etc. but still had to sound out each word slowly for a long time, at least a year. My 2nd grader is still doing this but I have thankfully noticed her speed increasing.:)
this is us
Big decoded all these words:
smoke
snow
snake
smile
spear
snail
spider
spoon
spot
sniff
spell
spin
snip
snack
spill
snug
spit
spun
snap
smog
small
today in his ETC pages. but he just doesn't read read, yk?
i will keep on keeping on ....:glare:
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with regard to reading.
DS decodes pretty well, and we keep practicing but it has yet to "turn in to reading"
we do ETC workbooks and starfall.com and we read (I read to him and brother and i try to find books he can read most of).
am i missing something :lurk5:>
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thanks ladies
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are there other websites (even if the cost a little, not a lot) that are interactive on the computer for kids, like starfall. especially that are easy to use
Big is loving the little bit of "on the computer" he gets to do now he did an hour of starfall this morning. i did start him at the start so it was pretty easy for him most of that hour.
I'd let him to do more if it was really him doing it (that is interacting with) and not it giving me work sheets and lesson plan ideas and so on.
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We have always struggled with him. We have been in counseling. They felt his issues were anxiety based and possibly ADHD. We did not want to medicate and did not want to enroll him in school(that was brought up frequently). He writes letters of apology to those he has wronged(which he fights doing), involve him in acts of service, which can be a good fit for him especially when it involves hard labor. He is a hard worker. We try to keep in engaged in some type of regular exercise. We set up accountability for him but fights that as well. We have stripped EVERYTHING from him and it bothers him at first but then becomes too hard for him to earn back so he quits trying. He just refuses to see that anything is wrong with the way he is acts. But he has to know......right????
are you still working with a therpist? sounds like you need to have a meeting with his therpist without him and ask him or her all this
i love my alone meetings with my son's therpist
need a hug -- melting over everything
in K-8 Curriculum Board
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I posted over in the special needs board.
I need to work on cheerful and "we are in this together" -- but sadly he tends to get frustrated or melt when warned about his behavior too -- :( someday i do not know what to do