Lisa R.
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They will help you pull together an outfit. Sometimes at Dillards or Nordstroms the selection is so huge that it's easy to get lost. Talbots is small, and most of the clothing there would be suitable for what you need.
Also, it's important to have an updated haircut (you may already have this), color, if needed, and updated make-up.
Sometimes, people pay attention to their clothes or nails and ignore a good, stylish haircut. IMHO, a good cut is a far better investment that a good manicure.
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I saw were black, black, and more black. The natives were wearing black boots of every variety. For those a little more dressed up, I saw black boots with black tights with a black skirt and dark top. All this was worn under a black coat. Also, most all of the women were wearing a great scarf around their neck with the coat. I thought it looked fabulous.
For NYC, I'd wear black boots with a 2-3 inch heel, black tights, with a knee length pencil skirt. I'd probably wear a black sweater with a bright colored scarf. (Scarves of every variety are sold all over the city for a great price.)
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new family members?
Someone close to me is experiencing distance from the family she recently married into. The family expects everyone in the family to get together during holidays or special events, even adult children. in other words, they would rather people show up unhappy to be there than not show up at all. Other spouses that married into this family are definitely held at a distance.
Do you think very, very close families have difficulties accepting new family members?
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DD, aged nine, has had hives since Wednesday. I've given her Benadryl 2-3 times a day. The Benadryl reduces the hives, but they come back again once it wears off. They are all over her body. She has not had a fever and has no other symptoms of illness.
Once I saw them Wednesday morning, I had her take a shower to wash off anything on her that could be causing a skin reaction. She's wasn't taking any medicine prior to coming down with hives. She wasn't eating anything unusual. I've washed her sheets in hot water.
Someone suggested I get a dye free laundry detergent and wash all her clothes and bedding. (While I use Tide, she's never had a problem with this before.)
If I take her to the doctor, I'm guessing they'll prescribe prednisolone to get rid of them.
Any ideas?
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WTM board members?
We use coupons, cut male family members' hair, and watch grocery costs. I'm all for frugality. However, I admit I'm taken aback by some of what is posted here. Cloth t.p., dressing in winter clothing indoors, serving potatoes for every meal, etc. are surprising cost-cutting measures to me.
Of course, if one must do this in order to have food to eat, I would do it, too. It sounds like this is the case with these posters.
It makes me wonder though--I hear Dave Ramsey tell people that are having financial difficulty that they either need to cut spending or increase their earning. If one is using the measures above, it seems that cost have been cut far beyond what most would consider. Has increasing earning been investigated with the same dedication that cost cutting has been? I'm trying not to sound naive here. I know that the economy has been hit hard, but there are still ways people have found to earn some extra money or prepare for a career change that offers a higher salary.
I'm asking honestly to anyone willing to share, is this a short-term solution to money issues such as a job loss? Or, is this a life style you intend to keep for the near future? Have you considered increasing the income by a job change or moving to a part of the country with a lower cost of living? While I'm all for frugal living, there is a limit to how little one can spend and live comfortably.
For those that felt free to post about cutting costs, I hope you don't mind me asking about the background that's driving this. I'm genuinely curious.
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when that behavior is, in fact, not in need of correcting, it is often because the adult and child have very different personalities. So, I know this is a little obvious, but let me explain my point.
In one of the previous posts, a scoutmaster seemed irritated at the poster's ds and was attempting to correct or train him to act differently. In the past, when I've seen this happen, it is when the child is outgoing and confident. I've seen this irritate some adults, even when the confident child is respectful and considerate. Some people, adults and children alike, are intimidated by very confident people. I have a very confident child. She conversed with adults frequently and at a young age. The confident and outgoing adults always enjoyed this. I frequently received high praise from them regarding this dd. I did notice that some of the more reserved adults did not appreciate dd as much. They didn't share her outgoing personality and seemed to have a hard time understanding how someone so young could act as she did.
Here's the opposite situation. I was the confident but reserved child that was encouraged and prodded by outgoing adults to "be more involved." "Talk more." "Speak up!" While I was content to watch at a distance, some wanted me to, essentially, change my personality to be a more outgoing person than I was.
Here's the thing: if a outgoing, confident child is not being rude (i.e. acting prideful, especially towards adults) and the reserved child is not acting snobbishly (i.e. using their shyness as an excuse to ignore genuinely friendly people) I think adults should *respect the personalities of kids who do not share their personality.*
Whew, I'm glad I got that off my chest.
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We're visiting New York for a couple of days in October, and I'd like to see two different Broadway shows. What is the best way to get these tickets? Ticketmaster charges significant fees, but is that the best way to get the tickets when coming from out of town?
TIA
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on the form. Don't they still have this? We received an official form from the Boy Scout/Cub Scout organization and there was a military donation option along with the different types of popcorn. People could opt to give money that would go towards sending popcorn to the soldiers or their families. *Many* people chose this option. My ds always started off his sales pitch stating that he was selling popcorn and collecting donations for the military. We also printed off a paper from the official Boy Scout web-site that explained the donations. The great thing about this option for your Cub Scout is that there is no popcorn to deliver!!!
Our Cub Scout troop also gave the families an opportunity to pay the fees for the year if they didn't want to sell popcorn. No one looked down on this. It takes a lot of time to sell, and not everyone has the time to do it. I think most people understand this.
Cub Scouts is a great organization. Please don't avoid joining it because of the popcorn selling.
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students to make sure not to wear something "too low, too tight, or too short." You mentioned that her skirt is 3 inches above the knee. I'd suggest a longer skirt--at least to the top of the knee. While she needs to feel comfortable, I'd make an effort to look a little conservative.
Just wanted to repeat the advice given to us...
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Hope this isn't too much of a downer, but I just really hit a wall when the intervals ended in Week 7. I have run for 25 minutes straight, but it has been torture *the entire time.* I have been near exhaustion, struggling to keep moving, looked at my watch, and seen that I still had 18 minutes to go!! So several times I have had to stop at 20 minutes instead of going for the goal of 25, or run for 10 minutes, walk for 3, then run for another ten, rather than jogging the entire time. As long as I had the intervals I really enjoyed the program-- was challenged, definitely, but had moments that I could tolerate, or even enjoy at times... now it's just very, very hard the entire time. I'm wondering if I need to lose weight before jogging for 25 minutes or more straight will be truly manageable for me. I've only lost a couple pounds since starting the program, and I have a significant amount of weight to lose. I'm thinking my body might just literally be too heavy to sustain that kind of work without breaks. I mean, I weigh 50 pounds more than my sister does, who did the program with me-- obviously there has to be a difference in our ability to move forward at a certain point. Has anyone else experienced this? I have to admit I'm disappointed, because I have really enjoyed the program, and then to fizzle out like this right at the end is a bummer. :confused:
Are you eating enough protein? When I feel exhausted during exercise, it is often because I haven't eaten enough protein that day or the day before. Are you drinking enough water? Are you running in the heat?
I could just be that you need to stay at week 7 for awhile. While I wasn't overweight when I started this plan, it took me a long time to run 30 minutes continuously and feel great the whole time. If you're not in discomfort or pain from running (sore knees or joints), you may just need to work up your endurance. I know I did. Congrats for hanging in there even though it's tough.
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Anyone have a hard time with this? Whenever we volunteer to help and serve others, we take away from our family. However, when our kids see us serving and helping others, they can benefit from this example.
For instance, when I bring a meal to a sick friend or a new mother, I'm taking time and money from my family by shopping, purchasing, preparing, and delivering food for another family.
Another example: If I volunteer in Girl Scouts as a leader or helper, I'm taking time away from my own child to help with the larger group. I don't get to spend as much individual time with dd at the meeting and some time is taken at home preparing for this volunteer job.
As my kids have grown, I've noticed that it is a few people in any volunteer organization that do most of the work. The other participants get to spend more time with their families as they guard this time better than those that tend to volunteer. In other words, the ones that volunteer as little as possible in their child's activities (sports, AWANA, 4H, scouting, etc.) get more time with their families. Those that tend to volunteer for team mom, 4H leader, and Boy Scout leader get time taken away from their families.
Do you find it difficult to balance all this? If we want our kids to be involved in extra curricular activities, don't we have an obligation to help out? Doesn't our church or community need people to help others in need? However, doing this takes time away from our family. On the other hand, our kids see us serve others.
Where do you stand?
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It happened to both dd and ds. It happened to dd around the age 12. I was buying her new shoes every six months. She reached her full height and shortly after that.
When ds feet started growing rapidly, he grew five inches the following year. This was around age 13-14.
Yes, at first their feet look a little long for their body. The body catches up soon enough, though. :)
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Given your tight time schedule, it probably wouldn't work for you to do your homework in the library. However, this is a way some students save on textbooks.
However, if there was a particularly expensive textbook, it's something to consider if your school library has the books.
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I've never jogged before. I thought I was going to fall over on the running path the first week. Now, I'm jogging over 2 miles a day five times a week. I walk five minutes before and a few minutes after.
Here's what I found:
When going this program, follow either the time *or* distance requirements, not both. I used a stop watch and followed the timing requirements.
If I skip the stretching after jogging, my knees really bother me. I just can't skip the stretching.
I starting using running/jogging shoes pretty early in the program. I think that has really helped.
I'm not an athletic person and have never played a team sport. I'd never understood the point of pushing oneself physically...until now. I really just wanted an efficient, low-maintenance way of exercising, so I thought I'd try jogging. It took about two months before I could say I liked it. I was very pleased with the accomplishment (especially the first day I jogged for 20 minutes straight) but still found it difficult. Now, I almost look forward to jogging in the morning. I can't believe that I've gone from struggling to jog for 90 seconds to running over 30 minutes.
Getting a heart rate monitor has helped me see when I'm working a little too hard and not getting the full benefit of exercise. This has been especially helpful for me. (Because I'm jogging in the heat, my heart rate was getting way too high.)
Hang in there! It's worth it!
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We pay no co-pays for doctor visits or prescriptions. It's been this way since he started working there in 2001.
We feel blessed that he works for a company that provides such generous benefits. My dd has endometriosis. While this is not life-threatening, our insurance has allowed us to go to several doctors and try several medicines, some expensive, to try and bring her relief.
I've heard (is is Dave Ramsey?) that one of the biggest reasons for bankruptcy in our country is inadequate insurance.
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I had never run or jogged before that. I was able to keep up with the program until the last two weeks. i had to repeat those.
I needed to be reminded that you're supposed to focus on speed or distance, but not both. I think I got discouraged in the last couple weeks of the program since I was trying to focus on both.
I started out struggling to jog for one minute. Really. I've always been the type that really has to work up on building endurance. Yesterday, I jogged a little over 30 minutes. Now, I didn't job too fast, but I was able to jog the whole time.
I found the tips on the site to be helpful. Breathing rhythmically with the jogging was a big help. So were the tips on stretching.
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Isn't that actually saying, "I'm sorry you're so sensitive as to be offended at what I said or did?"
It seems like an easy way to apologize while unintentionally putting the responsibility on the other person.
Or is it?
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I just wanted to add: that an estate planning attorney told me that there are only two ways to prepare for a life where you have to be in a nursing home: One is to save your hundreds of thousands for retierment to keep living in your home with assistance or in an assisted living facility or Two is to give away and spend everything before you go into a nursing home and be on Medicaid. Anyone in between is is going to be on Medicaid eventually for a nursing home because you just don't have the cash for a nursing home.
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Isn't this why people take out long term care insurance? This is what my parents did since they fell between the two categories you've listed above. They made sure to apply for it while they were in good health and still qualified.
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the difference between this generation of boys and previous generations. The author, a medical doctor and psychiatrist, explains how many of the boys in this generation are lost and unmotivated. It's a *great* book--one that every parent of boys should read. (Even if you don't have boys, it's helpful in understanding them.)
I highly recommend reading this.
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I'm asking sincerely. The reason I ask is that some folks are more concerned about the potential of coming disasters than others. Thus, they prepare, store, can, and garden more than the rest of us.
My grandmother was concerned about the same things you were. However, this was many years ago--around the 1970s. Although she did not have extra money with her retirement income, she spend a great deal of it on freeze dried food in case of an emergency. We ended up selling it at a garage sale for about $100 15 years later.
While the economy is not as strong as it once was, I do not see a greater depression coming. While I keep up with news and current events, this is the first I've heard about it.
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I'm more than a little uncomfortable with telling the person who's trying to give an unwanted hug that it's "assault." Assault, used in this sense, is a crime and seems to be a severe overreaction.
Of course, these hugging adults should be more sensitive and not wish to hug someone who's not comfortable. Either they are not reading social cues, have different expectations of children, or are plain creepy. I don't think we should jump to the latter conclusion. (Of course, if this person is deviant, then the kids shouldn't be around him, regardless.)
I think it's important to model gracious behavior even if another person is less than gracious. "Oh, he's not in the mood for a hug today. That's alright." All this is said while mom is reaching for her child, guiding him out of the situation.
If an adult is acting innocently, but cluelessly, I don't think they deserve to be treated like that.
Now, as far as the BIL calling the OP's child a name and criticizing him, that's another issue. I think a kind, but firm email or conversation asking BIL to be kind to the child is appropriate.
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that it's possible that you dd may have contributed to the tension in some way. Really, between you and me, this may be unlikely, but it is a possibility.
In my experience, whenever a parent is confronted about something that goes on between kids that was not witnessed by an adult, it's always important to tread cautiously. Also, by saying that your child is not perfect either makes it sounds less like you're accusing their child. It can take away the defensiveness that even a good parent can naturally feel.
I would add, "I hope that my dd has not said or done anything that has caused friction in this relationship. If she has, I hope you'd let me know. I know she's not perfect, and in the past I've had to encourage her to speak kindly, too."
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In this case, this student isn't a particularly talented musician or skateboarder. It seems like these choices seemed like the most interesting options at the time.
No, not everyone knows what they'd like to do for the next fifty years when they're eighteen years old. But, honestly, I'd be disappointed if my kids had no idea of a *general* direction whether it's college, traveling, or working.
When I graduated from high school, the price of my private college tuition, room, board, and books was less than the current cost of private high school tuition. Most of my classmates likely didn't consider junior college as the cost of a university was not unreasonable. I do see the need for junior college as an option today.
Also, I said that junior college is a "common" choice today. I did not mean that it was a choice for "commoners." I meant that it was a choice that was "frequent" or common today. I think most people were able to figure that out but thought I'd clarify.
When I think about my classmates, I know a college professor, high school teacher, Air Force officer, social worker, doctor, business owner and so on. I'm sure some of them are now in professions that differ from their college degree. My point is that when we were in high school, we were encouraged to consider our future.
Just as posts on this board that show high standards encourage those of us reading those posts to reach to a new level, the same can happen with our kids.
I was surrounded by kids with ambition and focus. That is my desire for my kids. My original post meant to say that I am discouraged to find out that this is not the case.
Poll: Did you mind if someone asked you if your pregnancy was planned or not?
in General Education Discussion Board
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Or do you think it's a fine question to ask?
When I was pregnant, I was asked this question over and over. Admittedly, I had only been married five months when I became pregnant. I was shocked that so many people asked that question after hearing I was expecting. I was also a little embarrassed that others thought it was such a big deal that I was pregnant so soon. I thought that the news would be received with happiness rather than inquisitiveness. Each time I was asked I would think to myself, "Why do you *need* to know the answer to that?" I felt like they were asking something so personal...like "did your birth control fail or were you just careless? Or did you really want this to happen?" (By the way, I never answered their questions. I smiled and said, "We're very happy."
While I found it rude, obviously not many around me found an issue with this. I felt that it was as personal as asking one's income. Perhaps I am just more private than others, though.
Since then and with other subsequent pregnancies, I've heard the question asked of me and others. It seems like this is an accepted and typical conversation for people to have. I'm willing to admit that this is my hang-up.
I will say that this question happened most often during my first pregnancy. I think that if I had waited the typical 2-4 years after getting married, I wouldn't have been asked that as often.
Still, if this a question you would ask? Were you taken aback when asked this question?