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  1. 1 hour ago, Monica_in_Switzerland said:

    I can't claim to be part of the "and kept it off" crowd, but I have been steadily losing 1lb a month since January.  I know that sounds like a small amount, but at 5ft1in, I cannot have a huge calorie deficit.  My TDEE is only about 1400 calories.

    BUT, I'm proud of that slow and steady progress.  I'm using a time-restriction method (early time-restricted eating, aka intermittent fasting).  But I had a big breakthrough at some point while reading the book How Not to Diet, by Michael Greger.  He addressed two of my mental pitfalls, almost as an afterthought in the book, just a few short paragraphs, but it really addressed my stumbling blocks.  

    - the I've already gone off plan this far, may as well go crazy for the rest of the day/week/month/year.

    - the "last meal" effect, where we decide we are dieting beginning Monday, and spend the weekend eating ourselves into a coma.  

    I realized I fell into both of those traps frequently.  The other mental roadblock is that when I decided on IF as a method, I would then cook something for the rest of the family for dinner, decide it looked too good to pass up, and break my fasting window.  But since I'd already tried to pre-load calories by eating a generous breakfast and lunch, I ended up eating MORE than I would if I hadn't restricted at all.  Once I recognized that behavior pattern, I told myself, "If you really want ravioli/chips/xyz that bad, you can cook yourself some for breakfast or lunch tomorrow."  By the next day, the craving was completely gone, but on the rare occasions it is still there in the morning, I do indeed cook myself that item and eat it during my window.  Giving myself permission, but delaying gratification has worked great.  


    None of that is meant to say that IF is the One Way- it certainly is not.  It's actually to say that analyzing the MENTAL roadblocks is as important as identifying the food temptations.  

    Thank you for sharing this.  This is EXACTLY what I need help with—the mental roadblocks.  The most successful strategy for me by far is following WW, and I’m an online member.  Spending time on the message board there is extremely motivational for me, but once I go “off plan,” I lose my desire to pop on there due to guilt (I think).  Also, reading books (the one that has helped me the most is The Beck Diet Solution—kind of CBT around dieting) can be helpful but also guilt inducing (& hence I avoid it just when I need to read it most.). Makes me realize that it’s mostly a head game and not about food for me.  I self-sabotage be a lot. 

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  2. 6 minutes ago, Spryte said:


    I don’t know that it impacted my weight loss, but one of the supplements that I started taking in earnest was because of the MTHFR mutation.  I suspect it helped me exercise more/better because I feel differently when on it.  And then the exercise probably helped.  So a spiral of positives.  

    What supplement is this?

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  3. I have a child with severe OCD.  Medication, plus Exposure Response Prevention treatment, was an almost literal lifesaver for her and our family.  She was in a partial hospitalization program for 12 weeks several years ago.  It did require a complete upheaval of our family for a time, but it was 100% worth it.  She had what I think of as a “refresher course” with exposure therapy at Mayo Clinic last fall. Because this very specific type of therapy isn’t available in our area, we have not been able to maintain it, but the “jumpstart” Mayo have her, plus medication, helped her over a rocky time last fall. 

  4. 51 minutes ago, Zebra said:

    I think you have to be in a mental space where you can handle it.   You need mental resources to lose weight and eat better.   I don't think it's good to justify being overweight by saying you are too busy or whatever.   But, I also think there are times in life where you are just overwhelmed, and simply not GAINING weight is a real accomplishment.    

    This summer I've lost a lot of the weight I've been trying to lose since I had my dd.   Part of it was just from anxiety, which isn't healthy.   But, part of it was being done homeschooling my dd and finally having some energy to put towards it.   I having been paying more attention to what I am eating, when I am eating for emotional reasons, and getting plenty of exercise.   And frankly, until this summer I didn't have the mental capacity to devote to it.   I don't know if that sounds like a cop-out, but after years of berating myself it's become clear I couldn't do it until NOW.   

    I don't know if that helps at all.



    I think the mental space and also mindset are what I’m really after.  I know HOW; it’s the WHY that keeps me motivated. 

  5. I have a child diagnosed and treated for severe OCD at about that age. (I’m not suggesting this is what your daughter has!) It is an anxiety disorder. The most effective things for her, in addition to medication (which saved our family), have been using the Breathe app (Headspace, something similar) and the right counseling.  I can’t emphasize the counseling enough. 

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  6. 6 minutes ago, Laura Corin said:

    More or less.  There are lots of different ways of eating (intermittent fasting, low carb, Mediterranean) that can be healthy and can also lead to weight loss/maintenance.  The key is to find something that is satisfying long-term to you, so you don't feel constrained all the time.  I eat roughly South Beach, but on the veggie/pescatarian side of that (lots of tofu, beans and fish).  I really love the food.  Every now and then, I'll eat something different, but I don't spend every day yearning for other things, or feeling deprived.

    Thanks for clarifying! I actually think this would work for me, if only I didn’t crave sugar as one of my major food groups! 🤣

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  7. 6 minutes ago, Carrie12345 said:

    I may not be the best motivator, but I’ve made a bit of a middle ground in my mind.  Health and weight are not completely synonymous. So, while I do check my weight here and there, even frequently every few months or so, I don’t have a number goal.

    I think I qualify as “permanently” keeping ten pounds off at this point, and that’s mostly because my body REALLY doesn’t feel good with those extra ten pounds.  I fluctuate on another 20 and don’t feel terrific when I’ve got ‘em, but not as miserable as before.

    In my absolute best physical adult shape, I was 10-15lbs over the charts. And I don’t just mean my personal best, but truly good overall fitness, bloodwork, energy, diet, and clothing fit. So numbers can, for the most part, kiss my tushy.

    Though I’m not always (and definitely not currently) there, when I am, my motivation is the awesome things my body can do and the great way it feels.

    The one time in my adult life that I fell smack in the middle of the “acceptable” numbers range, I felt like garbage and people thought I was sick.  I kind of was, since my nutrition and muscle tone were bad.

    For me, health is definitely not reflected on a scale.

    I totally get this.  I’m really not after some magical number.  I ALWAYS weigh more than I “should.”   The target weights on weight tables are not sustainable for me.  I think losing 20-25 lbs from where I am now will get me back to where I both feel and look better. 

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  8. 5 hours ago, Laura Corin said:

    Can  I  turn this around?  I found a healthy way of eating that suited me, so that when times get hard,  I mostly  don’t feel the impulse to eat otherwise. I sometimes have to adjust a bit but it basically works.

    I’m not sure I completely understand, @Laura Corin.  Is this it?— Your way of eating is so satisfying to you that eating “off plan” really isn’t a temptation.  

  9. I guess I’m looking for motivation.  I had lost about 12 lbs, but this summer was crazy, with a move and all the work that entails, plus a new job for me and new schools for half my kids, thrown in for good measure.  I really need to lose about 25 lbs AND KEEP IT OFF.

    If you have done this or something similar (the amount of weight doesn’t matter, as long as it is significant to you and took sustained effort), what made you decide to do it (& what have you the determination to stick to it when it was hard)One thing I know about myself is that I really need a reason to do what I do.  I’d like to come up with as many convincing reasons as I can that I need to make my health a priority. 

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  10. This week I finished The Fountains of Silence by Ruta Sepetys in audiobook format.  It was a 5 star read/listen for me.  Sepetys writes mostly YA historical fiction, but I’ve loved everything by her I’ve read. This novel is set in Spain during Franco’s rule, but one of the main characters is an American whose mother is Spanish. I loved the sweet romance in this story, and I’m not really a fan of romance.  All in all, just a great story about a little known (to me) time and place in history.


    I have a few more in the works, but that’s all I finished last week. 

    Happy reading!

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  11. Last year, after a decade of homeschooling, all the kids went to school and I went back to classroom teaching.  We were all in a small private Christian school.  Over the summer, I was hired as the STEM teacher for a small public school system’s elementary schools.  This is a good thing because it’s a big salary increase, plus benefits, including state retirement, which I am only about a year away from being fully vested in. 

    We also moved back to my hometown this summer (only about 5 mi away from where we had been living).  Our new house is smaller than our old house (downsized from about 4000 sq ft to about 2500 sq ft) AND it has a POOL!  Having a pool in my backyard is a dream come true for me.  Our master bedroom is also large enough for me to have a private sitting area, which is something this introvert has needed for a while. 😏

    Everyone in my family is relatively healthy.


    OP, thank for asking this question!

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  12. Alabama here, and I’ve never heard the term pot plant in any other context except to mean marijuana.  Plants in pots are potted plants around these parts.


    And now I’ve read the word pot so many times that a.) it is the most ridiculous word in the lexicon to me and b.) I’m no longer sure it IS a word or what it actually means. 😂

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  13. 1 hour ago, Another Lynn said:


    Same.  And since our washer and dryer are near the kitchen they just use a towel once and throw it towards the w/d area.  All day long I pick up kitchen towels and put them on the dryer.  🙄  There is definitely a better system somewhere but I seem incapable of re-training the participants.  🤣   I have considered hiding the clean kitchen towels so that I'm the only one who knows where they are, but I haven't done it yet. 

    Now THAT’s an idea! 🤣

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  14. Creamy Chicken & Wild Rice Soup



    Dutch oven with lid





    ½ tblsp canola oil

    2 boneless, skinless chicken breasts

    6 cups chicken stock

    1 4.5 oz package wild rice, seasoning packet reserved

    ½ tsp freshly ground black pepper

    1 onion, finely diced

    ½ cup carrot, medium dice

    6 tblsp unsalted butter

    ½ cup flour

    2 cups warm milk

    Kosher salt



    1.  Season the chicken breasts heavily with salt and pepper on both sides.  In a large dutch oven, heat canola oil over mediumhigh heat until shimmering.  Add chicken breasts and cover the pot.  Once chicken is browned on bottom side, approximately 3-5 minutes, flip them, cover again, and allow to cook until second side is browned.  Remove chicken breasts to plate and allow to rest for 5 minutes.  Once rested, cut chicken into a small dice.


    2.  Over medium high heat, deglaze the pot that chicken was cooked in with stock.  Add the rice, bring to a boil, cover, and remove from heat.


    3.  In a medium saucepan, melt butter over medium heat.  Add carrots and onions and cook until onions are translucent, approximately 5 minutes.  Add the pepper, reserved seasoning packet, and flour.  Whisk together and continue to cook over medium heat for 5 minutes, stirring often.  Whisk milk into mixture slowly.  Once thoroughly combined, add to stock along with diced chicken.


    4.  Continue to simmer the soup uncovered over low heat, stirring occasionally to make sure it doesn’t stick, until the rice is tender and soup is thickened to desired consistency.  Season to taste with kosher salt.

    N.b. I often skip the first step and use a rotisserie chicken instead. 

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