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  1. BTDT.  My father voluntarily contributed some money each month; however, we never felt comfortable accepting it.  We would have taken care of everything ourselves happily.  As it was, we spent more on him than he contributed, but successfully hid that fact from him.  He lived with us for 3-1/2 years, which was a treasure beyond price.  Unbelievable amount of stress and labour for us, but so what?  He died nearly one year ago, and we all still miss him deeply.

     

    Seems foolish ever to build plans around an inheritance.  One can die any day, including before said inheritance arrives.

     

    Dad's attorney occasionally pushed us to set up a lease agreement.  We told him that was unacceptable.  Social Security payments never were in jeopardy.  Medicaid was not an issue because where we live, one must first enter a nursing home as a private pay resident, then hope/pray that a dual-certified bed becomes available.  Places will not accept a prospective resident who wants to begin as a Medicaid resident; administrators will invent all manner of obstacles to accepting such a patient.

     

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  2. Yes, the Mid-Century Modern is very in right now. It feels like home to me, because, of course, I grew up in one.

     

    You'd love the one I just finished. Sputnik lamp fixture, gorgeous dark-stained hardwoods, amazing tiled baths. I like it but I like this one and its' location and larger rooms, windows, and garage better.

    Sputnik lamp? Shall have to find out what that is.

     

    I am not keen on the pink tile bathrooms of that era (grew up with one) and felt a little surprised that D-I-L decided she likes it.

  3. The Catholic Church allows Orthodox Christians to receive the sacrament in their parishes.  Brief answer is because the Catholic church believes that EO split off from them and are schismatic. 

     

    The Orthodox Church does not allow Orthodox Christians to receive the sacrament anywhere other than in an Orthodox Christian church.  The Orthodox man who received at a Catholic church was wrong to do so.  Our teaching is clear and non-negotiable.  

     

    Similarly, no non-Orthodox may receive Holy Communion in an Orthodox church.

     

    Receiving Communion is an outward sign that union already has been achieved.  It is not a method for achieving union.

     

    Hope this clears up the question for you.

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  4. Congratulations on your renovation and upcoming move!

     

    My son and his family moved this past mid-summer into a late 1950s house.  Were it not his family, I would steal the house for myself! 

     

    The house is a large ranch (1664 sq. ft.) on a huge corner lot.  The original developer of the subdivision had it built for himself, so it has extra features and extensive natural lighting through the windows.  This year, the house was being renovated by a "flipper" who ran out of money.  Just before the house fell into foreclosure, my son was able to buy it.  DS is a near-genius at design, building, and renovation.  Already he has laid, stained, and sealed beautiful hardwood flooring where floors needed replacing, has laid a natural stone floor in the good-sized entry hall, installed an apron sink and new faucet in the kitchen, redone the kitchen cabinets, and currently is designing and installing board-and-batten in select rooms.  He has other design plans to pursue as well.  DS loves doing all the work himself, and we are in awe both of his skills and his artistic sense.  

     

     

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  5. Our Asperger's son never had any interest in team sports; nor would they have been a good fit for him.  He also has NVLD, an additional deterrent to athletics.  He grew up to be very social, very happy among people.  He takes long walks for fun and fitness. 

     

    My own thoughts are that team sports are excellent enjoyment for those who desire to participate.  I do not view them as at all essential.  There are other ways to develop team-working skills. 

     

    Perhaps your son would respond positively to a sport that can be "individual" such as ice skating, roller skating, swimming, gymnastics, track, or other such.

     

    ETA:  Thanks, Poppy, for the word that was slipping my mind!  I changed "solitary" to "individual".

  6. So far, in our family, I'd say this. My husband has a bachelor's in Economics (Univ of WA), a Bachelor's in Mathematics (Univ. of WA) and a Master' in Mathematics (Texas State University).  It took him a LONG time after getting that Master's to get a job (And he only went back for the second bachelors and Masters' after having difficulty getting a job with just a Bachelor's in Economics) and he doesn't yet have one that uses any of his degrees.

     

    I have no degree (an AA I got while working for Boeing back in 1999) but a lot of experience that has kept us afloat.  We still value college degrees, but it has not yet paid out in our family. We have high hopes still.  I'd like to go back to school and get a 4 yr degree. But I can't do so until my husband's current college degrees starting doing the work they are supposed to!

     

    If your husband studied statistics, he may be able to find work within the field of marketing research.  A pure math degree can lead to work in that field, as well.  Our young cousin received an undergraduate degree in math from SMU and went on to earn a high income locally with marketing research companies. 

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  7. This is one concern. With our society and most people getting many different jobs and exposure to many fields over a lifetime it's hard to guess what degree to pursue at 17 years old. Even a gap year probably won't help.

     

    I try to emphasize the importance of higher education with a field that can be lucrative enough to give a freedom to seek different fields or even professions when you want as you age and your desires change.

     

    When I was young, college students often were encouraged to major in the humanities for the explicit reason that such an education was accepted as providing the flexibility to work in multiple fields.  Additional job-specific training would be provided by the employer.  I have known a sociology major who was "reborn" on-the-job as a marketing researcher.  At the same company, I knew an English major who was "reborn" as a competitive analyst.  I, myself, am a history major turned masters level librarian turned competitive analyst. 

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  8. From what we hear from practitioners, and from things we have read, medical doctors either are leaving the profession, or are moving to countries where they can earn more money than they can in the U.S. in the wake of insurance requirements and Medicare/Medicaid cuts in reimbursement.  Others are abandoning private practice to work in groups, or for hospitals and care facilities.  I would not encourage someone to seek entry to medical school unless the person was an idealist and willing to work without hope of paying off his loans prior to his mid-forties at the earliest.

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  9. Times have changed.  Such a cliche, and such a deeply painful cliche.

     

    In the old days, attending a "name school" would open employment doors.

    In the new days, this still helps, but to a lesser extent. 

     

    In the old days, employers took the time to read hard-copy resumes and to interview interesting candidates.  Candidates not going to be interviewed would receive hard-copy update to that effect.

    In the new days, candidates apply online with cookie-cutter forms, and never know whether or not they even were noticed.  Candidates are forbidden to call and enquire of application status.  Employers simply tune out and ignore unsuccessful applicants.

     

    In the old days, college expenses were high, but manageable.  Even at some of the "big ticket/big name" universities.  (My parents paid off my undergraduate expenses within a handful of years.  I came from very modest means.) 

    In the new days, insanity rules.

     

    In the old days, high achievers in non-STEM fields were respected because they clearly were intelligent, hard-working, and brought multiple talents to the employment pool.

    In the new days, football coaches are hired to babysit -- not genuinely teach -- the "worthless" humanities and social studies courses.  The high achievers in non-STEM fields often are unemployed. 

     

    In the old days, a person holding a Ph.D. from a solid, not necessarily top-ranked, university realistically could hope to obtain a teaching position at a college or university.

    In the new days, a person holding a Ph.D. from anywhere other than one of the top-ten ranked universities can hope to muscle his or her way past the long line of competitors for an adjunct instructor position at a community college.

     

    In the old days, a high school diploma was the minimum for obtaining a reasonable, entry-level job of some sort.

    In the new days, an undergraduate degree is the new "high school diploma".

     

    Need additional food for thought?

     

     

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  10. We do what Zinnia mentioned -- eat at church after the service.  How big is your church?  Any chance of organizing a meal to share after the service?  Doesn't have to be major (although ours tends to be a full potluck).  Bagels and cream cheese, muffins, vegies and dip, peanut butter and apples, or what have you. 

     

    This.  I was going to mention the practice of "trapeza" (which comes from the word for "table" in Greek).  A parish meal follows the Sunday morning service.  Not always a full-blown potluck, but often turns out to be one.  Light fare pleases people just as well.  The practice builds in a way of celebrating birthdays and anniversaries of members, for a celebration cake can be included.  Cleaning up afterward gives newer members, even interested visitors, a relaxed way to get to know each other better.

     

    EO churches generally do this from practical motives, as well. If receiving Holy Communion, one does eat or drink from the preceding midnight, which can trigger an appetite by time nearly noon rolls around!

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  11. Does this person have an actual MLS degree? Or does she or he work in a library but have a 4 year degree? I have several librarians in the family who work at universities and they all earn a solid middle class income, well beyond a plumber or firefighter or a public school teacher. But they have graduate degrees. In order to be an actual librarian you need to have an MLS degree (although sometimes the university is willing to hire someone with a different graduate degree). And depending on the University the librarian must have a second graduate degree in their areas of study. My sister has an MLS and a MS in Public Health. She is a Health Services librarian, so she works in a medical library. A librarian in a law library is expected to have a JD.

     

    t also depends on how the university classifies their librarians. Some call them staff and only a MLS is necessary, but some consider them faculty and require a second Master's Degree or a PhD for employment. My sister is a librarian but is also faculty so she does have a teaching component to her job and she is expected to publish, just like any other professor.

    This is how the profession is structured.

     

    Today's climate, though, features some major changes. Schools and towns that have suffered large budget cuts have tried valiantly to maintain services. In many of these environments, paraprofessionals hold the managerial and higher positions, and untrained staff hold the lower jobs. Not good, but the worse alternative is to have no library.

  12. Resigning means giving up her $80k a year plus benefits package. And of course her God wouldn't want her to do that, since she doesn't want to do that.

     

    It's not about the will of God for Kim. It's about the will of Kim. She's not willing to do anymore than spend 4 nights in jail for her beliefs.

     

    Someone compared her to Nelson Mandela and I was like "Mandela didn't give up for TWENTY SEVEN STRAIGHT YEARS". 4 nights =\= 27 years. Her supporters are suffering from delusions of grandeur.

     

    If you were to remove that gratuitous sentence, I would back all the rest of your post.  I agree with you that she likely is too timid to suffer monetarily for her position.

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  13. DH has a Ph.D.  His parents completed grades four and six, respectively. 

    I have a masters and 2/3 of a second, incomplete masters degree.  My father has two undergraduate degrees, my mother had one.

    Our eldest, I already wrote about. 

    Our second holds a B.A. plus non-degree 36 hours of graduate school.

    Our third is on path toward a B.S. that actually makes money.

    Our fourth is in high school, strongly desiring to major in nursing.

     

    Our close friends are all over the map, ranging from high school completion to (probably the most extreme) one with both an M.D. and a Ph.D.

     

    Friendship is not dependent upon external credentials!

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