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There are many issues in which *many* (not all) doctors don't actually research things. They rely on texts and pharm reps to give them the "lowdown". I have known doctors that have "off record" (after giving the whole spiel) told their patients that they don't recommend certain vaccines and don't vaccinate their own children/grandchildren with them. I've known nurses that have refused various vaccines after personal research. These are not uneducated individuals. The issue is not cut and dry in either direction. Their is much dispute. However, the side with the money, the government's ear, and the best fear mongering is what is most heard.
The issue is cut and dry for the medical community. They support vaccination. The vast vast majority advocate that both patients and their own families get vaccinated.
Claiming that they only support vaccination on the record but behind closed doors they admit to different beliefs just doesn't make sense. Why would they do that?
What do you know that these doctors don't? Or do you just think they're dumb uniformed undereducated sheep? Or do you think they have been manipulated in to believing false research or have some financial incentive?
I just get confused by people who wouldn't hesitate to seek medical help for an emergency situation but on a day to day basis treat the same community of professionals as suspect. Would you seek traditional medical care if you broke a bone? Or if you had a stroke? Or if you had a heart attack?
I ask this respectfully. I just don't understand.
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Based on my research, I do personally think that vaccines are worthless in preventing most diseases. And I certainly feel they do more harm to the immune system than any proposed good. There are lots of theories on the decline of disease that debunk the idea that vaccines have much, if anything, to do with it. (Most of the 'big' diseases were on the decline when vaccines were introduced, due to better hygiene and nutrition. Many children still get childhood diseases that they are vaccinated against, but the diagnosis is referred to as something else because of expectation due to vaccination status, or they never go for diagnosis at all because it's simply not a big deal to contract the illness. As a population we gain natural herd immunity against illness as it is introduced naturally, so a decline in death rates will occur because our systems adapt. Etc, etc.)
So no, I don't consider myself a "free-rider" at all. Therefore, the whole point of this article is irrelevant as far as I'm concerned.
Why do you think that the vast majority of medical doctors believe in the efficacy of vaccination? Do you believe they are misinformed or uneducated or ????
I ask this question as a genuinely honest query with no intention of snark.
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What is in your child's swim bag?
suit, towel, goggles, fins, toiletry kid (including shampoo, soap, comb/brush, lotion, chapstick), pool shoes, bottle of water and usually a snack for after practice
How often do you wash their suits and towels?
They rinse after every swim and hang at home to dry along with their towel. I wash once per week. They have two suits and two towels and alternate so they always have a dry one.
Is the chlorine shampoo worth the money?
Don't know. We don't use it and haven't had a problem. We do use really good lotion.
Do your kids change back into street clothes or just come home wet in the car?
They shower, dry off, and change to street clothes before they come home. My kids are old enough to drop off so I pick them up late enough that I've given them time to shower.
Do your kids just rinse off, or do they take a real shower with soap and shampoo after workouts?
Real shower.
If you have boys, how do you get them out of the locker room within a reasonable amount of time? (Mine love those hot showers, and I can't go in to holler at them to get out!)
Don't care how long he takes- I pick them up about a half hour after the practice is over.
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And now for something totally different: :D
Why don't you just answer the phone? Say you can't visit and you'll be done at whatever time and will call her back. If she's got a quick question, you answer and that's the end of it. It'd take you 5 minutes and satisfy her so she wouldn't need to call you back.
I get interrupted a million times a day for a million reasons. I understand the frustration. At my house, we persist and get a lot done in spite of frequent distractions.
It is a struggle to be patient with older people but I hope (and pray) that others will have patience with all of my blunders and intrusions when I am in my 80s.
Currently, my mil who is 82, is visiting us. She's been here for three weeks. She's come from an assisted living facility where she is bathed, cooked for, taken care of completely into my home where I home school 5 kids ages 10 mos to 12. She is pretty high maintenance anyway but her recent move to assisted living seems to have given her total license to expect me to do everything for her.
She won't be here (in my home or on Earth) for much longer. She raised dh and loves my kids. My mantra is be kind, be kind, be kind, drink wine, be kind.
Just food for thought....
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Thank you all so much! I'm doing better this morning. The apartment manager came last night to talk to us. She's a very good manager, thankfully. We had too many who were lousy at the job. We got our towel back and my daughters' friend is ok. She was upset until my girls distracted her with a movie.
I have had second thought though about confronting the person. She was in a group of people supporting her. KJB you are so right. Her behavior could have been because of drugs, alcohol or even mental illness. The situation could have been dangerous. So.... how do you know what to do. Do you let people who act this way toward anyone much less a child get away with their behavior or do you confront them? I wish I could say I prayed before saying something but I didn't.
Thanks again!
Judy
I think you have to ask yourself what you gain by the confrontation.
Here's my basic philosophy:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pdNcHKw1Dvs&feature=related
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Just be careful.
Many "bullies" are actually people with mental illness who can't be expected to act rationally.
I try to avoid people who act bizarre, because you don't know why they're acting inappropriately. Many times it has to do with drugs, alcohol, and/or mental illness. There's a lot of wackos out there.
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If you go there, you have to eat at the Big Texan. Have your 15 year old son try for the free steak! :
Also, remember the Boss and his tune about the Cadillac Ranch?:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cadillac_Ranch
We lived on the west Texas border on the NM side in a little town called Clovis when dh was stationed at Cannon AFB. I never knew tumbleweeds were for real until we lived there. I used to think they were props in old west movies for ghost towns until one become lodged on the grille of our car. Who knew?
I will tell you, and something to sell your son on if you decide to move, the sky at night is amazing. We've literally lived and traveled all over the world and nothing beats the view of the stars in west Texas. It's a breathtaking experience (and an astronomers dream) to ride stargazing in a convertible at night down highway 66.
I prefer Amarillo to Lubbock, incidentally.
Moving is always a challenge but you find good things wherever you go if you're willing to look for them. Also, it can be really good for your children to know that life goes on no matter where you hang your hat. Good luck!
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IMO, you never really heal from an experience like this. There is a lot of lip service given to "healing" but I just don't think it's the same as scabbing over and then regenerating new skin over a physical wound.
I think it's good to try to feel your power that was created the from the day you were violated instead of feeling like a victim in need of repair. I feel the negative things that happened to me as a child have made me a stronger, wiser, more aware adult. I don't need to be healed but instead I am stronger. My past has made me powerful.
Feel your power.
((Jean))
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Actually, I have purchased organic cotton. Mostly for the health of the environment. I would purchase 100% organic cotton for all our needs if I could afford it. Too, I am uncomfortable with GMO cotton. Cotton seed oil is put into some packaged food items.
Well, yes, that's my point. You don't purchase organic cotton because wearing it is healthier in and of itself. A traditional cotton shirt is not less "healthy" than one made from organic cotton. The impact on the environment from the use of pesticides is the reason to purchase organic non-food items.
At least that is the argument I'm familiar with.
I always like to point out that uranium is organic. "Organic" doesn't always mean healthy.
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Tobacco may be bad for you health wise but otherwise it probably isn't that much different environmentally than any other cash crop.
The benefit to it being "organic" is to the environment (lack of pesticides).
Just like you wouldn't buy organic cotton for its health benefits, kwim?
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One thing I thought was humorous in the second article was the assertion that home schooled kids need to be in public school to experience the diversity so that they will be able to accept and relate to people of all kinds. That idea was coupled with the statement that home schooled kids would be mocked and labeled as geeky because they were home schooled.
Apparently, according to the author, the public schooled children aren't able to deal with all different groups of people with acceptance in spite of their "diversity training" if home schoolers are mocked and labeled as a group of geeks.
Either being around all these diverse groups promotes acceptance and love of all different kinds of people, or not.
One thing I have come to believe is that most home schoolers are out of the box type thinkers. We have made this decision because we are able to open ourselves to other possibilities for our families without marching lock step with our traditionally schooled neighbors.
In spite of all the lip service played to the idea that going to school will open you to new ideas, people, and situations, the truth is that being schooled untraditionally opens you to the idea that it's OK to be different. I hope that being different will help to create a compassion for other people with differences.
To the op's question:
Socialization (to me) means the ability to integrate into a group or team and work cooperatively. Also, the ability to meet people and interact without being overly introverted or inappropriately attention seeking. Also, to be socialized, a person must have the ability to make and keep friends since healthy relationships are vital to being a happy human.
Regarding socialization in general, I believe (and have experienced first hand with my kids) that home schooled kids have to learn to behave properly in a group of other non-family members without a parent as the adult in charge. I think this is a skill for which we have to create opportunities.
Also, our kids need to have chances to test themselves against other kids both intellectually and physically. Otherwise, they won't have a realistic idea of their personal strengths and weaknesses.
I have trouble solving the socialization problem with my kids. We move so often that they have difficulty making new good friends as they get older. We do all the recommended activities (scouts, art and music lessons, swim team and soccer, Sunday school, etc.). My younger kids can pick up and play with anyone at the playground but my tweens have had more difficulty. Fortunately, we are in a neighborhood full of kids and that helps.
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Don't know if they've already been mentioned, but I loved loved loved these with my latest baby:
http://www.amazon.com/Miracle-Baby-Swaddling-Blanket-Blue/dp/B000G0KQWQ
Even with four previous babies, I never developed an awesome swaddle technique. I'd often give up on trying to swaddle too soon because I could never get the blanket just right. These blankets saved the day for us.
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Last time I gave birth, the woman across the hall from me had a piercing scream that was so loud and shrill the doctor and midwife kept coming out of the room to get a break. I had already delivered and they would come in my room and we'd share, "Can you believe that?" looks.
She was screaming like in a horror film. It was unbelievable.
I've had easy births and longer ones. Five of them. I know they're not all the same but I can't believe that fear/terror screams are very productive to the process. I went back and forth between feeling very sorry for an obviously unprepared woman to being very annoyed.
And I'm a suffer in silence type, so I tend to be unsympathetic to the more emotive among us. I'd make a lousy nurse.
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I also agree with amy g, but I'd like to add that I think this is a great opportunity for you to empower your daughter to help herself in situations like these.
I would role play with dd and give her some responses to the other little girl. Remember, also, the other girl is only 5. Little girls that age can be bossy just because they're 5 and not because they're necessarily mean. Your daughter has two years maturity on the other girl and should be able to let the other girl know that her behavior isn't OK. If your daughter is feeling left out, she should say so and leave if necessary. Instead, your dd is giving the other little girl all the power.
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Depends on what you're looking for. I've had luck googling in the past by putting in the name of the piece.
Are you after something specific?
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My Mom has lived in Bucharest for the past three years. She is getting ready to move in two weeks. She works for the state department at the embassy and is moving to a new post. She says this has been one of her best assignments.
We went to visit last fall and had a great time. It's an interesting country with a beautiful countryside. If your daughter gets to travel, tell her to try and visit King Carol the first's summer palace in the Carpathian mountains. It is really beautiful.
I hope your daughter has a terrific time!
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My older two children took lessons but my number 3 started on his own. We were staying at a hotel for two weeks and we swam every day. DS #3 (age 5) kept jumping in to me and then swimming to the side of the pool. At first, I'd catch him and swim with him, more or less holding him. Then, I'd launch him toward the side with a strong push and he'd swim the tiny bit rest himself. By the end of the two weeks he would jump in and swim to the side alone.
Now, he's swimming like a fish. He's just started lessons this year to learn strokes and he's the only 5 year old in the top group!
Of course, he was very motivated and had no fear. He'd been in the water routinely since he was small and his older brother and sister are swim team swimmers.
So, it can be done! I think the degree of comfort in the water and lack of fear are the two keys.
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I just wanted to say that I agree that short hair is seen as more professional. I do think you can achieve the same degree of "hair respect" by putting it up ala Sarah Palin.
Personally, I'd go for a cut where I could still put it up for the short term, and then reevaluate once I arrived.
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Oh, another idea:
A friend had a Daddy Bank and every night she gave the kids change (I'm not sure how much...maybe a quarter?) to deposit. Then when Dad came home they spent the money to go to an amusement park. (I think Dad had to pitch in a little too. (0; )
Anyway, it was a fun ritual to think of surprising Dad with the trip when he came home. You could buy something for Dad as an alternative. Her kids loved it.
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Don't know if this was mentioned already, but when my dh deployed he made a bunch of short movies for my kids.
For the littles, he read bedtime stories and left silly messages.
For the older kids he read a chapter of a book they weren't finished with when he left. He also left "words of wisdom" with silly Dad advice or jokes for the kids to listen to. He made enough so they could watch one segment almost every night he was gone. (Of course, some were really short like maybe just a minute or two clip.)
Anyway, they watched one every night at bedtime. They loved being able to see him and they rewatched their favorites over and over.
Good Luck to your family! God Speed to your dh!
((Hugs))
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Word of mouth is a good way to narrow down the field, but when you get to a handful of capable people experience is the best predictor of good outcomes.
Ask the surgeons how many times they've preformed your specific surgery and if they've ever had any negative outcomes. Interview them a little.
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Also, if this was the case, what about the person who the first child got the disease from? Wouldn't they also be liable? And the person before them, and before them? It seems to me there would be more recourse against the pharmaceutical company when their immunization failed.
I saw a Law and Order SVU that showcased a mother being tried for not vaccinating because her son got the measles and then a little girl at the playground got them and died. Even on the TV show, the charges didn't stick. A person would have heck proving that the child got the disease from one specific child unless that was the ONLY interaction they had with another human outside of their home.
An outbreak at a camp would be different than picking something up at a playground. Camps are small numbers of kids in confined, often shared, quarters. Like cruise ships, disease at a camp could spread quickly. It wouldn't take rocket science to comb the vaccination records for clues about the origin of the disease. A timeline for incubation could be established. Possibly unlikely but not unthinkable....
Also, vaccinations don't guarantee that an individual won't contract the disease. They work because large numbers of people will become immune not because an individual is definitely protected. There are no guarantees when you get vaccinated. No one (pharm companies, doctors, "the government", etc.) suggests otherwise.
The key issue here is the *LIE* or "fudge" in order to gain admission. Someone misrepresenting their child's health records ought to be held accountable, regardless of how you feel about vaccination.
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PM me with your email and I'll send you Germany!
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What did it used to mean that it no longer means now?
You still, at a minimum, need a diploma (or high school education) to apply for most entry level positions. You still need a bachelors degree to apply for many many more desirable careers. Graduate degrees and beyond are still required in many fields.
If the teachers are saying that children now are less educated than children of the past, I'm not sure if that's true. Education has changed, to be sure. Kids today need different skill sets to be successful than in the past. A diploma now may not mean you have the same type of education of years gone by, but I'm not sure that means a diploma earned by meeting today's standard is less than.
I guess I'd want the assertion to be quantified in some concrete way other than just a vague claim that diplomas today are less worthy. How are they less worthy? Is a student less able to meet the needs of the workplace today? Are they scoring lower on the SAT or other standardized college admissions tests? Are they really that much less prepared for college level work? And who exactly are today's diploma holders being compared to?
We tend to idealize the past. The facts don't always support the notion that the good old days were all that much better. Maybe they were, maybe they weren't. I think these types of claims often are indicative of "I had to walk barefoot uphill both ways" syndrome.
A Question About "Research"
in General Education Discussion Board
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First, from Dictionary.Com:
re⋅search [ri-surch, ree-surch] Show IPA
–noun
1. diligent and systematic inquiry or investigation into a subject in order to discover or revise facts, theories, applications, etc.: recent research in medicine.
2. a particular instance or piece of research.
–verb (used without object)
3. to make researches; investigate carefully.
–verb (used with object)
4. to make an extensive investigation into: to research a matter thoroughly.
The vaccination thread has me wondering....
Many people have stated they have opinions about vaccination based upon their personal "research".
So, I am curious, do *you* think you have done "research" by googling? Is "doing my own research" akin to spending a few hours on the internet? Is this (coupled with possibly personal experience/opinion) what diligent and systematic inquiry looks like?
What other sources do "lay" people use today to do research and is the internet the reason so many people feel confident making choices contrary to professional opinion in today's world?
When you are trying to make a decision and need evidence to sway you, what do you do besides googling?
Thanks for indulging me. :D