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There are these bandages called hydrocolloid bandages that are made specifically for wounds like that. They really work. http://www.amazon.com/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=hydrocolloid+wound+dressing&tag=googhydr-20&index=hpc&hvadid=7280875088&hvpos=1t1&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=17630911295716158102&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=b&hvdev=c&ref=pd_sl_2jcplz8ok5_b I would call the doctor or take her to urgent care if it gets any worse. Sores like that can get ugly very quickly.
I will look into that and probably get her into the urgent care at her Dr's office tomorrow. She will hate me but might try today also. She will be exhausted.
The wound center is in this complex where we are right now so I might even try doing a walk in but guessing I will be out of luck.
Of course her dr is not in on Friday's or the weekends. We have had hit and miss with urgent care Dr's.
That's my concern the more research I do. Its all new to me and I am trying to stay ahead of the game but this one surprised us. Never had an issues with sores in the past year I have been with her, and nothing has really changed in routine.
Was talking to the receptionist here who's dad has/had issues and she recommended having her lay down for 20 mins every hour. That will be a challange but I will enforce it. It at least will get pressure off it until I get her in.
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Toe wound we are on top of... That's why I said I wasn't as concerned. That thankfully has been drilled into me ever since I have known her. Her foot doctor was impressed how quickly I go her in. Infection there is under control from what I can tell but it's not healing. That's the reason for the vascular appt today. And from the little I am picking up (they are doing it now) blood flow is not good.The toe wound is most alarming to me- especially is she is a diabetic. That's how diabetics lose toes.
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If you have a wound care center available, that's ideal. The one we have locally gets raves because that's all they do, and the doctor who started it has done such a great job of getting the right people and resources.
Oh that's a good idea. I will look into that. It's more education that I need so I know what I can treat at home and when she needs more care. I feel it should be cleaned out more, but he said just neosporin. And to keep readjusting her.
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85 year old MIL lives with us. Up until now, while it has not been easy, I have felt confident in the care we are giving her. Now she has an ulcer on her toe, which I feel comfortable treating for now,, however, she has something going on in her tailbone area that I am not so confident about.
I will probably take her back into the doctor if I don't see any improvement by Sat. We were there last week and he said to just put neosporin on it and keep changing her position. I am not sure he was classifying it as a pressure wound then but said he was not worried about it yet. At that time, it was just a cut looking thing and peeling skin. Now, inbetween the cheeks (right at the top) it's starting to look more raw and moist. It's not related to tolieting, that I know. I am treating with neosporin twice a day and making sure it dries after showers.
Any suggestions from those who have been there? We bought a pillow with the coxis cut out but she is so petite it doesn't work. She can't sit back far enough. I might try to cut the first 3-4 inches off the front and see if that helps. Other than that we have her on a gel cushion (recommended by the medical supply place and moving a pillow every coulple hours under each leg. She does not move a lot especially from noon til she goes to bed around 11pm. She is In her chair watching tv unless she has to use the bathroom.
We meet with a vascular doctor today to see how her blood flow is for healing the foot ulcer so I might see if anyone there can take a look at either put me at ease or tell me to get her in. The seditaryness with limiting walking combined with the diabetes in what concerns me with wounds with her.
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No advice on what to visit but since you are there every couple years I will tell you something neat that just kind of happened for me.
My aunt lives near DC and we were out for my cousin's wedding when my daughter was 2. Took a pic in front of a column at the Lincoln Memorial. We happen to be there again 39 months later and figured it would be neat to see the difference so we took another one. 39 months later, again.
We are due again this Novemember for a photo. We won't make it there but my aunt is coming here in August. I have talked my aunt into take a photo of herself at the same column. When they are here I will get a pic of the two of them and then put my daughter into the column pic. So neat to see the changes and growth over just a few years!
Edited to correct time span... Was off by a year..
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Can you perform any necessary repairs or helpful upgrades (a handicapped ramp or installation of bathroom/hallway grab bars, for example) on her home to spend down that money?
She is with us, and we have pretty much done it all already. We thought about a lift chair but are concerned she won't be able to use the control. She is using one of our tvs, so maybe have her buy one of her own so my husband can take it back into the shop. I need to get a copy of her bank records because she may not have paid us back for her furniture we bought when we moved her out.
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When in a similar situation with my mother in law and trying to spend down the rest of her minimal assets to qualify for Medicaid we did take her on a vacation. It meant a lot to her to take a trip with her grandchildren, and in her condition, it was her one and only chance. She is not well enough to travel now and most likely never will be again, so I'm glad we did it. As for Medicaid, once we had spent down her final few thousand dollars on a modest vacation, paying her storage unit fees for 6 months in advance, buying a new recliner to replace her old one, etc. we simply applied for benefits and that was it. We had receipts handy in case anyone ever asked where that few thousand dollars went, but they never even asked to see them. In the grand scheme of things, spending $3k over a couple of months really isn't even on their radar, I don't think. $30k over a few months would be a different story...
Thank you, you were helpful months ago and this helps too. We have spent down some the past year but I didn't want to do it too fast in case she did not go one medicaid. Now we know it is more beneficial than not. I just want to make sure we don't have to come up with it the money, if it not done correctly.
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Ok thanks for ideas. Might consult and see what elder law attorney has to say too. She pays rent/board each month. We took a guess at a fair value and we were about $180 under what she will be allowed to keep toward that each month. Curious if we can reclaim the difference now for past 10 months? I would rather be able to place money legally in a way we can help her/treat her than have it go to care that she would receive if she didn't have it.
There will most likely be no service. Cost for burial will be a couple hundred. That might be prepayable. That is just to open up a space in family lot. I checked before we moved her.
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I know I had asked a few questions 7-8 months back but have a few more.
We are finally in the process of applying for my MIL who lives with us. She qualifies for a set number of hours of care at home each month, but needs to be on Medicaid so they are paid for.
Currently she has $3500 over what they allow.
What are our options for spend down so that they don't raise a fit and ask for payment back? I can't talk to anyone til I apply, which I am in the process of doing.
I know it will be some combo of the below, just not sure if all are 'ok' and not frowned upon... 1 and 2 should be no problem and will take up $1500-2000
1. I know we can prepay cremation costs $600-800
2. Part of it will go to back rent/utilities that we paid prior for her to having her money moved to a local account/income routed to local bank.
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3. Since she qualifies for care at home, can she repay us for the time this year already? (Washington state does allow family to provide care).
4. Can she use that money for one last awesome road trip this summer? She is at the end of being able to travel, and spent about 5 years unable to do so before she came to live with us. She loves to get out and see new things.
5. Nothing. We need to use to supplement services and once it is gone then medicaid kicks in.
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Not in California, however I grew up there and still have family there who maybe dealing with this same issue in near future. My sister just put a sprinkler system and sod in her backyard a couple years ago so I know she won't be happy.
Anyways, no real solution, and I hope that things ease up.
I did see something that some people are resorting to spray painting their lawns green? Can't remember where I read it, or if it is true, but it would not surprise if it it was. At least where I grew up it was all about nice looking manicured lawns. What concerns me is (much less than the drought itself, but still in the back of my head), if and when, the rains come, that will be more chemicals back into the ground water.
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This is scary, but it did just open up a conversation between my 11 year old and myself. I asked her at what age, should she be able to go to the doctor and not have me be able to get information about the visit and what is wrong. She replied "16 or 18, no later than 18". And then I told her why I was asking and she was shocked.
Then I looked up Washington's laws. Have not come across age for typical doctor's visits, however for birth control and/or abortion, there is no age at which they need consent from a parent or guardian. For STDs consent is still needed for under 14.
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Haven't had it in a while cause I can't find a cottage cheese I like here, but I love cottage cheese with Cool Ranch Doritos.
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My problem is I can't maneuver her wheelchair in a regular space and I can't lift her out of the car without more room. This leaves me parking at the end of a row to be able to get out of the car.
THIS is why you need it. Doesn't matter if you can push her farther, you need it for the space to get her in and out. Frustrating!
I get it. MIL has a permanent tag. When she first moved in with us, I didn't use it much, figuring I would leave the handicap spaces to those who couldn't walk far. After all, she didn't have to worry about how far she had to walk, she was in a wheelchair. Very quickly, I learned the benefits of using the van accessible spaces so I had room to bring the chair up and room for me to help her in and out.
Fight for it. This is why they have temporary tags.
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We did it years ago, but I think the cases are still boxed somewhere. Time to get rid of those. The only DVDs I have issues with are the ones without a picture/title on the DVD. Have to look closely to see the type around the small circle.
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I waited just under 24 hours for a callback from my MILs Dr. Was asking what medications I could give her for a bad cough/drainage, or if I should bring her in. I was surprised not to get a call back that day. Turns out, they had called and left a message but they had dialed the local area code instead of the one I have on my cell.
At this point I would try one more time and if you don't hear back in 24 hours, go to the office in person if that is possible.
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We talked to a local Elks (or similar group) that was near the cemetery where we had my mom's service. The guy who helped us was even willing to pick up premade sandwiches and small snacky stuff. I enjoyed it because it gave everyone a chance to relax and share stories.
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Check out your local laws. Where I live, if you don't assert that your road is private, and it falls into general use, it can be deemed public and taken by the local civic authorities, but they are not necessarily obligated to maintain it. It's a horrible catch 22, and maybe this kid has done you a favor in getting you tuned into this question before it is too late.
The road sign at the corner does state it as a private road.
We have taught our daughter that private road means do not go on it unless you have business to be there. It is tricky because their property does border our road. They use it to come to our property (more so the daughter to visit my daughter, the boy to get/annoy his sister and daughter). Same as my daughter has used their road to visit a friend (before she had permission to cut across the property as they were the other property that touches our road but does not have a drive on it.)
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You MUST first have a conversation with the parents. Give them a chance. Posting signs, calling authorities, and videotaping the child are escalations that are unnecessary if the parents take care of the problem. If nobody has complained to them, they think nobody minds.
Too may to quote and reply to but wanted to make sure I addressed this... Parents first... That should take care of it. I just wanted to make sure I am 'in the right' before I say something.
Although, this thread was on my mind when I was talking to another neighbor (to the east, whether the others are to the west) who is not on my road.... She has blocked off a path through her property with no trespassing sign and has talked to the family who was trespassing (they had permission from previous owner). They are still doing it, even with her talking to the family numerous times. This is when it is time for further action.
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Is your road also an easement on his parents' property?
Good question. I would have to look to be sure. I am 99.9% sure it is not. If it follows same layout, which I know it doesn't always, then no... I vaguely remember them having their property lines marked two years ago and from what I remember, it does not cross the road. It lines up with where ours does onthe easement (they are across the road, and down a property from us).
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Thank you for the replies. I am glad to see so many who understand and who have been there.
Some wear and tear to the road, we can tell when he has been riding. But nothing that does not get fixed when we drag the road. I think it comes down to our road being that much nicer than his, but that is because we maintain ours. The road is only 1/10 mile or so and he is not using all of it, so he is back and forth.
I need to research what private road in this county really entails, especially since when it hits our property, it is an easement on our land until the last neighbors driveway, then it is an easement on their land until our driveway.
I did grow up in the city, but I get a country boy and his toys. If his drive was on this road, there would not be much I could say, but it bugs me when he chooses to use our road, which is same in length as the one he lives on. I get that even if he stayed on his property/his road, that there would still be noise, but the noise would not be going back and forth on 1-2 sides of my property. It does make a difference when he stays on the front 1/2 of the road up to his property. It is easier to drown out when you don't see them going back and forth (them being when sibling/cousin -up to 3 bikes).
It is time to talk to the parents. This all really started last summer. He was using one of our driveways (tearing it up) as a turnaround, and was asked to stop. He was speeding along both sides of our property and then along the edge of another neighbors (officially trespassing) and my husband asked him to slow down. When that didn't happen, he was asked not to ride on our road. I told my husband then, that the next conversation had to be with the parents. As soon as he saw my husband today, he stopped.
Can't really put in speed bumps or a gate.
He is in school so right now, it's not an issue. I just thought of this due to to the nice weather and that he was also out enjoying it. Come summer, he is home most of the time and last summer rode daily it seemed.
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It's a beautiful day in Washington and we are outside getting a lot of work done, enjoying the peace and quiet. I knew it was only a matter of time, before the neighbor boy (12 years old) was out on his dirt bike. I can't stand the noise or the damage it does to the road. 10 mins later, there he was...
Here is the situation. We live at the end of a private road. Six properties touch the road, four of them have drives on the road. This particular family's drive is on the next private road over, however their property is not fenced and he rides on their property and up and down our road.
I feel like a jerk, but I don't want him on our road. We maintain it. The other neighbor whose drive is down at the end near us, has offered to help with the cost of gravel. The other two drives are at the top of the road. However, it is more the noise to me. I like it quiet when I am outside. If he was on a bicycle, I would not mind he riding back and forth.
I am not even sure what I am looking for here... Validation that I am right? I feel he should be tearing up and down his road (but I have a feeling it is not as maintained). Someone to tell me to just get over it and deal with the noise? My husband is even more fed up and I told him he had to talk to the parents this time, cause the last couple conversations have been with the boy.
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Thank you for the replies. The neighbor watched MIL last weekend for about 40 hrs, and it appeared to go well. Meds were given, she was taken care of, and most of all she had fun, and the neighbor also appeared to have enjoyed spending time with her.
Have started the processed to get her applied for Medicaid. I can't get anyone to answer my questions so we will see what they say once her application is in. It seems confusing to get specifics, but she should qualify and will help with getting some care.
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I do want to let you know that Medicare only pays for intermittent nursing visits. Each visit will have a specific purpose (evaluate, determine med compliance, etc.) that the doctor will determine. A visit lasts about 30 minutes at the most, once you get past the admission visit, which is longer. It's possible she would qualify for a home health aide at some point, but those are also short visits with the purpose of helping her get dressing, helping her bathe - things like that. Medicare will not pay for anyone to stay with her when you can no longer leaver her alone, you will need to arrange for family or friends to come in, or you will need to pay a private duty home health aid out of pocket.
ETA: I feel like I'm just being the bearer of bad news in this thread - I hope I'm not coming off that way! In addition to having elderly parents now, in my former professional life I worked in health care administration and have experience in home health. I can't imagine what it would be like to have to navigate everything without having prior knowledge of the coverage, range of services, etc.. Sometimes it's just a matter of knowing what questions to ask and who to ask. I hope I'm providing some helpful information to you, though.
Very helpful...I am all ears... I had a lot of info regarding services in Montana, however she is no longer there. I do need to contact medicaid and see what services they offer. As I said, I need to figure out now what resources we have and what we can utilize when the time comes. I worry about the time when we need someone full time when I am not here.
I do know about the limits of home health care. Originally, we wanted them to come and evaluate her in our new home and see if she qualified for any occupational therapy, but now we are four months in new place and have pretty much figured out how to adapt things to make them simpler for her.
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Is there a friendly neighbor who could drop by to give meds if an aide is not allowed? Or is you have meds ready to go in one of those little segmented doohickeys, could you phone MIL and remind her to take them morning and night?
That's a good idea about the neighbor. It might work. I am not sure about calling her and reminding her, due to the fact it's been so long since she has done it. Depending on what I find for services for weekends, we would have to start having her take them again with reminders from us for a while prior to a weekend caregiver (assuming someone can't distribute them).
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Pressure wounds/wound care/diabetics -small update
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No egg carton but will look into that. When I picked up the chair pad(s) last week, the motor thing was mentioned or something similar so will look into that. She is a side sleeper (same side) which I assume takes pressure off of the tailbone, but again that's something I don't want to assume and I also know that can cause issues later with being the same side.