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Happy Birthday, Enjoy your day with your loved ones and many many more to celebrate in future.
:hurray: :hurray: :hurray:
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Dumb question, waht does this topic means?? I am not sure.
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So many great books to read, no enough time to read them.
I have added this book in my list and hopefully read soon :)
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Sorry for this silly question, but why would she need extra money???
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Actually I should have been more clearer. He is good with English...but the problem is with home lang1 which he is introduced from day1. He gets confused to use the right grammar and adds an ing for our lang word...Atleast now it is getting better to use complete word without ing...when he was around 3 to 4 yrs old...almost all words had an ing at the end.
I have started to read books in home lang and watch movies/listen songs in home lang (satrted recently) Hoping this would help him. And he is going to India for a short vacation during holidays and I hope his langage gets better as he can't talk in Eng with his relatives.
Thier school dos have ESL, I would talk to them.
Thansk for your reply Beishan and OhElizabeth.
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I had emailed my son's Dr and asked to refer for Speech-Language pathologist. But she tells they do have only for English and Spanish. Any idea whom to contact (outside my health insurance) for lang1 issues??
Thanks for all your help.
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Is it difficult for your son to look in someone's eyes or focus on what's going on in class because he's working hard to translate between two languages in his head? Some people can't look directly at a person or follow what's happening in a room while they are thinking hard.
If you think he's inattentive in class or unable to make eye contact for other reasons, you might watch those symptoms. My son has some trouble with both of those issues, and when he does, it almost always means that he needs some sensory stimulation (usually pushing/pulling, heavy lifting, etc.). A classroom is over-stimulating in the ways that exhaust him and under-stimulating in ways that help him settle and focus. Ultimately, he was diagnosed with Asperger's, but the inattentive problems and eye contact symptoms (for him) relate directly to his sensory processing problems. He also has trouble with eye contact if he doesn't know a person well.
As I mentioned, it is the problem with me too....I just can't see someone into their eyes, I have been observing myself from few years and I think I dont remember I did it even as a kid.
Whereas I see my DD most of the time looking into someone's eyes while talking.
I think I also need to take an evalution done...
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In a situation like this, what looks like a small deal and something you can kind of cover over and ignore because he's bright will become a bigger deal later, as the school work gets harder. The most common age/grade for evals is 4th grade, because that's when kids can no longer compensate. The work gets harder and they sink. So sure you can wait, but it's just a matter of time. The teachers are telling you they see the symptoms. I would definitely get the speech evals, because you clearly have some things there that could be addressed. There's no reason to wait on that. There's no reason to wait on the proper psychological eval either. There is no stigma and it's NOBODY'S BUSINESS. You can either go through the school or pay for it privately and get it done yourself. You might as well know what's going on now rather than waiting and having him get buried later.
And no, people's symptoms don't look alike. You can't read a thread where someone is talking about NVLD or autism or CAPD and say your kid has no issues because they don't look like that. And it's really splitting hairs to say that if he's functioning well now he has no LDs. The way they define LDs is pretty specific. I don't know if any of my dd's issues are considered LDs or not, but they ABSOLUTELY affect how she learns, how I teach her, etc. We waited WAY too long to get evals, and I would never minimize someone's concerns over a definition. If it's impacting his ability to function and learn and do what he's trying to do, he deserves evals and the correct words for what's going on. That's better than him concluding the labels himself and having them be things like: I'm stupid, I'm dumb, I can't learn, school is horrible.
This is one reason, I am scared as when I was a kid, I excelled instudies in my elementary and by the time I came to middel and high school. It was getting bad. I defintiely dont want my kids to suffer like me.
When my kids get thier reports from their teacher, I always pray let it be the same throughout thier student life as I know how each passing year changed me. As suggested maybe I will talk to a NP and start working on thsi better than late.
Thank you.
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SandyKC : Thank you, I am looking for SLP in our health insurance.
OneStepAtATime : Thank you, I have got the book "Mislabeled child" which you had suggested in other thread. But I hope I can read more which his not happening. Thanks for the details about Neuro-psyciatrist. -
We are non Catholic (Hindus) and our kids go to Chirstian school (not sure if Catholic and Chirstians are same, sorry about this) We just want them to be better and good humans in life which we think any religion tries to teach, maybe in different terms and logics. We do talk about our culture at home and they are learning about Bible stories from school.
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I just loved this topic...though my kids aren't teens (few more years to go) I will ask them and get back. Can't wait to go home and ask them.
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Hearty Congrats for your DS. I kno you are a proud mom.
May god bless him with good success all his life.
Congrats to you too :hurray:
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Thanks soror, I did start a new topic.
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I read the other thread" I got the go ahead from dh to pursue a neuro-psych eval for ds9"
I have my own doubts?? I am not sure if I need to go for any learning disabilities check done for my son(7 yrs old,would be 8 in 2/14).
After reading all the posts in this thread, I feel few of them similar to how he is....
OR maybe I am just worrying too. Since most of you have told to get a kid evaluated which is best to know the child's issues which we think it might be normal or some strong points too.
I had raised this once with my DH and he tells I worry a lot and someone told us that going to psychiatric would be a black spot in his life.
To start off, I am not sure who to contact first.To even go to that far, I am not sure if my son falls in that zone.
He is good boy(which all mom's feel for their kids)he is good at math. His reading is OK...He has improved in his AR reading level from 2.6 to 3.0 in 2.5 months of school. But refuses to read at home and most of the times skips/swallows any word which is difficult in pronunciation.
He can remember names well. He does get confused with the sounds of j and g(juice as mentioned) but eventually get it right after repeated asking him to sound. His writing is good but when he wants to write a story kind..initially his writing is very neat and by the time he reaches the end..its not very neat when compared to start, but still readable(lots of spelling mistakes though)
He is pretty active boy,plays most of the time and he goes to soccer. He likes playing soccer but is afraid if the ball comes and hits him in face or chest(he has seen few of this team mates hurt) This is one reason he is always in the group but never tries to kick the ball first. (we don't practice much, its only one practice session and one game session in a week from the team, which last for 3 months the rest 9 months no much soccer at all)
Most of the time, I see he doesn't look in the eyes when talking(for that matter even I have the same problem)I just cant look into someone's eyes and talk for a long time,maybe for few seconds. There are few people whom I totally avoid looking into their eyes, I am basically scared.
As I mentioned earlier, we don't talk English at home and we talk 2 languages (me and DH lang1, grandparents lang2) Its been 7 years that he is growing with lang1 all of the time(at least at home). He still doesn't get the words properly now. At times he mixes few words from lang2 also.
When he has to talk...he tries to use Eng a lot since he is going to school now. Earlier his lang1(when no exposure to ENg) was not great even at age 4. Most of our friends couldn't understand what he spoke even though they knew the lang1.
He cant sit in a place for long time. His teacher also told that he is carried off in his own world most the time during the class. It happens to him at home too.But can sit for hrs together if he likes to something like lego, knex etc..
Long drives are also very bad with him, he gets frustrated after 1.5 or 2hrs. his sister who is 5 yrs old doesn't mind.
I am just giving most details which I think should be know so that anyone can recommend exactly as what I need to do.So may need more practice like soccer.Does he have any learning disabilities which I might not be aware.
Or as my DH said I am worrying too much for him.
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I read this whole thread.
I have my own doubts?? I am not sure if I need to go for any learning disabilities check done for my son(7 yrs old,would be 8 in 2/14).
After reading all the posts in this thread, I feel few of them similar to how he is....
OR maybe I am just worrying too. Since most of you have told to get a kid evaluated which is best to know the child's issues which we think it might be normal or some strong points too.
I had raised this once with my DH and he tells I worry a lot and someone told us that going to psychiatric would be a black spot in his life.
To start off, I am not sure who to contact first.To even go to that far, I am not sure if my son falls in that zone.
He is good boy(which all mom's feel for their kids)he is good at math. His reading is OK...He has improved in his AR reading level from 2.6 to 3.0 in 2.5 months of school. But refuses to read at home and most of the times skips/swallows any word which is difficult in pronunciation.
He can remember names well. He does get confused with the sounds of j and g(juice as mentioned) but eventually get it right after repeated asking him to sound. His writing is good but when he wants to write a story kind..initially his writing is very neat and by the time he reaches the end..its not very neat when compared to start, but still readable(lots of spelling mistakes though)
He is pretty active boy,plays most of the time and he goes to soccer. He likes playing soccer but is afraid if the ball comes and hits him in face or chest(he has seen few of this team mates hurt) This is one reason he is always in the group but never tries to kick the ball first. (we don't practice much, its only one practice session and one game session in a week from the team, which last for 3 months the rest 9 months no much soccer at all)
Most of the time, I see he doesn't look in the eyes when talking(for that matter even I have the same problem)I just cant look into someone's eyes and talk for a long time,maybe for few seconds. There are few people whom I totally avoid looking into their eyes, I am basically scared.
As I mentioned earlier, we don't talk English at home and we talk 2 languages (me and DH lang1, grandparents lang2) Its been 7 years that he is growing with lang1 all of the time(at least at home). He still doesn't get the words properly now. At times he mixes few words from lang2 also.
When he has to talk...he tries to use Eng a lot since he is going to school now. Earlier his lang1(when no exposure to ENg) was not great even at age 4. Most of our friends couldn't understand what he spoke even though they knew the lang1.
He cant sit in a place for long time. His teacher also told that he is carried off in his own world most the time during the class. It happens to him at home too.But can sit for hrs together if he likes to something like lego, knex etc..
Long drives are also very bad with him, he gets frustrated after 1.5 or 2hrs. his sister who is 5 yrs old doesn't mind.
I am just giving most details which I think should be know so that anyone can recommend exactly as what I need to do.So may need more practice like soccer.Does he have any learning disabilities which I might not be aware.
Or as my DH said I am worrying too much for him.
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I love to read but I find it hard to get time with work and kids. I try to scroll few pages...
Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful ParentingIts a great book.
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Very sorry for the loss.
I pray to god to give your family to give loads of strength to overcome this huge loss. :grouphug:
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Sorry for a silly question...
when you mention your kids re read-read aloud books, my I know if you have those books at home all time(like books bought, gifted)???
what do you do if you borrow the books like me from library?? Just curious..
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Please don't lose your hope. He is a great kid, but just undergoing too many changes for his age. I am really not very experience as others here who have given lots of ideas as how to overcome your issue.
But you are doing a great job bringing up your kids on our own. They will be proud of you.
Its just that a bad time, which will pass over. My hugs to you and your little family. -
MistyMountain : thank you fro your words.
Pen: Sure each kid is different. I will try to find the CD in our libraries. Thank you.
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Thank you Pen, I shall get that book.
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Pen:
Yes, the other thread was also by me. As I mentioned that post too my kids don't have too many activities.
My elder one is 7 and goes sleep by sometime b/w 9-9.30 and gets up by 7.30..
My younger one is 5 and she doesnt sleep at 9 or 9.30(since she had a nap at school) My DH is not an early sleeper like me and he would be working. So the problem is she know her dad is awake and pretends to sleep with me but again up and gone to her dad.
Her dad puts her to sleep at 10 or 10.30(depending on his work) and we wake her at 7.30...but she would get up by 7.50...
SKL, regentrude : thank you, I am sure its in their genes....
SparklyUnicorn: I have got these remarks form my childhood from many people(I never bothered about them), but this was someone from the family..who knows me, my DH and my kids and the way my kids are always running around.. -
Rose: I don't know how to praise you. I am reading all your posts today and was surprise how well you have taken care off.
I mean, you have under going this big change from so many days.
I really hope the very very best turns to you and your loving son. I am sure he would be back to his mama soon.
A big teddy hug to you :grouphug: ..I will definitely pray for you and your family
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Thank you so much...you made me feel better.
2_girls_mommy : Dr was not the person, I had talk to Dr about their under weight long time ago and she told me the are healthy...As long as they don't show tiredness early (like soon after school etc)..and play well. It means they are fine.
Mandylubug: I generally ignore this comment if it was some outsider(since I get them very very often from outside people, not only for my kids but for my self too) Since this came from a family person, who know the history and everything...it was hard to digest.
SKL : Thank you, I think I better rub that guilt from me and enjoy :)
Once again thank you all for your support.
Prayers please for my mom.....Update 226
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:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: and prayers to you and your family