whining *wince*

[solascriptura]

My ds5 has started whining... a lot. I know that this isn't unusual behavior, but he never was much of a whiner before. I know that whining can become a very bad habit. Heck, I know a lot of adult who are still whiners/complainers. I'm worried that this is going to become a bad habit or a character issue. How can I get him over this incessant whining? It is beginning to sound or feel like fingernails screeching over a chalkboard. Any successful turn around stories? What did you do to improve this problem in your own kids?

[Myeightkiddies]

Each and every time one starts to whine, I make them repeat what they are trying to say until it is in a normal tone - and worded more appropriately. This method takes awhile and it takes discipline on my part to make them stop each and every time and repeat it until right. Eventually they no longer want to put forth the effort of whining and repeating, so they stop the whining.

 

Before I make them repeat it, I let them know that what they have to say is important so I want to be sure that I understand exactly what they are trying to say. By letting them know that you want to listen and it is important, they know that it isn't just discipline or punishment. It keeps the line of communication open. By having them reword what they are saying (if irrational), they get a bit better grip on what the problem is and that they may not really have a problem. It also gives them time to compose themselves and become more rational.

 

Anyway, it works for us.

[Guest]

Each and every time one starts to whine, I make them repeat what they are trying to say until it is in a normal tone - and worded more appropriately. This method takes awhile and it takes discipline on my part to make them stop each and every time and repeat it until right. Eventually they no longer want to put forth the effort of whining and repeating, so they stop the whining.

 

Before I make them repeat it, I let them know that what they have to say is important so I want to be sure that I understand exactly what they are trying to say. By letting them know that you want to listen and it is important, they know that it isn't just discipline or punishment. It keeps the line of communication open. By having them reword what they are saying (if irrational), they get a bit better grip on what the problem is and that they may not really have a problem. It also gives them time to compose themselves and become more rational.

 

Anyway, it works for us.

 

:iagree: Yup, us too.