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No. Having known real love, I could not settle for less. I would prefer to be on my own than sacrifice my emotional integrity. There is no amount of money, security or travel that could make me betray myself like that.
I've had real love, and I voted yes. I'm on my own now (widowed,) and I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone- especially after my kids are out of the nest.
But since I'm pushing 50, I feel like I'm looking for a life companion more than young love. I would not feel like I'm betraying my emotional integrity to marry a friend. (I can also take care of myself financially, including travel and security, so it wouldn't be about that either.)
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I'm really just looking for ideas or words of encouragement. I've been overweight my entire life, but I'm now more than 100lbs. overweight. It's starting to affect my physical health and I need some advice.
I've done every diet in the book. I KNOW how to eat healthy. I KNOW I should exercise. I feel as though the Lord is laying this heavy on my heart. I need to be a more disciplined person. How do I change a lifetime of bad habits? Please help.
The advice I received on this board made me a "formerly obese" person rather than an obese person. I watched the movie "Fathead", about a year ago, after researching online and reading book suggestions from here such as Why We Get Fat and What to Do About It and Wheat Belly. Then I started monitoring how food affects my blood sugar.
I now eat high-fat, low-carb paleo. My blood sugar is now normal, my blood fats are better than they were, and my weight is down about 50 lbs now with out ever being as hungry as I used to be eating "normal".
I have come to the conclusion that is wasn't my lack of discipline or my personal issues with food, I was trying to work against my physiology. I used to try to eat "healthy"- low fat, "healthy-whole-grains", etc... and I always felt like I was starving. Now I feel like I can eat as much as I want, when I want, and I feel satisfied. (I am actually eating fewer calories- I checked with an online program- I'm just not as hungry.) I was working out like a maniac to keep the weight gain to a minimum, now I lift weights 1-2 times per week, and walk about 4 times per week... and the weight is melting off.
So, do your own research and find out what works for your physiology. Get a blood sugar monitor and see what different foods do to your blood sugar, and avoid foods that spike it.
Good luck. :grouphug:
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Ignore. You have no duty to provide a distant relative (or eve a close one) with "proof" of your abilities as a parent. To insinuate that you do is rude and condescending. I wouldn't even bother to reply. That's engaging a conversation that doesn't deserve a response. You needn't worry about what your non-response says to this person unless they have some sort of power over you and your ability to parent your children.
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And if you see this cousin in person and he/she pushes you, say something like, "I heard about kids in public school doing drugs/having sex in middle school. Can you prove to me that's not true?"
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A swamp cooler?? Oh goodness, I need to google that.... ;)
It's an evaporative cooler. Works fabulously in the dry heat of Colorado, 97% of the summer anyway. There are always a couple humid days where it's not enough. But it cools off so much at night, it's fine. A LOT cheaper to run than an air conditioner.
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Beautiful! Your boy is so cute.
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I don't really care one way or another. I tend to not let society's expectations affect me, especially for contrived "holidays" like Mother's Day, Boss's Day, etc.
My girls & I are going to hang out at Pearl St Mall in Boulder for a bit, then go to the Bolder Boulder store and get a "Sea Level is for Sissies" t-shirt.
I don't care if other people think I'm a fantastic mother worthy of her family making a big fuss over. I judge my value as a mother on how my kids turned out.
This thread reminds me of a book I've enjoyed- Why do YOU Care What Other People Think?
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...is to make sure I know about every single thing that my friends or my children's friends are doing without us.
Does anyone else have this experience? I am a tough girl but my heart is starting to break for my teen that doesn't get invited to anything but has to watch it all unfold on FB.
Sometimes I wonder what my life would have been like as a teen if FB had existed. I think I would have been so depressed. I knew that I was left out of things but didn't have to see it constantly posted on my wall, KWIM?
Thanks for letting me complain.
Do you know you can filter facebook? By individuals? If someone posts too much of what you don't want to see. put your cursor to the right of their post and click on the little down arrow. A menu will pop up, and you can choose to subscribe to all of that person's posts, most, or "only important". Or you can unsubscribe altogether.
You can also put people on a restricted list, so they only see your public posts and not posts you make private.
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I've known two families who have had two boys and named them Hunter and Trapper. Hmm...
Did they name a daughter Gatherer?
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My suggestions- In addition to reading Gary Taubes, watch FatHead on Netflix. Read Primal Blueprint by Mark Sisson.
I think if you have any kind of insulin or leptin resistance, you would benefit from eating low carb, high fat. (Eating only healthy fats, of course.)
I tried to lose weight for decades, and kept slowly gaining. Every time I lost, I felt like I was physically starving. It was horrible. I started eating LCHF/ Primal last August, and I feel great- I am no longer hungry the same way I used to be. Lots of energy, I work out less than I used to, and I've lost about 50 lbs. I feel like my body is just doing what it wants. I feel "normal", and it's amazing.
I eat a lot of low-carb veggies (no roots), and meat, cheese, & eggs. There are a lot of recipes online, just google paleo or low carb/high fat.
I think it would be difficult psychologically for a healthy person of normal weight to eat like this, due to pressures from society- "healthy whole grains" and such... but I was pretty much at the end of my rope. When I started researching further, it made sense to me, and obviously it works for me. And I have this board to thank for the recommendations above!
PS- I have a niece who has always been very thin and athletic who cured her endometriosis by eating paleo. So it's not just fat people who can benefit from cutting out grains and other unhealthy foods.
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I've never really been to the States before and I don't know what to go and see. It will be dh and I and the three boys (12, 10, 6).
We were thinking maybe Yellowstone. We don't mind driving out of the way to get to things, as long as we make it to Salt Lake in five days.
Is there anything in Boise, Idaho?
I would head down the coast to the Sea Lion Caves in Oregon, then head over to Crater Lake. But I've been to Yellowstone.
Yellowstone is really awesome, but it's hard to do in a day.
Boise is a nice little city. I've been there visiting friends, but haven't done any touristy stuff.
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I am at my inlaws in Mi and obviously WTM Forums are not in her favorites :lol: So I googled to get here. This and This popped up. Have you seen these?? Somebody sure doesn't like it here These absolutely make me laugh because these are about the exact opposite of what I see this forum as. Sure there are SOME Fundie Christians (myself being one probably by most standards ;)) but WOW!! :lol: These literally had me laughing out loud!
Well, I'm an atheist and I enjoy hanging out here.
However, one of the threads they are referring to was absolutely horrid to read.
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I often eat meat sauce over roasted veggies. (Obviously, roasted veggies are cooked, but I don't cook them any more.)
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Thanks for the replies! :) I met with the nutritionist, but the her school of thought was basically anything goes except Coke. She said just bolus her for it. I'm not convinced. Her blood sugar was 398 two hours post meal and she is on the insulin pump. I'm just frustrated. Every meal my other kids want are waffles, pancakes, french toast, muffins, cereal, toast and jam. All are normal breakfast food but are just too high carb for her. My endo is of the mind that she can eat basically anything and we should just bolus for it. I am not sure that is the best method. I am not wanting to put her on Atkins or anything. :)
I think his advice is appalling. If I were you, I would go with her blood sugar tests, and see what affects her most and stay away from it. I would not want to bolus my kid. (I wouldn't want to Atkins her either.)
I do think I would have my other kids eat in a similar healthy manner though (no eating 100% carb meals), if only to make my life easier and not make diabetic child feel left out at home.
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Right now, youth unemployment is so high in Europe that it's hard to see overseas young people (who need visas, support, accommodation, maybe language help) being offered jobs. I have heard of live-in tutoring jobs in Europe for native English speakers though.
Laura
Thanks for the info. That would also explain the large number of highly competent European young people I've noticed working at resorts in Colorado lately.
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I understand wanting your kids to have the "college experience". But in your reality, I would be considering community college.
Yes, and that college experience isn't the best for everyone.
I think the important part of the experience is to live on one's own. My older dd will be taking a gap year, she's trying to get a job on a cruise ship or with Disney (as an acrobat.) Failing that, she will be looking for a job out of state.
Anyone know of a good gap year experience abroad? There's got to be a reputable company that helps young adults get jobs and housing somewhere. There are a lot of young adults in this country working in the hospitality industry from Europe.
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I'm glad you will be doing those things. I would also recommend that you read the book "Mindset" about intelligence and attitude.
She needs to stop thinking that being smart is all that important. Intelligence is great, but it won't get you far without some other attributes too. I have known so many bright kids who crashed and burned when they got to the wider world and found out that they weren't always the smartest kid in the room, or that actual work would be required.
This, for SURE. Intelligence isn't something one can work on having more of. It's a great tool to have in your toolbox, but it's not going to get you where you want to go in life all by itself.
The attribute that will get you the farthest is the ability to get along with others (be a leader, get people to cheerfully follow.) Your dd should think about that!
BTW- I can totally relate to your problem- my 13 yo has her moments of superiority. I'm so glad she has a great self esteem, but really child- you need to be kind.
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Most schools are funded on a per diem basis. So absenteeism can have a serious impact on a school's budget. Our little elementary school lost more than $100,000 last year due to absenteeism. At a time when school budgets have already been severly cut (here anyway) Principals and schools just can't afford the loss of essential funding. So they just can be as relaxed about it as they used to be. Not to mention that absenteeism undermines the mission of education.
Yes- can you imaging trying to teach a group of kids when they are all taking days off at random times? What a nightmare! Especially if the child is having trouble in math.
I used to take my kids out of school when they were younger for random reasons, but as they get older they don't want to miss, because they will miss important information.
In my school district, they do threaten to report you to the truant officer if you miss more than 10 days (for any reason, excused or not) in the school year. But there is only one truant officer in the entire school district, so she's not going to go far in an investigation of a good student who took extra vacations.
I have a friend who is a principal of a middle school, she said she had a girl who didn't show up for school for over a month, mom kept calling her in sick. Finally the girl's locker partner explained that the girl had a new sibling, and mom was making her stay home to baby sit. I think that's what the truant officer is actually for.
I do agree that schools are trying to take too much authority from parents though. Don't even get me started on all the "zero tolerance" nonsense.
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I use www.muvee.com
I use it for family stuff, sports videos and end of the year celebrations.
HTH:001_smile:
That looks like what I need! Thanks.
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I want to learn how to make a slideshow/video. I have a PC, not a Mac. Is there an easy program for doing this? Fast & easy is important.
Thanks!
Pam
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I am not one who believes the sun gives us cancer so FWIW, I sit out with as much skin showing as possible in sunny weather for a few minutes at a time. I slowly build up until I can sit our for about 20-30 minutes. I am really, really white and this works for me. I get a nice glow but never get burned.
I believe that over exposure to the sun can contribute to skin cancer, but I also believe (based on conversations with dh's oncologists) that avoiding sun exposure will contribute to much worse cancers. You can lop off a skin cancer from over exposure, you can't lop off leukemia or lymphoma. (So say the above referenced oncologists.)
I pretty much do what you do... I try to get sun exposure at mid-day for 15-20 minutes. Not enough to burn, but enough to have a healthy glow.
ETA- I do actually like the look of "pasty white skin" on a healthy person.
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Thanks for the suggestions, ladies- we went to the Woolaroc, Windle's Rock Shop, and Frank and Lola's. We had a great time!
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Feverish yes. Achy, oh YEAH. My whole arm. But thank God you all came back on this. I was going to complain to the doctor about the nurse being too rough. Sorry about the weird typing -not used to typing one-handed.
In my experience, it will feel better sooner if you use the arm normally, and exercise. Helps dissipate the vaccine.
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Frank and Lola's, Dink's BBQ or Murphy's Steak House. :)
Thanks for the suggestions!
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This looks perfect! Thank you!
I don't really have anything specific in mind, but if it's nice I want to get in a mild hike as well. So it looks like I can hang out at Woolaroc for a while!
If any one has restaurant suggestions in Bartlesville, I would appreciate those as well.
Would you marry a man you would never love if...
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I was JUST thinking this!