Picking back up.
Dd could tell when she was low immediately. She had symptoms such as shaking, blurry vision, headache, even though her BG(blood glucose) was only in the 60's. Now her symptoms are less intense, which I understand is normal. Her symptoms for high BG are less definite, often being just an unwell feeling.
Dd tests her BG on average of 6 times a day, more if she is low or high. She is on Lantus and Humalog shots.
We count carbs for each meal. We've settled into a pattern for most meals; for example, she usually has about 50g for breakfast, 60g for each of lunch and dinner. Her BG is most stable when she eats high fiber, balanced and healthy food. Surprize! At first we gave the shots AFTER she ate so we would know exactly how much to give. But you get better control if you give the shot BEFORE. We waited until we were pretty comfortable with knowing how much she usually ate before switching to giving the shot after the meal. There are plenty of times, though, when her ideal meals just don't happen because we are eating out, having a holiday meal, etc. Then we deal with less than ideal BG.
Our experience has been that it is not possible to ALWAYS have BG within target limits. The biggest reason is that there are so many factors that affect BG- stress, growth hormone, activity level, illness, menstrual cycle all in addition to how many carbs are consumed. In addition, we were told "a carb is a carb is a carb" which clearly is not not the case for dd. But carbs are the only thing that you use to calculate Humalog, with adjustments for exercise. Especially at first, it can be very frustrating to measure your food servings, give just the right amount of Humalog, and then still end up with high or low BG. It happens. Don't take it as personal failure because it's not. The longer you do this, and the more observant you are, the more you will recognize patterns that you can adapt to.
Dd reminded me about something else. She had a voracious appetite when she came home from the hospital because she had lost 15 pounds before she was diagnosed. She quickly regained about 5 or 6 pounds (she was a bit on the heavy side) then her appetite returned to normal. Also, she entered into the honeymoon phase within a week of being home, so her insulin needs were constantly being lowered, to the point that if she ate just right, she needed no insulin whatsoever. The honeymoon period lasted 6 months for dd.
I am a one-track person, so at first, I needed to be able to devote as much attention as necessary to dd and learning about diabetes. I put aside much of what was distracting me and read, read, read. It was a good month before I could pick back up with the rest of my life. But of course, YMMV.
Diabetes is a BIG deal, just as having a baby is a BIG deal. As time goes on, it becomes second nature to check BG, count carbs, give injections. But until then, give yourself permission to take enough time to adjust, read, talk, reach out, whatever it takes. You CAN do this, just ask for the help you need.
If your dd is interested, she might like to correspond with my dd, 11. Just PM us.
Lawana