RainbowSprinkles
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Yesterday I was looking around on nameberry.com. I found a nane that I LOVE and I wanted to look it up.
I was a little surprised that under famous people who also have that name, they put a p*rn star's name. Why would a parent who is considering a name want to know that a famous p*rn star also has that name?? :confused:
I'm trying to decide if I still want to use it now. It's so beautiful. And my DH actually likes it. And we have the hardest time agreeing on names.
Maybe I'm weird, but it does bother me somewhat. I'm sure I'll get over it eventually though.
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I know a most delightful young woman named Seraphina. That's my vote for a girl.
Christopher is one of my favorite names. I know it's traditional, but I think it sounds beautiful. We couldn't use it, although dh and I both liked it.
DH does not like Seraphina. :(
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Leif is a cool name.
How about Luna for a girl?
I suggested Luna with our first daughter. The first thing he thought of was lunatic.
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I love Solstice for a girl. :) DH and the kids said no way, lol. So I'm thinking Solana. What do you think?
I'm starting to really like Leif for a boy.
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Can you help me come up with some names for both a boy and a girl?
I like names that aren't that commonly used, but sound beautiful.
Examples:
Girl: Seraphina, Laila, Eleni, Willow
Boy: Ronan, Micah
Boy names are harder for me and I do actually like classic boy names like Henry, Benjamin.... But my DH does not.
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We're considering a Wii as a family Christmas gift this year. What would you say are the must haves? I'm pretty sure we'll more than one remote, but what else?
What are your favorite kids/family games?
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I figured it's provably MY but I really like MEE. Would it be weird to use MEE for a boy?
I'm thinking this would also make it easier for my German family members to pronounce.
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What middle names would go with Micah?
Can't use Kevin Aaron James or Jacob Dylan Joseph
Yes, our boys have 2 middle names so I'd need 2 to go with Micah. :)
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How do you pronounce the name Micah?
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Sorry, wrong board.
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Littlest is 13 months and has slept with me since birth. I'm pregnant again and while it may work for some people, I cannot have more than one child in my bed.
I set up her crib today. And I need some advice on how to get her to sleep on it. I know some tears cannot be avoided, but I'm not for crying it out.
Any ideas?
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I think what she learned is mommy has a lot to learn. I would sugest you apologize to your dd for how you behaved.
:lol: Now that's funny. Glad you got this all figured out!
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If she wants it, that's her problem. You supplied her with a bed, desk and shoes, you did your part. You're free now, when she brings these things up, to say,"That's nice dear. When you save/earn the money for that I'll take you in to purchase it."
Regardless, be calm and kind whenever you're talking about this.
Maybe put a bulletin board up in her room for her to post pictures of those things and any plans she might make to acquire them. Let her take ownership. Help her pin a few pictures up and comment on how nice the shoes are or something.
Thank you. I think this is a great idea.
I think you're going to have to be prepared to constantly step in with a calm, "Wait until he's finished talking please." If she won't stop correcting him say, "That's a good point," and then have her copy down what he said and then correct it on paper a few times. Make it into a lot of work. Right now she's probably doing half by habit.
Any big examples of being unkind I deal with by making the offender serve the offended for a day.
Another thing to look for is if you're talking to her in a similar manner or maybe in too negative a manner. When I get on my daughter's back too much then she offloads by dumping on her brother. Maybe she's getting/sensing a lot of your disappointment here and it's spilling over onto the sibs?
Remember, be calm and kind when dealing with this behaviour. You're her model. You, as the mom, set the tone and mood.
Good points and ideas, thank you.
She's ten so I'd really lighten up the expectations around chores in terms of reminding. I have to remind my ten year old. I have to remind my 14 year old. :) If it's an extreme issue then you may want to shadow her for a week and make sure she gets those chores done. Or, if you notice after that they aren't done or aren't done correctly, pleasantly and calmly make her do them again. And again. My son had a habit of throwing his coat on the closet floor. The next time he did it I had him hang it up, remove it, toss it on the floor, hang it up...We were laughing as he did it but he does hang his coat up every time now. When a kid learn it's less work to simply do the job right the first time, they'll do it right the first time.
The pet rabbit is more serious though. I'd have a heart to heart to hear about caring for it. If she can't feed it then maybe it should have a new home. Animals don't deserve to be stuck in a situation like that.
Again, always be calm and kind.
I think the last was a bit mean. I've said mean things to my kids, I'm not trying to be judgmental, that happens. It could have been phrased something like, "Look, if this is how you're behaving today then I don't feel I can trust you to treat the people at the party well. If you want to go to parties like this, I think that's fantastic but you have to show me that you can treat people respectfully and that starts with your brothers and I."
And be calm and kind when you say it. :)
She's 10. 10! Don't be sad abut what if's that are years in the future!!!
Don't dwell on that. There's a whole five years there for you to deal with her and for her to change and mature. Meanwhile if you've already decided that she's destined to be the troubled, rebellious teenager you'll be treating her in a way that might well make that an easier road for her.
You don't have a bad kid. You have a normal kid with some normal issues that need addressing.
One more thought, do you guys get time together? Get to go out for lunch or shopping or anything? If not, do it. Talk about whatever she wants to talk about, don't try to sneak any lectures or anything in. Just enjoy her company so you can reassure yourself that she really is a fantastic girl with lots of great qualities. :)
Yes, we do. We do have to take her baby sister who still nurses.
Thank you. Your post was so helpful to me!
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Honestly, my first thought is that she really sounds like a normal 10yo (sorry!). Our kids are born with a variety of strengths and weaknesses that is different for each child. Our job as parents is to discover those strengths and really support and build them up in those areas, and to be patient and forgiving with the weaknesses, remember that our own are also a struggle.
The child that is so different from us is always the most difficult because we just cannot get WHY this child cannot be more like (fill in the blank). It is foreign to us and probably an area that comes naturally or easily for us. I have one son, especially, that I struggle with in this area. One day I realized that my negative attitude toward him - always focusing on the areas that he needed to improve - was really damaging our relationship, and his opinion of himself. IOW, I was making the problems even worse!
Each child needs to feel our approval and pride in the areas that they ARE strong in. The more that they can trust in our love and respect of them, usually the harder they will try to keep up those good qualities, and hopefully they will also trust more in our loving criticism in areas.
I know that it is hard and that it is a struggle. I eventually had to put my one son in school to preserve our relationship so I could do a better job at being his champion instead of the one tearing him down. The distance helped me to see him with fresh eyes - to remember that he DOES have some really beautiful qualities that I had stopped recognizing. He needed to hear from me that I was proud of him.
It IS hard. :grouphug:
Thank you. I feel better knowing this is mostly normal 10 year old stuff.
At 10 I don't know that I'd expect my child to do their chores completely without my being on them and reminding them to complete the work. My problem is that my older kids badger their younger siblings when they get distracted or don't complete their work. I'm constantly reminding them, "You're not the Mother!".I am right there in the same room while she does these things.
You are not done parenting, so it's too early to call yourself a failure. You still have 8 years left with your daughter, which is plenty of time to teach her how to be thorough with her chores.Thank you.
You have two issues going on. One is that she hasn't made the connection that work leads to income which leads to the ability to buy things. Have you considered posting a list of extra jobs and how much they pay? We pay our 6 year old to vacuum the car or do other jobs that go above and beyond everyday work like emptying the dishwasher, putting laundry away, or vacuuming.
This could be a good idea. I would have to think about stuff she could do for money. But mostly, I'd like her to understand that she has jobs around the house simply because she's part of the family and we all need to help out.
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Thank you. You all have given me a lot to think about.
I guess this mentality that friends are extremely important is just not something that means much to me. I have always been the child who did her own thing and did not care about what others thought or said about me. I'm still that way as an adult and I do have healthy friendships with people that I care about. So I can't say that I missed out on anything. I do not believe this makes me anti-social.
I get that my dd is the complete opposite of me. She is all about friends. Always wanting to go everywhere, be with everyone, meeting someone and wanting to have a sleepover that night.
I admit it can get on my nerves. I need to work on that.
My issue with this party was 1. Why did it have to be 4 and half hours long? That seems excessive. 2. How can I stay there and let her have her time with her friends when my husband was at work (meaning I would have to take 4 children, and I would not have been comfortable just dropping her off at a stranger's house).
Like I said my original plan was to take only her and stay there with her for a couple of hours. Yes, I think, the misbehavior toward her sibling was an easy out for me.
In the end, I did take her once my husband got home. It was not anything to worry about. There were like 2 other classmates and the rest were family friends. Socially, had she not gone to the party, it would not have been a big deal. And not sure what she learned from all this. Throw a tantrum and eventually you get what you want, I guess.
Next time she gets invited to something I will most definitely be better prepared.
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If most of the other kids from her class will be there, I would let her go.
From what I understand it's just a couple of other girls from her class.
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Well, you did have 2 days to call them and introduce yourself. In your other thread you had said that you had grounded her from the party for bad behavior to her siblings.
Yes. I did. I was originally thinking if my dh was home I could take the baby to the party and go to the party with her for maybe 2 hours.
Then this morning happened and that's when I told her she couldn't go because of her behavior toward her siblings.
Either way, she's upstairs kicking and screaming and I'm wondering if I was wrong.
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Can you go with her? Otherwise, I wouldn't have her go.
No, my dh is at work and I would have to take all 4 kids.
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My dd 10 is upstairs screaming and crying her eyes out because I won't let her go to a Halloween party that she was invited to 2 days ago. S
She has been in public school for 2 weeks, made friends with this girl. The party is 4 and a half hours long.
I don't know anything about this girl or her parents and dd expects me to just drop her off there and wish her a good time.
Am I wrong for not letting her go?
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My older dd is only 10 (11 in Feb) and she's seriously acting like 15 already. She's the complete opposite of how I was as child, so that makes things harder.
She's the kind of kid who thinks things should be given to her simply because. She's never content with what she has. For example, she has a twin bed, she wants a queen bed. She has a beautifully painted desk, she wants an Ikea desk. She has brown flats, she needs black and pink ones too.
The other problem is that she is hardly ever kind to her brothers (8 and 3), especially the older brother. When he talks, she'll start talking or she'll correct a word he used.
And she is lazy. She only does minimal. When we tell her to vaccuum downstairs (which is a small area to begin with) she moves the vaccum around a few times and calls it done. When she supposed to do the dishes, she'll put the clean ones away, but not put the dirty ones in. She consistently fails to feed her pet rabbit on her own and we also remind her daily to feed the dog dinner (which she's been doing for the last 3 years, you would think she doesn't have to be reminded anymore so often).
So she started public school 2 weeks ago and she of course loves it, especially the social aspect of it. She's all about having friends. She was invited to a Halloween party that is today. But this morning went horrible and I told her she's not going to go at all. (I was going to let her go for a couple of hours, the party is 4 and a half hours).
I told her if she cannot be kind to her siblings, she doesn't need any friends.
I really don't know what to do or say anymore. I'm so sad. She's only 10, how much worse will it be when she's 15.
If anyone can relate or has any advice, I would really appreciate it.
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I don't believe it is necessary. Just try to eat as healthy as you can, exercise on a regular basis, wash your hands often, take extra Vitamin C and Vitamin D.
Most healthy people who get the flu are able to get through it without any complications. Yes, it's not pleasant to have it, but to me it's better to get the flu than to inject your body with chemicals. And the flu vaccine doesn't even guarantee that you won't get the flu, you may or may not decrease your chances of getting it.
Not worth it to me.
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She can take a few steps on her own, but is mostly holding on when walking. She hates wearing socks, she pulls them right off. The one pair of robeez that she had are too small. We really need something for her feet with the colder weather approaching.
Would you get another pair of robeez or regular sole shoes?
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We lived in Anchorage. Be prepared for a lot of snow. It can be around 7-9 months. Summers are beautiful. 24 hours of daylight. Invest in blackout curtains.
In Anchorage there's lots to do. I recommend the book "Anchorage with Kids".
There's two bigger malls, one smaller. Costco, Sam's Club, Target, Wal-Mart. Restaurant options are pretty good. We love Bear's Tooth which is locally owned and you have the option of watching a movie while you eat. Also Moose's Tooth.
Very homeschooling friendly. You have the option to enroll in a charter school which will give you curriculum, books, pay for classes, etc. in exhange for keeping grades and standardized testing every 3 years starting in 3rd.
I gotta eat lunch now, but I hope this helps a little.
Why would you put this on a baby maming site??
in General Education Discussion Board
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That's very true. I just have to get over it. :)