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I think the Lukeion policy works well (for us, and it's just the second year of Lukeion classes, so ymmv) because they leave all assigments/quizzes up for several days. So if you've got a difficult week coming up, you just turn in the quiz on the first day possible (for DD12, this is Friday; it can be submitted as late as Monday, so there are 4 days of the week possible). If you're going to be on vacation from Friday to Monday (we've done that before) and not be able to access the internet, you can ask them to open it early for you so you can turn it in Thurs or Wed. Homework is the same way, can be turned in Tues-Fri any time.
It would not work as well if it were only open to submit for like 12 hours on Friday, or something - that would be a pain.
As it is, the only times she's not submitted her quiz/homework have been when she has forgotten. Even so, no homework or quiz is such a huge part of the grade that it's had a major effect.
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It appears that most offensive thing about Billy Graham is that he is a Christian.
I will say, and I definitely don't speak for all non-Christians because I don't know many, that my impression of Billy Graham, as a person who is not and never has been religious (and certainly not Christian), and who was raised largely in the Bible Belt by parents/other relatives who identified as Democrats and in my mom's case liberals, is instinctively negative. I know nothing about him. My subconscious impressions run like this: evangelical Christian, probably corrupt, old, smarmy, ignorant leader of unenlightened people, etc.
I should say that now, as an adult, I am very socially conservative and have a lot of respect for the role of religion, religious people, and religious leaders. I probably agree with Billy Graham on 95% of social issues and am to the right of him on the other 5%.
I just wanted to say that I don't disagree with you that his identity as a Christian, and esp. an Evangelical Christian, may associate him with the "clinging to guns and religion" stereotype that is in some ways an undercurrent in non-religious liberal culture.
Of course this is certainly not true of all non-religious people, or all liberals, or anything - not at all. But it exists; I received it as a subconscious impression from childhood/adolescence/young adulthood without knowing one single thing about Billy Graham or his life or work.
I'm sure there are unspoken, un-examined assumptions and reactions that exist going the other way too, but I can't speak to them because I was not raised on that side of the fence, as it were.
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Yes, I would look into buying a flight from LA to WA and driving the car back yourself while DD takes the baby on a plane (a day or two later, I guess - maybe staying in a hotel for the remaining two days). Depending on how resilient your DD is, especially since this is her first baby, I would sell things if necessary to finance this flight and the potential hotel stay. You can't be talking more than $500-$700 extra. I know that's a ton for some budgets but I would prioritize it for the next couple of months. I'd seriously sell the fancy coffee machine and some clothes, eat rice and beans for a month, etc. Not contribute to retirement for one month, take $ out of savings, whatever is necessary. That's a very long drive for a new mother.
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I think some people find it easier if they make a distinction between "My mom is a horrible person" and "My mom has a disease that, unfortunately, makes her act like a horrible person". And other people find it easier if they don't have to make that distinction. And as long as we all know what's best for us, that's what matters, right?
Well, I don't necessarily disagree with you on the merits of this particular discussion re: mental illness, but re: the bolded, no, that is not what matters. What matters is the truth, imo, and/or what's best for the group with the greatest claim to being done the best for (not always me).
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When we were very poor, we gave up everything non-essential. I can't think of any lines in the sand we had - we were just happy to eat (rice and beans).
But as soon as we had $, the very first thing we did was buy a washing machine. Line drying is no big deal, but washing your clothes in the bathtub (because laundromats were super expensive where we lived at the time) is a massive pain. The day we hooked up the (very used, made an extremely disturbing loud clanking sound, but spun like a dream) washing machine, I was transformatively grateful for the guy who invented the washing machine. I think it's the number one amazing technological advance in domestic life. I cannot say enough good things about washing machines.
The rest of it, I can compromise on. I do like living in a separate dwelling (as opposed to an apartment or duplex) because we have 6 loud children. And I do not like carpeted living areas. But I've compromised on those before and could again in extremity.
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But what is it that is destroying her liver? Is it the sugar? Many people let their kids drink 2-3 glasses of OJ a day, or 3 juice boxes, or a couple of cans of coke.
Is it the caffeine? 3 cups of coffee is at least that much caffeine if not more. Lots of people drink a lot of coffee.
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My mathy 9 year old DS also has a low frustration tolerance. What we do is Teaching Textbooks on-level (well, a level ahead, b/c TT is a level behind largely) and then BA a level behind. So he does Beast Academy, whichever problems he feels like, from any of the grade 3 books (we have all of them), 2 or 3 days a week. Teaching Textbooks is almost too easy for him but it prevents arguments and his natural resistance to anything he thinks might be work. I think the fact that it is computer-based (we do the online version) has tricked him into thinking it might not be real schoolwork.
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The fillings I have are amalgam. I've considered getting them replaced with resin ones b/c of concerns about mercury but mostly I can't be bothered. If anyone wanted to talk me into it I could be convinced, though.
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Could be me. Some people say root canals aren't bad. It was probably my least favorite experience of all time.
I had a root canal while we lived in NZ - it cost a total of $600NZD (which was at the time like $400 USD), no insurance, and it was so relaxing that I fell asleep. No drugs other than the local anaesthetic.
I have a very low pain tolerance, but there was no pain and the dentist was so nice and she smelled good and her voice was soothing and I was tired.
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Would I be financially responsible if a car driver looks at my kids biking on the sidewalk, gets distracted, and runs into someone else's mailbox or tree? Surely that would not be my fault, jeez. I expect drivers to be able to drive 20 mph down subdivision streets without being so distracted by a kid on a sidewalk that they randomly run off the road, hah.
Ours have all had pretty free biking on sidewalks in the neighborhood (many different neighborhoods as we move a lot) privileges from age 7 or 8, and with a sibling from age 6 for DD6 who is very responsible and risk-averse. If they crashed their bike (and they have) a couple of blocks away, they can limp home with a scraped knee or bruised elbow - this has happened. It happened to me as a kid.
If there were an immobilizing injury, like breaking an ankle, I'd hope for someone in the area to look outside (or drive by) and say, ack, immobilized and screechy kid! This is an extreme circumstance, though, and for me doesn't negate the value of relative freedom with bike riding.
The stuff I did at age 6 and 7 on a bike with freedom - biking up to a half mile away, no sidewalks, no helmet, in an area with alligators in the ponds, going to the corner store for candy, etc. - makes me feel like biking with a helmet on sidewalks in a subdivision is just super safe,comparatively. I am sometimes sorry I can't/won't give our kids the freedom I had - I am not letting DD6 bike to the corner store by herself and buy gum, which I totally did on a regular basis at age 6. But I'm not restricting them any more than absolutely necessary for my peace of mind, because the freedom of movement and exploration I had as a kid was quite wonderful for me.
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I don't think people are primarily concerned about educational outcomes in re: the Turpin case. They're concerned about actual abuse and neglect, trying to catch people operating waaaaay outside the margin of reason.
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I see most of those gifts as acts of service, though. That's definitely my love language. Even when I do receive gifts - the ones I love the most are the ones that show a lot of thought and consideration. I don't care about the gift itself - I care about the thought that went into it and that is what is meaningful to me. Actually, my love language would be thoughtfulness if that were a category.
Yes, I bet that is it. When I used to go spend a few weeks with my grandmother in the summers, my mom would clean my room really well right before I got back (I never cleaned it, so it was a mess the rest of the year). That always made me feel so good and so loved. Sometimes when I am out grocery shopping or asleep late, DD12 will do a good clean of the kitchen/dining room, down to organizing the counters and cabinets and etc. Same feeling.
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We buy their frozen wild organic blueberries, frozen breaded cod (which I think is gluten free, but not a concern for us either way), Golden Age Boule bread, and yogurt- right now I like the CoYo and the Kite Greek-style almond milk one. Also they will in some locations make fresh sushi for you to order, which is convenient. Also if there are any left I get the kids vegan donuts.
I really prefer Natural Grocers in a lot of ways, but it is very location dependent.
One thing both stores do relatively well is bring in local products - the Whole Foods in Overland Park, KS used to carry a local breadmaker's ciabatta rolls that were divine.
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Lukeion will open a window for submission early if someone wants to submit a quiz or homework before going on vacation, or something. Other than that, my impression has been that they'd like you to be dying or in the middle of a natural disaster before you're willing to ask them for an extension, and so DD has never asked for an extension. I will say that they leave the windows for submission pretty wide (days).
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This is my love language also. I obviously can't speak for your husband, but I will say that *for me* it doesn't have to be anything expensive or big. In fact, much like happysmileylady says ... it's more about the gift being personal to me that makes me feel loved. The example of the phone charger was perfect - the gift is the vehicle that shows the love of someone who is hearing me, and anticipating on my behalf or meeting a need or just appreciating me/what I do.
Some examples from my own home:
I was up all night with a teething baby - my husband brings me a large coffee and donut
I am struggling with Son #3 so Son #1 (who is away at college) sends me a "Thinking of you" card
Son #3 is doing school at the library because I want to punch his face, and he brings home a DVD he thinks I'll like, as a peace-offering.
Son #2 hears me tell husband that I have to wash the car this weekend. He surprises me by doing it himself, inside included. Best ever!
More struggling with Son #3 and my ex-husband takes me to dinner. Taco Casa, total bill $4. The gift was letting me vent w/o "helping." LOL
Son #3 sees me stuck in the chair with the sick, nursing baby, and asks if I need anything. The gift of noticing I'm stuck was free, and the offer appreciated.
Daughter folds the laundry for me so I can take my second long bath in a day. Sons #3 and #5 (the baby) are eventually going to kill me LOL.
The bigger gifts are nice, too, don't get me wrong! The book, the (nice) dinner out, the flowers ... but *for me* the thought behind the gift is what makes me feel most loved. The tangible gift is the gravy. I love gravy, but it's not the only important part!
Good luck to you both, what a very sweet thing for you to be doing!
Well I was pretty sure gifts weren't my love-language, but all of these things sound so wonderful that maybe I do like gifts after all :)
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If they want to collect data about private schools, especially homeschools -fine! Just don't couch it in "fire safety" terms. You'd think if that were the reason, they'd want mandatory inspections of all homes with kids, public or private schooled, because fires happen at night too (and imo are more dangerous at night).
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My tevas are pretty flat, fwiw. But I bought the most basic ones.
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May I ask what is the output you require? Are you relying on a teacher's manual? I've not seen the inside of the book so no idea of there are questions contained in the book.
Also, do you mind sharing why Intro Chem in 9th and then AP Chem in 11th? My plan was back to back Chemistry but I’m open to suggestions that I may not have thought of.
I'd always viewed Chem as harder than Bio (this was the general consensus when I was in HS) so I thought we'd leave it for later. I can see the value in doing it back to back, though. I didn't take Chem after 10th grade - the IB Program has you doing 2 years of the same science for 11th and 12th.
There are review questions, sample lab/demonstration things, questions for thinking ("what if this" or "how would this apply to this other idea" kind of thing), chapter tests, etc. She does all of those more or less on her own, although I discuss them with her if she has a problem and after I read her chapter test answers. It is pretty straightforward. I don't make her do the fancier things we did in school with this book - making a cell structure out of a cake, or putting on a play to demonstrate photosynthesis, or whatever. We don't have the teacher's manual, but I remember most of it from school; if I didn't (like with Chem, I remember not very much of that), I'd have to either have a teacher's manual or enroll her in a class online with someone who knows what they're doing.
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We are doing Prentice Hall's Dragonfly book for Bio in 7th in prep for AP Bio in 10th. It's a high school level book, but we're doing it fairly gently - over the course of 12 months or so. It's the book I used for honors (Pre-IB) bio in 9th in prep for HL IB Bio in 11th/12th, but it was easy then. DD is doing okay with it and it doesn't take a ton of time - she is definitely doing it as a more middle-school level course in terms of output.
Our tentative plan is 7th Bio, 8th Clover Creek Physics, 9th Intro. Chem, 10th AP Bio, 11th AP Chem, 12th AP Physics.
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vegan birks http://www.birkenstock.com/us/vegan/
Wow, neat! I wonder if I just missed those 7 years ago or if they're a newer development. I wish they had the kind I like in the vegan form - the birko-flor ones with a strap around the ankle. I used to love those shoes before I had to ditch them.
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Zenni has always worked for me. The measuring is super easy. I buy the cheapest frames possible because I have little kids and I'm irresponsible, so I tend to leave them down and/or lose them a lot. I go through maybe 3 pairs a year. but at $10 or so a pair it is no big deal.
When I was in high school, before Zenni, I still went through 3 pairs a year, but only one was covered by insurance and my parents were not paying for 2 more (nor could they) at minimum $100 apiece.
So I did all kinds of creative things, including buying random glasses from the thrift store that more or less matched my prescription (that is, when I put them on I could see better than with them off and they didn't make me dizzy).
FWIW, I am -2.5 in both eyes, no astigmatism.
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I wish they'd just submit a bill saying what they mean.
If what they want is the legal ability to come into every homeschooler's house to check out their living circumstances and make sure their kids are treated the way California thinks kids should be treated, or whatever, make that the bill. See if it will pass. Might pass! But I doubt it.
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I am pretty sure there are not vegan birkenstocks. I think I tried to buy them once, getting ones with manmade uppers, but found out that one layer of the sole is always leather, or something. I don't remember exactly.
They do make some kids ones that are all that rubbery stuff Crocs are made out of, I think. They may have those for adults now too.
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Hi Ladies! (and gents?)
I was wondering if you could help out this newbie vegan (vegan since August 2017) with two things.
The first is suggestions for non-sweet breakfasts. I've been eating oatmeal with berries or Kashi nugget cereal with berries and soy milk, and I'm getting pretty bored with those options! I tried making a tofu scramble as a substitute for eggs once and it was AWFUL. I don't know if I did something wrong or what, but it was super bitter. My only other idea is to keep some tortillas and chile beans and roasted potatoes on hand for a simple breakfast burrito.
Initially, this was only about food for me, but I am trying to go "cruelty free" with cosmetics and clothing as well. I'm having a hard time with both because my super sensitive lips can only tolerate one brand of lipstick, and it isn't a cruelty-free brand. :crying: But the more pressing issue at the moment is, do you know of any high-quality brands of shoes that aren't made of leather? I need both arch support and metatarsal support because I have pain in one foot that will interfere with my ability to walk and to exercise if I wear shoes that lack those features. My ability to exercise is pretty critical for my psychological health, so I will admit, I'm going to be very picky about this, and I may not be able to go cruelty-free in this area if I can't find something that supports my foot properly. So I thought I would see if the hive can point me in the right direction!
Thanks in advance for your help. :001_smile:
For breakfasts I eat whole wheat bread with peanut butter. I don't love it, but I eat it.
I did used to like tofu plus tomatoes plus greens plus potatoes, all sort of fried up together.
For makeup issues, I just don't wear makeup. I didn't really wear makeup beforehand, so it's not a big sacrifice, but fwiw as something non-negotiable, I wouldn't wear makeup now if the only brand I could tolerate did animal testing. IMO, animal testing is worse than killing a wild animal for food, morally speaking. It's torture, and not for nourishment or medical necessity or any of it.
For shoes I wear used sneakers (all man-made) and Teva sandals and occasionally canvas slip-ons, like Keds; I don't need a ton of arch support, though. I am still looking for the ideal shoe.
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"But I won't do that...." (budget related)
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Sandwiches were a luxury when we were poor :) Then again, I'm sure regular nutritionally balanced food is a luxury for poor people in third world countries, so it is all relative.