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  1. My oldest Dd (now a homeschool graduate) got her first job at 16 just a couple weeks after getting her drivers license. It was at a movie theatre so there weren't any early morning, but she never had a problem getting herself to work on time or getting up after working until 12-1am when she needed to. She was promoted to a manager position just after her 18th birthday (would have been sooner if not for company policy). Now she works as a bank teller and she said it didn't take anytime at all to adjust to her new daytime schedule after working late evening and sleeping until 11-12 most days for the last year since she graduated.

     

    Most all of us are very capable of doing what we need to do when we need to do it no matter how we were schooled. It's just a matter of having a sense of responsibility and knowing that it's what you have to do.

  2. It sounds too mature for my children but I am interested!

     

    Looking at your signature I'd agree. I would wait until at least 11-12 before letting them read and even that depends on the individual child. If they are too young to grasp the greater theme of the story then it will probably just be scary to them.

     

    My Dd read all three books at 13 and it has lead to awesome discussions, but only you can read and decide if and when your kids are ready for them. My DS is 12 and just started the first book(dad told him he couldnt see the movie until he had read the first book) and although I don't think he'll have a problem with the violence and scariness it's yet to be seen how much he'll pick up beyond that.

  3. I guess I'm just wondering why parents would not want to know the sex of the baby. Knowing ahead of time makes it a lot easier when it comes to decorating the nursery and buying baby clothes and paraphernalia.

     

    With my first extended family dynamics made it better not to know until she was born. With my second those that made the issue of gender difficult weren't around and we didn't speak to them about it, but with the third I found myself wishing I hadn't let my OB tell us.

     

     

    ETA: With younger DD and DS the gender was quite obvious. Both seemed to want to make sure we knew and had their bits right out in front for everyone to see. Lol

  4. My two oldest are almost 5 years apart. It wasn't planned that way, but it was a great age gap. Older Dd was old enough she could dress and do many other things herself making day to day life just a bit easier for me. They were never rivals or competitors because they were always at different stages. The downside of a large age gap is that it can be tough sometimes to find things that the older would enjoy that the youngers can do.

     

    The middle and and the youngest are 2 years and a week apart. I do wish my middle had had more time to be the baby. DS was a difficult and demanding baby so finding the time I wanted to be able to spend one on one with the middle was really difficult and I was one stressed momma his first year or so.

  5. Personally I've always thought those things a bit odd. But if you have legitimate reasons for having your kiddo wear them then go for it.

     

    PS. Every public pool I've ever been to has a no running rule. Maybe the running needs to be addressed.

     

    :iagree: I'm with the others in that the real issue here is the running. Even with the water socks the lifeguards at our old pool would have been all over him. I think you need to work on following pool safety rules.

  6. I dont remember learning to read, but i was reading at least a year before starting kindergarten. My parents say i just picked it up, but i had three brothers 4,5 and 7 years older then i was and after their experience with my oldest brother in K they werent about to leave it to up to the public school. i think i just picked up the jist of it from my parents working with my brothers and just having parents and grandparents who valued literacy and spent a lot time reading to us.

     

    i dont know what method the first K i attended used (a whole language approach i think), but the district we moved to that year used Dick and Jane style readers. i really hated those readers and even the most advanced reading group was a waste of time for me at that point.

  7. Maybe the store could have displays set up on days when you do food drives there. If people had a table of appropriate choices, you might be happier with what comes in.

     

    :iagree: last Thanksgiving and Christmas one of the local stores had prepared bags priced at varying amounts that people could choose to purchase and donate. You might see if you could arrange something sinilar for a future drive and see how it works.

     

    Also the local organization that prepares care packages for soldiers gives out specific lists of items that are wanted.

     

    Seems silly to have to tell people exactly what to donate, but sometimes it can be really hard to put yourself in someone else's shoes if you yourself have never worn a similar pair.

  8. Buck was named after the dog in "The Call of the Wild". Oldest DD had just finished the book and thought the name fitting. Our Buck is perfectly content with his role as spoiled house pet though.

     

    Jake was a shelter rescue. The animal control officer who fostered him called him Peanut, but he does'nt look like a Peanut. He just really looks like a Jake and was responding to the new name within minutes.

  9. No daughter, but I've had this issue with my son. There are colours he loves that are just awful on him, but he doesn't pick things with what I consider objectionable logos on them, so I really don't think I can refuse him to wear things that I think are ugly just because I think they're ugly. I will try to steer him to things that are better looking on him, but in the end, I'm not going to fight over something that unimportant to me. I see lots of kids wandering around in ugly clothes, but they aren't risque or trashy, just ugly. It's a matter of taste, and I think kids aren't usually known for their great fashion sense anyway. I think a person has to figure that out for themselves though. What is stylish with the kids is not my idea of stylish, but I'm not 14 years old anymore, and I cringe now at what we thought was stylish back then. :001_rolleyes:

    :iagree:

  10. We want to be buried next to each other. I think some of it has to do with timing. When remarriage happens late in life, often the couple is very realistic about the later marriage being different than the first. The first was the "love of my life" kind of marriage; the later marriage is a companionship marriage. I am not speaking to any of you who have second marriages. I'm just speaking about older couples I know where both parties entered the marriage with this point of view. In those cases, being buried next to the first spouse is still the plan.

     

    :iagree:my grandfather bought ajoining plots after my grandmother passed away in 1976. He remarried, but my grandmother remained in his heart. She was the woman he had fallen in love with, raised a family with and had hoped to grow old with. Even though he had loved his second wife it wasnt in the same way he had loved my grandmother. When he was diagnosed with cancer he made sure everyone in the family knew it was still his intention to be laid to rest at my grandmothers side and that is where his body is today.

  11. My own reason is because I wanted children and a family - like you say in the poll. However, I often feel that for most people (including me) it's because there's literally a biological drive to reproduce and everything else we tell ourselves is just justifications for our need to fulfill that drive.

     

    :iagree:

     

    I didn't plan the first, but this would probably be the best answer for the second and third. Before I discovered that I was pregnant with my first I wasn't even sure I wanted to get married much less have children.

  12. :iagree: Or go for a week in the middle?

     

    I would go for part of the time, but not for the whole time.

     

    Anne

     

    :iagree: if you can go for a few days in the middle that's what I would do and plan on sky ping as often as possible. That way your little guy will get to see Daddy often but will be in his own home with his usual routine. Oh, and I would try to have a sitter I trusted to take the little guy for a couple hours so you can get a break now and then. DH used to work out of town regularly when ours were toddlers and occasional mommy breaks during that time were a must for me to maintain my sanity.

  13. Dd 14, currently wants to be an interpreter for the deaf and possibly work with deaf children. She has a good friend who is hard of hearing and will eventually go deaf and a cousin who is hard of hearing. In his case no one can tell his parents why he has had sudden significant hearing loss so we have no idea what the future holds for him.

     

    DS 12 currently says "I don't know"

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