Clarita
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I feel like some of you have experience in this so I'm asking. I'm struggling with tantrums with one of my children. I've read a lot of parenting books and implemented the suggestions which have made things better but still not good enough (hard to sustain). I've made the decision to seek professional help for this. What type of person do I pick (MFT, psychologist), what's the difference? What does professional help even look like for a little kid?
Details: DC has no trouble doing school stuff and makes friends easily. The issue is sometimes stuff sets him off and he can't leave the angry/fight feeling (we've improved this from 4 hours 1.5 years ago to 2 hours). If I were to self-diagnos I would say depression is the problem (COVID coincided with one of his super close friends moving far away).
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On 12/7/2021 at 5:51 PM, KrisTom said:
What are your thoughts? I read so much about how the US is behind in math. Our public school is no exception to that, so we are in our second year of homeschooling. My son is about to turn 10, so who knows what he will do for a living, but I do want STEM careers to be options for my children----is that still possible with "traditional US math?"
Well I had a STEM career and I was educated for first through my masters in CA public schools so the answer to your question is yes it's possible with "traditional US math." (For a time reference I graduated high school and bachelors in 2000's.)
Also note that sometimes people are really trying to sell you a math curriculum.
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Brambly Hedge and Beatrix Potter is really good too.
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I really like the bullet journal concept. Although for as fancy as I can write my bullet journal is not the bullet journals I see online. It is so great that I have a running table of contents and I can start and stop notes as I need to, but still be able to find the random lapbook idea from 3 weeks ago.
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8 minutes ago, MissLemon said:
The odds of being kidnapped and trafficked are incredibly low.
Perhaps. I'd like to believe that and know it's true statistically in my head, but when it almost happens to you it's hard to dismiss.
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I would let it go. Was AP on her best behavior? Nope. It's also a life lesson about how people might treat you when you step out of line. No matter how perfect you are the rest of the time. Sometimes people demean you even when you are right and didn't step out of line. Part of growing up is learning people aren't fair or on their best behvaior and dealing with it.
I don't understand being OK with kids skipping classes. I mean you want to take your kids out of school for whatever fun or necessary thing fine whatever. My problem with kids skipping class on their own is that they told you and others that they are suppose to be somewhere and they are not; if something should happen to them on their joy ride you literally have no idea where they were last. It feels like it would make the search for them that much harder. I guess I was raised with a hefty dose of fear of being kidnapped and trafficked.
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29 minutes ago, AurieD said:
We do have her in Joey Scouts which is going well and will hopefully introduce her to some new challenges and interests.
That would totally count. Sorry I was just thinking examples from my kid (for whom sports is the key).
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49 minutes ago, gardenmom5 said:
sometimes - you go for a lower salary that gives more exposure/experience that you can use when you move on for a higher salary.
FWIW that did work for me. I started at a startup which at the time when I joined was coming out of a bad situation. They ended up being a fantastic choice as a starting job because I got so many opportunities to pursue and gain recognition that I definately wouldn't have had at a more established company that may have paid me more.
I also ended up getting monetary payback in the end because during the lean years they were paying me partially in stocks (delayed paychecks and no raises) and when the company got aquired and it was life-changing. However after the aquisition it was clear that a bunch of us were grossly underpaid because I had at least 4 10%+ raises in 2 years and when I left I was asked how much money it would take to make me stay and that another 10%+ was already in the pipeline.
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I'd find something that can be challenging but is actually enjoyable/fun for her. Challenging things do not have to be academic pursuits. They can be sports, playing a game, art something that she is interested in. For my son (even though we homeschool) most of his schooling isn't challenging for him, instead I signed him up for a PE class where they switch random atheletic things to do every month. He loves sports so jump rope that's his challenge.
1 hour ago, AurieD said:Some of this is definitely projecting based on my own schooling and how it hit me once I got to university. I don't want the same thing to happen to her.
I definately had this experience myself, but I also have to remind myself that this occured in university many years from where my kid are. Also, university was a challenge that I chose to pursue something that I like. I think it would be very different than having that same challenge in something that I didn't like.
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Hits: Singapore math and Generation Genius
Misses: Studies Weekly (Kindergarten social studies) everyone including me was tired of the disconnected random information. We just started reading Notgrass Our Star Spangled Story, I have to make up activities that are more age appropriate for my kids but at least it's somewhat interesting.
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For my youngest sometimes even having a lot of problems on a page (even if he doesn't have to do them) is overwhelming. Sometimes I write out the problem(s) on a seperate piece of paper so he only has one problem at a time or ones he needs to do. I also cut up the workbooks and I only give my son the pages he needs to do, instead of the whole workbook. (Bonus is that it also makes it easier for me to lesson plan.)
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Personally, I'd take the job and get some experience. If I discover I'm grossly underpaid I start job searching. If the company likes you when you let your current company know you are deciding to go elsewhere they may give you a counter offer. That's just me, but it is fine to try and negotiate a salary even for a first job.
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I'm team wet food is better. In the wild cats don't actually drink water very often, they would get most of their fluids from just eating prey. So a lot of house cats are prone to dehydration even if they are surrounded by fountains of fresh water. For a lot of cats vets will prescribe adding water to their wet food just to make sure cats have enough water intake.
10 hours ago, Lanny said:Years ago, dear friends in Texas had a very small dog. She fed it a lot of wet food and I believe human food. The dog lost all of her teeth because she wasn't eating dry food.
Dogs are different than cats. They have different dietary and health needs. I don't know much about dogs but even if dry food is better for dogs it is not for cats. One of my cats has congenital gingivitis (she got this before we adopted her), which means we had a talk with the vet about pulling out all her teeth at one point (we opted not to) and the answer to whether we need to change her to all wet food diet was no it doesn't matter because cats rarely chew their food. This also means I brush my cat's teeth every night so pretty sure she doesn't chew her food.
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I only expect of my friends to tell me they are sick if they need to cancel on me. Otherwise I really don't need to know. If they want to tell me because they need help or to vent or whatever also fine. I just don't need a running excel sheet about the health of all my friends at any given moment.
I also don't care if they test or not for COVID. Taking the precaution to not spread the germs are enough for me whether those germs are chicken pox, COVID or Typhoid.
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That's why we have fur babies, to spoil.
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Go on a short excursion and see if you are seasick. Be prepared with wrist band and drugs. I don't get carsick but I do get sea sick.
So if your event is several hours long and there is a meal involved I would take a short trip on a boat about and hour or less and see how you feel.
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I'll do an update. We really enjoy our homeschool charter. Week by week it feels like I have a built-in co-op because they offer optional weekly group class or field trips. Also the charter school is why science and social studies are included in our plan.
Math: We absolutely LOVE Singapore Earlybird K Math. A fantastic mix of exploring math topics, get it done-ness, and I think the right amount of "book work" for Kindergarten. The lack of explicit review really works well for us; I can see it being a problem for other students. My kids sit around and drills themselves "math facts" when they are bored, even though no one ever told them to.
Reading: We graduated from AAR Pre-reading to Level 1. We had a rough patch with reading for a few months. Apparently all we needed was the library to open up so we have a larger collection of level readers to read from and do that for a while. Now AAR level 1 works.
Science: Intro to Science is good and we LOVE generation genius. We follow the sequence of Intro to Science, but I supplement with Magic School Bus and Generation Genius and the library. We spend a lot of time exploring the topics rather than completing and documenting the demonstrations. Nature study happens on Charter school days; according to my kid they look for dragons in the forest.
Social Studies: Studies Weekly is horrible (just really boring). So we moved to doing US History with Notgrass. Basically we read from the textbook and discuss the pictures. Sometimes I do the activity from the textbook or something I made up. A cutting/gluing thing, making lists, drawing pictures... I also try to get other books from the library to show the story from a different perspective.
Handwriting: HWOT is great. We only do the workbooks. I like that it's not a ton of practice and that they have the example inbetween each of his practice letters. Some of the AAR level 1 matching worksheets he does via writing and drawing lines to them for extra practice. Lots of mazes.
Morning time: We do the Bible, scripture, nursery rhyme and character from Gentle and Classical primer and preschool. Poetry and Art did not happen it was just too many things. Art happens at our charter school days and we also have Chinese music class.
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On 11/30/2021 at 10:19 AM, cintinative said:
Where is this thought process coming from exactly? Is this an extension of the "they waste a lot of time in school, so we don't need to spend as many hours" philosophy?
Probably from when their kids were little. They never changed from that philosophy. In PS from K-12 you always go to school about the same amount and in the younger years you really don't need to or should fill in all that time with academics. Younger days in PS is filled with transitions and stuff. I guess those people never switched their philosophy in middle school and high school where there is less transition time even in PS.
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2 hours ago, kirstenhill said:
I really wonder what all those working parents did the multiple weeks the daycare room was closed.
One of them becomes a stay at home parent. They figure a way to juggle working from home together and taking care of the kid together. Some people have back up plans with relatives and friends to watch their kids on those occurances.
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I'd say 'a', but have your kids choose/make the card(s) and then explicitly tell the parents in a note in the card that your kids picked the whole thing out. If he has unkind things to say about the whole thing make him say it to his nieces/nephews. You mentioned he's a good dad, so I'm going to suppose he's a good uncle and he won't be rude to your kids.
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1 hour ago, DawnM said:
Yes, but I mean related to this particular situation. It has always paid crap. People have always struggled to pay. But it hasn't been this hard to find childcare overall in the past, what has changed? That is my question.
COVID was really hard on the childcare industry. There were a lot of rules which reduced the number of kids they could accomodate, so many shut down and some did not open (either found jobs elsewhere or retired). Some parents found a way to make childcare work during the pandemic without childcare and are hesitant to send their kids to daycare, because COVID is still a threat, they found a way and it has saved them money, and daycare is spotty with the new COVID rules.
I know parents who send their kids to childcare and they get very little notice when their child cannot go (pretty much the night before or when you show up for drop off). Essentially when childcare finds out exposure happened (direct or indirect) the first course of action is to keep kids home and wait for tests and quarentine period. That is really hard on a parent with a fulltime job. That's not considering pay and tuition issues surrounding that. Most of my friends have to continue to pay tuition during those unexpected shutdowns; they do without complaint but there is still unhappiness over having to pay for services not rendered. (This is totally realizing they are paying so teachers can continue to be paid so they do pay without complaint.)
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I gave a gift to my kid's volunteer tee-ball coach. It was a gift certificate to a nice dinner at a restaurant (we really like the coach), there was no mandatory gift from our team though. It was in the springtime so only one gift at the end of the season.
I'd just do it not to be the odd person out. If I were in the position of controlling these things I may do just an end of season present (if we were in a well-to-do area). We don't do little league in a well-to-do area so if I were in control I would do a little card and a free contribute (if you want to and as much and little as you want; all confidential).
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1 hour ago, kfeusse said:
I looked and I couldn't find it on Amazon or BB&B.
You can call both companies and ask. I had such a hard time getting a hold of that information from BB&B online. I ended up going to the store and they printed it out for me. You can do a chat with Amazon to figure it out.
That whole time though was a fog for me (my dad passed away a month before my wedding) so no detailed instructions.
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2 hours ago, Slache said:
I loved my cup but it got stuck to me and I was injured because of it. Look at the disks.
OH NO!
I have some disks that came with my cup. I'm confused about them. They are really expensive for being disposable.
Therapy for young child (< 6)
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Thank you everyone. I have some reccomendations from a friend (her son, same age as mine, is in therapy for ADHD stuff). I'll give them a call and see who thinks they would be a good fit.
What is SSRI @Terabith?