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I wear an N95 in the ICU and may at some point switch back to a surgical mask (except when treating Covid patients), but I still don't feel comfortable doing that. My DH wears a KN95/94 when indoors (he prefers earloops, which N95s do not have). My kids wear the same to school and when doing indoor extracurriculars, like Parkour or Civil Air Patrol. We go out to restaurants, but only eat outdoors. We do indoor things, like a play, but will wear a mask. I recently started getting facials and massages (without a mask), but the spa has air filters running in every room and the therapists are fully vaccinated/masked. We do see vaccinated friends indoors without masks, and have even allowed one unvaccinated friend and her son inside because making a drama would have been unhealthy for my younger son, who has already suffered quite a bit emotionally from the pandemic. But, we still have a lot of people dying of Covid in San Diego, and we've gone this long (knock wood) without any of us getting it, and this level of risk/reward has been tolerable for us, so none of us sees the point in letting our guard down completely now. The kids are totally on board.
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This whole thread has a weird vibe to me. I honestly thought it was going to be a bunch of religious fundamentalists yapping about how homosexuality is rare, a personal choice, yadda yadda. Instead, it's a thread about how gay/bi one has to be "qualify" as LGBTQ with a mix of hetero tears re how being LGBTQ is now being used as affirmative action. Strange. I guess, I live in such a laid back environment that most people don't care that much about one's LGBTQ credentials. You do you.
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45 minutes ago, Melissa Louise said:
If you've lived your whole life in a heterosexual relationship, and plan to continue to do so, but have a same sex orientation, sure, you have a same sex orientation. And probably a good dose of internalized homophobia.
Should you run around proclaiming you are gay, part of the gay community, and oppressed on that basis without expecting the side eye from people living outside of heterosexual norms their entire lives? Probably not.
How does this make space for bi people?
What if you've just lived your life loving the people that you've loved, having sex with the people you were attracted to, checked the box for the sexual identity that most honestly matches your desires and life experience, and tried to help others that love people of the same sex to break into big law firm life?
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1 hour ago, Melissa Louise said:
Eh, I have had romantic/sexual attractions to women. Have only ever partnered with men.
Absolutely I'd consider myself as culturally appropriating the label 'bisexual' were I to use it.
Bisexual people, who must deal with homophobia + denigration of and stereotypes about their bisexuality, because they actually live or have lived in the past a non-heteronormative life, would have every right to be pissed about it.
If I wanted to include myself under the qu**r umbrella, I could, of course, as an agender demi femme with a biflexible identity. But that would make me a colonising d*ck, with no understanding of the history and experience of actual same sex oriented people, so I don't.
Wait, what? I'm culturally appropriating by checking the bisexual box when I accurately identify my sexuality on a form? And I was a colonizing dick by being on the LGBTQ committee at my firm, which sought to make a stodgy white shoe law firm a more diverse and inclusive place by recruiting more LGBTQ attorneys?
How many relationships with women do I need to have before I'm no longer culturally appropriating? Are sexual encounters sufficient to make someone bi? Do they need to be fully out before they can claim the label? This seems like an awful lot of policing people's sexual orientation, IMO.-
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7 minutes ago, Laura Corin said:
And there are people who 'pass' as straight. I don't tell people I'm bi because no one asks. I've been married to a man for thirty years. But that doesn't mean that the relationships I had with women don't exist.
Same. I've been married for almost 15 years, but if my husband passed, I doubt I would have another relationship with a man. I was involved with my firm's LGBTQ outreach committee, but mostly I don't really talk about being bi unless I get a question on some demographic form.
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9 hours ago, MEmama said:
One important thing to keep in mind if attempting to analyze numbers alone is the enormous loss in the LGBTQ community during the AIDS crisis. The number of lives lost was staggering and greatly skews the data we have available on an entire generation.
Thank you for mentioning this. I always think of this devastating image when I think of that time.
https://www.classicfm.com/discover-music/san-francisco-gay-mens-chorus-aids-epidemic/
For those too young to really remember that time, I highly recommend the film, "And the Band Played On." I recently watched the series, "It's A Sin," which was also heartbreaking. There is also "Angels in America," "How To Survive A Plague," and of course, "Philadelphia."
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On 1/30/2022 at 11:05 AM, SeaConquest said:
Sacha (8th grade):
Math: SOHS AP Calculus BC
Science: He took Derek Owens Honors Physics this year. He is thinking about taking either Honors or AP Chem at SOHS or Gen Chem at the CC.
Language Arts: The bane of his existence. He struggled with his writing class at Integritas this year and with Davidson the year before. He is really over doing literary analysis, so he switched to doing debate and book clubs for now. The writing intensive curriculum at SOHS is the main thing holding him back from wanting to go there FT, so he is still deciding what to do for next year re writing. I think he will likely take Freshman Composition at the CC just so he can knock it out in a semester and be done with it for the rest of the year.
Social Studies: He is leaning towards either AP or DE Micro or Macro.
Programming: He took C++ at SOHS this year and AP CS at CTY the year before, so hopefully he is ready for the Data Structures class at SOHS.
Extracurriculars: He is loving Civil Air Patrol and is learning to fly gliders. He's also been doing MOEMS, some coding competitions, and the AMCs. He did a genetics camp over winter break that he really enjoyed. The institute has other science camps, so I imagine that he will continue those. The boys take Parkour classes on weekends for PE. Guitar has kinda dropped off, but I know that he enjoys playing, so hopefully that will pick back up.
We heard back from SOHS re financial aid for next year and because Sacha is now a returning student, they were very generous with our aid package. Since I returned to work, I am not sure how much that will change in the coming years, but at least for this year, he can go full-time without it putting us into BK. In addition, Sacha's charter school has basically said that they are unlikely to be able to accommodate him going forward (because he's gotten too advanced), so he is going to give SOHS a shot full-time next year to see how he does before making a commitment re high school.
We met with his counselor this morning about his course selection, and he has to petition for approval since 3 of his classes are high school level. He is petitioning to take:
Single Variable Calculus (in lieu of their BC class, since he doesn't care about taking the AP test)
Honors Chemistry
Data Structures
Human Nature and SocietyA full course load at SOHS is typically 4-5 classes, but we think that 4 classes will be plenty challenging for him, given the rigor and his 2e issues. Hopefully, he will still have time for Parkour, Guitar, Civil Air Patrol, and just being a teenager. If he succeeds next year, then I think that we will all have confidence that he's found the right fit for high school. And if going FT proves to be too challenging, then we will know to find another solution for HS. Hopefully, they will approve his petitions or give us some other good options for him. I am honestly happy to have the hand-holding, at this point.
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Even Quark and Lewelma's math prodigies thought that Intermediate NT was super hard, so that put the fear of G-d in me about that class! And if SDMof3's boy says the same (I know her son too) -- I definitely wouldn't take it before Calculus! 🙂
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Does anyone have a rigorous book or videos that they recommend to go along with AoPS pre-calculus that has more explicit instruction? I think my DS could benefit from some supplemental materials and practice. Thanks in advance for any recommendations.
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Wendy,
Having not worked through the AoPS courses (beyond Beast) with Sacha, I really appreciate you taking the time to explain all of this. I like to think of myself as fairly good at math, but I know that there is no way that I would be able to learn math in the way that you explained it here. I would love to work on AoPS problems, because I enjoy challenging problems, but to *learn* the math from the outset this way, without the benefit of a live teacher to walk me through it? Yeah, no. I can really see now why even some very mathy kids would struggle with this method and why Sacha is now asking me for more explicit (and live) instruction. I can also see why this method may also be a very poor fit for my younger DS, who while very good at math, struggles with frustration tolerance, anxiety, perfectionism, and confidence issues that older DS doesn't. So again, thank you. This is very very helpful.
Not to completely change the subject, but does anyone have a rigorous book or videos they recommend to go along with AoPS pre-calculus that has more explicit instruction? I think Sacha could benefit from some supplemental materials and practice. I might cross-post this on the high school board as well. Thanks in advance.
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12 hours ago, calbear said:
There were electives my son really enjoyed like his coding and chess classes which he and I opted to delay when looking at his overall schedule. He and I also have tapered down his Chinese lessons to once a week when he has active Latin classes. He did decide to withdraw from a local fall golf program because it would have taken up too much time on the weekends. Coding and chess both could have been restarted at any time because they have rolling enrollment. Coding he delayed until February to give himself all of January to reacclimate to spring term for all his classes and chess he restarted but at a much lower level of commitments dropping from 4-5 hours a week to 2. Now that he has found his footing and Science Olympiad is likely ending for the year (unlikely our team will qualify for state), he is increasing chess back up to 5+ hours weekly due to being recruited to a competitive scholastic chess team. He also requested that our family not take an annual fall vacation in October because it would have been too difficult to keep up. These were all choices that he was coming to on his own which is exactly what I wanted was for him to take ownership in thinking through choices and understanding trade offs have to be made.
That all sounds incredibly mature, L. As I recall, our boys are only around 6 months or so apart in age, and I can tell you that I am not seeing anywhere near that level of maturity with my DS. I read your paragraph to my DH and asked him if he thought our DS was showing that kind of maturity and he also said, "not at all." So, I think that is pretty awesome.
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My oldest has done:
Math Mammoth (too many problems)
Singapore Intensive Practice and Challenging Word Problems (better than MM for him)
Beast Academy (starting at book 3 when they came out -- he did books 3 and 4 with me, then went to AoPS Academy for BA 5)
AoPS Pre-A at the Academy
AoPS Algebra I with part of Intro CP at the Academy
AoPS Intro NT (online)
AoPS Geometry (online)
AoPS Intermediate Algebra (online)
AoPS Pre-Calculus (online) -- current course
Going forward, his path is likely to be something like this:
8th SOHS Single Variable Calculus
9th SOHS Multi Variable Calculus
10th SOHS Linear Algebra & Differential Equations
11th SOHS Modern Algebra & Real Analysis
12th SOHS Discrete Math & Complex Analysis
My youngest did Singapore and then went into Beast with their 2nd grade books.-
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Wordle has gotten too easy, so I just started playing Quordle. This was my first attempt and I solved it, but barely.
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I am so so sorry for your loss. May your father's memory be for a blessing. Sending love and prayers that you are supported during this dark time.
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Tdap (aka Boostrix) is every 10 years in the US, or if you are going to be around an infant. We have quite a bit of pertussis in the US because of anti-vaxxers. Also, the acellular version of the vaccine has less side effects, but also wanes faster, so people really do need to be boosted. Most of the time, when infants die of pertussis, it is because they are too young to be vaccinated and they get it from caregivers who haven't been boosted. So, our strategy is to cocoon the baby around boosted folks as much as possible. You will have a sore arm, as is typical, but tends not to generate a lot of side effects for most folks.
Shingrix I highly recommend because shingles is awful and very very common. It causes nerve pain that can get in your eyes, your groin, it just sucks. And people get it younger and younger. You can get Shingrix after age 50. Two doses, spaced 2-6 months apart. That's all you need. It can be pretty reactogenic for a lot of people (especially the second shot), so get it over a weekend or when you have some time off. I highly recommend it, but just mentally prepare for some down time in case you need it. Doesn't happen to everyone, of course, but I always like to warn people before I give it.-
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1 hour ago, Sneezyone said:
It’s not a bubble. There’s a shortage of housing, building materials and labor. Housing prices aren’t expected to stabilize until the interest rates go up again but they aren’t expected to come back down anytime soon. Investors are buying up homes to rent them.
The best us poor folk can do is own real estate ETFs. Since we can't afford to, you know, own actual real estate anymore. At least we can make some money back on them fleecing us.
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2 hours ago, fairfarmhand said:
Same. We're getting lots of transplants from CA here in TN. They can easily outbid the locals because they sell their homes out West and pocket thousands while still buying a nicer, bigger home here in Middle TN. I wonder how my kids will buy homes here.
They won't. They will experience what we have been experiencing in the larger cities for quite some time: increasing homelessness, wealth disparity and greater concentration in fewer [older gen] hands, and increases in deaths of despair.
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10 hours ago, Roadrunner said:
I raised my kids in under 1k sf. It’s is now worth about a million. Every inch of the house is crumbling and yet I could walk out today with a million in cash. It’s not normal. We worry about our children not being able to afford anything in CA and partly the reason why I am looking at Midwest/east for schools for DS. There is only so much premium on good weather.
I dunno. I look around with the climate changing and I think these issues are going to be playing a greater and greater role going forward. There are issues related to erosion, sea level rise, and hurricanes (in some places) if you are on the water. There are issues related to drought and increasing fire danger. There are shifting weather patterns affecting increasing temperatures and the severity/path of winter storms, etc. It seems prudent IMHO to buy with climate change in mind, but it's very local with lots of little micro climates. You cannot just say it's wise to buy in X city or avoid Y state because there are so many regional micro climates.
But, most of the time, I am quite happy to pay the sunshine tax to avoid dealing with the daily weather hassles that most everyone else thinks of as normal (aka seasons). I never knew how spoiled I was, having grown up in So Cal, until I stepped outside of my little bubble, and realized that most of the rest of the world doesn't get 10 inches of rain/year and 72F avg daily temps with +/- 10 degrees. https://www.sandiego.org/plan/weather.aspx -
We've been trying to buy since 2016, and have just given up for the time being. No one wanted to take my VA home loan entitlement because they all wanted 15 day mortgages and all cash buyers, paying 100k over list. It was just too depressing, so I took my emotional cards off the table. I got burned in the last recession by buying at the top of the market. Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, yeah, no. So, now we are renting for $4400/month. It's a ludicrous amount of money, but at least I can sleep at night. <Bangs head on table>
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None of us have, but I am pretty sure the jig will be up soon, as I am now working in a Covid ICU. I've had 4 shots, wear an N95 (or a PAPR) + goggles/PPE + the air is HEPA filtered in Covid positive patient rooms, but I think that I'm the only nurse in our ICU that hasn't had it yet. With all the data coming out about neuro and t-cell damage from repeat infections (even mild infections), I wish I could just mainline vaccine.
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Emily, did your DS take the AP Calc BC exam?
My DS has always taken AoPS math, but he is leaning towards taking SOHS for AP Calc BC (if they will let him in) because he feels like he prefers a live video-based class at this point. But, as with Blue Tent, he's concerned about the workload, since he's so used to the AoPS style of doing a few really hard problems each week. He's only 13 and does all of his math online with Latex. I have no idea how.-
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10 hours ago, fourisenough said:
DD got ‘postponed’ by U of Michigan. She took it on the chin, but I’m frustrated and mind-boggled, honestly. She has >75th percentile stats plus great course rigor, ECs, LORs, and essays and she’s in-state. She applied to the nursing school (avg ACT in 2020 was a 30; hers is a 34).
I *think* she will eventually get in (they have a reputation for postponing—their name for deferring—a LOT of kids in the EA round), but I also thought she would get in on the first shot, so clearly I’m not a good judge of these things. Rationally I know that they received 80,000 applications last year (up from 50,000 per year pre-pandemic), so not all of them can be admitted. But dang it! My kid should have been! $&@%#^ Okay, thank you for tolerating my rant. I’ll go mop some floors and get over my rage now.
She has lots of other good options, but this one just really blew my mind.
Oh mama, sending you both big hugs. Nursing school is so dang competitive!! It is ridiculous. It was easier for me to get into law school than nursing school by far!! Keep your chin up. Wishing her more good news soon.
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3 hours ago, katilac said:
Work progress should be checked in depth every single week. It is simply too overwhelming in high school to get more than a week behind. This means eyes on work, not a verbal assurance that progress is being made. Make sure it is matching the planned schedule. If it doesn't, you both need to sit down and work through it again. This might be brief - she is a couple of days behind, but she has a couple of catch-up days built in. If she is more days behind than she has catch-up days, it will be a bit more involved. But put in the time to rework the schedule, "oh, I'll catch up" is not a plan.
Also, you should be seeing almost all of her work that she does every week, because you should be grading it. Actually grading it for things like math, and giving feedback for other things if that's more your style.
I've seen so many parents accept verbal assurances that all is fine and they are caught up on work. That's the easiest thing for the teen to say, especially if they have given in to temptation to play around instead of work that week, especially if they feel like the answer should be or is expected to be that everything is fine. That doesn't mean a parent has made them feel like they have to do it on their own, it often just means that teens are easily embarrassed and overly optimistic about their ability to catch up.
Good kids do this. Responsible kids do this. Kids who love academics do this. And it cannot be said too much: it is really hard and frustrating and often depressing for a teen to have to catch up weeks of high school work.
Omg yes. BTDT.
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Waitlist/Appeal essays, who reads them?
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I am still in shock that he is in this position. College admissions in the US is so so broken. I am sorry, Arcadia. I am so angry. This just sucks.