Janeway
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1 hour ago, Catwoman said:
I don't want to scare you or seem paranoid, but have you spoken with your son to make sure the driver never stopped and parked the bus during those 2 hours? Were there other kids on the bus?
It's hard to imagine the driver having gotten lost for more than a few minutes, and I would be very concerned that this person might have either tried to harm your son, or to have intentionally gotten "lost" to see if you and your dh were paying enough attention to when your son got home from school.
Again, I hate to post this, but I would be very worried that this driver might not have innocent intentions for future rides home on the bus, and I would be sure to file a direct complaint in person with the superintendent of the district.
This is just wrong on so many levels. I hope it's just incompetency, but I wouldn't take any chances.
This is what I have been thinking. I knew of a bus driver who sometimes lost his way. Parents complained do they put him on a different route. Years later, I heard that some parents thought he might have been abusing the kids, or abusing the last child dropped off, that sort of thing. Nothing ever happened to him, the kids were not incredibly verbal as it was a special education bus. It is horrifying to think of what might have been happening during that missing time.
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I loved it!! It was amazing!
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I need a new iphone. Mine is an XS and I only have 64gb. I need to replace it because I cannot even have normal use apps on it, despite having everything on the cloud and offloading anything I can offload. I have decided to get the iphone 15 but am wondering, if I wait a few weeks, would there be a high likelihood of sales?
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Can you wait? If you cannot get the trim you want, then wait. Plus, you might want to look around at other dealers yourself. The dealer might be telling you this to not have to split the commission.
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Our local public schools do some sort of geography during this year. Regular level students just do multiple choice tests and that is about it. Then there is preAP World Geography and AP Human geo. The higher level courses have more going on, but not always. It depends on the teacher. I knew a preAP precal teacher that only did multiple choice tests, using a scantron that she ran through the little machine on her desk. AP Human Geo kids will usually have projects and such.
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What do you do with top sheets? I have various top sheets from over the years where the bottom sheets are worn out so long gone. I am trying to decide if I should donate to a charity or store them for just in case in the future (daughter likes to sew so maybe they could be used as fabric or something). Is there anything else? What do you all recommend?
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She sounds sad. And 81 years old, I would imagine she is tired. I only wish I could go back in time and have more sympathy for my mom when she would be down like this. If I were you, I would have compassion. I am only in my 50's, but I have felt the slow down in the last couple years. It is really getting me down and I think I am finally "getting it" on how much more I should have been patient and compassionate. It is too late for me with my parents, but you still have time.
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Eureka, Star Trek (TNG and Enterprise were my faves), Bewitched, there have been many through the years...I will try to think of more. Bridgerton for sure. I liked Friends a lot when it came out, and Good Neighbors, Parenthood, Victoria, Call the Midwife, MASH, all sorts of shows.
There are so many that these are quite literally a sampling.
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1 minute ago, cjzimmer1 said:
Personally, I teach my kids to learn to drive on the oldest vehicle with the least amount of safety features that I have available to teach them in. This might sound counterintuitive but here's my reasons: Driving safely is skill learned from the development of habit to always be checking and aware of your surroundings. On vehicles that blink lights when a car is next to you or shows you an image when you turn on your turn signals, it is very easy to get in the habit of relying on the technology to do your looking for you. I want my kids to have the habit of looking out the rear view mirror, or turning their heads to verify the lane next to them is empty etc and then use the technology as an extra resource to confirm what they saw. If the technology fails and they don't realize it, it is easy to assume that hey that lane is empty since the car isn't blinking at me and never actually look for themselves. Also the kids who learned to drive in bigger bulkier vehicles have been much more confident drivers and comfortable driving whatever vehicle that they have available than the one I taught on a smaller vehicle because they already know they can handle it. The one taught on the smaller vehicle is very intimidated by a larger vehicle and has created some headaches when her car was in the shop and she was uncomfortable driving the bigger vehicles that were available.
So in your shoes, unless I had a kid that needed to learn in the next 6 months or so, I wouldn't be factoring that aspect in to weather I purchased a vehicle. There will always be deals and sales to be had if you look around especially if you are willing to consider more than one specific car model. If you and your DH are fine with the sharing one car and it works for your schedule, I sure wouldn't rush out to by a second car.
We had intended to teach all the kids to drive on the 20 year old Civic, but that is gone. Now all we have is the 5 year old Honda Odyssey, which already has all those safety features. And we did have trouble with them relying on those safety features. You are completely correct about that! Even the person who gave the driving test to my now 19 yr old told me he did that and it was a problem.
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We made our last payment on our minivan last week. We only have 1 car right now as two years ago, my son and husband, in a joint effort, ruined the engine of our 20 year old Honda Civic. (they kept driving it while it was overheating, both of them, and would just pull over when it would refuse to run due to overheating). We have now paid off everything including our home a few months ago. Yay! For the first time since I went to college in the late 80's, we are completely debt free!
OKAY, so, we lived with just one car for the last two years. This has been fine. We have had no issues. It was a little rocky the first couple months only because I had a ton of volunteer work and my husband did too (scouts and church and such), but we have re-situated everything to fit a schedule where neither of us needs a car at the same time. We adjusted and I actually like it. Also, he was working from home 100% of the time so he never drove during the day. He used to go on scout camping trips but after he got hurt at one, he no longer does that. That was our main time conflict.
Now he goes in to work two days a week. Still, no problems. In fact, I kind of like it. Life has actually gotten more relaxed. I know I cannot go anywhere on the two days he has the car and it has left me not feeling like I have to go somewhere. I get stuff done at home, I read books, spend time with the kids for real, cook dinner, etc.
That being said, we can now afford to replace the car that died two years ago. And we do have kids coming up who will be learning how to drive. And the prices of cars have come back down from when there was a shortage and right now, there is a special interest rate. Part of me thinks it is time to just get the second car, and it is a Subaru Forester we have picked. Oh yeah, we would not neccesarily have to finance, but the money we would use to finance is invested and the interest rate is lower than what we earn on our savings. And we would be buying through the Costco auto program so that brings down the price too and we get the lower end models when we buy cars, so we are not paying premium prices.
Bonuses to getting a new car: have a second car if anything happens to the minivan, have a smaller car to commute the two days a week in, have a smaller car to teach the kids how to drive in
Draw backs: our drive way is weird, 1 lane until you pull in to the garage so the parking will be tight, will no longer be debt free, have to pay for the car, and there are new features coming out on the next years model for the car we selected that we might really like. Maybe don't actually need a second car. It is not like we could not buy one next year (although, we might not be able to get the deals we can get now due to Subaru changing the Forester with next years model).
No point in looking at used cars. They seem to cost almost as much as the new car on the Costco auto buying program. We might as well buy new then and have the warranty and all.
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I was watching a live auction tonight when my husband came in and watched with me. I only watch for fun. Something was shown that I told my husband I really like and mentioned what I thought it was, as in, history of it. He thought I meant I wanted it and typed in a bid, and won. Okay, the bid is not a huge amount, but I do not want it. I already inherited similar things from my mom and it was not something I wanted more of. He completely misunderstood me. Should I offer to pay a small amount and tell them I do not want it, but need to make good for it? Or should I just tell them I do not want it? or just suck it up and pay for it and maybe give it away?
edited to add: I am thinking maybe I should just email the guy and explain the situation and see what he says. Not sure if anyone has any other suggestions or has dealt with this before.
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13 hours ago, Spryte said:
what happens to the pattern of behavior that is left, well, without a scapegoat?
Does the NPD person continue to rant about the scapegoat and scrape up what little info they can find through dubious sources and online?
Or — and this is what I’m wondering — do they ever create a new scapegoat, essentially moving someone else down the ladder to take the place of the scapegoat?
I can tell you this. When the scapegoat is gone, at first, they will continue to rant and rave about the scapegoat, until they are tired out. There is no new material and the target is not around to feel the pain. So, they find someone new. And it is common that the new scapegoat is someone who formerly supported targeted the original scapegoat, so ha ha ha on them. Whatever...been there, and I am just not the current target and would like to keep it that way.
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23 minutes ago, lmrich said:
Sadly, yes. I never go first thing, first day. I am sorry that you had to experience such rudeness. What is wrong with people? And, from my own knowledge, those people are resellers and are there to make a profit.
I got the impression they were resellers too, teaming up to make sure no one else could get to things before them. It also leaves me to feel that I do not want to buy from re-sellers either because it just encourages this behavior and I worry that I would be buying from people who are like this.
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Last week, I decided to head to an estate sale at opening because I saw some things in pictures that I thought I would like. But once there, once inside, people were aggressive. I had been to estate sales before, but never at opening. In this case, once the doors opened, people were blocking paths from others walking, blocking doorways to rooms to keep others from looking, that sort of thing. Even though I was there early and was one of the first in the door, I was with my daughter so she could look at the craft supplies and some woman zoomed past me and then blocked the doorway to a walk in closet while she went through stuff and would not allow anyone to get past her to also look at stuff. (I was actually there first, but she went past me and then blocked the path). I saw this aggressive behavior throughout the house. It seemed like a lot of people came in pairs or so and would block entire rooms or even a hallway while the people they were with went through stuff in those places.
I found it unsettling and upsetting. Later, I saw on a FB page where someone asked about estate sales and someone else said be aware that some people get aggressive there and don't be shocked if someone tries to grab something out of your hands, etc.
If this happened to me, and just from what already happened, I do not think I can stomach these things. Does anyone have any experience with anything like this?
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I did not see the outburst, but I think if anyone finds it acceptable, it is only because they are dazzled by the fame. It is not acceptable. It is disgusting.
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I have a low profile box, if you want another option, hahaha ha ha. BUT, I would likely just get a platform bed if I were buying all new. I do not think it matters, comfort wise, if you are a platform vs boxspring. Just get whatever fits your style best, the look you want.
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That is so sad!! They will be in my prayers.
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Two first edition Apologia Elementary series books (the first two, Astronomy and Botany). We just did an activity or two from them and never did them fully. Yet, they were the first things I bought. Those and the Singapore Math US edition (and 3rd edition) textbooks.
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I don't expect anything I guess. I would not expect them to provide me with anything. As far as protection goes, I guess I am hoping we can defend ourselves or at least the neighbors can. We have a lot of people around here with second amendment signs up, so, I am hoping there are enough that it is not an issue. During 2020, I know certain groups threatened to come tear up neighborhoods. It did not happen here (so far), but I think it lead to more people gearing up to protect themselves and their children.
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16 minutes ago, Heartstrings said:
It’s the prestige of the district and the demographics that they want not the education offered.
I personally bought this house thinking the schools were going to be great. Then I got in to them and was disgusted by what I saw and did not see. I see people around me claiming the schools are wonderful. They really are not. My nextdoor neighbor keeps saying how great they are, but then she has a tutor coming in multiple times a week to teach her kids and sends them out to classes on the weekends.
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10 hours ago, SanDiegoMom said:
When my twins were in k-2 before I homeschooled, they had textbooks, but they still weren't great. They were ok, but they jumped all over the place, had poorly written problems, and sometimes even asked questions that presupposed a skill that hadn't been taught yet. They were supposed to guess and check division in second grade, apparently. So frustrating.
I homeschooled using Singapore Math because I could tell my non-mathy kid REALLY needed a strong basis in number sense. It was quite shaky. She would have been just passed along getting weaker and weaker as she went.
She was already set up to hate math from the beginning, though, when in kindergarten she had to 1. Fill out a number scroll from 1 to 1000 (over time, but she got so behind because her hand strength wasn't great yet, and she was forced to finish before the year ended) and 2. She got behind in in-class math worksheets and was forced to do around 36 math worksheets over the course of two days to catch up. Not that the teacher was ever going to check them anyway. Ugh.
ETA: this is in the VERY good school district that everyone wants to be in. I was underwhelmed. Bad math combined with no phonics. What is the use other than babysitting at that point? Kids are either being taught at home, by tutors, in Saturday school, or just fall farther and farther behind.
Parents fall all over themselves to be in our local schools because of high test scores. But then, the parents pay for tutors and after school school and Saturday school and summer school to give the kids the basics. I think it is awful for kids to have to sit at school all day long, five days a week, and then still face going to an actual education all evening and weekends and summers.
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One could argue that any subject is unneeded, especially if they do not like it. So many kids are forced through foreign language or they cannot graduate. I tried my hardest and could never learn a foreign language. I was so invested that I spent extra money on books and labeled stuff throughout my house trying to help. I was able to read the language, but never understand it when spoken. Yet, every child is forced to learn that and even stuff like British Literature and Edgar Allen Poe. None of that is necessary for life.
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These are two very different situations.
My 14 yr old will be in 9th grade next year. His outside activities have pretty much lost all the older kids, or maybe they never had high schoolers much. At home, he has a very bad attitude toward me, blaming me for every single thing and declaring injustice every time I turn around. Also, he has ASD, but academically, he does great. I put him in a private online school this year and it has removed the stress from him arguing with me over everything when it came to school work. And of course, the program is accredited in our state (it is a private school) so there is no problem simply enrolling him in the public school for next year. I would have rather have waited for 10th grade, but he is very eager to go next year and I am kind of thinking it is best to just let him go now. I have no trouble with him academically at home. He is ahead of grade level in many things. As an 8th grader, he took high school geometry at the high school this year, and already has high school algebra 1 of course. He does not struggle at all.
The 12 yr old is a completely different situation. Our local middle school is awful. I feel like I will have to drive her to a different public school, assuming that the district approves the transfer. The local middle school has so much bullying and junk going on, and the principal is someone I already know is a complete pig. 12 yr old is miserable at home because she just wants to go to school and be like everyone else. She loves to read and just finished Anne of Green Gables. She loves to write. She struggles with math. The local charter school is brutal academically with hours of homework each day even in first and second grade. She went there for first and second grade. I feel sorry for her because when I was 12 yrs old, my parents sent me to the church school, which was a small school. I was miserable. I missed all the stuff going on at the junior high. I was very happy to get back to the junior high and they almost did not let me. I actually simply refused to go to school anymore or get on the bus, which was a problem for them as they worked and could not be there to force me to go to school every day. Yes, I was a "toot." But I really did not want to return to that small, boring school. But in my case, I was on the accelerated track at the big public school and went on to win contests and awards in various academic competitions. I loved the actual academic environment. I was in student government at the junior high too and was selected to be a representative for the school for going to the capitol and other things like that. I was just a very successful student who was given a path for a competitive and great academic environment at the local public school. Funny, as a side note, some of my old teachers are actually on my FB page.
IF I let 12 yr old go to public school, it would be a middle school I would have to drive to and it would leave the 8 yr old home alone as a homeschooler. I think he would get lonely. I feel bad for him. But I don't think I should limit her based on his need for a companion. If anything, maybe I could take the money I spend on her now as a homeschooler and spend it on activities for him. Also, I am thinking I could get an in-district transfer for my 12 yr old because I had a conversation with the district about the behaviors of the local principal, who wants me at his school less than I want to be there, and they offered me an in-district transfer without me asking.
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1000 hours in a year? It would be a stretch for me to reach 10 hours unless I could count every time I walk from the car to a building. Seriously, the scout in me has died.
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We need prayers right now (update in OP)
in The Chat Board
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update: he is awake today, and the bleeding has subsided. They actually said he might be moved out of the ICU tomorrow. So things are looking up. Thank you so much!
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He collapsed on campus today. He was skate boarding and they originally thought it was a skateboard accident. But once in the ER, they found bleeding on the brain and a brain aneurysm. He also fractured his skull. They are trying to figure out now if it’s the aneurysm that is the source. My mom died from this and two other family members had this. Please pray!! This is my 19 year old.