Frontier Mom Posted January 30, 2009 Share Posted January 30, 2009 I can really relate to the post about distractions but I am really struggling with the dc's right now. Here is the issue: My four don't really drag through their work, rather they take shortcuts. For instance, my two older ds's are doing Apologia Science. I schedule this for about 1 hour daily but they are miraculously through in 15 minutes. They are not watching the Multimedia CD, nor are they doing the experiments in that time. On one hand, I want them to work independently but I am really struggling with motivating them to really learn - not just do. They chatter all day, constantly unfocused. Finally, yep I'll admit it, I lose my cool with the constant noise and interruptions. I am all about legitimate questions and "noisy learning" but this is just needless. It makes it hard for us to focus and I am seeing it in their work. We have a learning room, which is a blessing and a curse. It seems our togetherness is actually becoming detrimental to our concentration. Does anyone else struggle with this and what have you done that helps? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frontier Mom Posted January 30, 2009 Author Share Posted January 30, 2009 Bumping because I need some advice.:confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest GodFirstKids2 Posted January 30, 2009 Share Posted January 30, 2009 I have four h/s, I faced the same issue, tough as it may... I had to stay with them and focus on the kids needs. I found that they didn't know what I thought they did and got stuck often on problems they didn't want to bother me with therefore created the chatting unfoced work, (very frustrating). Here's what I worked I dropped what I was trying to do while they worked and coached them through everything-after a while they began to work more independently---Amazing!! The thing is to focus on them learning to be independent by teaching the value of it.--It may take 3 months to start seeing results. --- It's working for me---praise the Lord! I can really relate to the post about distractions but I am really struggling with the dc's right now. Here is the issue: My four don't really drag through their work, rather they take shortcuts. For instance, my two older ds's are doing Apologia Science. I schedule this for about 1 hour daily but they are miraculously through in 15 minutes. They are not watching the Multimedia CD, nor are they doing the experiments in that time. On one hand, I want them to work independently but I am really struggling with motivating them to really learn - not just do. They chatter all day, constantly unfocused. Finally, yep I'll admit it, I lose my cool with the constant noise and interruptions. I am all about legitimate questions and "noisy learning" but this is just needless. It makes it hard for us to focus and I am seeing it in their work. We have a learning room, which is a blessing and a curse. It seems our togetherness is actually becoming detrimental to our concentration. Does anyone else struggle with this and what have you done that helps? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adrianne Posted January 30, 2009 Share Posted January 30, 2009 I can really relate to the post about distractions but I am really struggling with the dc's right now. Here is the issue: My four don't really drag through their work, rather they take shortcuts. For instance, my two older ds's are doing Apologia Science. I schedule this for about 1 hour daily but they are miraculously through in 15 minutes. They are not watching the Multimedia CD, nor are they doing the experiments in that time. On one hand, I want them to work independently but I am really struggling with motivating them to really learn - not just do. They chatter all day, constantly unfocused. Finally, yep I'll admit it, I lose my cool with the constant noise and interruptions. I am all about legitimate questions and "noisy learning" but this is just needless. It makes it hard for us to focus and I am seeing it in their work. We have a learning room, which is a blessing and a curse. It seems our togetherness is actually becoming detrimental to our concentration. Does anyone else struggle with this and what have you done that helps? Kristi:grouphug: I understand your frustration. Have you thought about asking them what they need to be motivated? Maybe changing a few things in your routine, like the curriculum or the place where they work? Asking them for their opinion might just help. (you can always veto their suggestions or reach a compromise) For us, being in the same room sometimes does not work. We don't have a separate school room so ds10 works in the kitchen or his bedroom and ds6 works in the living room or kitchen. We do science and devotions together and I do find myself some days having to discipline goofing off during these subjects. I do find that if it is interesting to them, they pay attention. If it is boring, they fool around with each other. I get very frustrated in the middle of a lesson when they just walk away ( to the bathroom or for a drink) each their own direction - wake up call for me - the lesson is boring. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frontier Mom Posted January 30, 2009 Author Share Posted January 30, 2009 Kristi:grouphug: I understand your frustration. Have you thought about asking them what they need to be motivated? Maybe changing a few things in your routine, like the curriculum or the place where they work? Asking them for their opinion might just help. (you can always veto their suggestions or reach a compromise) For us, being in the same room sometimes does not work. We don't have a separate school room so ds10 works in the kitchen or his bedroom and ds6 works in the living room or kitchen. We do science and devotions together and I do find myself some days having to discipline goofing off during these subjects. I do find that if it is interesting to them, they pay attention. If it is boring, they fool around with each other. I get very frustrated in the middle of a lesson when they just walk away ( to the bathroom or for a drink) each their own direction - wake up call for me - the lesson is boring. I am thinking we might not be able to work at our individual desks in the same room. It just seems too distracting. With my older two, I think they are at an age and aptitude to work independently on most things, they have just gotten into some really bad habits. I guess I should speak with them and maybe have assigned places, from their suggestions of course, of where they do most of their work in order to have some quiet concentration. I find that when the learning gets tough, the chatter begins. I think they are at a point where they must "actively" learn and they just are struggling with it. If it isn't easy, they start goofing off. Unfortunately, all learning just isn't a bowl of cherries. Thanks for your suggestions and guess we need some alone time as well as group time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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